Pregnant (IVF) Worriers Part 3

[Buzzybee123]

Hi everyone,

This thread is for all you incessant worriers out there, not necessarily limited to IVF-ers, although I get the feeling the people who have had trouble TTC are more prone to worrying than others!

motor I think you have your scan tomorrow. Good luck. Thinking of you.

On the DTD thing and not wanting to because you have a baby to cuddle all day. I am the other way around, I have so much cuddle energy but only so much baby time, so I find myself stroking my husband's head talking 'baby' to him!

Thanks keep - scan at lunchtime. Terrified, but whatever the outcome it will be easier to know than not know. Will update when I can. Great news from your scan - another milestone achieved.

Good luck MM, update us afterwards.

dildals that's completely logical in your situation. When you can finally hold Bella for as long as you want you'll probably rarely put her down. Hire a sling, they're lovely for keeping tiny babies close but still being able to do stuff! Trenchlet is too heavy to lug around everywhere now but she still spends hours sleeping on me, I took her in with me at 4am this morning and she's still asleep on me now.

crisps, I feared as much. We have a Primark in our nearest town, which is where the Asda is anyway, so on your authority I'll swap. I never buy anything more expensive though as they do just trash so much of it. I have some Gap (outlet of course) stuff and some M&S but the vast majority is cheapo stuff.

For total poo explosions I sluice everything under the shower and then soak in vanish powder before putting in a normal wash. It doesn't always work but is worth a try! I have had two leaky babies though, we seem to have a poo explosion every other day!

Taking notes on how to deal with pooey clothes. Keep these nuggets coming ladies!

Motor, best of luck for today.

I am a dinosaur but will get my act together and join facebook.

I'm not on Facebook either, I tried it once but felt strangely self conscious using it: 'why would anyone want to know what I'm doing everyday?' and got similarly irritated by other people's updates: 'I don't much care what you're having for dinner'. Just not for me.

Hi girls

Just had a MW appt. went very well. I always feel so reassured afterwards. Hb was fine. Shazlett had hiccups which was funny. Now I know that I've felt that before its like little pulses in my tummy. Also she had her head down bum in the air so we could feel her little bum. So cute. Lots of reassuring chat about home birth so all good.

I've been very teary this week. Anyone else feeling this? Is this normal for 3rd trimester? It feels like nothing is wrong and then everything is wrong iykwim. DP is being great but I know he is worried. I cried myself to sleep last night. The MW said maybe I should speak to my GP as we don't want me to be at risk of PND.

Keep my back is much better thanks. I'm doing my exercises religiously so hopefully that helps. Good that your booking appt was good and you have scans lined up.

Mariana summer is back in London today. I hope it's good there and you can put those wellies away for a while yet. I feel for you re pacing the floor with trenchlet.

Dildals. How was NCT? Like the others I am horrified that they weren't supportive. I hope that the session was helpful. The other members sound nice. Are you ok with DP back at work today? Thinking of you. Xx

Fairy cause I think shazlett is a boy I keep checking out boys clothes. What is it about putting all those logos and things on them? If it is a boy he will be in stripey t shirts the whole time. Very cute!

Gin hope you had a better night. I'm looking forward to NCT. Hopefully they will be nice. If not we can sit at the back and flick rolled up pieces of paper at the back if their heads

Crisps I had a MASSIVE row with the owner of dreamgenii yesterday. After I sent the pillow back with the enclosed returns label and paid £11 for the pleasure. I found out that they don't accept returns of that item and don't refund the postage. So at the moment I'm over £50 down and no crap pillow. I'm so angry. Great news on your scan. That's a relief. I'm with you on the preggers women smoking. I try not to judge anyone, each to their own but that is a step too far.

Buzzy I really feel for you. I hope that you can find a way to start to relax and enjoy this a little bit. You have come so far and are doing so well. Keep going honey. I'm happy to have another meet up soon if you fancy it.

Motor good luck with the scan today. Fingers crossed for you.

Hello to everyone else. I hope you are all ok.

I'm nearly at work now. It's hot in London today. I really hope that it is nice next week in Torquay. A rainy week in a caravan with my parents might not be as fun as it sounds

I now use Fb for 2 things. To share pics with my knitting/crochet group and for the yoni warriors! X

shazza, some teariness is normal, so many hormones sloshing about and all the imminent change make it inevitable. If you find it's stopping you do ordinary things then it's time to seek help. I think you're ok though, I think you're the kind of person who thinks about things a lot and that might make you a bit more likely to feel overwhelmed. In drawing that conclusion from words on a screen though so feel free to tell me to shut up!

Hiccups are funny though aren't they? I thought they were just regular kicks at first until a MW heard them and told me. I'm glad you're on course for your home birth too.

That postage returns thing is very annoying. I got stung with that before where I've returned something recorded delivery and they then say they only pay 2nd class rates back. Thieves!

dildals hope you're managing without DH. I imagine the routine carries you along to an extent.

Hi Mariana. Very astute summary of me! Yes I do think alot and that overwhelms me. DP is so supportive which is great. So I'm just going to keep doing my Hypno and relaxation and try not to worry.

Good news is that they refunded the wretched pillow but not the postage. So the sorry affair cost me £11. I've learned my lesson about online shopping.

oh dear shaz. I wouldn't say I've had any of that teariness yet. Are you stressed at work? When are you planning to stop? I guess not for a while yet. I think talking to your GP doesn't sound like a bad plan. Crying yourself to sleep for no particular reason sounds horrible, but I think that crying lots is a bit normal. Sorry that's not particularly helpful.

crisps i'm so pleased you're past the stage it went wrong last time. That must be a relief.

keep I reckon you've been too busy to be tearful. (You should schedule in a good old weep soon.)

Motor, hope all is okay.

Lots to say. Will be back later.

shazza I reckon teariness is fine as long as it isnt all day or every day. After the horrendous journey we've had to take to get this far, along with tiredness and hormones everything does see, overwhelming. That said, do speak to someone if you feel you need to. I think it's the drastic change from focusing on fertility to focusing on a baby, it's quite a lot to adjust to. Outraged that they wouldn't let you return it...it is clearly not doing its job! Will 'unrecommend' to as many people as possible.

gin I was prescribed ranitidine for acid in my stomach to help with the sickness, although I actually think you can buy it over the counter. Works well for me and better than chugging gaviscon all night. Hope mr gin inst too traumatised!

expat I don't think cutting pooey vests off is dealing with it...just easier! Most of the time a baby wipe and a washing machine will suffice, but sometimes if the angle of baby's bottom and the force of an explosive poo combine it can go unbelievably everywhere! I always used to take two spare sets of clothes and two packs of baby wipes out with me just in case. I hear bf poos are worse too so if this is your plan beware! But that and fishing a poo out of the bath are all part of the new parent initiation, although I won't share my bath poo horror story with you all just yet...

motor thinking of you today...

Has anyone found any nice maternity jumpers for work? So a smart cardi or something. Not too expensive. I don't have anything yet. I wonder if maybe just a regular cardi would be ok not done up?

Hi all. Scan today was great! Baby did lots of very cool wriggling which DH managed to video on his phone at the suggestion of the sonographer. Good measurements and heart rate. Just goes to show - the way i think and feel about the pregnancy has no bearing on the reality of the situation, if you know what I mean. I have hardly any symptoms, and feel decidedly un pregnant most of the time which scares the shit out of me, but it's all going on just fine.

shazza lovely to hear the news from your mw appt today - so exciting. I'm not surprised re the tearfulness - it's an emotional business, and your hormones are all over the place. Hope you feel happier soon. X

Yay motor awesome news. Congrats, hope you can manage to treat yourself to some chilling and a nuce cuppa tonight to celebrate xxx

Congratulations motor!! :) It's weird isn't it how our bodies just get on with it.

Motor great news on the scan

keep have you thought of an unfastened waistcoat as a smarter alternative to a cardigan? I wear a regular cardigan unfastened or with just top button fastened but it is pretty casual where I work

Shazza I think tearfulness comes with the hormones but if you are worried speak to MW or GP, glad DP is supportive to you. I had a major breakdown over the weekend, DH had gone to bed and I went into the kitchen for a drink only to be faced with 2 massive slugs crawling across the kitchen floor. I was hysterical and poor DH had to get up to deal with them, it took me ages to calm down.

DH was having a poonarmi conversation with one of his mates this weekend too. His mate was saying to get cheap vests so they can be disposed of rather than dealt with. I have been telling him this for weeks/months but now his mate has told him then this is what we will be doing.

We used to say "he's got poopaulets" when DS woul unleash a particularly awesome jet from the backside. I seem to remember throwing away a few cheap babygros because I couldn't cope with the washing.

motor wonderful news! You really are pregnant!

keep I've only got cardigans and a couple of cotton jumpers from Gap that are big enough to go over the bump. Cardis are essential IMHO.

shazza like the others I think a bit of random weepiness is totally normal. But if you otherwise feel down or unable to cope that's different.

I try to get DS lots of very colourful clothes (esp striped tshirts!) and it is possible but you have to look. I have never bought him anything that is camouflage or has a military motif. But there just isn't the variety your have with girls clothes.

'Poopaulets' = marvellous

DH today in front of hairdressers 10 year old daughter (whilst I'm getting my hair cut in the kitchen) 'Where are the sleepsuits, Trenchlet's shat up the back of her neck again!'

I cringed. It does happen almost everyday though.

sweetie our last house had slugs. Every morning I would scrub their filthy slime off the rugs. It was one of the things that made us move. I hate them so much.

Excellent news motor.

I love all the baby shit stories. I am obsessed. Today Bella cracked a loud fart on the ward. Well, I thought it was pretty loud. Then she proceeded to have a machine gun like pooing session while I was holding her. In the beginning all the moaning and yelping noises worried me, now I am starting to think that digesting food is simply a major pastime for all babies and basically quite hard work! Bella had a big tummy today, full of gas, and she did a bit of a vom, which means she's struggling a little digesting her milk (as I said, hard work digesting), so they are giving her a little break. We were really calm asking the doctors for a 'review' as it's called. I was really proud of us afterwards, we're turning in to calm cool and collected parents!

At one point she was alert and sucking her hand so I was trying to put her to the boob. But she basically pulls a face like 'stop pushing that boob in my face mummy ... you are suffocating me!'. DH thinks he's a BF expert and tries to coach me in to the 'right' position. I may have to throw a dummy at him or strangle him with a muslin soon.

The NCT group was funny. They have got NO IDEA what is about to hit them!! They all have these romantic ideas on BFing and birth ... Quite a few of them couldn't believe that BFing is pretty much a fulltime occupation in the first weeks/months. Also, the teacher glossed over quite a few things. I don't think they realise that BFing is not necessarily somethign they will get the hang of. Also, the fact that it can hurt. Or massaging lumps out or pumping or how to wake up a sleepy baby. This was all not really discussed. They'll get there though. :-) I heard two of them discussing that 'apparently it is normal that baby boys have big genitalia when they come out' ... Maybe I just read too many books but I thought everyone knew that!

DH has not gone back to work. I think he's finding it hard to actually get up in the morning and 'do it'. Can't blame him!

shaz tearfulness TOTALLY normal. I felt like that. Had some massive rows too with DH around that time. And I really felt the need to be alone and quiet if that makes sense.

Poor Bella, their guts do take a long time to mature. Trenchlet still suffers from a lot of wind. After and during every feed I have to wind her until she belches like a navvy and she often writhes about in great discomfort before an almighty poo explosion. It can be hard to watch, all I do is give her room to wriggle, she gets it out eventually and is then very happy, even if she is wallowing in her own filth!

I've no experience of NCT but didn't find NHS antenatal stuff useful, it was my own reading that prepared me more than anything. It's always seemed to me that NCT is best for getting some pregnant friends though!

BF is really hard work and I maintain that the reason rates are so low is because new mothers aren't properly informed about this, so when they find it exhausting and painful they think it will be like that for ever, or that there is something wrong with them. For me the first six to eight weeks were awful. It's fine now but I wish there was more honesty about it from professionals. I feel like there's enormous pressure to BF and that itself can be off putting. I don't judge anyone who formula feeds, we're all feeding our babies at the end of the day and that's all that matters.

Trenchlet is currently asleep with her head on my bladder as she is lying sideways across my stomach. It's like being pregnant again.

Morning girls

The thing is that how can any of us know what is coming? This adds to my worries that I won't be able to cope. I don't think I have romantic expectations but on the other hand I can't possibly imagine what the reality is like. If I'm lucky the reality won't be half as bad as I'm imagining!

Thanks for the kind words of support. I'm finishing work on the 18 oct Keep. What about you? The good news is that I have finally negotiated working from home on Fridays so that is a relief. I'm sure ill be ok. And much of the time I'm very jolly. It's just sometimes it all gets too much and overwhelming and I worry about coping. I still can't decide on a pushchair and that is stressing me out. My 'rents reported back that some of my fav models on paper at kiddicare are online only so how can I try them out? I've got a short(ish) list if about 10 possibilities but I need to try them and can't find a shop that sells them all. I know it's a silly thing but this is preoccupying me.

Crisps after a tussle I got the money back for the pillow but not the return postage. I did tell the inventor everything that I felt was wrong with her award winning pillow though which was quite amusing. Poor woman caught me on an 'off' day!

The poonami stories are funny and invaluable ladies. Thank heavens for the emergency clothes that I got from freecycle. They sound perfect for this job and didn't cost me a penny.

Motor so happy re scan. Please remind me how many weeks you are? It is so exciting to see the baby isn't it?

Dildals good for DH. The transition back to work is bound to be hard. I hope bella is feeling better in her tummy today. Farting stories are always funny even on SCBU

Mariana it took me a moment to realise that DH probably used trenchlet's real name rather than trenchlet. Which is funny cause I think trenchlet is the cutest nickname!

Sweetie I haven't had slugs but did have squirrels in the loft and mice at one point both drove me insane.

MrsH did you finish Hypno last night? What did you think? We've been practising and hopefully it will help at least in the beginning.

Hope everyone else is ok and has a good day.

I had a funny little game with shazlett yesterday. There was a hard lump to the right of my belly button so I gently pressed it and much to my amazement and surprise it shot out again throwing my fingers off! I jumped and giggled and everyone looked at me! It was really funny. So I did it again a couple of times and shazlett did it again but not as strongly as the first time. I wonder if it was annoying for her or if it was a little communication between us?

shazza that is so sweet - it sounds like she was playing with you!
I'm 10+3 today. Mini-motor measurements put him at 10+6 gestational age yesterday - 4 days ahead. I'm taking this to be a sign that he is healthy and strong, not something weird. I daren't google it in case I read that it is suggestive of something bad.