PG after MC - posifrickentivity, hand holding, and smelly gush.

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Thread for ladies who are freaking out panicking slightly when preggy after miscarriage.
Plenty of oldies. Newbies always welcome.

Thinking of you Alice xxx

Oh what sad news to start a Monday . Thinking of you alice today.

choc that must have been a horrid shock for you yesterday, but (and I know its easier said than done) of all the cancers to get, prostrate is probably the best of a bad bunch, as it is really treatable. DFIL had it three years ago and he's fully clear now, so keeping my fingers crossed for your father.

We told "people" yesterday - parents, siblings and our DC1 - who took it very well (as well as a 2.5 year old can, I guess) and kept asking to see the baby now .

I was going to tell my sister on Friday night, but she trumped me with possibly the best excuse ever - she was 2 hours late for supper as she'd ended up going for drinks with a genuine A-List celeb (can't say who) who was staying in our teeny tiny little village. Very exciting for li'l ol' me, to think there was someone quite so famous staying in a house whose chimney pots I can see from my bathroom. I had to alter the dog walk to find an excuse to walk past that house just so I could see if I could get a peek, but all I saw was the bodyguards [real saddo emoticon].

alice thinking of you...

choc sorry to hear about you dad, I know quite a few men who were diagnosed with prostate cancer and all of them were treated successfully. I hope he gets better and over it soon!

pixie it sounds like a great copying mechanism, I was the same during the first few weeks - I refused to think of myself as pregnant and only told family and very few close friends. My DD is being potty trained at the moment - we didn't really try, she just saw other children at the nursery going to the loo and asked to do it. The problem is she's not that bothered when she is at home and I haven't made a real effort either, I'm embarrassed to say...but I will do from now on

More purchases! That's great Bod! If I remember well, you have a scan tomorrow? And Garden? Good luck ladies!

How's everyone sleeping by the way? I sleep on my back and both on my left and right side (I can't be in the same position, throughout the night, I doubt anyone can!) but I feel very guilty when I wake up and I'm on my back as I've read it's not good for mother and baby...or is it just the mother? I freaked out the other night... I had propped up myself on 2 pillows, woke up on my back 2 hours later and my bump felt numb, pins and needles and everything...I thought I had harmed the baby but have felt her move since...still, I'm worried and paranoid!

Thinking of you Alice, sorry you've had a bad night We're here to hand hold x

Pentagon - as far as i know (I'm not a HCP) sleeping on your back isn't bad in itself. For some women, it can cause real problems, as the baby presses on the vena cava (or one of the major blood vessels) which can cause the mother to get dizzy, feel sick or even pass out. If you're not getting these symptoms on your back then I don't believe there is any harm to it, so I really wouldn't worry.

I don't know where this thing about lying on your left (or is it right? I'm lexdysic so can't tell the differenc) came from.

If you haven't felt the baby move, the usual advice is a cold sugary drink and having a lie down (sounds bliss anyway!).

Also (and time to get on my soap box) - ladies, please do make use of your hospital's day assessment units if your baby's movements slow down or stop. I can't remember when they'll start accepting you, but I went with DC1 and they were so amazingly lovely, and supportive. DC1 didn't stop moving totally, but at about 31 weeks the movements slowed right down for more than 12 hours, so I went in and they were fab. They were so pleased with me for coming in and never felt like I was wasting their time. DC1 was fine (though it took an overnight stay for me to be released) but they said they probably "saved" about one baby a week through timely intervention. I don't want that to scare you, but modern healthcare and technology is amazing, so use it!!

Thanks Santa!! I feel the baby move several times a day - for some reason less at weekends, probably because I'm not sitting at a desk but move around instead! But I would definitely go to the hospital if I were worried - is it 24 or 28 weeks that you should start feeling regular movements? I'll have to check the "count the kicks" website

I've just seen your post about the celebrity - how exciting!! Did you manage to catch a glimpse?

Thinking of you today Alice, hope all goes well.
Welcome pixie!

Choc, sorry to hear about your Dad's diagnosis, sending you & your family posifrickinetivity vibes, hope he responds well to treatment.

, the day assessment units won't make you feel like a knob for going in & getting movement checked out, even when baby decides to start a disco the second you get hooked onto the monitor. Which is what has happened to me the three times I've been in for reduced movements!
Count the kicks have a free app on iphone/android store too.

Santa, hurrah for telling people!

Rock, for the 3+ and darker line. Today we are pregnant, although no idea about the not stressing out!

Now we're in July (wtf!) I can officially say DC2 is due next month

Choc, so sorry to hear about your dads diagnosis. I second what the others are saying about prostate cancer. It really is very treatable xxxxx

Honking of Alice today. We all have our fingers crossed for you xxxx

Pentagon I am sleeping ok so far except for night toilet visits. Have swapped sides of bed to be closer to the loo.
Do keep waking up with a sore bump though. Not sure what I do in my sleep. I do have a tendency to sleep on my back ( dh will testify that is why i snore like a middle aged man!) but I am sure if it was causing any major problems i would subconsciously turn in my sleep.

Excited about 20 week scan tommorow. . If all is well I might even say something on Facebook - although pics from the weekend I have been tagged in made it pretty obvious to those that don't know yet.

Sorry typo. Thinking of Alice xxxx

Sorry to hear abt your dad choc hope the treatment isn't too hard on him and he had a speedy recovery x

Very sorry to read your last post alice I know how tough this is and am hoping your instincts are wrong x

Well done for letting the news out santa scary but brilliant at the same time And exciting abt the celeb, dying to know who!!! When are we supposed to really monitor our movements, it's 28w isn't it?

Glad things are going well rock each milestone you pass is another step in the right direction

pentagon I'm using my pregnancy pillow now as was waking up in too much pain That's keeping me mainly on the left

Next month, love it gary I can't wait till the birth announcements arrive on this thread

Good luck tomorrow bod

Thinking of you today Alice

Sorry to hear your news Choc. Your mum sounds a bit like mine when my dad had a heart attack; she didn't tell me when it happened as she knew I was driving over the next day anyway (250 miles away) and didn't want to panic me. Luckily he was OK. That's what's mums do sometimes, they try and protect you even when you are big enough and ugly enough!

Scan Tuesday tomorrow - there are a few of us including me and Bod but I so can't remember who else????

....unflattering comment of pregnancy so far: "you don't look pregnant though, you just look like a bird who likes downing pints in the pub" It was a bloke so I suppose I shouldn't have expected any better, thing is I'm already twice the bump I was at this stage with DD, not sure what he thinks pregnant women look like

Oh and I have found someone more obsessed with Doppling than I thought possible: DD now runs into the bedroom and gets it out of the box requesting to listen to babies heartbeat and then her own. Cute!

at that comment garden! That's cute of your dd. mine keeps talking about the baby too, she told me yesterday that when it comes out she's going to put it in purple pyjamas and boots (?!) and keeps stroking and hugging my tummy going 'stroke baby, cuddle baby, tiny tiny baby in there'. Quite impressed with her understanding (she's 2.3) but then she does love babies! (Hope she still feels like that come December!)

choc I'm so sorry to hear about your dad's diagnosis, hope the treatment is successful and not too traumatic for him.

And all the best for tomorrow garden and bodicea and anyone else with scans.

Alice thinking of you very much and really hoping that your instinct is off in this case. Lots of love and keep us posted.

Choc so sorry about your DF and hope the treatment sees him well again. Hope you're doing as well as you can do with the news.

Garden - yep it's Scan Tues for me and for purple as well i think. Mine is to check growth as although baby had grown at the one 2 weeks ago when was 35 wks, the rate of growth had slowed. That, coupled with another small but stressful bleed at midnight last night might mean they might do section sooner rather than later to get baby out safely. Am so jealous of all my friends' text book pregnancies right now. All of this after a mc too doesn't seem fair!! But I guess all of our mc histories will make us all be all the more grateful with our end results, fingers crossed.

Alice- thoughts with you today, hope you are being looked after.

Choc- sorry to hear about your dad, I hope he makes a full recovery.

Jess- hope the scan has gone well today- it's July now so baby will be here so soon now!!

Exhausting day here, I had to take my son to his quarterly trip to the hospital in London for his diabetes checkup. I had to take my daughter as well as I had no childcare. 2 young children in London is tiring!! He got on so well though at his appointment, his overall control is amazing and I am a proud mummy. At times he has to wait until he is allowed to eat, he sometimes misses PE if he's low, he sometimes can't eat his snack box when he's high but he rarely complains despite 20+ blood tests a day!!
A good 50% of the time I could happily sell him as he is an argumentative monster but I need to remember the big picture with him and today I'm a proud Mum!!
Next week is his diabetes birthday- he will have had diabetes for 3 years, so I'm treating him to yet more Lego!!

Oh bless your DS jmf; children are amazing x

Sorry about your dads diagnosis choc x

Hope you're ok Alice x

Hi all, sorry for not being around for a few days, things were quite hectic as we got married on Saturday. I'm going to be leaving this thread as mmc diagnosed at hospital today. EPRC booked for tomorrow. Really good luck to all of the rest of you, and hopefully one day I'll be able to rejoin thread and will one day be able to have a child. Sorry to put a downer on this. Feeling completely numb.

So sorry Stars- what a bloody rotten start to your wedded like. Hope tomorrow goes ok and life is kinder to you.
I hope you had a wonderful wedding day. Xx

Stars, so sorry to hear your news, hope tomorrow goes as well as possible & hope that, when you're ready to ttc again, you're back here with a boring, textbook pg.
Hope you had a glorious wedding day. xx

jmf, well done to your DS! Hope he enjoys his lego next week.

for all the ladies with scans tomorrow.

oh goodness ladies. So sorry to read such sad news on here.

Stars: So sorry to hear of your MMC. Cruel at anytime but after your wedding too. Hope you enjoyed your wedding day and that you are getting lots of support now.

Alice: Hope you are ok.

Choc: Thoughts are with you and your family. Hope treatment starts soon and he responds well to it.

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Jess: sorry you've had another bleed. Not long now until you meet your baby. You are in the right place being monitored even though it must be hard.

Happy scan day tomorrow for all of you with scans. Is it 20 week scans for most of you? Will you be finding out the flavour? Mine is at the end of the week. I will be double checking that its a girl.

I was 19 weeks Saturday gone. Feeling really anxious this week. Also feeling really sick and dizzy today. Anyone else getting this at this stage? I could go to sleep right now but DH is going to be late so bath and bedtime routine for DS needs completing first! Hopefully he will go to bed ok. He has been hard work recently with going to bed!

jmf thank you, wedding day was wonderful thanks, just trying to focus on that, scan confirmed baby dies on our wedding day though, so it makes our memories a bit tainted. xx

Gary thank you so much, hopefully so. xx

Socks thank you, yep loads of support thanks, just feeling awful at the moment. Thank you though xx

Hello Everyone
I had a mmc end of feb for which I had an ERPC. It took 3 months for my period to return afterwards.
I am now 7 weeks pregnant and I thought I was doing ok on the anxiety front but today I am a little panicky as I feel like my sickness is a bit better, I'm less bloated and feel like my boobs are less sore.
Do symptoms vary in these early stages?
I wish i had scan eyes so I could check everything is ok.
Thanks everyone

Oh crap stars that is such awful luck, and so sad . Words fail me. I really hope you're back here soon.

wombat symptoms varied for me and drove me even crazier with worry. The early weeks are hard! Are you going to have an early scan or wait it out til 12 weeks? Welcome and congrats by the way

jmf your son sounds amazing... You have every right to be really proud.

DIY thank you so much for your kind words xx