Early pregnancy after IVF. Please come here to worry and support!

[NookNook]

Right then! Come here if you are 4-12 weeks and can't stop fretting. Didn't think anything could be worse than the 2WW? Think again!

pram just because it is possible to lose your baby, doesn't mean you will. At your stage, and having two scans where you've seen healthy progression and heart beat, the most likely outcome is a healthy live birth. In fact your odds of it going wrong now are very slim. X

Thanks, girls, very much. I wonder when fish's scan is.

My consultant was lovely and will do an extra scan at 24 wks to check baby's heart rate re antidepressant risks (there is a tiny chance of heart defect when mum is on antidepressants in final trimester, although research is poor as they refuse to use preggos as guinea pigs). I aim to be off 'em by then anyway.

But, guess what? When I told her I was having a wobble despite only being scanned last Friday she scanned me again! I cried my eyes out when she told me to lie very, very still as she was sure 'the bean' would jump for me - and it did! I saw a properly defined head and two thrashing stumps for arms and it wiggled its bum/tail! Unbelievable and very, very beautiful

Oh bloody hell prammy that's amazing re scan - made me well up! So happy for you .

Oh prammy that has made my day!! I'm bloody happy for you x

Hello all. Will post when able properly but its been an awful day.

Our embie hasn't made it. Clinic cannot find anything (at all) via scan. I have seen the true incompetence of my local PCT today, including a gynae doc who is convinced that I was never pregnant and should go home and wait for my period. Even though my bloods are at 54 and actually - over 21 positive hpt's just do not lie.

So I am at home with a missing embie and no blood/cramps. Do I sound bitter and angry?

I have emailed my clinic tonight (we've been in clinic then a and e from 10am until 6pm this evening) with the whole fucking tragic comedy and am waiting for advice.

I do not want to wait weeks on end for a surprise miscarriage.

I am still glad that I got this far and grateful that my instinct gave me advance warning. I did get at least 1 2-3 on a digi, so I think that my darling little embie just didn't grow a heart.

We are devastated and today has been full of tears and breakdowns. But we will get through this.

Thank you all so much for your messages and best wishes, we really do appreciate them and I'm sorry that I cannot give you better news. I will be back (hopefully tomorrow) but I am still wishing you all the very best and that my little embies peers go on to achieve all the great and wonderful things in life that my darling little embie wasn't able to.

Fish.x

Fish, words cannot express how sorry I am to hear your news. If I could wrap you up now, I would. What an utter arse of a doctor. I'm so sorry you've been through this.

You don't sound bitter. You sound remarkably strong.

Am thinking of you and MrFish. You come back as soon as you're ready too xxx

Fish what awful news and to add to it incompetent doctors and screw ups. You do sound amazingly strong. I'm so so sorry for your loss. I hope you and Mr Fish have some time together now. You will of course get through this.

Xxx

Fish, your post is heartbreaking, truly heartbreaking, and I have no words to comfort you. Gratitude is massively difficult to feel at this point, but the fact that you feel it shows what kind of lady you are. Please send our love to Mr. Fish, too. Hang on tight; this too will pass xxx

Your gynae doc is a prize dick.

Oh fish I'm so sorry sweetheart, it's an awful thing to happen and clearly not helped by incompetent idiots who you've had to deal with. I'll be thinking of you and am sending you virtual hugs. There are no words really, we are here for you xx

fish I am so, so sorry. What a horrible nightmare you are going through. I hope that you get some good advice and are able to rest and recover. Have a big cuddle with Mr Fish and look after yourself. Please keep us updated - you are in our thoughts. Xx

fish I'm so sorry. I'm thinking of you and your DH and hope you get to see a better doctor soon.

Gutted for Chocco

Oh fish, I'm really sorry to read this. Big hugs to you. This ivf process can be so cruel.

Thinking of you today, fish xx

What an awful couple of days on this thread. No wonder we've all been a bit absent.

Juat wanted to check that everyone else is ok? Motor Maybe Pram? All still going well?

Waves to Twinks x

Hi nook yes, I'm good thanks, though feeling sad for fish twinkle and choco*.
Having seen the scan on Wednesday, I'm feeling unusually positive, so trying to enjoy that while it lasts. I've had twinges in one spot of my abdomen all day, and did phone the clinic after it had gone on for 5 hours, but they told me not to worry it was probably just the placenta developing or ligaments stretching or something, so I stopped worrying.
I'm doing very boring house cleaning to get it out of the way for the weekend. I just wish I could have a glass or two of wine. I had this idea that the delight of being pregnant would stop me missing alcohol - it hasn't! Oh well, more elderflower cordial...
How are you?

Are any of you ladies thinking of joining the antenatal thread - as well as this one, of course? I really like a handful of them, now.

I think once I've got through the 10 week scan, I'll join the IVF worriers. I also considered the pregnant after miscarriage thread, but I can only keep up with so many people! I'm still fond of the egg buddies, so will hang around there for a bit. I guess this thread might end up a bit redundant, as it is all covered on more established threads. I find it hard to move on from people though.

I won't be leaving this here thread, no way

I have joined the thread, but mainly lurk Prambamthankyoumam. I'm still living in my scaredycat bubble.

How are you Nook?

So pleased to hear you're feeling positive Motor.

Thinking of you Fish.

So, what's for tea you schlaaaaaaaaggggggssss?

I had a fish finger sandwich for tea. It were awesome.

I will also join the other thread after my scan on the 13th. I am also a scaredy cat.

I'm doing ok. I was worried about my general lack of pukeyness but then remembered that the steriods can surpress the nausea (I am still having a bit of nausea).

nook don't worry about no symptoms. They are reassuring, but the lack of them is not sinister. I was convinced my pregnancy could not have got off the ground due to lack of symptoms, but at the scan, there was the little bean with perfect measurements and a strong heartbeat all the same.

I feel nauseous a few times daily, but it is mild and never makes me puke or stop eating or anything. Can I ask why you are on steroids?

maybe it was my Friday night usual - falafel and humous kebabs. Plenty of salad and hot piri-piri sauce. Delicious!