Fantastic, fabulous 40+ Mums-to-be! Part 4

[rosiedays]

as i filled the last post on old thread it seemed only polite to start the new one. hope i've done it right

To those who have just found this thread, Welcome and congratulations on you BFP. please feel free to join this amazing supportive group of 40+ mums to be. A very nonjudgmental and friendly place to hang out and share your pregnancy.

Blundermum 40, DC2 due early May?
Lotsofcheese, 40/41, DC2 (girl) due May (DS 4y)
Onemoreforgoodmeasure, 40, DC1 due 06/06
cyclecamper, 42, DC1 due 14/06
Newchoos, 40, DC2, due early July
Blueeyes1970,42, DC1 due on 8th July
BadMissM, 45, DC2, due 22/7
Rosiedays, 43 DD3 due 23rd July(ish)
ScubaSarah, nrly 40, DC1?, due July 22-Aug 1
Iclaudius,45, due 29/07
LottieH, 44, DC5, due mid August
Sparklysapphire, 44, DC2, due 28/8
BuzzBee, 40, DC2, due Sept
Notsoold, 41,DC3 due end of October
Animol, 42, DC5 due 13th
November

Morning all.
Swimming yesterday was wonderful. We moved recently and there is a big new sports centre just 10 mins away but I don't like it. It's very unfriendly and somehow snobby! The changing cubicles are too small and the showers are rubbish ! !So yesterday i drove back to the pool i used to go to on the other side of the city, built in the 60s and in a rough area but full of lovely people. There is always a mums and baby's swim class going on + a lane for over 60s. great mix of people who all seam so friendly. Going again today just the drive that is a nightmare!

remembering are you ok? Not heard from you in a while.

eagle no worries. You haven't put me off. I'm obsessing about having no intervention!! Not overly sure why as the pre pregnant me though very differently. I know when the time comes (soon i hope) i will do what needs to be done for both baby and me to be safe and if the little tinker doesn't get head down it will be a bloody c section

Congratulations jammies Squidwoman Catdoctor and Diane

badmiss do they have to be invited? Or could there be a separate thing for them, I am a bit fan of separating out difficult family members!

rosiedays Hope your baby turns!

I have got a scan on Thursday, I am not convinced my baby has turned. But I don't mind a c section (think probably prefer to have 1 rather than an induction).
Last week at work, starting to feel tired now. Have loads to do, pack hospital bag,wash baby clothes, get moses basket from loft etc

I am having a hungry day - off to forage!

CatDoctor know what you mean re young dr's.
At 32 week scan, Dr had me confused with someone who had IVF and Polycystic ovaries. Would not make any decisions or give me a date - I gave up in the end. DH is coming to scan with me on Thursday and we won't be leaving without a plan!

Badmiss, your baby shower sounds like a lovely idea which is going horribly wrong. Can you feign illness or something?!

Rosie do you think your LO will move in time? I'm glad you enjoyed your swim despite the drive - I wish I liked swimming, but I've never really got on with it, but I know it's a good way of excercising when pregnant.

Welcome squid, my due date is 28th August so we're very close. I've been told by my consultant I'm not going over due and I can't decide whether I'd prefer an August or September baby. I was referred to a consultant solely because of my age (45 last month), but he says everything's completely normal. I'm really not keen on intervention as I had to be induced for DD who was nearly 2 weeks late, and would prefer to avoid it if possible. I don't expect this baby to be early, but I suppose that's out of my hands.

Hi catdoctor, nice to see you here, and welcome diane too.

I'm still not getting enough sleep, not helped by a bad combination of early and late shifts this week, and have realised that the lie-in I thought I might have on Sunday is out of the question as we're going to a party and staying over in a hotel (not as glam as it sounds - it's a travelodge, and DD's coming too) so will have to get up. And Sunday is the only day I can lie in cos of schoool and DD's Saturday class which starts at the same time as school - far too early in my view. Sorry for the rant, I'm off to get a peppermint tea for the heartburn, and put my feet up as I'm getting really puffly ankles now. Otherwise I feel fine.

Hi to everyone, hope you are all coping with the various stages of pregnancy.

Hello everyone - not posted for a while - welcome to all the new ladies.

I'm 19 weeks today - feeling more and more movement :) Got to the stage where everyone can see I'm pregnant

Got talking to a mum at nursery yesterday - she's got 4 kids aged 33, 31, 5 and 3! She was 49 when the last one was born - makes me feel like a spring chicken and that a 6 year age gap is nothing!!!!!! She went on to tell me about what a horrific experience each of her births had been - why do people think you want to hear that when you're pregnant???!!!!

I feel like a massive raw baking potato with arms and legs and people are asking how many are in there. This always happens to me when I've still got 11 weeks to go!
I too can't decide if I'd prefer an August or September baby. I guess I won't need to choose anyway.
I'm looking forward to the end of term (teacher...) and seven weeks of lying around. I had my whooping cough jab on Monday and my arm still hurts. And turning over in bed is becoming a major operation. Apart from that, all is well!

Hi all
Thanks for the baby turning vibes. I'm still bouncing etc and can't decide if she's moved or not. Seem to be getting movement all over the place and haven't a clue what is what. I think only a scan will convince me. My mw is ok and think she will send me if i push for it. Last visit she couldn't decide what was head and what was bum!
Squid dd1 is an August baby. She's amazing (stroppy and demanding) but I did have to take her out of state education at 9 and put her back a year in private school. She was just not emotional old enough to keep up with kids 12 month older than her.

Animol. 49! !! Wow. And to the birth story! Why do people do that? ?

Bloody phone.

Sparkly. Boo re the lie in. .. you can ask for a late check out and send dh with dd to discover where the nearest place to get coffee and breakfast to bring back to you.

Again! !!!
I'm struggling to sleep although once i am asleep thats it and can stay asleep till 10 am. (The luxury of having finished work)
Dh invited our upstairs neighbour to join us for bbq tonight. Very odd!!!! He said he had to ask her as in islam if your neighbour can smell your cooking and you think they may be hungry you have to invite them for food. I've tried hard to avoid them as they are a bit weird. Very young and argue horrendously (think Jeremy Kylie) she is 23 and has Never had a job! And is proud of it. it was awful. Lol
Ok time to sleep

How is everyone? Been very quiet on here lately

I survived both the baby shower and the handfasting/solstice I went to on Friday.... managed not to kill awkward SIL (who ate all the cake and didn't bring a present), MIL, or SIL with special needs who threw a strop!

Animol 49...makes me feel better (am 46 on Monday....) I have a 14 year age gap....

I have a date for ELCS finally! 10 July. I am also finally getting the neuro tests I have needed for years, so feeling a bit more positive...

Hi Ladies- may I join?

I'm 41, currently 25+1 with my and DH's first... Sooo glad to have found this thread!

I've found it so reassuring to read all your posts and stories; and I have found a book I like- How NOT To be a Perfect Mother by Libby Purvis. I'm going to refuse to read any more (until the next one!)

Is it ok to find MN a bit daunting at times? I thought I was well prepared and then find threads about things it had never occurred to me could happen/would be good/I should have done/be doing/be thinking about/etc!

Hello Picklepen. Congratulations.

I ignore lots of stuff on MN just as I would in any book/manual!

It's second time round for me and I just feel so much more relaxed and confident that my own instincts are what matters.

I'm now bloody massive, only 5 weeks to go. Heartburn keeping me awake. Everyone appears to think I look amazing - amazing what a touch of fake tan on the face will do!

Have now finished work - yippee.

Hope everyone else doing okay and that breech babies are turning and annoying relatives being given a wide bearth.

Morning everyone - hope you all had good weekends.
Congrats picklepen Agree threads can be very daunting - just don't read the ones that might make you worry...

Very true soup maker I definitely feel more relaxed this time round. Also drinking Gaviscon straight from the bottle!

Glad baby shower went ok Littlemiss and you got your section date.

3 ish weeks to go. 1st day of mat leave, DS has gone to nursery and I will be going to John Lewis/Boots to get my last minute bits and bobs so I can pack hospital bag.

Morning all.
Could I pass update of stats over please. Lap top officially kapoot. :( just need to copy and paste and add yourself in.

Badmiss glad you survived the baby shower and got Cs date. 10th not long.
Hi pickle pen congratulations. Mn can be a bit daunting and some people are not very nice ( as in life) but most are very supportive and I've learned loads. (True some i wish i hadn't) lol
Soup, welcome to the ml club. Not working rocks
Newchoos ml too. Enjoy your shopping. I finished my shopping weeks ago and really regret not spreading it out a bit. (In the believe that she would be early) Not bought any baby stuff for ages.

Remembering. Not heard from you in ages. Hope you're ok.
Afm.... I'm having niggles! !! Started on Saturday but had been in the car for hours so put it down to sitting too long and needing a drink/wee. Finally got home and had a couple of really strong bh wit back ache. Got on ball and bounced! ! Asked dh not to have another beer at which he got really excited then went and took engine on car apart (his car....I still have mine (just) by 11pm all stopped so I went to bed. Sunday was the same a def change but nothing regular or painful ( bounced a lot) today woke up at 6 with real back ache. It's really brought it home finally omg I'm going to have a baby.
Dh has gone to work and i need to take his car for mot. Trying to keep things as normal as possible. Dm called yesterday to say they would pass by on Wednesday on their way back from my sister's. As long as i will meet them somewhere as they are not driving through the city! !!!!! I said oh maybe baby will be here by then to which she replied ' we're not driving round that city looking for a hospital. If your in we will see you and baby when we get back from usa on August! !!! I'll stop there before i really start to rant. ( she made a lot of very racist remarks which are still smarting)
Hope everyone else is well. Xx

Hi Rosiedays, thanks for the welcome and sorry to hear about your DM. Is she giving you her real opinion or tailoring it to fit her DP do you think? it seems to be all of a piece... the "I don't like your choice of DH" and "I won't get involved (but that's your fault as well)".
Stuff her. If she did come round she'd only make you feel bad anyway.

Your DH sounds lovely.

my DM is nowhere near as bad but she still manages to say the wrong thing. DM didn't get asked her opinion before I moved to be with DP and he turned into DH, so she assumes I didn't think it through. And that I'm still 5 years old...Thought I should tell DH he was being pathetic when got stressed over my BFP turning out to be a boy. Like that's going to help.
DH has very rocky relationship with his father and was soooo hoping for a girl as well.

Hi picklepen
My dm is a nightmare. I have been a disappointment amf embarrassment to her for as long as i can remember. I am a successful, independent,degree holding, house owning 43 year old but did it My way. She only sees divorced, remarried to Muslim 12 year's younger than me and now embarrassingly pg with a non white/christian child who it fully intend to raise on a beach somewhere beautiful.
My dh is wonderful. We've been together 7 years. We met while both working on dive safari boat in Egypt.. ( we're both instructor's) a bit of fun that has lasted.
She just can't be proud of me. I'm used to it now and see it for what it is. The only thing she has ever done is to marry my wonderful df who has done everything for her. She is jealous of my independence and free spirit.
Has your dh got his head round the blue bfp yet? I'm sure he will. I so wanted a boy but can't wait for my little princess now. (Dh thinks we should try again!!!! )

36week mw appointment today. Still getting niggles butnow ththinking it's just the way of it rather than the imminent start of anything. I will really miss being pregnant.

Sorry to hear about your mother rosiedays I did not have a good relationship with mine and just learnt to adapt the way I responded to her and really distanced myself.
Are you still having niggles? I have been getting quite few aches but don't know if it means anything as DS was breech.
Hope all well with you picklepen

Forgot to say - I finally got a section date. Less than 3 weeks to go now!

Sort of... he's doing his best. I'm 25 weeks so he has time and I'm sure it will be ok. And I can't talk as I was worried that if it was a girl I would repeat the merry mother go round. DM had an awful relationship with DGM. Who was a proper cow, to be fair
Feeling of inadequacy all round tbh!

Sounds like your DM and mine were carved out from the same rock-face! My wonderful DF died last year and I really miss him.

Hope your MW appt goes well

Xpost with Newchoos!

Glad you have your date- it must be a weight off your mind.

Just back. newchoos glad you got cs date. Is bump still breach? It's getting close for us.
picklepen ya know babies are babies and gender doesn't really matter. When there older you have got used to them.
History does not have to repeat it's self. I have a great relationship with my girls and always have.

Mw thinks she has turned. Yey. But I'm measuring a bit small (32 weeks at 36) So going for scan hopefully laterthis wweek. Also I've only put on 6kg since bfp:) not over worried as i just think I don't grow big babies. Xx

No longer breech but having a section for GD.

Good luck with scan rosiedays and hope baby has turned.

I have so much to do but seem to be wasting time faffing!

All good at scan :) she has turned and is 2.6kg ( 5.9lb) just where she should be
I'm proper p**ed off with my mw for her underweight comments. I'm not underweight. (But maybe a bit oversensitive! ) I've always been a size 10. Spent year's working in a bikini ( with girls 1\2 my age) So have been careful not to put on too much also take 200 mgs thyroxine daily so my metabolism is mostly medical managed. Grrr. i don't have a sweet tooth and have a no empty calories rule. Grrr. Now feeling shit and don't have stomach space to eat much. As baby is good enough weight I'm trying not to be stressed about it.
I'm now more pg than I've ever been before and can't quite believe she's still not here. Twinges have all but stopped so not looking like she's coming any time soon
Which is good as I'd really like to get to 38 weeks now.

Hope everyone is ok. Thread has been quite. Wondering if any of our July babies are here yet?

My baby is doing lots of kicking and internal acrobatics but - 10 days to go to EDD on 8th July, I've a feeling he/she will be late... In fact, I hope he/she won't be early and will at least give me a few more days to get the flat into some state of readiness. Not to mention my brain...

Got a belated nesting bug today (second day free of social engagements/ work handover) and while DH is on 10-hour photography shift, found myself being a total bloke and drilling a near-collapsing shelf after clearing out a wardrobe. Anyone else similarly afflicted?!!!

Oh that's good new rosiedays Some midwives do not have great interpersonal skills. I used to work with a girl that went off to do midwifery training and she was just such a rude person, I used to think when she went on and on about how great and autonomous she was going to be, that I'd try and go to another hospital if I saw her in the room!!

Hope everyone has good weekends. I am feeling so hormonal. Had an email form work which p'd me off. I find it hard to switch off from work anyway. Also anxious re DS and how he will find having a new baby around and having to share us.

Only around 2 weeks to go for me, keep getting texts but I am being deliberately vague. My sisters like the glory of a new baby but aren't any actually help which really p's me off too. 1 sister in particular will post the worse pic ever of me on fb as that is what she did last time (her issues), but still....
Rant over.