PG after MC - posifrickentivity, hand holding, and smelly gush.

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Thread for ladies who are freaking out panicking slightly when preggy after miscarriage.
Plenty of oldies. Newbies always welcome.

It does help. Although this one is very different to last time. I have some serious symptoms al ready! I nearly barfed on my mother yesterday!

Good luck Jess, hope you're top of the list and everything goes well

We'll want a birth announcement, you know?

I'm so over this weather. I can't use my dream genii pillow because I get so hot in the night so I'm much achieve than normal. Am sitting in bed, having done nothing this morning and feel like I've been hit by a bus.

Today is my work maternity afternoon tea (compromise when I said I didn't want a baby shower). However, it was supposed to be a handful of people and now it's the whole company. Hate being the centre of attention - not looking forward to it at all! God, I'm whingey at the moment. Sorry. After next Tuesday's scan I should have a date for induction/ELCS and I promise I'll be all sunshine and light then - this is what pre-scan doom does to me!!

I've just weighed myself. To anyone who was slightly self conscious about weight Pre pregnancy I would advise NOT doing this. Argh!!

Diet - Pre scan doom is a nightmare isn't it. My work were trying to talk me into a baby shower yesterday - point blank said no. How long do you have left at work?

Are we getting a baby today? Woohoo! that's great to hear, there's been a lot of people back on the conception thread recently. It's great news!

How big is your company Anda? 1000? 2000? . Don't think I'd like the thought of it either but I'm sure it will be fun once it starts and it's actually quite lovely that they are making an effort (and if all else fails think of the vouchers you'll get!)

Saggy can't remember; does your mum deserve to be barfed on? If so that's v funny! This time round was totally different for me too - felt sick so much more, hoping its a good sign for you too.

Go team Jess! xxx

Welcome Saggy! Hurrah for almost throwing up on your Mum, long may it continue.
Although lurking on the ttc fred...tis not Friday, feel I should wag a finger at you disapprovingly!

Good luck today Jess

IBIP, I've lost weight this week, mentioned it to MW & she said 'we don't care about it anymore as long you're in the healthy range'.
The most fantastic thing about having DS is I lost 30lbs in 2 days! Water retention is a bar steward.

Janie, hope you can find out about the seat! We've not used isofix ever so no ideas about it, £212 for both seat & base does sound cheap though.

anda, enjoy your afternoon tea, you whingey caaah

Saggy- delighted to see you here my lovely, as we so sadly shared our journeys at the start of the year. These ladies here have been wonderful and kept me sane through the worrying days!!

Thinking of Jess- happy birth day baby, hope you are here this morning and your mummy doesn't have to wait all day!

Enjoy your afternoon tea andadietcoke if you can!! I haven't officially told work, I think they must think I am very odd, but I can't quite believe I will have a baby at the end of this pregnancy.

Pink- step away from those scales!! I don't intend to get back on mine until next January when I go back to slimming world. I am eating far too much and feel very fat!!

I had a horrible scan dream last night, my baby had a heart defect and I remember just crying and crying- horrible!!
Probably the start of the pre scan nerves as my 20 weeks scan is next Friday!!

oh jess that's yuk. i just managed with my big pillow last night, try some of that cooling spray, i got some in boots, it's nice on your face and feet and back too. i'm secretly jealous of your party. my work are so horrid they would never dream of doing anything nice like that for me. there are about 25 people in my place. bet you'll get lots of nice presents and cake mmm!

saggy yes we've noticed a few names from the ttc thread recently! great stuff! is thunder still on there? i remember her saying she was giving mn a break and never saw her name when i popped in for a nosey.

jess happy BIRTH day!!!!!!!!!!!!!! fx they have you with your scrummy baby in your arms in no time!!! wish we could all come and visit for a cuddle!!!

pink the scales the scales. i haven't weighed myself for a week. i got a bit of a shock last time. i knew i'd expanded but not THAT much ffs! is the recommended gain around about 1 pound a week? not sure if that's from week one or what though. also depends on your weight before i think. bugger it, it's we're growing humans you know!! and i'm still ok in lots of my pre pg clothes (just) so lets blame water retention xx

SAGGY!!!! Seeing you here has completely snapped me out of my whiney grump I shall skip off to my afternoon tea (with 22 people, not 1,000 garden) now safe in the knowledge that today, you are pregnant. So pleased!

I think it was garden that mentioned vouchers. Oh no, I'm getting a surprise.

jmf I know what you mean. I had to tell work at 11 weeks because I already had quite a twin bump. Everyone had guessed anyway after company training when I wasn't drinking. I had a big HR mess with my team to sort out and decided the longer we had to resolve it, recruit and get someone in post, the better. Every time I told someone I was convinced if jinx it though! Still finding it hard to believe there will be babies at the end of this too.

gary it's your fault for being all shiney and blooming - made me feel even worse. Still, today I'm pregnant and not a whiney caaaah any more (for now). That properly made me giggle as well - thanks

Gary I know! I'm the threads biggest fish thrower, I really am! I really tried to hold out until Friday, I just couldn't!
Janie sadly I mean there have been several people returning to the TTC thread. Thunder is still about, she's hanging in there. It's her turn next, I've decreed!
Pink I'm going to refuse to be weighed this time. If they don't know how much I weigh, they can't tell me off!

saggy!!!! Flipping brilliant news!!!

Good luck jess xxxx

Sorry missed saggy. Awsome to see you here xxxxxx

I'm a bit of a whiney caaah too. Some f-ing birthday with everyone's huge mess to tidy up, then working til bloody 7 pm. Was going to treat myself to kid-free wander round town for an hour before work but can't leave the house like this.

Oh Blackholes, sorry you're having a crap day already. Hope you manage some kid-free wander time.

jmf, I have a reoccurring dream that this baby is deaf. Very worrying.

I'm not 'woo' in the slightest but I remember telling DH when I was in labour with DS to make the most of it because our next baby wouldn't make it (mc?), stupid pethidine making me crazy!

DS lasted 30mins at playgroup today before we had to leave, he's ratty as fook..in for a long day methinks.

like crazy for Jess! x

Oh my goodness I am unbearably excited about out first thread baby!! I can't remember, do we know what flavour baby is?

congratulations saggy

and whoop for Jess can't wait to hear baby news!

just got a midwife appointment... it's a 2 week wait to see her so think my chances of an early NHS scan are low unless I go and plead with one of our totally disinterested GPs. So I am thinking of booking a private 9 wk scan. My concern is though if it all goes wrong, what is their after care like? obviously if you have an NHS scan you're immediately in the system for treatment. if you go private and it shows a mc do you then have to wait for an NHS scan and go through it all again? sorry, hardly full of posifrickingtivity but some advice on what happens if the worst happens would set my mind at rest. Can't imagine having to gather my wits and start it all again at the hospital.

I'm not feeling very pregnant at the moment and I think it's getting to me. Very mild symptoms and almost no hip pain... it is very different to last time. Not sure if that's because my clearest memories are more of 8/9/10 weeks when I felt awful, maybe I was ok at 6 weeks last time.

In other news I have totally lost my ability to parallel park. this is a problem because the only parking available at home is parallel. I just caught my neighbour laughing at me as I mounted the kerb for the third time in a massive space!

Pixie - I had that problem. Almost no symptoms at all. Seriously. But here I am at 21+4 being kicked, now feeling quite grateful I didn't have any hideous symptoms! I know it is super hard. Especially when you feel like nothing has changed. Try and make the most of feeling good and keep as busy as possible! For me, that brought on tiredness which made me feel like I had something going on at least :)

And Lols at parallel parking. I could never do it anyway, but am even worse now!!

Pixie - with my early scan at 9 weeks they took all my GP details first and if there had been anything wrong, they would have then passed everything on. I guess it will depend on where you are and what relationship the scan place has with the local hospitals. Something to possibly call them and check if you are nervous. My scanner was a Sonographer who did them in her spare time and worked at the local EPU the rest of the time. So felt that she'd have been able to sort me out if there had been anything wrong.

Blackholes - sorry you are having a pants day, if you've not left already - GO NOW and leave the mess til tomorrow! Otherwise, consider Saturday (or next day off) as your true birthday. It's DH's birthday today and I have only remembered now I have forgotten to order his present from me - have lied and said it's been delayed in post (it's an awful print he likes - I hate it but it's the only thing he wanted)

Jess - hoping you are sitting with your lo right now or will be soon. looking forward to birth announcement!

Saggy - Fab news!! very glad to see you on here

Books etc - I read Gina Ford before having DS - I knew I wasn't organised enough to stick to the timetable but it was useful to have some sort of plan. We have bathed DS everynight since we brought him home as a bedtime routine and it's pretty much worked. Super Nanny book was good too as is the Slummy Mummy guide.
My favorite one is by Lucy Atkins "Frst Time Parent" link here to amamzon - as it has a good section on the first few days back at home. I've given this as a present to my friends a few times.
But don't buy these books! Library will have them all and you can then decide which ones you like.

Second time round I feel so much more relaxed - this one will probably be completely different to DS and will just have to work him/her out day by day.

You will learn a new mantra post birth "If it works, don't knock it" - if you need to use dummies - use them, if you can't manage to BF or BF exclusively, then FF or mix feed, feed to sleep if you have to, buy ready made meals etc etc - whatever helps you get through as sanely as you can!

sorry epic post - rare mn on laptop today!

I'm excited too pink can't wait to hear your news jess

Lovely that you heard the heartbeat pumpkin

Well done with all the purchases everyone, you are all very brave!

I second jmf with the breastfeeding advice...and as I may have mentioned before use the lanisoh from day one!

Congrats saggy and welcome Good to hear that thunder is still TTC and hopeful of a BFP shortly

pink it's a shock isn't it, I was huge with DS by this point and had put on so much weight...much better this time so hoping it won't be as much to shift after

pixie I had hardly any symptoms early on with DS and he is here now so all was ok!

So I'm not well, feel very faint and sick again, I had this with DS and had low blood pressure and iron so think I've gotta get myself to GP asap

Poor you Shell. Getting down to the Dr asap definitely sounds the order of the day.

IBIP and Shell - I love any stories in which there are no symptoms and everything ended up being ok as had none last time so will completely assume the worst if I'm symptom free again. Although does a complete ins inability to focus on work for more than 10secs count? I'm very jealous of Saggy's vomiting. I would give anything for a little vomit

Word of warning camo I had no morning sickness. Was happy and nausea free all through first trimester. Roll on week 15, I cursed wishing for sickness while hugging the toilet bowl instead of sleeping at 2 am. Get this about once a week now. You may get what you wish for!!

Aww well done Saggy!

IBIP - ahh now that's simply not fair. No sickness when you probably could've done with the reassurance, then you get it later when you've kicking, dopplars, positive 12-week scan, and a baby belly for reassurance. Not fair on you in the slightest.

Maybe just a bit of morning nausea with the occasional little morning vomit would be optimum. I even have anti-pregnancy symptoms at the moment. Complete loss of appetite anyone?! Although not exactly bursting with energy so I suppose that's something. Sigh. 5 weeks down!

I've realised my 12-week scan is due the week of my original EDD. That's either going to be quite poignant or doubly devastating. Saggy. I know we're very much in sync with mc and bfp so I was wondering if this is the same for you. I think I'm going to book the fortnight off!

About 10 days before my due date Cam. I'm just glad that I will be pg when I get to my original date.