PG after MC, the new and shiny POSIFRICKINTIVITY thread...

[SaggyOldClothCatPuss]

Oops! I posted the last post and didn't link to a new thread! Sorry!
Anyway, here it is, come on in for the best support going and a safe place to vent. and a lovely squishy new set of twins

[Chocolateteabag]

Found you all!

Having a frustrating work day with laptop problems so on the iPad (at home) while someone tries to fix things online for me - it's taking aaaaaggggggeeeeeeesss (and I have loads to do)

[kjh5]

Kat may be worth phoning up a private place and just seeing if they won't do an early scan for you if you are getting that worried? You can't put a price on peace of mind! How far along are you now? This is definitely the worst bit - the horrible wait until you get some solid confirmation everything is ok. Sending hugs and hope you get somewhere on the reassurance front.

[shellsocks]

Hi everyone, sorry for moaning and then going awol, had such a bad day and was so upset I just shut down I think! The pain kept me up all night so I was thinking it was going to be pain for literally 24 hours and worrying abt DS etc?buuuuut had a much better sleep last night (only woke me up twice) and work have sorted me a car park space right outside the door so feeling a lot happier today Thanks for all the advice, I will research all of your suggestions tonight and put in place the comfort measures you have all come up with, you are very kind x

On the positive, it is our 4D scan tomorrow, hadn?t got excited about it at all but the one for DS looked just like him when he was born so its dawning on me that we will get to see what this baby looks like soon, amazing

pink I had to double take your message, thought you said you were settling in to watch a bit of porn

janie Not at all! In my last pg I thought the pain I had then was the worst ever and had no idea how bad it could get, it?s how it feels to you at the time DH wouldn?t have read anything at all but he did say that the antenatal classes (just NHS) were really good cos when it all went tits up he knew what everyone was talking about! I found them a bit meh myself, cos I?d read everything (obsessively since the BFP!) so we won?t be doing anything again this time.

saggy sorry but that did make me smile, note to self don?t drink pints before bed

kat sorry you are so stressed, I do think it?s something we have to accept to some degree, scans made me more stressed than anything and the relief was short lived ? all being well the stress will lighten as time moves on, as you said you have had a scan already and have one for 8 weeks, so I would be thinking how long would another scan reassure you for x Unless you can afford it then one a week would be perfect

Best of luck santa

[GuffSmuggler]

kat I totally understand as I had a blighted ovum first time and was convinced I didn't have enough symptoms etc this time and the same was happening again. I had a good scan at 7 weeks and have had a long wait until the 12 week scan next week.

I decided against booking in another scan in between as it only reassures me for a few days and then I would think things might have gone wrong again. I would try and hold out until you are 7 weeks as they may not detect a heartbeat before then. Then you might be able to survive another week until the 8 week scan?

I find the best way is to try and get through one day/week at a time and not dwell on the waiting too much (much easier said than done I know...) I kept telling myself, if I can get through this week I will re-evaluate getting a private scan next week and somehow it's got me through the wait...

[GuffSmuggler]

Oh and thanks for the warning saggy not to drink 2 pints before bed My bladder is nearly giving out all the time, I'm going to be walking around wetting myself constantly by 9 months!

And good luck today santa!

[WhatWillSantaBring]

All good . Everything looked normal and developed and in the right place, including the little sticky outy bit between the legs

So, so, so relieved . Now I just need him to stay in for another 9 weeks minimum and I might actually start to relax. And feeling slightly smug that my girl/boy instincts were right.

kat I really would wait till you're at 7 weeks if you can, as otherwise you'll just worry more if they scan and can't see a heartbeat, when it might be fine. Because if your dates are out by 4 days and you go in at 6+6 and you would be just too early. Hang on in there - find a project or book or film or something to keep your mind busy if you can. Or . xx

[Pentagon]

yay Santa!! Congratulations!! Great intuition by the way Will this be your second boy?

anda how did it go with the bloods this morning?

saggy no more throwing up I hope!

[BlackholesAndRevelations]

Congrats Santa! xx

[pumpkinsweetie]

Congrats santa yay!!!
Healthy little babba & a boy too

[andadietcoke]

Santa yay! And a boy - fantastic!

Shell so glad they're being accommodating at work and that you slept a bit better. Have you tried a bump band until you get the referral?

Saggy my lowest point of my pregnancy was sitting on the bathroom floor throwing up in the loo and realising I'd lost all bladder control. I think that was when I invested in tena lady pillows as opposed to the 'lights'. Tragic.

katatonic yep - try to hold out for 7w. You could end up stressing yourself out even more by going earlier.

pentagon thanks for asking - was there 4.5 hours - they monitored the babies for a while and repeated the bloods and urine. It was the urates in my blood that were elevated on Tuesday and even more so today, but it turns out they rise in late pregnancy anyway, and even more so in twin pregnancies. Blood pressure still high but still no protein in my wee so they've given me beta blockers to try and get my BP down and I have to go back on Sunday to repeat everything.

[Pixielady83]

Santa brilliant news! now you can get started on boy names really glad all is well.

Shell glad your work are supporting you

[shellsocks]

Congrats santa really pleased for you, and a boy too Great news

Hi anda I have two belts from last time, one for sitting and one for walking and I have tried using them but cos the pain is in a diff place I'm worried I'll do more harm than good Glad there's no immediate worries with your tests, late pregnancy often sees lots of waiting around in hospitals-even more so with twins I imagine

[kjh5]

Congrats Santa!! That's fab! And so brill about your instincts it is a boy .

A lot of my friends are going for the 'surprise' approach and not finding out until the birth. What is everyone else doing in that regard?

Told my mum today about the pregnancy and she was totally excited and blasé about my fears of another MC telling me 'of course this one will last'. So that's all good then! She also declared I was obviously having a girl seeing as how I was nauseous from 3+5...

Anda so glad you are being well looked after and monitored properly. Fx the next few days go quickly (and safely) for you! xx

[kjh5]

Shell your work sound very supportive - I'm sorry you are suffering so horrifically. Sending virtual hugs I hope you get waited on hand and foot this weekend and feel much better x

[Pixielady83]

We are going for a surprise again

It is tempting to find out in order to sort out all the baby clothes in the attic but tbh I will probably do that anyway and keep a neutral pile and set girl things aside ready to sell or use. I honestly cannot top the moment we found out DD was a girl, it was so exciting to finally find out who she was

[GuffSmuggler]

Fantastic news santa

[GardenWorm]

Whoop! Whoop! Santa

[BlackholesAndRevelations]

Having both girl and boy stuff means half of it can go now! although I must admit it's sad knowing that well never use one of our dc's stuff again.

I've also started choosing things for the little bedroom/nursery (going to make it a bit grown-up so I don't have to decorate again in the near future).

So exciting!

[auspan]

Congrats Santa! A bubba boy!

Well my BF has been so weird since we found out im pregnant again. He has been really distant, and hasnt even asked me how im feeling. (i've been very nauseous & tired BTW!)maybe he is just feeling detached after the MC last time? I guess i am a bit too.

I spoke to my EPU and they have booked me a scan for next Friday at 9am, I hope its not too early..im 5 weeks and a couple of days, so they said its fine, i will be 6 weeks by then....so now i nervously wait. And he is coming with me.

Talking about books for the Men, ive heard of 'commando dad' there is also a website. Im thinking of getting this for BF, once we get thru the next few weeks!! I think it will really appeal to his sense of humour!

Thanks for all the welcomes ladies, feeling the love xx

[BlackholesAndRevelations]

Re: men, my dp didn't read a single thing but really benefited from our Nct classes. When I was in labour he was a massive help, and knew what was going on too, all thanks to the classes I think. Anyone doing them?

[JanieLovesLuckySocks]

woop woop santa!!! brill news :) and a wee willy too!! heehee! blancing up the boy/girl ration now :) and thanks for the NICE tip...in our hospital notes state in big bold writing that only one birthing partner is allowed - i wonder is it different here (i'm in NI). when i was at the hospital last friday there was a girl that was in labour and her boyfriend and mum had to take it in turns to go in and see her.

thanks for all the book tips girls, i'll maybe see if the library or ebay any of them :)

we're going for a surprise too, i originally was convinced it was a boy, but i'm now thinking it might be a girl. eek i just don't know!

[JanieLovesLuckySocks]

oh forgot to mention, we just get 2 evening antenatal classes at the hspital. the nct class is full and couldn't take us :(

[IBelieveInPink]

Santa - fab scan news :) and a boy! How lovely. Intuition wins again!!

Diet - so pleased all looking okay, yay.

Well, how's this for posifrickentivity.... We decorated the nursery today! Hope I haven't tempted fate - and am now exhausted... But it's done! :)