PG after MC - Keeping the worries at bay with Posifrickingtivity!!

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New thread ladies!

Happy birthday for tomorrow Bod sounds like you have a lovely day lined up!
DH is looking after DS tomorrow so I can go for a trip into York and a mooch round the shops. First stop will be a child free latte in Betty's!

Hi everyone,

Sorry for being so absent, I've been hiding. Simple as that- what a wus! Trying to get through each day one at a time and its working ok so far.

Now I do have an update I think it's only right that I man up a bit and get back on here.

So we went to see the consultant endo yesterday at the hospital (ref thyroid problems since mmc in nov). Was a basket case by the time we went in- they has us waiting for 40 mins and then plonked us in the same room we found out about the mmc and left us alone for another 10. Horrible.

Anyway good chat with the consultant who told me enough facts to stop me panicking even though I didn't warm to him and his trousers were too short

Then I asked if they offer early scans, meaning in a couple of weeks time and he said no but he would find out if someone could do it now. Heart in mouth as I wasn't prepared but it went ok. We saw a fuzzy bean and a fluttery heartbeat (apparently). Still is only just sinking in that we had a good appointment and I know it's just a tiny step, but its a good one!

Sorry for being so self obsessed. I will read back and catch up.

Lol at you DH Birds :) and at the poo baby! Tee hee.

Welcome sleep. Also had cramping and even bleeding throughout this pregnancy. Positive thoughts even though its hard. big hug.
Congrats on all positive scan news :) great to hear.
Janie- so glad all is well. We are celebrating 25 weeks today can you believe?! Cake anyone?!

Thunder yay for heartbeat!!! Probably better that you didn't have time to work yourself up about it. So sorry you were left in the room where you found out about the MMC. That's my biggest stress about my 12 week scan, I am desperate not to have to be scanned in the same room as last time transference of nerves I think

thunder lovely to hear from you and hurrah that you saw the heartbeat! How many weeks are you now?

luckysocks oooh 25 weeks! Cake all round.

hey thunder, welcome back :) congrats on the unexpected early scan! and yippee for the heartbeat! do you know how many weeks you are now? hope it's given you some peace of mind :)

thanks for all your messages. the dr that scanned me last night asked if i knew him - we realised it was him that told me i was expecting twins last sept (my 1st pg that ended in mmc). he was so lovely and very sympathetic and made me feel very comfortable and not a nuisance for worrying this time. if only all drs were like that eh.

happy 25wks lucky! hard to believe i know!! we'll be in the 3rd trimester in no time! when i was waiting in the EOU last, i asked was there a comfier chair so they let me sit in a ward - my ass was v sore from theeeee most uncomfy seats. i was in the ward where people come into when they are in labour eek. i was hearing a girl starting on the gas and air and having contractions. it all seemed like i was a fly on the wall in an episode of one born every minute. very real and hard to believe in 15 weeks that'll hopefully be us gulp!

omri hope you're feeling better (in a positively nauseous early pregnancy sick kind of way) today

birds glad to hear your DH is beginning to talk about it - any pg chat is welcome even if it means comparing to a moody panda!!

anda hope you're doing ok and not getting too uncomfy x

hi everyone else, tfi the weekend!

liesl and thunder congratulations on your good scans! The two of you and rainbow can truly enjoy the weekend now

motor good luck with the scan on Monday! sleep welcome and congratulations! Stretching, period and back pains are all normal I think - I have had them all during this pregnancy and all is well so fingers crossed it is the same for both of you.

janie glad everything is fine!

pixie well done on your DD!

lucky yay for 25 weeks!

Whoop Thunder!

Help! Total tangent. I have just been asked to be Godmother to DH niece. I am not remotely religious and have absolutely no idea what the hell I'm supposed to do at a Christening. In the grand scheme of things I know I'm there for guidance and all that blah but realistically what does it entail? Just buying them better presents (could do without the extra cost!!!). Ha! Do I sound like they picked the wrong person? Any present ideas most welcome!

Ahh thank you ladies, I'm around 7+5 today. We'll pay for another scan at 10 weeks I think if I get that far- makes the waiting more bearable by doing small steps but also 10 weeks is what the last foetus measured so another scary milestone to get through.

janie thank goodness for lovely doctors- it makes such a difference eh.

rock it was horrible being in that room but it also killed the demons for definite. Just having some good news is definitely helping me move on from the bad things before.

lucky my day by day pg book just told me we're in our 3rd trimester tomorrow!! I though we still had about 3 weeks!?

At what stage do you think it is worth paying for a scan? I'm going to be away from 8-9 weeks so just wondered if I should do it before or after? If I do it before and there's bad news it might ruin the holiday (but its France so I could drink my own weight in wine and eat runny cheese all week long) - if I book it for after the trip might be tainted by anxiety and worry.

WWYD? The latest I could get before the trip would be 7+5.

thunder yay! I had a second scan at 10+4. I was a nervous wreck by then and it massively helped, especially as they start to look more baby like by then.

sleep my first scan was at 7+4. It was by dildo cam but they could see everything was progressing properly and that there were two heartbeats.

janie and lucky think 3rd trimester is 26+3. Very nearly there! It's amazing - you lot have all these massive milestones and it feels like they've come around SO quickly while mine go SO slowly!

garden same thing happened to us. The funny thing is the parents aren't particularly religious either - think it's just a box ticking exercise to appease her parents. We agreed and then thought it through afterwards and said that perhaps it was hypocritical to agree. However, we've decided that we can be godparents by being there for the parents when they need support (and wine), and helping whenever we can. We can't offer babysitting too often because they're about 4 hours away, but we do what we can, and at the moment we spoil the parents more than our godson (I think they need and appreciate it more). I'm hoping that as he gets older he can be DH's surrogate son for rugby matches!

Can I join? I've just had my BFP, first one this year after 2 miscaqrriages last year. Am in shock, equal measures of happy and terrified. Almost scared to post on here in case it's tempting fate.

I'll keep my fingers crossed for you katatonic, the limbo/not knowing is a head wrecker.

Yay Kat!!!! Great to see you here Sorry what's a PUL? I hope everything works out this time you so deserve it.

Also great news on the scan thunder

Hi Kat and Qaz. Congrats on your BFP :) sending you some positivinfrigity. I had a PUL to at the start. Guff its pregnancy of unknown location. Hopefully just too early to see yet as mine was.

Congratulations Q&Kat on your bfp's and welcome. Here's to a dull pregnancy from now on.

Sleep I'd say have a scan before I think as let's face it you will be thinking of nothing else on holiday and as it will be good news (spreading the posifrickintivity!) you will at least then enjoy your holiday!

Anda def a tick box, they aren't remotely religious as far as I know and I wouldn't be surprised if they only asked me as someone else declined but lets face it I had no option to turn them down as it would have caused a family war! Lol! She's a crazy kid anyway so up my street. Just have no idea what im supposed to do and failure is not an option! Ha Ha! Don't like this growing up malarky, life was so much easier when no one would dream of asking me

Hi kat, qaz, sleep, metro and any other newbies I have missed, it's lovely to have new people join us.

sleep - very tricky, how sure are you on your dates? I think I would be tempted to wait as if you have a scan that is inconclusive you will be no better off and then have to pay for another one when you get back and the further along you are when you have your scan the better likelihood of things turning out well. I know the waiting is agony though.

Janie, liesl and thunder ace scan news - that consultant obviously holds some sway if he can get a scan as quick as that! And I like the fact his trousers are too short - it means he is too busy thinking about clever important things (like your thyroid!) to care about appearance :)

garden is it a proper church do? Don't you have to repeat some stuff about teaching the child about God etc? I think there are a few threads about it on here, I think what is actually expected on you is just down to the opinion of the parents. Some people take the whole godparent thing very seriously, I can't remember mine ever treating me any differently than my other aunts and uncles tbh.

Erm, I don't have much pg news... I got some nice Jojo Maman Jeans and a lovely top in the sales. Also I took a top back to H&M as it was too small and the assistant said taht in their maternity clothes you have to go up one size in the first trimester pg then 2 sizes in the second trimester. Why not just do it like everyone else!

Hello all,

Garden, following bump's comment, the last one I went to was really religious. The parents aren't particularly religious- I think it was the tradition as much as anything but the godPs had to make some quite religion-based promises in front of the crowd congregation. Once the ceremony was over it was all very laid back tho and I understand the expectation is that the GodPs are there to have an extra eye on that young person-like a parental back-up? So how that manifests is very varied but it might just be occasional presents and following how they get on, or it might be that you become one of the adults that they can turn to when they don't feel that can talk to their parents.

bump his trousers were expensive looking (like beige linen) but just wrong. And maybe I should also be concentrating on my thyroid rather than fashion?!!

Just got home and got my next scan date through so that's a nice thing psychologically to know. 7th sept and if I get there I'll be around 11+5. I think we'll still see if we can pay for one at 10 weeks too.

sleep, personally I was going to wait til 9 or 10 weeks for my scan but that was specifically because that's the time the foetus stopped developing in my mmc last time. From what I understand, it's great to have one early, but you will probably want another one before 12 weeks so if you can afford it why not just do both and then you can hopefully relax a bit because you've got more short-term stepping stones.

Hello everyone - back from a wifi free week in a log cabin with DH and DS and feel like I've been on the moon. Had a great time but absolutely knackered (constant activities and DS had wrecking cough every night) bump has definitely grown through the week and SPD is getting worse. But kicks are now definitely there which is soo reassuring.

Will catch up on everyone's news as quickly as I can, but great to see lots of new names and good scan results. But very sorry to see that JBrd & Myrtle have gone

Thanks Thunder and Bump, jesus what have I let myself in for?! Something to look forward to not, maybe I will have a braxton hick at the point where I promise to teach them about god and will be able to skip that blatant lie? I'm sure I won't be the first or last fraudulent godp!

I feel flipping awful!
I think I have something gastro going on. I put it and Alan down to too much bread, and I was stupid and had pizza for dinner last night, but Im not sure. I have had some really awful trapped wind type stomach cramps today. I was doubled over. And lets just say, Alan wont be getting any siblings for a while!
I am happy that the cramps aren't baby related, much more mid to upper abdomen and no bleeding, but I just feel horrid. I have two more days of work that I MUST do too.
Im not sick per se, I just feel icky!

Thanks for the lovely comments re scan. Liesl and thunder, congrats on yours too.

Hi to new people, sorry its so stressful but congratulations on being pregnant.

Kat so sorry for the uncertainty. I will be keeping my fingers crossed that you get good news Monday and everything is really straightforward afterwards. Its difficult letting yourself feel pregnant when there's uncertainty and its hard to know where to share the anxieties. I hope the support and understanding here helps.

Garden I'm an athiest but have made peace with hypocrisy rather than offend. As godparent to several nieces/nephews not much has been expected other than whats required at the christening. You do have to make some very religious statements though, prob varies by church. My brother asked me if i had learned my lines when i arrived at the church for first one and left me sat in a cold sweat trying to to learn them, right up to when the service started and he whispered only kidding, everyone just reads from the book. I figure if parents are taking the religious commitment seriously that would be reflected in choice of godparents, ie, not me! There's a childrens book "Everyone is born free" published by Amnesty that makes a slightly "worthy" but lovely christening present.

See now call me stuffy, but I was once asked to be a Godmother and declined. Not because I didn't feel strongly about the child, but because the role of Godparent is to care for the child's spiritual education and wellbeing. As someone who doesn't believe in God, but does believe everyone should have the right to do so if they so wish, I felt that the job wasn't for me and I would be a hypocrite if I took it and that someone else might be better suited.