Pregnant (IVF) Worriers Part 3

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Hi everyone,

This thread is for all you incessant worriers out there, not necessarily limited to IVF-ers, although I get the feeling the people who have had trouble TTC are more prone to worrying than others!

Thanks to you all for the reassurances. I got the impression that I was lucky to get a scan on Monday, so I think I'll have to wait for my private one on Wednesday. If anything gets worse, I'll re- think. The spotting is very light and brown, so I'll just try to imagine it being part of a healthy process.

Oh my goodness Vall I'm so sorry. Beyond words. I can't believe it. Take care of yourself honey. Sending you loads of hugs and best wishes. Xxx

Hello to everyone else. I'm back with the app. Mumsnet towers sorted me out.

Dildals lovely clever bella. How exciting.

Motor I hope you feel reassured. I had loads of stretching and felt unbelievably tired. More than I ever had in my life.

Vallinna I am so sorry. Try not to think too far ahead and just deal with what you need to in the immediate.

fairy, likewise, we say she's 'smacked up on milk'. It's hilariously lovely when they start feeding and their eyes are rolling back in their heads from the sheer joy of milk.

Oh dear vallina that's horrible. Be kind to yourself the next couple of days/weeks. xx

I'm so so sorry vall. I can't imagine how you must be feeling and am gutted on your behalf. Look after yourself over the next few days x

dildals that is amazing that Bella had a bit of a suck. Go Bella! She'll be chomping down the milk before you know it.

Welcome motor! Pleased to hear all was well at your last scan. I've had mild cramps on and off for the last 5 months and am currently 23 weeks preggers with a frostie from our 2nd ivf cycle. Just counting down the days until the baby would be viable now...

Waves to everyone else. We're off on what will be our last night away sans sprog today. I'm v excited as we've booked into a posh b&b, which has humongous beds so enough room for me, DH and the phallic pillow

Hope you get through today vallinna, I'm thinking of you.

How is Bella today Dildals?

Have a lovely time Gin. DH pointed out recently that if we didn't feel the need to save for the DDs education we could have dinner, B & B somewhere posh once a month. Instead of never. (I don't mind at all really!)

Hi all

vall I am so so sorry. It is heartbreaking when this happens. I hope you are being looked after and have everything you need to get you through the next few days. Please let us know if you need a bit of support as we are all here for you. Xx

motor how are you doing honey ? Are you going to hold out for your scan on Wednesday ? mariana and fairy's advice was absolutely spot on so I hope they reassured you a little before your scan.

gin happy hollibobs !

dildals how is gorgeous Bella ? How are you doing ?

Hello to everyone else.

mariana how was the teeny rave ? Did the whorebag cake and voodoo gingerbread men go down a treat ? The vision of you supping an early evening lager with DD1 means that my girl crush has increased massively. You are my bloody hero swoon

I'm okay nokkie thank you. Still twinges and brown stuff, but I'm trying to be positive that it is nothing sinister. I really think I have to learn to sit with the anxiety a bit so will wait for the Wednesday scan. Just hope all is okay so that DH can see. He was pretty reluctant about the whole baby business, and it is so lovely to see him now getting excited and happy. I am very much in love at the moment!

Have a great holiday gin, and enjoy the big bed.

vall - just to say I am thinking of you.

Hello to everyone else.

Motor, I had a look last night for a long thread about bleeding during pregnancy but couldn't find it. Basically it's very common, especially around the 9/10 week point when the baby is settling in and placenta is forming. I hope the days whiz by until Wednesday.

Vall, thinking of you. Also thinking of you Foody, just in case you're lurking.

Have a fab break Gin. It's a great idea to make the most of this time.

Hello girls

Big love to Vall today. Thinking of you.

Motor I'm glad you feel calmer and able to sit until wed. But if you are worried do go to EPU straight away.

How did the 'do' go Mariana? I hope pornstar tinks did you proud on top of the cake. How is trenchlet?

Enjoy your hols Gin. We are going on Friday night (only with my parents and niece) but I'm still looking forward to getting away. I think that I might buy a pushchair next weekend. That's the plan at the moment anyway.

How is bella doing today? I meant to say dildals I'm also v sweaty at the mo. I keep getting self conscious.

Loads of love to everyone else. I hope you are all ok. I'm off to try to find bigger jeans that leave me room to grow over the next 3 months. I've put on 10 of the 8-12 kg of the average weight gain. That only leaves me 2 for the whole if the 3rd trimester. Hhhmmm I guess I'm going to be more than average.

shazza if it's any consolation I've put on about 12kg and was already about 3kg above my usual weight when I conceived so I am feeling enormous! I don't think the 8-12kg is average weight gain, it's the "ideal" that you should be aiming towards. But lots of women I know have put on a lot more than that when pg but then lose it again and are if anything slimmer than before. Or so I am telling myself. I think I won't weigh myself again until a month or so post birth. Seeing the scale read heavier than DH, who is 6'2" and not a string bean would kill me!

Hi all!
Sorry for radio silence, work has been manic this week and then I have been trying (and failing) to be a social butterfly in the evenings.
Firstly, Val I'm so, so sorry. It hasn't happened to me but I could only imagine how I'd feel in your situation. I really hope you're being looked after.
Noks fab news re the scan my lovely. Is that it now or will you have any more scans? We get one at 32 weeks at Kings, so it'll be nice to see Madam again, but not nice to be weighed again (Shaz - I don't know exactly how much I've put on as I was trying not to look at the scales, but I think it's about 10 kilos from what I've been able to piece together). Ah well, fuck it. I'll do what Victoria Beckham did and lose it all 'running around after the newborn.' Yeah right.
The epi-no talk amused me greatly. My friend was considering one until her NCT teacher (who will be my NCT teacher from late Sep) told her that an anal balloon (acquired from sex shops with the intention of making anal sex more pleasurable) would do the job just as well if introduced to the front bum, and for a fraction of the cost (£10). Now, I for one am not going into a sex shop to ask for an anal balloon, nor will DH do it, nor am I taking the risk of any dodgy online ordering. So, even though there's no data behind it, I think it's fingering myself with oil in a vague attempt to stretch my downstairs for me.
Mariana I loved the description of Tinkerbell the whore-bag. I hoped DD appreciated her cake.
Welcome to motorcycle
Waves to expat (please refrain from any more ice cream eating and floor lying shenanigans), fairy, sweetie, crisps, dildals and buzz (thanks for the Fbook group dildals, I will email you). Hope ceeara is well too! And for anyone I've forgotten, I'm very sorry.
All well here. Went on a bit of a raid at Kiddicare Croydon yesterday. Was supposed to be a sort of 'site visit' to see what they had in stock but we ended up brining a fair amount home. My favourite buy is a BT baby monitor which doubles up as a lullaby player/ night light/ starry sky projector. Went to the pub with DH and some of our friends last night and after half a bottle of wine and a whisky, DH wanted to go into the nursery before bed to 'see his starry sky'. For the love of god.

Haha at MrHY and his starry sky. Very Van Gogh.

Anal Balloon is the name of my next album. Or maybe I should name change? Christ almighty though, I cannot imagine who invented the anal balloon and why. People, stop shoving things up yourselves. It's Not Right.

Tinkerbell pimp cake was a resounding success. I am such a cheat! She's currently in bed with the plastic strumpet clutched in her sticky paw. The gingerbread men were for a different party yesterday. I instructed DD1 to give them faces made from silver sugar balls. As I gave them out I realised that the overall result was somewhat unfortunate in that they all looked like they'd been repeatedly shot in the face.

Nokkie you make me feel so manly...

The weight thing is best ignored. You can't do anything about it until afterwards. I still have a stone to lose but am losing a pound a week without trying.

Hope everybody else is ok and having a tranquil evening.

Hi all, Bella is doing fine. They have started to space out her feeds to 3 hrly feeds. I guess they have done this before and know what they're doing! She seemed fine when I left her earlier today. I tried to get her on the boob again, but she had the hiccups so she was not that interested. Can't really blame her, I wouldn't want to be force fed a boob if I had hiccups. We did some nice hug time though, I am getting a bit more comfortable with her little body and I now have snuggled her neck and belly. I still haven't had a bite of those lovely feet though and feel a bit deprived.

On weight - I have about a stone to lose and this expressing malarkey is making me ravenous. There may be some comfort eating too. I am just so bone tired. I am being punished for having such an easy pregnancy ...

On another note - I am not sure I will ever be able to wean myself off those big granny pants ... they are just SO comfortable!!

Oh aren't they just? It took me about 12 weeks to give up mine. I kept one pair, just in case I ever have a bad day and need to be comforted by my knickers.

Bella sounds like she's doing well, good snuggling too, you'll get to her feet eventually.

Morning all

Fairy thanks for the reassurance. I was priding myself at first that I didn't put on much weight so it was a shock to see an extra 1 and a half stone. My friend said that I don't look like I've put on any weight except my bump which is sweet but I doubt that I've got the worlds first 1 and a half stone baby. I bloody hope not anyway. That would be a hypnobirthing miracle. I'd be an overnight Internet sensation.

MrsH heehee at MrH and his tipsy star gazing. I heard that mrs Posh beckham apparently had a convenient tummy tuck whilst the surgeon was stitching up the csection. Eyes watering at the anal balloon and laughing at your description of online ordering. Have I paid 360 of my good English pounds to go to NCT to be told to pump up my fanny with a dodgy sex aid?

Mariana I laughed so much at your gingerbread men that not only did I jiggle shazlett into action but I jiggled the fat of the man squeezed next to me on the bus.

Dildals lovely cuddles with little bella. I have her a wave last night when I found myself in kings a&e after DP stabbed himself in the hand with a Stanley knife. It's ok now but scary at the time. It bled so much. Made me resolve to do an infant first aid course.

Big hello to everyone else.

Talking of kiddicare. Yesterday when I called my Olds they were making sandwiches for a nice day out to a national trust house. 2 hours later they called me, they had slacked off the national trust and were scoping out kiddicare in Bristol! I love my parents! Apparently there is a kiddicare, mothercare, mamas & papas superstores and John Lewis all together. We are going next weekend. I'm going to have mariana's golden list on a clip board, ply DP with snacks and sugary drinks and do the whole lot in one hit.

Feeling very Monday morning. Trying to sit with it and count down til my hols at the weekend.

Hi all
vall I'm so so sorry to hear your news. What an awful shock for you. I hope you can not worry about the future for now and just take time for yourselves.

dildals so pleased that Bella continues to move forwards, and yay for cuddles. It must be so hard not to be able to cuddle her the whole time.

shaz I've put on about 8 kg already as well. Hmmm. Oh well, I think I am eating healthily and exercising, so I assume that all is ok. Plenty of time to worry about all that later.

I'm having quite a lot of what I think are BH when I exert myself, either walking cycling or sex . The mw said just to slow down, but I find it quite hard to make myself walk at other than my normal pace. I suppose I am only just starting to feel that being pregnant is impacting on my life. Have mrsHY fairy dildals shaz mariana had lots of BH at this stage? It just feels like I've got a tight bump, no pain whatsoever.

mama i'm thinking of you for wednesday's scan. It shouldn't be anything to worry about as the others have said it's really common. But I also remember you had another scan recently. I have had some light bleeding a couple of times a few days after dildo camming, so it could also have been that. Plus your cervix is more sensitive now, I hear.

mrsHY i am so impressed at your organisation. We still have bought nothing except the socks. I am a bit overwhelmed at the amount of stuff we have when moving so I think i've been put off buying anything else! It must be so lovely to start nesting though.

gin glad things are going well. I too was counting down to 24 weeks when they say it has a chance of viability, but keep telling little Kip to STAY IN THERE!! Hope you've had a lovely weekend away.

Hi keep. I had the realisation that the pregnancy is impacting on my life a few weeks ago. I found it unsettling and emotional at first when I realised that I had to change my routine and slow down but now I'm ok about it. I can't multitask or dash from pillar to post and I don't really want to anymore. I think that it's normal. I try not to worry that my life will change forever that felt too overwhelming so I'm just making adjustments for now.

As for BH. I'm not sure if I'm having them. My bump gets very tight in the evenings and shazlett has decided that its a good idea to sit extremely heavily right at the bottom of the uterus so I have weight pressing down and I feel like I need a wee all the time especially when she jabs downwards until she moves again.

Re weight I also feel I'm eating healthily (except for the odd homemade biscuit and cake) and can't see how I could eat any less. I suppose I could do more rigorous exercise rather than Pilates and yoga but I'm happy doing that and feel that my body is strong and healthy so like you ill just keep being careful and worry about it later. My MW says don't weigh myself. Just get the bump measured. Last time the bump was 1cm too small.

how many weeks are you now, keep? I also find that I get a lot more BH when I walk a lot or in the evening when I am tired. I don't think they cause any problems, even if you have a lot of them but they can be uncomfortable. I now walk at a snail's pace compared with previously - if I don't I get a stitch in my side from being unable to breathe deeply. I have completely forgot what it was like to have a non-pregnant body and am really looking forward to getting it back again one day! My DS also said to me the other day that he had forgotten what I look like with a normal tummy, although he pointed out that I now had a 'built in pillow' for him to lean one while we were watching a DVD, which was a plus in his book.

Although I have been eating more than normal I haven't been pigging out at all so I guess the weight gain is inevitable. As mariana and shazza's MW say, best just to not weigh yourself and ignore it.

Also mentally I am much slower and tire easily. I think this is all normal.

mariana "shot in the face"! brilliant!

dildals so glad you're getting a bit of snuggle time in. I found it quite odd to go from having DS inside me all the time to being external to me and lots of cuddling helped.

And big granny pants do rule! I may never go back, sorry DH!

I'm 25+3, fairy. Thanks for that.

I may have to get granny pants... I just bought some new pants, but it seems like they don't quite cover everything. I think everything is stretching, iykwim. Great. Time to tidy up for the yoscar.

I'm having a v quiet day at work and guess what...I've just made Mariana's list into a spreadsheet. I'm so excited. There are columns for all the different people who are giving us things and then a column for what we need to purchase. Suddenly I feel in control again.

keep I had lots of BH from quite early on, around 20 weeks I think. I used them as a reminder to slow down as I would always get a load of them after cleaning the bath or something. You do get them anyway though as it's your uterus gearing up for labour, I used to get a strange fluttery breathless sensation in my throat when I had them too. Very odd. BH are always painless though, just a strong tightening sensation and your bump goes rock hard. If they get painful seek help.

shazza your parents sound great. And like they may soon be bankrupt...