PG after MC, the new and shiny POSIFRICKINTIVITY thread...

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Oops! I posted the last post and didn't link to a new thread! Sorry!
Anyway, here it is, come on in for the best support going and a safe place to vent. and a lovely squishy new set of twins

Oooooh pink that's so exciting!!!! Eek!!!

Congrats Santa!!
Anda glad you're being monitored well and all is good.
We're going for a surprise again this time, I loved it last time.

Moment of utter panic: I'm out with a friend and clearly didn't have my baby head on because I ate two lots of toast with liver pâté before remembering it is absolutely on the banned list. Am now frantic I've done untold damage to the fetus at 4+5 Does anyone have any advice?

santa that's ace - i knew he was a boy! Was your DD early or are you just being over cautious (the 9 week thing you said).

ibip wow!! what is it like? I need to get a move on with sorting rooms out, we need to get a builder in so I really need to have a kick up the arse! Do you keep going in and peeking at the nursery? I loved washing all the baby clothes and putting them away in the nursery.

pentagon yes I think it is anterior, when the mw put the doppler on me all you could hear was placenta, she had to go in from the side and find a shoulder to find the heartbeat, but it was pretty quick to find at my 25 week and 16 week appointments so it is a bit odd. I was just worried in case it had moved and if that meant something bad.

anda what a faff, I'm glad they are looking after you though.

sorry to everyone having early pg anxiety - it is bloody awful, just keep coming here and talking to us xx

Kjh when I was 6/7 weeks I was working a LOT and was so tired I literally forgot I was pregnant, had a glass of Champagne at the end of an important BUSY shift in work, and ate a gorgeous mousse made with raw egg. Then panicked and felt awful for forgetting.17weeks now and baby seems just fine. A lot of people haven't even found out by your stage and I would imagine there's a lot of people who find out at 6/7 weeks who've been eating and drinking all sorts on the banned list!

Bump - no not really, we have spent the whole day painting then popped out with friends! Left it to dry overnight, then will maybe put cot up tomorrow (eek). We are looking to sell house soon, so it isn't too 'babyish'... Going with a white and grey theme. Will put up a few butterfly wall stickers too. But is fab to finally start getting it sorted, so exciting!

Yey Santa :)

Experiencing belly roling :) amazebles

Kjh I accidentally ate pate on toast when PG with DS and he seems fairly normal. I think it might have a risk of listeria so very low.

I really wouldn't worry.

I also eat runny yoke eggs

Kjh - try forget about it. I think it's the potential listeria risk (which you'd know about by now) and risk of excess Vitamin A in the liver which is bad. But one extra dose won't do that much harm, and in other countries women are positively encouraged to eat liver (Canada I think)
The "rules" really are guidelines - most of which they can't give definite amounts as no one would risk clinical trials on pg ladies for how much you could really have of say alcohol or liver. So it's the easiest thing just to say to completely avoid to be on safe side.
But as already said, plenty of people find out much later in and go on to have perfectly healthy babies

I'm writing this enjoying lovely glad of red wine after crappy work day.
I have swollen ankles after being stuck on computer all day, no time to take proper breaks so pubic bone feels like it has a knitting needle rammed in it.
Great scan news santa - and a boy! We found out too (boy) - need to get DS ready for the change and already talking about "your baby brother" and all the things DS will be able to do (chief present opener being main one, but I'll add biscuit and cake tester and tv channel chooser to that soon)

kjh - advice: stop worrying. There's nothing you can do about it now. I've had pâté too and nothing untoward happened and it was bloody lovely

My mum, bless her, had bought pâté for me because everyone else had shellfish and I really didn't want to upset her.

Plus, I think pâté is one of those things that our mothers would have eaten tons of, and we all turned out fine!

kjh also at your stage I don't think the placenta has kicked in so things don't cross over from you to the baby? Something like that anyway

chocolate I have been ordered by DH to have a glass of wine once or twice a week from now on for medicinal purposes....I really needed it yesterday and it was heavenly

Thanks so much for the reassurance everyone. Feel like such an idiot! Both for eating pâté in the first place and then for the panic attack. I shall be memorising the banned food list and avoiding anything that tastes lovely I'm not allowed to eat. Xx

Thanks so much for the reassurance everyone. Feel like such an idiot! Both for eating pâté in the first place and then for the panic attack. I shall be memorising the banned food list and avoiding anything that tastes lovely I'm not allowed to eat. Xx

Pixie- with my elective c-sec and a toddler I found the recovery ok, I was stronger after 2 weeks and able to drive after 3-4 weeks. Compared to the emergency section which I had after labour and no sleep for 3 days it was overall much more pleasant, yes it's still a big operation but take it gently and after 2-3 weeks you will be feeling much stronger.

Andadietcoke - glad to hear they are looking after you closely, take it easy and rest if you can.

Shell- yeah for a healthy boy, lovely news.

Hope everyone else is ok- hard to name check all on my phone.
I've had a trying week, we had a new aupair come on Monday, and last night she left, leaving me with no childcare cover until I go on mat leave. Got to find a plan B fast!!
Oh well- have a lovely weekend everyone, I'm sorting out presents for my sons birthday next week- we have a trip to Warwick castle and a weekend at Peppa pig next week to look forward to!!

Sorry i meant Santa not Shell re the baby boy news- sorry!

Aw, jmf - that sounds lovely. How old is your son? Sorry, I'm sure you have said before, I find it so hard to remember everyone's details!

I've just been wondering - when is the start of the 3rd trimester? Various sources I look on say different things - is it '27 weeks, when you start the 28th week'? If so, that's me today! Yay!

Santa - great scan news

Shell - how's the pain doing?

kjh - Mmmmmm pate! Have eaten brie, stinking bishop and runny eggs so far this time round. Deee-licious! Don't worry too, too much. I was perfect in my first pregnancy (practically bathed in cold water and ate nothing exciting) and still got told I must have got some sort of infection at some point not at all to cover the fact that they totally caused my lengthy and distressing birth followed by 5 days in SCBU by forcing me to lie on my back for ten hours.

ibip I think it's 26+4 but it does differ depending on where you're looking. Congratulations lovely

Yaay! Never thought I would get here! That has made me a little emotional! Only one trimester left.

Honestly - to those just worrying in the first trimester, I feel your pain. I NEVER thought I would get here. After 2 mc I was convinced we just had fertility issues, and needed to get 'another one' out of the way, so that we would get some help.
But this one seems to be a keeper. One more step to having a lovely snuggly baby.
I will later freak out that I have been so positive. The panicking doesn't stop. But I thought I would share while the positivity here, hoping that some of you early birds will see that it does get a little easier and there can be fun moments too.

Clearly feeling a little emosh, and philosophical this morning. Need decaf crap tea, that will get me back to normal.

Pink that's lovely thanks for sharing the positivity! I'm 8 and something weeks and can't imagine getting to third trimester but your post made me realise it is possible and to stop worrying so much...

Aw congrats pink

Tea- it appears you're doing the sensible thing by having a large age gap! Although perhaps not as originally intended, these babies will come along when they're good and ready (as we all know the hard way!)

I feel ill- been overdoing it. Got an upset tummy too and home alone with my beautiful energetic, whirlwind toddler and preschooler...

yay go third trimester!! i know how you feel pink, i'm 26 weeks today and seriously can't i've made it this far. the worry is still there that something not nice could happen but not aaaas much as earlier on. i poked my head into the november ante natal thread for a nosey yesterday, i hadn't been in before but just to see if they were doing anything i was missing, and one of the girls had gone into hospital with the fear of reduced movements and they gave her a cs - all of a sudden she had a fighting little boy at 27weeks! hard to believe that that could be us, makes me feel so unprepared.

I posted on the last thread but then fear took over again and i stayed away. I had my 12 weeks scan last week and it moved me on a bit so im now nearly 14 weeks. Everything seemed fine and the baby was very active which was lovely. My DH is now very optimistic but im still gripped with fear.

I honestly think i will be more surprised if i get a lovely healthy baby at the end than if something dreadful goes wrong. I just seem to feel resigned to the fact that something awful is going to happen. Has anyone else felt like this or has the 12 week scan reassured people. Surely the chances that everything will be ok are higher than the chances they wont be? I wish i could stop thinking like this and just be confident that it will all be ok

Congrats on the scan Piffy- I think the way you feel is totally normal, I still don't think I will have a baby in November.

Welcome to the third trimester Pink- eekk!!
My son will be 6- can't believe how quickly the years have gone, this time 6 years ago I was a week overdue and very fed up of waiting.

Black holes- hope you can have a rest this weekend and feel better soon.