Pregnant (IVF) Worriers Part 3

[Buzzybee123]

Hi everyone,

This thread is for all you incessant worriers out there, not necessarily limited to IVF-ers, although I get the feeling the people who have had trouble TTC are more prone to worrying than others!

Yes, it was, to our joy and amazement. Two embryos put back and one stuck. We were very lucky but had good odds because there was nothing identified as a problem, we have a child already and I responded well to the stimms. I found the 2ww very hard but then waiting for the 7 weeks scan was unbearable. Breakdowns and panic attacks are totally normal! Now I am almost 36 weeks and the ivf part seems a v long time ago.

Oh and I don't know what your clinic said about needing a full bladder for the ET but it doesn't have to be that full, a wee then a large glass if water 20 min in advance is enough.

I cried at et... fairy they made me have a ridiculously full bladder.

From emotion not pain, BTW.

Onion there was a post on FB that Bella is home, so I would imagine Dildals has her hands full. So pleased for them all that they can be home where they all belong. Must be very emotional for them though.

Raspberry I would also recommend keeping busy, listening to relaxation CDs and I was swigging Rescue Remedy like it was going out of fashion. I have never been so desperate to wee at my ET as they were running an hour behind. I hope all goes well for you.

All done. An excellent embryo on board and three in the freezer. ET all happened in a bit of a daze. We saw our little embryo on the screen, was amazing.

Fairy I'm hoping our story will be similar. We are undiagnosed as such and everything has gone really well so far :)

Fingers firmly crossed for you Raspberry.

Delighted to hear Bella is home. Dildals I hope it's all going well. Update us when you come up for air.

Similarly, Al, I hope things are going well for you too.

raspberry we too had one put back, 3 in freezer, first cycle, unexplained. Bfp first cycle; really hope it happens for you too.

dildals you're home?!?! Congratulations!!

Thanks! Currently freaking out about having a coughing fit, wind and whether I should go back to work tomorrow! This is an odd old feeling :/

It's like a seed in a raspberry jam sandwich, I was told (how apt!). It will not fall out. X

Someone else told me that keep. Feeling calmer now :)

Hello Girls

Raspberry Congratulations on your ET and very best of luck for you and your little embie on board. Rest up, try to stay calm and keep the faith. Impossible I know but do whatever you have to do to protect yourself in these coming few days. My thoughts are with you and hope that you will be joining us very soon.

Buzzy I haven't chatted on Ravelry either but spend ages browsing patterns. I have to stop now cause I've got 4 projects on the go for Shazlett and with 8-10 weeks to go I really should concentrate on finishing at least one before I start another! Well done on the charity shop shoppping. Sorry you are uncomfortable at night. I now have a complex sleeping arrangement that seems to be working. DPs sister has lent me a wedge type cushion that goes under the bump, then I have another cushion between my knees and a pillow behind me. I know what you mean about getting a pain in the hips. Laying on one side makes by hips go numb and by the morning I'm quite stiff. But once I get up and do my exercises I feel much better. Not sure about your arms and legs. Sounds like a rash, I'm usually an expert in skin rashes given my own fascinating skin disease . Can you remember when it came up? Anything obvious that you might have eaten, done, worn different to usual?

Onion Ringlet's new feeding techniques sounds abit awkward if not painful! I hope she grows out of it. I love your thoughts about craft and especially your skill of casting on like your great Grandmother. That is EXACTLY what my project is about. If/when we ever meet, please would you teach me how to cast on? That could be your 'learning' for me. I would love to explore further the ideas that you have mentioned. By using my art practice and a contemporary art context to highlight the traditions of passing on skills across generations, I hope to give value to these teachings and encourage participants to pass on knowledge and skills and appreciate the value and generosity in doing so.

Fairy I like the red star also but DP likes the heather one and given that I have chosen everything so far concerning this pregnancy and baby, I reckon he can have at least one purchase!

Crisps your name is already a snack so you don't need to change. I don't think I can change mine as this is my third name as it is! I can't believe you are waiting 2 months for the physio appt. That is such bad luck. Can your MW hurry things up? It's worth checking out Ravelry. It's easy to set up a profile and there are literally thousands of knitting and crochet patterns, most of them are free.

Dildals, I saw the FB post. Congratulations lovely. Sending you loads of love and hugs on your first day home as a family. looking forward to seeing you and Bella soon.

Noks how are you honey? how was Lazy Daisy yesterday?

Hello to everyone else. I'm at home, just baked a cake and some friends are coming round in a minute. They are very kindly giving us a moses basket, some cloth nappies and a changing table!

I hope you are all cosy indoors on this raining sunday afternoon. its the perfect afternoon to watch a nice film.

xx

raspberry that's great news that the ET went so well. It is quite an odd experience though, to think that someone carries in your embryos in a pipette and then they squirt them into you. DH was wondering after ours whether the embryologists ever trip as they carry the embryos out of the lab? My god what a thought. Take care of yourself, it's up to fate and genetics now.

keep my clinic's official advice was to have a full bladder but I read elsewhere it wasn't necessary and so I decided that if I wasn't full enough I could always top up at the time. I can't stand to have a full bladder and I was so nervous anyway it was agony. As it was the consultant had a bit of trouble getting the catheter positioned properly in my womb but it was because I apparently have a crooked cervix. If it really isn't necessary then I wish the clinics would change their advice because it makes an already stressful time rather more stressful!

shazza yes, I can see why you would let DP choose and it's rather endearing that he cares about the colour of the pram blanket! Sounds like you are having a nice weekend.

Spent the afternoon at Ikea, which I actually like and DH and DS tolerate as long as they get the hotdog and ice cream at the end. Also moved some furniture around so now I feel somewhat prepared if the baby comes early.

dildals congrats on taking bella home! I must join your facebook group, I just haven't got round to asking you for the details. Hope you are enjoying your first few days with your little daughter at home.

rasp yay to being PUPO :)

keep I tried with a pillow between my knee and sleeping slightly forward it helped a bit but still had pain, I can feel it now while sitting, I'm exhausted due to poor sleep though and feel really pissed off for some reason, shall try and see GP

shazza I have been looking at patterns today :)

Hi all, Yes Bella is home. We had a false start early in the week, where they took out the NG tube with the prospect of rooming in and then leaving, but the tube was back in after 4 hours. I was so deflated after that, somehow it was the straw that broke the camel's back. Then the dr suggested to go with bottle and breast feeding on demand for 48 hrs and see how we go. We did that for 24hrs, then she pulled her tube out, we roomed in for a night on Fri night and surprisingly the Drs were happy to discharge us on Sat. We came home at about 6. My mum arrived from the Netherlands at 8, walked in to our house, and had a massive surprise with Bella being there! We have now done 2 nights. The first night I hardly slept because it was all so new, the second night I did sleep in between feeds, but my goodness it is knackering. DH did a 9am bottle feed and let me sleep, he woke me up at 10.30 and I felt I slept like a zombie. I am not sure how I will be able to keep doing this, but I guess millions of people have done this before me, right? (Just not with a premmie baby ...). We raided Kiddicare this morning for clothes. I am so scared she'll be cold in our house! She slept in a longsleeved body suit and a fleece sleepsuit, plus 2 blankets but her face was cold in the night! She seemed OK though, any thoughts? I am so tempted to just take her in the bed with me, like a little dolly. She's got so much wind in the night too, she's really loud! Also, we feed her with a mix of breast and bottle. She takes forever to finish her bottle though ... it took her 45 mins to finish a 50ml bottle earlier, normal? OK, that's my first time parenting anxieties out of the way! It is so lovely though to take her on your chest in the middle of the night and soothe her, she calms right down when I hold her close and talk to her :) xx

Oh dildals I'm so pleased for you. Afraid I don't know the answers to any of your questions, except what did the hospital say re her temperature? Does she have to be kept extra warm still? What temp is the room, I think it should be 18-22 ideally. She sounds quite cosy to me, and I'd have thought a cold face is OK.
Congratulations you have done amazingly. X

Congratulations dildals. Bella is such a trooper and you have been fantastic.

Oops I hadn't finished. I hope that you enjoy this time together. Things will settle when you all find your feet. We are all going to be in the position of having loads of questions and not knowing what to do so soon. By the time it's our turn you will be joining onion, fairy, crisps, sweetie and expat giving us pearls of wisdom. X

Oh and did you get your pushchair in the end?

Evening, ladies, from dreamy Noks Towers, where we make peace, not war that's not what you said on Friday you lying cow yes, but today is Sunday and his injuries aren't that bad now. You can barely see the bruising

dildals wonderful news that Bella is home. I'm afraid that I am utterly clueless about all of the things you asked, but I'm sure one of the other ladies can help. I hope things settle down a bit once you have established a routine.

buzz great that mini-bee is ok. I hope Barry is still looking after you and feeding you well. It's a total shit that you aren't sleeping well - me either, to be honest. I can't sleep on my right side and I ache if I sleep on my left hand side for too long. I am also getting up about a trillion times a night to do what I think will be a mahoosive pee, only to find that it's far from a mahoosive pee, which is all very bloody annoying.

onion can you go upstairs and slip into something more.....you know.....fluffy and wotsit stained please ? In my eyes, you are a multi-snack pack and cheap lager goddess in polyester. Don't you ever change swoon

rasp ! Hello love. Congrats on being PUPO. I am really pleased that you have one top quality embie of board and some in the deep freeze for afters. Well fecking done.

Well we had a 'chat' where i yelled and stomped about the house on Friday. He admitted that he had been a bit of a bad boy and said that he would calm things down a bit. I think the Lazy Daisy class helped massively because we did it together, and he now knows what to expect and what things he can do to help when the nipper decides to meet us (crisps - excellent recommendation by the way, so thank you).

Shazza At the behinning of the class, The teacher kept going on about the fact that you can have the placenta made into tablets, or put into a cake or you can eat it -all kinds of yuk-- and it made me have a funny turn ! I had to step outside TWICE for some air, as I thought I was going to faint. Felt like a proper dick. Luckily when she stopped crapping in about it I felt fine.

Time for me to step back into my zen-like state now until he fucks you off again, then you'll go all Raging Bull on his ass . Thanks for the support on Friday, ladies. It was much appreciated !

Hello to everyone else. sweetie can your mum knit us a Yoni Warriors set of characters please ? How cool would that be ?!

Nighty night

Noks xx

dildals, marvellous that you're home. Don't worry about cold face or hands. Feel the top of her chest to see if she feels warm there, if she does then she's ok, if she's too cold she won't settle anyway.

Bottles and breast feeds can take anything from 5 mins to an hour. I speak as someone who has been feeding for hours this evening for whatever reason! She won't settle in her cot tonight either and no doubt will spend the night in with me as usual! I am hopeless at getting her into her cot. It's a cosleeper style so she's literally inches from me yet that's not good enough. She HAS to be next to me in the bed or she just won't settle. I'm going to have a right battle to get her into her own room when the time comes.

It is absolutely horrendously knackering at first but you'll come through that bit soon enough. I'm really happy for you all though!

noks DH threatened to burn my pyjamas last night they were so awful. He is also threatening to burn my feeding bras. Glad you had a Serious Talk. Can one have ones placenta incorporated into a maize based snack?

fairy I spent this afternoon rearranging the living room. And I need to go to Ikea. You're nesting, I'm just faffing.

shazza of course I'll teach you to cast on! I've not liked at eagerly but I have started using Pinterest to collect pictures of things that might inspire my crafts etc. Do you use it?

We've all got colds again and it's stormy outside. There goes summer... Sniff. Oh well, I have my Primarni Parka to wear tomorrow.

Hi dildals so glad you're all home with your mum! As mariana says, don't worry about cold hands or face, babies don't regulate their extremities very well. The top of the chest or back of the neck is key. And unless its v cold in your bedroom, eg below 16c, the risk is more of overheating than being too cold because she won't sleep if she's the latter.

Strangely enough once they get older their circulation becomes excellent and they always have little warm paws.

The first couple of nights I had DS home I couldn't sleep because I was so excited, I kept opening my eyes and looking at him beside me. It felt like I had the best Christmas present ever!

noks and buzz pg sleep is terrible. I have woken up at least 4 times a night since I was in the first trimester. The latest thing is my arm goes numb when I lie on my side. That and the effort of heaving my walruslike bulk off the bed to trundle to the loo for my 4th tiny wee of the night. Thank god our loo is not downstairs.

Making the placenta into tablets? I think I'd be faint too. I got faint yesterday just at the sight of the Ikea checkout queues and needed a boiled hotdog to recover.

Dildals such great news that Bella is home and your Mum arrives at the same time to help out. I have no advice on the heat but tips seem to be good. I really feel for you on the lack of sleep but hopefully DH and your Mum can help out if needed in these early days.

Fairy your story of been too excited to sleep brought a little tear to my eye.

Noks & Buzzy I know it wont make you feel any better but my sleep is crap too. I can not get comfy and need at least 4 pees per night, only to get there and produce a thimble full.

Glad I'm not the only one who finds placenta tablets repulsive. I took all manner of shit for ivf but I would draw the line at that, yick.

dildals dd used to take forever to feed too, I think some babies just take their time. I have a lovely image of you all snuggled up with Bella on the sofa in a lovely baby bubble. Huge congratulations to you all for getting her home and managing to stay so sane and positive through it all! One things though...when we started feeding dd we were using newborn teats, which actually have teeny tiny holes. She fed much better when we got size 2 or 3 which allow a bit more milk to escape...it's a bit trial and error but finding a teat that is fast enough to satisfay but not so fast as too let too much milk out is worth a go if that seems to be an issue? Dd used to get fed up when she didn't get her milk quickly enough when she was hungry I think.

noks glad lazy daisy was good, I have my first class in a couple of weeks and am looking forward to it, if only to renter the land of the living and come out of my geordie shore-wotsit-love in.

fairy keep an eye on that numbness, I started out like that and now I almost faint every time I stand up! If I avoid lying on anything but my right hand side that seems to help.

This is just 'what I reckons' but if you're mixed feeding it can be better to stay on slow flow teats because if the baby gets their bottle milk too easily they can refuse to make the necessary effort to breast feed anymore and thus, as always, thwart your plans!

I sympathise with all the poor sleeping. For different reasons I am hardly getting any proper sleep either as she just feeds all night. Oh for this phase to pass!

My goodness. I am a broken woman already. This lovely baby bubble image didn't last v long! This baby looks v cute but in the mean time she's really just a tormentor of parents during the night. In the day time it's all cuteness and coos for my mum and visitors, but as soon as she's in her parents bedroom she basically just wants to comfort suck and fall asleep on my chest and if this doesn't happen she cracks open the 'this baby is being abused, call social services' cry. This is all very nice, but I need some sleep too! Arggh. I understand from mariana that this may be normal baby behaviour, dammit.

The other thing she does is, as soon as I put her down, she start having really bad wind, lots of high pitched cries, pulling up of legs, which miracously calm down when I put her on my chest.

Could it be the fact that it is so different from the hospital that's causing the refusal to settle?

Last night she also didn't manage to breast feed v long, because she kept falling asleep on the boob, which then means waking up again after an hour. After 2 of those I forced a good sized bottle down her throat, which bought me a little bit more time, and gave me the comfort that she is at least getting some food in. I have these visions of showing up at the outpatients clinic of the neo ward with an emaciated Bella! (Although last night I was actually wishing for the NG tube to be put back in!!)

Thanks for the tips on cold hands/face. The room is about 18 degrees and she should be snug as a bug in a rug. The hospital however is so hot of course, that it's quite a change.