PG after MC - Keeping the worries at bay with Posifrickingtivity!!

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New thread ladies!

Happy birthday for tomorrow Bod sounds like you have a lovely day lined up!
DH is looking after DS tomorrow so I can go for a trip into York and a mooch round the shops. First stop will be a child free latte in Betty's!

Big hug Cam, it's so very unfair. Take yourself home and look after yourself. Hope you have lots of RL support.

Hello Fod - congratulations!!!

Cam, I'm so sorry. Hope you have a peaceful afternoon/evening & you're not in too much physical pain. xx

Welcome fod!

Jbrd, DH & I are both from the 'Not pregnant until we're holding a newborn' school of negativity so, thankfully, I don't have to mask not being excited about it!

Saggy, hurrah for scan date!

Pixie, I have visions of Kate swearing her head off like a trooper demanding an epidural I bet if she wanted one early, she'd get it!

Thanks for the best wishes folks. At home now with scan moved to tomorrow. I'm alright. DH back soon.

Hi, can I pop in?

I have just found out I am pregnant after having a horrendous MMC in May (found out at a 9 week scan the baby had died at 8 weeks, finally had a natural MC which almost killed me 4 weeks later).

I am not even due af until thursday, but got a BFP today.

Am now very frightened about a MC happening again, it really was (physically and mentally) the worst experience of my life (and that's saying something!). I am happy but terrified.

I have an 11 year old ds, so have had a successful pregnancy before in the dark ages

Oh Cam I'm so sorry that you're going through this.

JBrd I don't talk about it with him any more. He tells me I'm being stupid and I worry too much. Occasionally my sister asks if I'm excited yet, and can't understand when I tell her I'm not. I still don't believe that there will be a baby (let alone babies) at the end of this. I have bought stuff now, but all the tags are still on everything, nothing is unpacked, and I've tried to only buy things from places with good return policies.

Hi all, sorry for late posting - ended up in EPU for 3 hrs then had to race back for meetings I'd already rescheduled once.

Scan wasn't good news, I'm having bloods again on Weds to confirm not ectopic, but it looks like an early mc. Def helped that I'd not let myself invest in this one. Next time lucky.

Look forward to meeting you all again in a few months hopefully. Thanks so much again for your kindness and wishing you all happy and healthy pregnancies & beyond xx

JBrd, you aren't alone, you have all of us! and I'm sure you said we were bump buddies!
I'm rooting for Katherine, I hope she is getting the birth she wants.

Oh Myrtle I'm so sorry to hear such terrible news, i hope you have lots of support to get you through it and that when you are ready are back with us soon. Look after yourself xxx

oh myrtle I'm so sorry not a good morning for this thread... I hope you're coping OK and have lots of support in RL... all the best, hope to see you here again soon!

jbrd DH and I refused to acknowledge the pregnancy before the 12-week scan and tentatively started discussing it before the 20-week scan. Since then, it's felt more real and we've both been a bit more positive. I'm even starting to get a little excited! I mean, I know things can go wrong at any time (rarely but it happens) but I don't want to spend my entire pregnancy in negativity.

I'm so sorry Myrtle. I've been through it, it is incredibly shit! Take it easy. Rest and look after yourself. And if it helps, tell people. Don't suffer in silence. One thing I've learned is that far more people than you realise have been through this, and they know how you feel. I found all the people who knew were INCREDIBLY supportive. {{{hug}}}

Welcome to poopy and fod. Poopy that sounds horrendous, it's no wonder you're scared! The ladies on here are amazing though, I wish I'd been brave enough to come here earlier as it would have really helped having all this support in the early weeks.

Cam and myrtle, I am so sorry you are both having to go through this again. I know nothing will help right now but I am thinking of you both and sending lots of virtual hugs! :(

So sorry for your news Myrtle, fingers crossed that it's not an ectopic & we can welcome you back here asap. Wishing you a peaceful rest of the week xx

Welcome poopy! So sorry to hear of your horrible experience, congrats for getting pg again so soon afterwards.

Glad they've moved your scan forward Cam x

So sorry cam & murtle what an awful day for you both, sorry this is happening again. Thinking of you both today xxx

Sorry, I'm on 2 antenatal threads and I though I was on the other non MC one! obviously we are all familiar with this situation! It's still shit though, and still look after yourself! X

Oh, how sad for myrtle and cam. But good news for poopy and Fod so a very mixed day.

DH didnt' really get how I was feeling in the early days. He got over both mcs very quickly, and was just "well, it happened, it was shit. Move on". So no, I didn't really share with him that much worries its the sign of a doomed marriage so coming on here was my lifeline. I suppose for men its different. I know they're invested in the pregnancies, but I'm sure it doesn't consume their every waking thought in the way that it does for us. After all, we're the ones growing the humans and its our bodies that it (both the pg and the mc) happens to.

poopy - very scary for you. There is no reason to think that the same will happen again so try to stay positive, which we all know can be impossible some days!

Afraid that bad things come in threes, I'm losing my 8wk pregnancy. Cramps and bleeding etc.
We hadn't got our hopes up for this one, what with me being over 40 and the MC last autumn, but still rather sad.
Lucky that we have one DS, and he's very treasured, so am not going to moan about our bad luck or anything. And will pop a bottle of Sav Blanc in the fridge later to look forward to tomorrow.

Sending love & sympathy to Cam and Myrtle & best of luck to all you other lovely ladies.

Oh golly what a horrible day here. So sorry, cam, myrtle and Venus. It's just shit and I'm thinking of you all.

Welcome of course to fod and poopy.

Oh lord! I'm just so sorry!

Venus what awful news. Whether you had your hopes up or not it's heart breaking. Look after yourself and your family. Big hugs xxx

So sorry cam, myrtle and venus thinking of each of you. I hope you all have the support you need xxx

Welcome fod and poopy

I do talk to DH about how I feel but I'm not sure how much he understands it, he often asks me how the baby was and in the early days I'd get cross and say I really don't know! It's easier now as I can say how active she has been etc.
I just held my childminder's new baby boy! He is amazing and so tiny.

So sorry myrtle and venus it's so so shit Just be kind to yourselves and give yourselves time to grieve x

oh what a sad and unfair day. venus, myrtle and cam i am so so sorry xx

What a terrible day! So sorry for cam, myrtle and venus that you're having to go through this. Take care of yourselves.

Welcome and congrats on the bfps to fod and poopy!

Funny that k-mid has gone into labour today. It's the EDD of my MMC today. Don't feel too bad about it though. Just hoping that all will be fine with this one. Told my mum and dad yesterday and it was lovely to see them excited.

Oh lord, so so sorry for you all Myrtle, Cam and Venus - hope you all have lots of support in RL, wishing you a speedy recoveries (physical and mental) and that you do get your little ones soon! Thinking of you all, especially today all all days with K Mid all over the news, hope you can get away from it all. Enjoy a proper or 3 tonight - you deserve it.

Santa I can't remember when I started to feel DS but am 19 weeks now and still only had the odd prod/poke and only when i'm sitting still. I have regular Doppler sessions just to keep myself sane.

Gary losing plug sounds like it can't be too far away for you.

Hi to Fod and Poopy