PG after MC, the new and shiny POSIFRICKINTIVITY thread...

[SaggyOldClothCatPuss]

Oops! I posted the last post and didn't link to a new thread! Sorry!
Anyway, here it is, come on in for the best support going and a safe place to vent. and a lovely squishy new set of twins

And thanks bod :) I'm so glad you are on this thread!

Thanks for the new thread Saggy!
Again grateful to still be here and thoughts to those we have lost along the way.

Pixie- I had an emergency c-sec with my son and chose an elective with my daughter. With my daughter I had had a number of bleeds at 23 and 27 weeks so just wanted her out safely and thought it was the easiest thing to opt for. I hope to have another elective c-sec, and whilst part of me wishes I could experience a normal birth I think it would fail, my son was big, I laboured badly, was very sick etc and would hate to try and fail.

Janie- my husband has never read anything, he went to NCT classes but that's it.

Love the sound of pregnancy yoga- but think I would just fall asleep for the session.

Welcome to all those who have joined us- positivity all round!!

for all of you who are having trouble getting your men to read anything....

Ohh I found you! Had a panic coz I couldn't find you, then realised I was looking in 'conception'!
Hi to the newbies iv missed the last few days.
Anda I hope your bloods come back ok!
Stupid question... What's PGP?
Anyways I'm just home from work, and have to be up at 6 for work again so I really should sleep

Thanks for the DH advice girls. Yes a nice balance of informed and laid back sounds like the best combination. Maybe I'll try again tonight. Just wish he showed an interest, even just doing a bit of reading online.

Janie, no chance of getting mine to read a book either. I think he will take more of an interest when we go to NCT. Are you taking him to any classes? I notice he also googles stuff quite a lot whenever i winge about anything. my direct him to websites. Books can be quite intimidating.

Christine - PGP is pelvic girdle pain

OMG! Why did I think this was a good idea?!
I went out for dinner last night. Carvery. It was very good. So was I. Rather than a sly cider I had a couple of pints of soda and lime.
I woke at 5.30 to a dream about having a wee. Only it wasn't a dream! then, when I got up for work I threw my guts up! Great!
I'm 10 weeks! What else is in store??!!

Morning.

Santa is your scan today? Good luck, hope you're not too stressed and that its exciting to see your little one.

Guff hope you're surviving the wait...

I keep feeling really bloated. Have my eye on some non-maternity comfortable clothes (nice shapeless dresses in Cos) as its far too early to legitimately gain weight!

Welcome and congratulations to new people. x

kat silly question but have you slept better this week or had less on? I had a panic like this a few weeks ago but realised that I had had a much easier week at work and been sleeping well so that eased my mind somewhat as I figured I would feel better with more rest. Also I think (not sure) that the development of the pregnancy goes in bursts and then lulls so maybe you are having a lull week rather than loads of hormones flooding in. I really hope thats the case anyway.

Morning all,

kata - I had the same in this pg and so paid for the private scan. It took a bit of shopping around but found one for £70, which was pretty basic and in a really ropey part of town, but it was so worth it.

Oh saggy - what an awful start to the day. But remember that throwing up is a symptom so yay for that

I think the biggest preparation you can do for your DH's is to talk them through it. Warn them that there will be lots of boring bits (and if you have a DH with low boredom threshold, get them to bring in magazines/books/iphones whatever to keep them entertained in the quiet bits. As long as you have something to do at the same time (to be fair, I fell asleep between contractions - I don't do late nights very well, and it was 3am. DH read about half a book!)

I'm surprise (janie??) that you're only allowed one birthing partner - I think most hospitals allow two, essentially to allow you to have your husband and your mum (they must realise that 75% of men are useless in a crisis???). Actually, reading the NICE guidelines to interpartum care (childbirth) it says "women should be encourage to have support from birth partner(s) of their choice" so I think you could demand to have both present, and they couldn't refuse.

Anomoly scan at 1pm. Wavering between posifrickitivity (excited as we're going to see if we can find out the sex, and I LOVED seeing the details like the four chambers of the heart last time) and complete utter negafrickitivy (I've already mentally written the untelling work/friends emails). DH is going to try to make it - I really hope he can as I need someone to hold my hand.

hello shiny new thread (thanks saggy) - I can't believe we're over 50 messages already!!

Welcome swan & auspan and congratulations!!

shell sorry you're in so much pain!! This happened to me a couple of weeks ago but has now stopped for some reason... Are you using a pregnancy pillow? (I have a dream genii, like anda I think and it's great) But anyway, when I was in pain I was looking at threads on MN and found this one:
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/pregnancy/84194-pubic-bone-pain-excruciating/AllOnOnePage (sorry, I'm not good at linking pages)
half way through there's a long post by "KiwiKate" who really knows her stuff - she gives some great tips so maybe it's worth reading until you get an osteopath appointment?

bump if you don't feel very strong kicks I would be inclined to say it's anterior because I have the same...unless it's what bod said i.e. it's a side one and can be interpreted both ways!

guff & pixie I also refused to wear maternity clothes before my 12-week scan but struggled when 10-11w. Not long now, right?

janie I second the book saggy suggested, someone lent it to DH and it's hilarious, I started reading it myself! DH and I attended antenatal classes together but other than that he didn't research/read much - still he was brilliant when I was in labour (my mum was there too but left the room when I started pushing)

So jealous of all the antenatal yoga classes - I should seriously look for some in my area. Alright, that's what I'm going to do right now!

jmf that's really helpful to hear your elcs experience, thank you how was the recovery with a toddler 2nd time round? think that's one of my worries, although a friend pointed out that she was as sore as I was after her natural delivery and we were about the same timescales for being up and about going walks etc so natural might not always mean a quicker recovery. Also I think DH will probably take 3 weeks off so that would get me through the worst.

kat I had a couple of days respite from crippling tiredness so I panicked, but a) I had a scan during that time at 9 weeks and all was fine, and b) the tiredness has returned with avengeance yesterday and today, so try not to panic. I think as pixie says the progression of the pregnancy goes in fits and starts, with days where you have more symptoms than others.
I thoroughly recommend having a scan if you can though - the only thing that has put my mind at rest for a few days at least

Oh saggy - what an awful start to the day. But remember that throwing up is a symptom so yay for that
Hmmm. I'm not so sure about the incontinence though!

Hey found you! just cant keep up with tu chatty lot so not posted much.
Lol Saggy :) the joys of pregnancy hey :) I have to try to stop peeing my pants when I sneeze at work!
Good luck for today's scan Santa.
With regards to early scans I found them most reassuring.
I've got brave and started buying more things! Cots sorted, bought a sling and some nappies. 26 weeks 2mor and now can see my stomach moving when little Madame rolls and kicks! Most amazing :)

Maybe invest in some puppy pads saggy ;)

santa good luck with your anomaly scan this afternoon!!! x

Goodluck with your anomonaly scan today santa, hope your dh manages to come with you x

Kat I feel the same as you. Woke up this morning to go see GP and had a crying fit because I wasn't feeling nauseous. Then nearly threw up on poor GP but told her I was convinced I'm feeling sick because I only had three hours of sleep due to a really stressful late-finishing shift at work.

DH just convinced me to book an early scan at 8 weeks just for my own peace of mind if I make it that far. I'm also in London but reckon £100 is totally worth it for peace of mind. We still have three weeks to go to get there but I feel a bit more in control now I have booked that in. Trying to take this pregnancy in steps and ticking off the milestones:
Getting past 6wks will be the big hurdle because that is when I MC'd last time.

If it is going to make you feel better maybe shop around to get it done privately like santa suggests. You are supposed to be able to detect a heartbeat between 6/7wks - I am sure you know all of this. Hugs and hope you feel a bit better now x

Good luck for your scan Santa I am sure everything will be fine Fx for a really happy positive experience for you x

saggy I was trying to gloss over that bit for you . A few pints before bed would probably send most of us over the edge!

Argh, an hour and twenty two minutes to go. Though I can feel some little kicks as I sit here

Hi Black, mine are (and this is a ridiculous gap) 11 and 7 (yesterday). We would have had a smaller gap, but he wasn't ready, then I didn't want any more (was utterly certain, no convincing) until three years ago, then we had to stop trying as I got a job in England (he's working in Scotland), then we decided to go for it anyway, then the pesky mc, so anyway, silly long gap, but two great helpers! I'm 35, so it's certainly not too dreadful age wise.

Good luck Santa