A thread for elderberries who are hovering in the bfp helicopter

[barkingtreefrog]

All elderberry grads welcome and anyone who fills berry criteria: ttc #1 a long time now finally bagged that elusive bfp, over 30...

Come join the next stage of the journey and compare sickness reports!!

Everything crossed for you merk! Thinking of you. Closed cervix is definitely a good sign!

Screw your boss, tell him you have D&V if that is easier, I usually find that stops questions being asked and nobody in the office wants you around anyway in-case you're contagious. Plus you can't come in for 48 hours after you're clear so gives you 2 days of potential working from home too.

Merk you poor thing, what a morning. Do you feel at all reassured? I'm so glad the bleeding's stopped (ish) and the pain's gone, that's all good. Can only speak from experience, but once I got to the point of painful cramping that was it, everything happened very quickly. So the fact that it's stopped seems to be hopeful.

Find it hard to believe that they wouldn't scan you today, especially with concerns re: ectopic. Just a suggestion, but there's always the option of an earlier private scan, although of course there's no guarantee there'll be appropriate medical staff there to support you.

Couldn't you tell work that you've been off with acute abdominal pain? It's true, and could be any number of things...the doctor might even be able to write you a sick note to that effect.

Oh, and I'm sure the women in EPU weren't looking down their noses, but if they were they deserve a good sausage-slapping!

Sending you love, , and a for hugging while you watch crappy telly x

Good merk! I'm so glad you are home safe, the cramping has stopped and you are resting in bed. What an awful morning you and DH have had- definitely time for some treats. And yes, sod work- say you're not well and you will need at least the next couple of days off. When I had my mc I just said 'gynaecological' and that shut em up.

kat do you have your scan today? How far are you and what time is it? Are you feeling ok?

Glad things are looking up Merk and I hope time passes fast until your scan.

Those women in EPU sounds like the kind of arseholes who turn up in labour with full hair and make up done - definitely not normal. After an unfortunate series of events I accidentally found myself being induced at zero notice when I hadn't had a shower or even a wash that morning, but in the grand scheme of things who actually cares?

And can't you self-certify with work for a few days without needing a doctors note? Unless you specifically want to tell him you can just be vague with your prick of a boss until 25 weeks.

Good luck for your scan Kat, hope it all goes well! Coming up to 7 weeks here, dying for/dreading my scan at 8+3 and totally understand the batshit-craziness.

Stop being so nice all of you, I'm a blubbery mess!
The doc did mention that my womb looked the right size for my dates, which is reassuring, but not sure how much she can really tell from a quick internal. And I think the reason they didn't scan me there and then was because they knew I'd had a private scan at 6 weeks and therefore were ruling out ectopic on that basis.
The cramps had me scared shitless this morning, so here's to hoping they don't come back later/tomorrow, however doc seemed to think if the cramps were my womb trying to clear something out that they would return until I'd seen some more blood loss.
Laid up in bed (which is obviously heaven considering I could sleep for a month anyway) and trying not to think about it.

Kat good luck for your scan today. Waiting until this afternoon has got to be hard work, I'd be very impatient if I were you!

Oh kat you poor thing- 4pm is a terrible time for a scan. Luckily mine have all been in the morning which cuts down the scan-day angst at least. I know just how you feel, and can only hope that the time passes quickly today until you get in there. Those first few seconds are horrible too, but then I'm sure all will be fine. Everything crossed for you that they are!

boom ooo getting there- just over a week to go. One day at a time.

I have an app which tells me each day how far I am along and I allow myself to look at it once a day- usually as soon as I wake up- to see the number go up.

The doom is now setting in for my scan on sat so we can all be basket cases together

(The bear's gone damnit!)

merk also surely hearing the heartbeat on your Doppler is a very very good sign too?!

Yesss, got in there with the bear just in time!

Merk get yourself cozy in that bed, I prescribe hot chocolate as an absolute must. Hope the cramping stays away x

I have that app Thunder, but I can't help scrolling ahead to where I want to be and then being infuriated that I'm so far away! Also it keeps telling me about the symptoms that I'm 'probably' getting, none of which I am actually getting, which increases the nutjobbiness...hmm. I should delete it, shouldn't I?!

Oh mine doesn't say symptoms boom. I had one last time that started talking about '...as your partner lovingly strokes your belly and you discuss baby names...' Blargggggg so I deleted it.

This one has a calendar and mostly says you're probably feeling sick, but you may be one of the lucky ones who isn't.

Erm kat...?! D'oh!
Just 2 hours now though, getting there x

at Thunder's app. Maybe I should get it, in the absence of morning sickness it could certainly make me feel nauseous..

Kat you silly billy! Time to get drinking now though

I'm so glad that it wasn't bad news Merk. The wait until Wednesday is going to feel endless, but all you can do now is look after yourself as much as possible, with plenty of comfort food and comfort telly!

What haycorn says merk! Listen to the lovely ladieees.

I feel like shit today, stomach roiling, everything smells terrible (DH managed to melt something onto the hob so when I went to make lunch it smelt like melting evil and I had to stick my head out of the kitchen window - reasonable enough, but even the smell of normal stuff like tea is making me gag).
I work part-time and study part time, and should have handed in a load of words (20,000) to my PhD supervisor last week which are still half-done (9,00 words of absolute crap). Still I just don't care about any of it! Not sure why, only want to sit by the window with a breeze in my face and eat plain crackers and dry toast.
I feel a bit daft feeling like this at just five weeks (plus one day).

almost 4pm now kat!

'Melting evil' awesome description, if not actually awesome smell!

The smell of a coconut based curry the other night made me want to hurl. Odd, because I love both coconut and curry, and it's the only smell reaction I seem to have had although now I mention it, I cleaned the kitchen floor earlier and can now smell the cleaning spray on my hands, and it's making me a bit gippy. Maybe that's because I associate cleaning spray with clearing up dog poo though!

Don't think there's a time limit on feeling grotty brod, you're every bit as entitled as anyone else to have random symptoms!

Brod at melting evil! Raised a smile
I think I felt at my worse between 5 and 8 weeks... I didn't give a hoot about work and was cancelling meetings left, right and centre because I couldn't face them. So don't feel too bad, enjoy the breeze by the window! Can you speak to your tutor and explain and ask for an extension? Whilst you mightn't want to tell people yet, I think you'll need to give a reason, and sure you will feel relieved if you can buy yourself some breathing space

Try to stay positive kat. You don't have to feel pregnant to be pregnant! Fingers crossed x

Good luck Kat. Concentrate on your bladder not bursting to take your mind off it

Thanks merk - glad to see it's not just me - my plan is to see what I can do tomorrow, send that to him (so he sees I have done something) and explain what's going on. I also need to meet with him anyway to talk about re-jigging my timeframe as I'm just not going to meet my targets at least until I start feeling a bit less ill - ie, hoping after 12 weeks if all goes okay. He's pretty laid back and has two kids so I'm hoping he gets it.

Fingers crossed kat!

Well that was embarrassing. Went to a meeting which was outside. Halfway through everything starts swimming and I can't see or hear properly so j have to sit on the ground. The other people were telling me to put my head between my legs etc. that'll teach me to try to skip lunch!

oh dear thunder! Take care (wags finger in a nagging mother way)!

Lesson learnt Thunder! You ok now?