Pregnant (IVF) Worriers (part two)

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Hi everyone,

This thread is for all you incessant worriers out there, not necessarily limited to IVF-ers, although I get the feeling the people who have had trouble TTC are more prone to worrying than others! We have filled our first thread (www.mumsnet.com/Talk/pregnancy/1721178-Pregnant-IVF-Worriers) but there is more worrying to do so here we are.

A few of us graduated from the IVF thread (link below) and are having a go at our own thread to get out of the other IVF-ers hair! So get your roomy jogging bottoms on for some virtual hand holding, mutual symptom spotting and staying sane until the next scan date.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/1691674-Excellent-Egg-Buddies-continued-Anyone-having-IVF-ICSI-in-Jan-Feb-and-March-2013-please-join-us

In which case you can tie up my straight jacket

er actually hoping you would do that for me?

This IS torture though. Got my beta from my blood test yesterday. 234 which the nurse said was really good for a two day transfer. I don't believe her of course.

fairy glad you have found where the bleeding was coming from

mariana I hope you and little trenchlet managed to keep cool

nook welcome to the thread

vall great news on your HCG and progesterone, waiting that extra time for a scan is hell I found the days just dragged, trying to keep occupied with anything

Well I woke up early today as I was pissing razor blades so have decided to take the antibiotics as I was getting worried neurotic and paraniod about my infection and my immunes killing my baby nearly blew myself up with my hairdryer but today has been better, honestly yesterday has to be one of the worst with the indigestion and nausea. I was hoping by now I would feel a little better

As for meet up I am on the cusp of london/surrey so I don't mind where :)

nooknook what day are you? My beta HCG was 291 when I was 15 days post EC. I remember looking up HCG charts then and anything above 50 was definitely pregnant.

buzzy it is not actually possible for a UTI to kill your baby. I know this from frantic googling after they found protein in my pee at some stage. I have already pursued this fear for you so you don't have to do it again! (Another fear will be along in a minute I'm sure so don't feel cheated.)

So bloody hot. I'm wondering whether to sleep downstairs with the baby in the one cool room.

mariana I didn't mean the uti itself would but if the infection got bad and my immune system kicked in then that would kill my baby like before, I cannoit find anything in maternity wear that I like, plus I have gone up 2 dress sizes already nothing in my wardrobe fits me

Thanks fairy that's exactly how I feel. I just hoped that 16 weeks was pretty good, and I still think it is. Sod the miserable mw! (she is actually quite nice to be fair).

shazza I get plenty of support from my consultant who is lovely to extent of godliness. She gives me the best mess, loads of advice and manages to be realistic yet very positive. Love her! I am also starting to develop cankles which is quite alarming. Good excuse to sit on my arse all evening while DH is a skivvy though!

mariana we have a fan in DDs room. Probably horrifically expensive on the leafy but gets her to sleep easily and I think the noise is calming. My office is sweltering however...I went to morrisons for a cool off tonight!

sweetie duet is what I meant. Kiddicare have it for £460 (instead of almost £600!) and I think you can get 15% off at the moment too. Not buying yet though, still feels too early for me. Last time I bought the pram two days before finding out I had lost my other dd so felt like I had jinxed it. Am obviously an idiot though!

buzzy cyclizine made me quite I'll, v drowsy and trippy. New stuff is better, I would recommend!

Hi to all you newbies val and nook. We all know how you are feeling...seems like just yesterday I was in your position and now I am waddling around at 16weeks (although still fretting irrationally, don't think that will disappear any time soon!)

Crisps bambino direct has the duets for £430 at the moment. I too am waiting until after 20 week scan. But with such a saving I am really tempted. We only got the carry cots so early because every other seller seemed to be miles from where we live and this one was about 10 minutes away. It was fate I think.

Val and nook I remember being where you guys are too. It is really tough waiting for the first scan, it seemed to go on forever. We have all been through it and know what you are going through.

Buzzy I tested positive for UTI but was never given any meds. The mw said it is one of those pregnancy things.

fairy glad the bleeding was more explainable, bet it still gave you a shock when you saw it though.

shazza I too have taken to soaking my feet in cold water too. My feet seem to be the hottest bit of me by far. I have to wear flip flops for work, which isn't really allowed but by afternoon my feet will not fit into any normal shoes. Do you have those chewable calcium / vit D supplements from mw? I don't have dairy either and she gave me these to compensate.

Mariana I am not sure how little ones are getting on but if DD is in a cool room I would suggest sharing that for a while.

I have booked to go back to the reflexologist I used when TTC, she is specialist in fertility and pregnancy. I am really looking forward to it already as I always felt like a weight was lifted after each session. I am hoping she can help with my swollen ankles too.

Tomorrow is my mw 16 week appointment so I am hoping she will be able to find heat beats. She seems a bit hopeless so I am not holding out much hope but I really do want her to find it. I will report back tomorrow evening.

My best preggo purchase to date has been USB fan from Dunhelm Mills bargain at £4. It is great for in the office and at home when on the laptop. It isn't too strong to get on your nerves but just a nice strength to keep you cool. Just thought I would share that with everyone who is feeling all hot & bothered.

Apologies buzzy if I was inappropriately flippant about the UTI. I was clumsily trying to be reassuring.

Hope you get to hear the heartbeat tomorrow sweetie, I've been told it's a bit hit or miss at 16 weeks but also depends on how slim you are.

I now have the fan propping open my bedroom window but of course it isn't now dark enough to get her off to sleep. If it could just drop 5 degrees it would be fine!

sweetie I has my 16wk mw appt the other day...she found one heartbeat really easily ( baby is at the front, I can even feel a big hard lump squirming around sometimes) and the just the placenta for the other one. So don't be worried if there aren't two distinct hbs, I think it is hit and miss. I have a scan next week, do you?

Oh and that site sounds v cheap, will def check it out after 20 weeks! We went to kiddicare and tried one out, it is fab and folds really easily. Also planning on getting carry cots from eBay... Have you got maxi cosi car seats too?

we went to kiddicare to play with all the different buggies too. We will get the car seats after 20 week scan. we haven't bought anything else yet.
I will see how it goes tomorrow but will try not to stress if we don't hear anything.
No more scans until 20 weeks then every 4 weeks. How come you have one next week?

mariana thank you I know but I worry about everything, I have never got this far before, I'm scared I'm going to go tomorrow and there won't be a heartbeat, I know there is no reason for my last minute panic but I just can't help it

sweet I couldn't stand the constant pain, I have in the past had a uti spread to my kidneys I am sure you'll hear your babys beautiful heartbeat tomorrow

Fairy that's really reassuring thank you very much! It was 17 days post EC so looks very similar!

Thank you Sweetie and Crisps! It helps knowing that others have been here and got through it. I'm so nervous about the scan but also super excited.

Sweetie good luck tomorrow.

sweetie I'm having four weekly scans at least...last time i was also having twins and things went wrong and they want to monitor me more closely I guess, as well as reassuring me. Consultant says she will scan me every week if I want it, legend!

buzzy and sweetie good luck for tomorrow.

vall and nook yaay from me too for the blood test results. My clinic also scanned at 7 weeks. Distraction and keeping busy are your friends during this time - but not easy, I know. Hang on in there :-)

buzzy huge good luck for today's scan. It is so nerve wracking, and I'm sure even harder when you have had a previous loss. But you have continued symptoms, no bleeding or anything, and I am sure that it will all go ok, but will await your news. I can't remember if you had the harmony test in the end.

sweetie and others, I'm a bit confused about this listening to the heartbeat at 16 weeks. Did you not listen to it at 12 weeks? We did, with the doppler. Is it something else that the NHS use to listen at 16 weeks? Anyway, good luck for the appointment

I am not worrying, i am not i am not, because I read that you should be able to hear the heartbeat yourself with a stethoscope at 20 weeks. Well, I am 21 weeks and cannot hear it. But I am blaming this on the anterior placenta and Not Worrying. Plus, I keep getting good old thumps, so am sure baby Kip is still doing ok.

ceara i'm so pleased at your low risk status. It's a real milestone and hopefully now you will be able to relax a bit more. I think we all do after 12 week scans, even though we may still worry at times, it's different.

crisps I too think your MW was being a bit mean to bang on about the continued risks. I mean there are risks at every stage, and indeed you could get hit by a bus on the way to the clinic. But it's about reasonableness. And also, let us enjoy these hard won pregnancies, please! How nice to be offered so many scans!

sorry to all those with fat ankles, doesn't sound fun. I've been lucky to avoid that so far - maybe living in the tropics pre-pregnancy made me hard-core... But I have had to take my rings off due to slight swelling and eczema. I don't suppose I'd have noticed the fat fingers if not for the rings though.

vall and nook I feel for you on the waiting for scans thing. They sound a long way off to me too, and I'm not the one waiting! I had a scan at 5+0 just to check things were in the right place, didn't really see anything much of course, then my next one was at 7+4 as well. While I think that's a good thing really, those extra few days are a long time. Maybe go on holiday?!

Morning ladies

Just a quick check in to say good luck buzz for today And anyone else who has tests today.

Sorry to not catch up properly. I've slept in the bus when I'm usually catching up. Just woken up nodding off on the shoulder of a sweet school boy . Crazy pregnant woman alert!

More later. Xx

Aw, what did he do/say shaz?

shazza heehee ! That's brilliant. You'll get yourself a reputation !

buzz best of luck for today. I know how fraught this has been for you so I'll be thinking of you.

sweetie best of luck to you too.

Morning to everyone else. I am off today doing my bakeathon. With my cankles, this should be fun

Just popping in quickly to say good luck buzz! Will be thinking of you today. And take those antibiotics. They will have prescribed preggo safe ones and will get rid of your uti. I 've taken some for my wisdom tooth.

vall congrats on the super good test results. My 20 week scan is on the 7 aug, so I too will be mentalling.

Welcome nook must not get you confused with noks

I had a pretty shitty nights sleep last night, being awoken at first by back ache, an hour later by indigestion and a couple of hours later by an awful leg cramp, so am feeling a bit sorry for myself (and then feeling bad that I feel bad about feeling bad!). I can feel the ginster a fair bit this morning tho which is nice.

Waves to everyone else. Hope to catch up properly at le weekend.

thank you ladies, i'm feeling very emotional all ready,

Good luck today buzzy!

Another day closer to 6 Aug

buzz hope you're ok x

hey ladies

its been a busy day, Barry is just cooking dinner :) its been an emotional day, the baby is still there, all is fine, very low risk for us thanks to our 25 year old donor, they couldn't have been nicer to us, I'm thinking of booking in another scan to keep me going in about 3 weeks just to keep my sanity ticking over. Minibee wasn't very cooperative, my placenta had contracted and trapped the head in a funny place so I had to do alot of wriggling and coughing, then go away have a bit of chocolate and come back.

I am also feeling alot better today, hardly any sickness or indigestion, it did worry me at first but everything seems ok.

gin sorry you had such a bad night it really does affect how you feel and the heat doesn't help

keep I didn't have the harmony as I had donor although I might consider it if I ever do this again, I am thinking of going to FMC for anomaly scan, to be honest I did think we would see more today

nook I find with the scans I'm ok until about 24 hours before when my paranoia takes over, the first thing I ask the sonographer is 'is there a heartbeat' sometime they have barely put the probe on me

nokkie I hope your bakeathon has gone off without a hitch