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Pregnant (IVF) Worriers (part two)

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Shazzamattazzerly · 02/06/2013 17:11

Hi everyone,

This thread is for all you incessant worriers out there, not necessarily limited to IVF-ers, although I get the feeling the people who have had trouble TTC are more prone to worrying than others! We have filled our first thread (www.mumsnet.com/Talk/pregnancy/1721178-Pregnant-IVF-Worriers) but there is more worrying to do so here we are.

A few of us graduated from the IVF thread (link below) and are having a go at our own thread to get out of the other IVF-ers hair! So get your roomy jogging bottoms on for some virtual hand holding, mutual symptom spotting and staying sane until the next scan date.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/1691674-Excellent-Egg-Buddies-continued-Anyone-having-IVF-ICSI-in-Jan-Feb-and-March-2013-please-join-us

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JuicySausage · 29/06/2013 16:59

Thank you, Mariana and, Ceara, your post really reassured me, thank you very much. Nice to hear you're tootling along and great to hear about your little one, Mariana.

keepitgoing · 01/07/2013 16:09

Hey girls, quiet in here innit? Does that mean noone's worrying...? Fat chance :)

shaz good luck for the scan on Thursday. 12 days till mine.

ceara great news that all is going well

juicy any news? Have you had a blood test yet?

wishicouldhavealargeMalibu · 01/07/2013 18:56

Hi ladies,

I have to heart breakingly confess that I'm not preggo but the lovely Juicy has recommended I come to this thread to share my problem as you are all so lovely and knowledgable.

Well.....

I need a little advice. My ET was was last tuesday and on the friday I lost some brown blood when I went to the toilet. It carried on all day then on friday night around 11pm I lost some red blood when I went to the toilet.

The red blood only happened once but ever since I have been loosing brown blood. It has slowed dramatically but still happens at least 3 times a day.
I have spoken to my clinic and they said there's nothing they can do but I should start using 3 progesterone pessaries instead of the 2.

My OTD is friday, I have been naughty and tested with a FRER and its still BFN.

What are my chances of it turning to a BFP? I believe its over but DP is still giving me that little bit of hope by telling me I can't truly know whats happened even though I 'feel' I do. I feel it is far too much brown blood to be implantation. Did I loose the embryo with the red blood?

Thank you in advance and sorry for gatecrashing!

MarianaTrench · 01/07/2013 19:43

Hi malibu, sorry I'm not going to be much use but didn't want to read and run. All I know is brown blood usually indicates a very slow bleed as it's had chance to turn brown. Implantation bleeding is usually just spotting as far as I know so I would be thinking the same as you at this point. But you won't know for sure until you test. How stressful for you though - my sympathies and look after yourself.

fairypangolin · 01/07/2013 20:46

wish it could well be implantation bleeding. Apparently the ivf drugs plump up your endometrium so much more than normal that spotting is almost to be expected. I also have read some research online about bleeding when pregnant and it was incredible- some women in the study bled enough to use 2-3 towels per day for 3-5 days and still had successful pregnancies. That would have been for me pre pg a normal if not slightly heavy AF!

I totally understand your pessimism and would be feeling the same way in your shoes but as mariana says don't give up hope.

MarianaTrench · 02/07/2013 01:02

Ah interesting fairy, the plumped up endometrium makes sense. Waiting to test is ghastly though, there should be an instant 'occupied' sign that comes on.

Shazzamattazzerly · 02/07/2013 08:34

Hello girls

I'm still alive! Have had a lovely 3 days living in a loved up bubble with DP. We have been out and about enjoying the sunshine and doing arty things.

Wish I'm so sorry to hear about your bleeding. It must be unbearable. Has the bleeding calmed overnight? Unfortunately I can't tell you if the treatment has worked. I did a test the day before my AF was due and it was bfn then 2 days later it was bfp. I think I would be feeling the same as you but until it gets to OTD there is always a chance. Good luck my friend.

Juicy welcome and many many congrats. It is amazingly worrying isn't it? Like you I had very few symptoms. In fact I was only very tired. I had no sickness and no sore boobs. My boobs started to grow at about 10 weeks. And now my right boob is very itchy but not tender particularly. It is hard, I googled no symptoms at 6, 7, 8 weeks etc and worried about it but it is true, everyone is different. Hold on and take each day at a time. Before you know it you time will have passed. Stay with us it's lovely in here. Grin

Keep how are you? Only 2 sleeps til my scan. Thanks for remembering. I'm very nervous and swing from thinking all is fine when I feel shazlett move to panic that she isn't growing enough. Have you felt anything definite yet? Some days I feel her more than others.

Dildals. Thanks for the link. I didn't go in the end. It still feels abit soon silly I know but I suddenly felt overwhelmed at the thought of having to think about what we need. Also we are borrowing stuff so I'm going to see what comes in first. How was your holiday?

Crisps. Congrats on your scan. Great news. Are all 3 of you ok?

Sweetie I'm still having acupuncture. Not weekly now cause I can't afford it but about every 3 weeks. I love it and credit her with this pregnancy (well obviously me and DP did the nitty gritty but I doubt id be here without her). She specialises in fertility and pregnancy though so I guess choose your practitioner carefully. Apparently acupuncture helps with MS and labour. Maybe that's why I haven't been sick?

Fairy I know what you mean about forgetting that treatment worked. I keep forgetting I'm pregnant and everytime I open the fridge I see all the boxes of drugs ready for use. Part of the emotion about my new niece last week was my imagining what it would have been like if we had gone through with treatment and it hadn't worked. Unnecessary worry!

Expat wow you are so close. Are you getting excited now? How are you feeling physically? Are you still doing your Pilates?

Mariana I love reading about your trenchlet. It makes me so excited to meet shazlett. Who has incidentally just woken up and is wriggling in my belly as I write about her. It's funny cause in RL I always refer to shazlett as 'he'.

Hello to everyone else. I hope you are all ok and had a good weekend.

Shaz x

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MarianaTrench · 02/07/2013 09:58

Aw, nice to hear about your loved up bubble shazz. Try not to worry about the scan (oh ho ho), I'll remind you that the vast majority are totally fine.

I'm always having thoughts about how I would be coping if I didn't have Trenchlet. (I've put a photo of her on my profile if anyone wants to see what a 10 week old looks like. And because I am showing her off!)

Another Top Tip is reading AIBU threads while night feeding. The outrage keeps me awake.

fairypangolin · 02/07/2013 10:07

beautiful baby, mariana!

keepitgoing · 02/07/2013 10:10

Oh she's just gorgeous!! You lucky thing...

shaz I've not felt anything yet... Am 18+4; fret fret. We try and alternate he/she, ie if one says he the other says she. We're not finding out the sex, are you?

keepitgoing · 02/07/2013 10:13

PS if you are feeling movement surely she must be growing well!

Dildals · 02/07/2013 10:29

mariana SHE'S SO CUTE!!!!

ExpatAl · 02/07/2013 10:55

She's so gorgeous Mariana! Absolutely adorable.

Shazzamattazzerly · 02/07/2013 12:48

Mariana she is soooo lovely. Thank you for sharing. No wonder you are so in love. Smile

Keep no we aren't going to find out. I think it's a boy though. No reason I just feel that it's time for a boy in our family so I reckon chances are its my turn. I didn't feel anything definite until about 19 weeks and then realised that I'd probably been feeling something for a week or so. But didn't you say that you would feel it later due to placenta?

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JuicySausage · 02/07/2013 13:11

Wow, Marina! What a beautiful baby! Smile

Just thought I'd let you all know I had by beta hCG test yesterday and the result was 1,375 at 13dp5dt! Grin I have another tomorrow morning and then a scan in a couple of weeks to check for heartbeat(s!)

JuicySausage · 02/07/2013 13:12

Best wishes for your scan, shazz.

MarianaTrench · 02/07/2013 13:50

Brilliant news sausage, another step forward.

Thank you for the compliments, she is great. I look forward to seeing the causes of all our worries in time!

No boys in my family for nearly 100 years now shazza, we all keep thinking we'll be the one to buck the trend but nobody has so far. You must be very strong willed not to find out.

Shazzamattazzerly · 02/07/2013 14:28

Great news juicy. Well done. You will feel better once you have seen the bean and heartbeat on screen. It's magical.

DP doesn't want to know Mariana and I'd never be able to keep it a secret. I keep trying to imagine giving birth and asking what is it? It is a strange feeling.

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MarianaTrench · 02/07/2013 14:33

Even if you do know, you still ask when they are born as it's never 100% anyway but it would be a surprise if it wasn't what you were expecting. I couldn't face resolutely not discussing two sets of names. Actually, is thinking of names for twins fun or just really difficult?

Dildals · 02/07/2013 16:40

Thinking of names for twins is a lot of fun! Everyone who comes through our house has to give a few name suggestions! We have a baby book with 7000 names on our kitchen table. We are especially enjoying coming up with the most ridiculous names ever, even though we will never do that to them!
We've actually already decided on names, but still, quite funny to hear people's suggestions!

MarianaTrench · 02/07/2013 16:53

Pestle and Mortar?

Shazzamattazzerly · 02/07/2013 16:53

Oo dildals I'm dying to ask you! We've given up on the name discussion. DP gets really stressed and abit angry about it so its not fun anymore. I'm just doing it on my own and am quietly waiting for the moment that Mariana told me about when he is so shocked and in awe about the birth/baby he will agree to anything Smile

I've had a very busy day and have realised that I need to start slowing down the schedule abit. Just not quite as up to all the running around.

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MarianaTrench · 02/07/2013 16:54

Wattle and Daub.

MarianaTrench · 02/07/2013 16:55

I promise you'll get your own way then Shazz. It surely never fails.

MarianaTrench · 02/07/2013 16:56

Fire and Brimstone.