PG after MC - posifrickentivity, hand holding, and smelly gush.

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Thread for ladies who are freaking out panicking slightly when preggy after miscarriage.
Plenty of oldies. Newbies always welcome.

Jess- the HCA just didn't think before she opened her mouth. I hope you Saturday night is ok there. Just think only 1 more Saturday after today and then your baby will be here. If anything were to happen baby would out in a matter of minutes. Keep strong.

Andadietcoke - yippee for the Donkey!!! So excited for you and trying hard to to have donkey envy. I will get new fabrics for my chameleon, the blue is lovely.

Hi to pixie and Alice. Early days are hard, I did lots of knicker checking and was always expecting the worst. A scan at 8 weeks was reassuring.

Hope you are all enjoying the weekend!!

Morning all.
In a bit of a panic here as had some light bleeding last nt. Obv really worried it's the start of the end but no more over nt. It was very slight but bright red.
Trying to keep positive & wonder if might be break through bleeding but if it carries on today will be ringing gp tomorrow to ask to go to epau tomorrow. Why do these things always happen at the weekend?

Anyone had something similar & a good outcome?

Love the look of bugaboo donkey.
jess not too long to go now & at least you're almost at term too. Does that make it a little easier?

Oh Alice, sorry about the panic with the bleeding :-( For peace of mind, you prob just need to get to your EPU to check it out? When I've bled at a weekend (itvwas on a Sunday last time) I text my midwife who told me to go to a and e, for the sake of speed. We did and they booked me in for a Monday scan with EPU. I'm sure it varies from place to place but that might be quicker than waiting till tomorrow to ring the doctors?

Thinking of you very much. Know it's hard but try not to panic cos it has stopped and wasn't really painful from what you've said (?) so i think that's a good sign. Big virtual hug x

hi everyone!

pixie I know what you mean about not wanting a very early scan. My last pregnancy ended in MMC at 7.5 weeks but didn't find out until scan at 12+ weeks. So when I got pregnant again my plan was to see my GP at 7 weeks and request a scan for the week after. But unfortunately I got tonsilitis at 5weeks (about a week after finding out I'm pregnant), saw my GP of course and she phoned the EPU and booked me an appointment for 6 weeks exactly. Luckily, we saw a heartbeat but when I requested a repeat scan for 8-9 weeks the EPU was like "you don't need it, everything looks fine and as it should, you shouldn't compare this pregnancy to the last one".... anyway, weeks 7-9 were hellish, I had a private scan at 10 weeks which was great and after that have been worrying less and less...(OK not strictly true but the stress is considerably less than the first few weeks) and I agree with anda I'm so much better after my 20 week scan a couple of weeks ago

aaah, pumpkin I see what you mean about the two faces, not at all what I thought! It's probably an optical illusion but it's great that you're having a scan at 17 weeks for reassurance and to find out the sex (I'm sure they will explain what that second face was)

alice welcome and congratulations! I've had 2 MMCs so couldn't agree more with your comment i.e. "not having mc symptoms doesn't reassure". You have a scan very soon so fingers crossed that will help you get through the first few weeks! I survived the first trimester by reading a lot (I recommend the Hunger Games trilogy - great distraction) and watching films. I didn't feel very sociable and didn't feel like shopping so books and films were my only distraction (and of course DD which is the joy of my life!)

jess what an insensitive comment - ignore! You're in hospital and in good hands. And you're 37 weeks today (yay!!) so nearly there - everything will fine, I'm sure!

DIY - no more migraines, hurray!

oh alice I've just seen your post about the bleed...most probably it's implantation bleeding but try to go to a&e if you're too worried...thinking of you!

anda how exciting you bought the travel system! The bugaboo donkey is lovely!

Hi everyone,

Jess - that hca is an insensitive cow. what does she know anyway, she is a HCA!!! Her job is to assist not dish out crap advice. Tell her to leave it to the the professionals!

Bump - so sorry for your loss. I cant imagine what you must be going through.

Went out last night in a figure hugging dress for first time in figure hugging dress showing of the bump. Loved it. Saw loads of people I hadnt seen for ages and didnt know i was pregant. Loved it. Lapped up the attention and the bump patting XXXX

Thanks everyone....hormones are mad, you would think I'd have been on a high after the scan but spent yesterday crying and moody?! Poor DH

bump sounds like a lovely event and so nice to remember your mum that way x

black great result

pixie congrats I feel your pain I suffer with PGP too (tho not as bad as you) and its horrible...it isn't as bad as early this time for me tho so hopefully it will be the same for you

Hi alice and congrats I agree with everyone else the stage up to the 12w scan is so tough, I hope you get to see a MW today or in the morning

I can moan abt MILs too...mines an insensitive @&£?

anda that's brill well done you're really getting there now . The pram I've chosen has 15% off at JL at the min so everyone is telling me to buy but I'm scared You might have just given me the push I need

diy brill your feeling movements and fanatics the migraines have gone

Hi bod I love showing my bump off too, it's a great feeling isn't it

shell do it. I've just spent a small fortune at Mamas and Papas buying nursery stuff because it was all 20% off. I figure if the worst comes to the worst I can return it, and I've saved about £70 so I would have kicked myself if I hadn't got it.

Thanks all for the supportive words & advice. I spoke to the gp on call and have a scan bkd at epu tomorrow morning. Have bled a little today. It's very light but very similar to how my mc started after my scan last time so I fear the worst.
Hope people have had a nice weekend.

thanks everyone, had a lovely day with DH and DD today and I'm trying to get life back to some form of normality after all the build up to the service - I didn't realise how exhausting it would be.

anda I am so proud of you (very patronising I know - but I really am!). Your little girls are going to look so cute in that pram :)

Hi all newbies, so pleased to have you here with us. I had an early scan at about 9 weeks and found it very reassuring but we all know the early weeks are torture so come and talk to us all whenever you want also - (and this is important) you must all wear lucky socks for any scan, these can be any kind of novelty sock.

alice lots of us have had bleeds and all has been ok, I had one with my first pg and DD was absolutely fine. Good luck for your scan xx

Hi Sorry missed your post Alice. Light Bleeding is pretty normal. I had no bleeding in my last missed miscarriage but quite a bit in this pregnancy so its by no means a sign of an mc. Hope you get some sleep tonight before your scan.

Ok so taken the plunge and ordered a cot as well as a cot top changer from John Lewis today. Eek. First baby purchase. Well it was in the sale and there were only 9 left so thought best get a move on. It is a troll one and reduced to £99 from £195. Bargain. We already have a lovely big drawer unit so that's all the nursery furniture sorted apart from blinds and accessories. Gonna paint it in next couple of weeks to give paint fumes chance to subside as planning on putting baby straight in there from the start and sleeping in there as well. Going for grey and yellow and and elephant theme. Excited!!!!

Best wishes for tomorrow alice fingers crossed everything's ok x

bump sounds like a tough few days emotionally, glad you've come out the other side ok x

anda I've done it aaaggghhh Pram, carrycot attachment, footmuff for DS and rain cover all ordered Being delivered straight to my mums tho not to be mentioned again till after the babies here Thanks x

Hi Alice - best of luck tomorrow. I had a vv small bleed around 8 weeks with this one - sonographer at my private scan suggested breakthrough bleeding as it would be around period time.

Anda- total Donkey envy! DH says we don't need to upgrade our Bee ( I may get a carrycot for it - fixed on by the car seat clips)

Home from Cumbria, had a lovely day at Woolfest with my mum and aunts (yep there is such a thing as Woolfest - think lots and lots of stalls selling wool related items ) then on way home she breaks news that DF has just been diagnosed with prostate cancer.
Which in itself is not a massive shock as we have been on at him for ages to go and get tested (long story but he is a stop start wee-er which is a classic sign) but was a bit that she waited until we'd had day out. They found out on Tuesday FGS. Anyway, finding out tomorrow what suggested treatment will be - probably putting radioactive bits into it I think. DF is very pragmatic about it all at least

Sorry bit of a long post. Will catch up on more of the weekends posts tomorrow when I should be working

sorry about your dad choc your mum probably just wanted to tell you in person and didn't want to ruin the day out by telling you in the morning. I suppose there's no easy way to tell or be told. Anyway, its good he is being seen soon so he knows what the plan is xx

Hi pixie and alice welcome. Pixie I had a MMC at the end of March too, still feels quite raw but I'm feeling so much more positive than even a month ago.

Alice I hope you are ok and not freaking out, but I know I would be Glad you have got a scan tomorrow, just try and focus on that as that is the only thing that is going to give you reassurance but as others have said, loads of people bleed in perfectly healthy pregnancies but we all understand how you are going to think the worst. We're here to hand hold.

Sorry about your DF egg what an awful shock for you all, I hope they can get him treated ASAP.

Thanks ladies but pretty sure it's game over for me. Reasonably heavy bleeding now with some small clots & mild cramps. sorry if tmi.
Think scan will just confirm another mc.
Absolutely gutted. Will pop back tomorrow to let you know but think it's been a short stay on this thread for me.

alice, hugs. Look after yourself and hope time goes fast til scan tomorrow. Really hope it's not happening again, that would be really shitty luck. Thinking of you.

Have my fx for you alice, hope it's good news for you xx
Could be implantation at this stage.

Oh alice only just seen your latest post, thinking of you x

thinking of you alice xxxxxx

Alice, hope you coping okay, and hope tomorrow brings much better news than you are expecting x

Choc- I'm so very sorry. Thats so sad. I hope treatment is as quick and painless as possible, and you all have lots of support xx

Oh Alice you poor love. I hope you don't have to go through such a horrible time again. Thinking of you this morning xx

And choc I'm so sorry to hear your news, it'll take a while to sink in. Did they catch it early on? My dad was diagnosed 5 yrs ago, caught early due to constant screening (the men in his family had it too so seems to be hereditary) but with good monitoring and medication he luckily still lives life as normally as possible. It was a real shock when he told me, men aren't good at emotional things like that (in my family anyway!) and I think it took him some time to come round and tell me. Hope there's lots if care and support available to you all xx

Anda I'm very VERY proud of your purchases! I managed to nosy into mothercare, just to dip my toe in the water. Still deciding whether or not I need to say bye bye to my mini before picking one

Hi to everyone, hope this week is better than last week x

Oh Alice hoping for good news today. Try to relax, and if you're in pain take paracetamol.

Choc sorry to hear about your dad. My best friend's dad was diagnosed with prostrate cancer 12 months ago and so far the treatment has been uncomplicated, and so far, successful. Your mum probably found it hard to break the news to you and didn't want to spoil the day - mums are very good at trying to protect us.

Alice hoping everything goes ok today, still keeping fingers crossed for you that it works out ok

Choc agree with others that your mum probably didn't want to spoil your day, has he got a prognosis yet?

5 weeks tomorrow here, cb digi yesterday came up as 3+ so that's good, and Internet cheapie today had a stronger second line than the control line. So far so good, today I am pregnant. I've decided I like that mantra so thankyou to whoever said it earlier - I'm trying to stay positive and not stress easier said than done

Alice so sorry to hear that, I really hope your scan gives you positive news today

choc sorry to hear about your dad's diagnosis. I really hope he responds well to treatment and the treatment itself doesn't make him feel too unwell.

Rock I totally agree, I have adopted that as my mantra atm. although I'm also mostly pretending not to be pg at the moment in order to a) not get too excited and therefore potentially better able to deal with another mc and B) so that I don't tell anyone. I told so many ppl last time (thought it would be a straightforward 2nd pg) it was horrible having to work through everyone and tell them. I'm terrible at keeping it a secret esp once symptoms start. Slightly crazy thinking but hey ho.

Good luck to whoever is potty training (sorry can't remember who is was down thread ) our first attempt at it in Feb was a nightmare so we left it but spent a lot of time reading books about it and talking about dd's friends who used potty etc. what cracked it for us was several play dates where dd saw her friend using potty. eventually after seeing her friend one day she just said she wasn't going to wear nappies anymore and that was that. I was as we were about to go on holiday but it all went pretty smoothly from there on.