Most unhelpful unsolicited advice/comments while pregnant competition

[fanjobiscuits]

Went shopping today and am due in about a month. Only visited two places. Person behind first till decided to tell me how she could still remember the terrible pain of labour from 18 years ago. Person behind second till told me once I had the baby I would never go back to work. Riiiight.

Went out briefly at the weekend and some random posh-looking woman in the street shouted 'oh my God you're enormous'. Fortunately I don't have body issues but I can imagine some people would have gone home and sobbed.

Who else wants to play? What shall we have as a prize for the winner?

[AhoyAhoy]

Feel a bit down after the weekend. Just as I'm starting to get used to my new 21wk pg body shape, (VERY curvy with a cute bump), I meet up with a group of friends, not seen for a while- first thing every single one of them said, some variation of "your boobs are massive".

Yes, I know they are. Every man I walk past knows they are- after he's had a good look.

Feel like a freak show. Considering wearing some kind of full length smock for the next 19 weeks

[Bodicea]

Some corkers I here especially from the mil.

I especially like he you should be ashamed of yourself for eating a sausage! Who do people think they are?

Thanks for you nice comments delaying and trudi. I dont let her get to me. She is socially awkward. I don't thinks she means it horribly she just doesn't get how things can sound. She is more horrible to dh than to me to be fair. It was our second miscarriage that time. When we told about that pregnancy she said i hope it works out this time!
Am sure will have more corkers to come!
Anyway baby felt kick for first time yesterday so all is well I the world.

[TrudyW]

As much as people annoy u and even go to the point of being nasty I just think u have to let it go over your head don't u?! They're not the first stupid comment givers during pregnancy and won't be the last!

And fab regarding baby kicking bodicea I can feel ours moving and forcefully pushing against the front of my belly but yet to feel that first full on kick! But expecting it any day now!

[spondulix]

'When are you due'

'What are you having'

'Have you thought of any names'

Seriously?! Those seem pretty innocent questions to ask someone who's expecting! Would you rather people pretended you weren't pregnant?

[Lauraandlailah]

My partner when he was 19 he's now 28 found out his girlfriends baby wasn't his.... His mother had the cheek to say to me he has rights to a DNA test as he is goin to have doubt on his mind from last time with his ex could have killed her! My Nan tells me I don't look pregnant just fat

[NeopreneMermaid]

I got horrific acne with DS and a neighbour I barely knew said: "It must be a girl; they steal your beauty."

I have to confess I am guilty too. Just after I had DD, some visitors, inc woman heavily pregnant with her first, asked if I needed anything. "Yes, a new vagina," I replied. DH recently told me I traumatised the poor woman.

[sprite25]

Im only 15 weeks and have visited ILS only once since we found out Im pregnant. While there I had MIL explain to me what scratch mittens were in a very patronising way (Im an aunty 9 times, and have always been around babies), tell me what I cant eat but then offer me Ibuprofen or Co-Codamal when I said I had a headache (are you trying to kill my unborn baby?!) and then tell DH that in her day they stayed in hospital for about a week (that was about 30 years ago!) but now I will probably be out in 2 or 3 days if everything is ok (DH believed this even though I had told him otherwise several times before this, and he seemed to think MIL saying this definitely meant Im giving birth in hospital even though we've discussed many times my preference at the idea of a home birth). I cant wait to see what other gems she comes out with over the coming months.....

[sprite25]

oh...oh...sorry but just remembered another one, a bitch colleague at work found out I was pregnant and instead of congratulating me just asked:
'when are you going on maternity leave?' I havent decided yet
'will you be coming back to work?' yes i will
'well what are you gonna do with the kid then?' erm I think thats for me and my husband to sort out thank you very much!

[ShatnersBassoon]

Me: "I'm going swimming this evening"
Mum: "Well don't go on the diving boards and don't let anyone kick you in the stomach"
Me:

[WillSantaComeAgain]

Woman turned to me (36 weeks) and asked all the usual guff, very nice. Then turned back to her friend and said "Oh yes, that reminds me, so and so went in at 38 weeks, was in labour for three days and the baby was stillborn". WHY WOULD YOU TELL THAT STORY IN FRONT OF ME???? obviously very very sad for the poor lady's friend, but honestly, have some tact!

[CruCru]

On Thursday a colleague (who is nice) said "Oh, you never get any bigger, do you?". I am 24 weeks and think I am quite big.

[lucy1001]

Mil I wouldn't have that chicken tikka if I were you, spicy food can cause miscarriage. I don't think you should take the risk.
Me What does every woman in India do?

[chipmonkey]

WillSanta, believe me, for those of us who have lost babies to stillbirth and SIDS, it is far worse for us than it is for any pregnant woman who hears the story. And one of the worst things can be this wall of "don't mention it" which makes us feel as if our babies should be forgotten. Hearing about it doesn't make it more likely to happen to you. My SIL was due the same time as me. She came to dd's funeral and I know it was very hard for her. But it was way worse for me and dh and she still has her little girl.

[HazleNutt]

chipmonkey of course, if you want to talk about it, it's not easy if everybody else ignores the topic and pretends nothing happened. But the woman in question was not even there, so scaring Willsanta with what is basically gossip didn't help her in any way.

[Quodlibet]

Ooh I had a couple of post-MC, new pg corkers, including 'great news! This time no exercise DVDs though!' - thanks for making me feel like I caused my MMC by continuing with my regular exercise regime.

And MIL sending me emails at 12 weeks with links to advice about taking folio acid - 'did you know this?' Well, yes, being on my second pregnancy in 6 months I have indeed been informed many times about the folic acid.

[curiousgeorgie]

When I was at work 6 months pregnant with DD1 a cameraman I don't really know said... 'Oh god, are you pregnant?' I said (with a big smile on my face) 'yes, I am'

He said.. 'Oh no! Do you know what you're going to do??'

[BeQuicksieorBeDead]

Wow...some real corkers on here!

I have been called every variation of fat since I was 12 weeks. Today a work colleague said I was as massive as her mate who is 38 weeks...I am 17 weeks...I have had various shitty remarks from her over the weeks, including last weeks ' it is really selfish being off for six months on maternity, I think the boss should make you come in at least one day a week' so today I told her to fuck the fuck off. Not proud of myself but she has upset me too many times!

[Xmasbaby11]

Most of these comments I wouldn't mind at all. A lot of my colleagues are childless and older, and fairly uninterested/oblivious about babies, so any interest I took as a compliment!

[Boredworkingmum020]

Are you sure there's only one in there? Yes! although little chap was 9lb 11 thank god it was a sun roof exit!

[GoatBongosAnonymous]

Yes to "is it planned?" (dunno, if I knew how it happened, I could tell you...)
And "gosh you're big, must be twins, hahaha" (yeah, at least I will lose mine...)
And "what are you having? A boy? Well thank goodness for that!" (Hunh?!)
And "but you can't go on maternity leave! It will cost us so much money!" (um no, SMP is paid by the government.)

[Drhamsterstortoise]

Mil -when I had a scan for measuring small for dates she couldn't believe it because she thought I was massive.When sil was talking about a friend of hers who was due the same time she wanted to know was she as big as me because she couldn't imagine anyone bigger than me.On previous pregnancy she told me I looked like I had a basketball up my top.I'm a size 8 and was 'all bump'.Everyone else I met commented on how neat I was!The biggest compliment I received was when she told me I looked better than the last time she saw me( the day after the birth ) and she often reminds me of how awful I looked when suffering from hyperemisis.

[Drhamsterstortoise]

Mil -when I had a scan for measuring small for dates she couldn't believe it because she thought I was massive.When sil was talking about a friend of hers who was due the same time she wanted to know was she as big as me because she couldn't imagine anyone bigger than me.On previous pregnancy she told me I looked like I had a basketball up my top.I'm a size 8 and was 'all bump'.Everyone else I met commented on how neat I was!The biggest compliment I received was when she told me I looked better than the last time she saw me( the day after the birth ) and she often reminds me of how awful I looked when suffering from hyperemisis.

[Drhamsterstortoise]

Oh yes and when I told mil that her comments weren't helpful she said that you can say those things when someone is pregnant!

[Definitelynomore]

Reikimummy, I used to reply that I was not sure but really hoping for a giraffe. My unhelpful comments list (a select couple or we'll be here all night):
Whilst talking to a colleague about the satay stir fry I'd had for tea the night before, another colleague, who I barely knew at the time, butted into the conversation to tell me that I very likely had given my as yet unborn child a severe nut allergy as a result (unsurprisingly 5 yrs later she's fine).
Enquired at a sweet stall about salted licorice, before telling me whether he had it in stock the stallholder told me I shouldn't be eating it. To which I replied that I could eat what I like and that personally I think all licorice is disgusting. I have never heard of not eating licorice when you're pregnant!?!