Fantastic, fabulous 40+ Mums-to-be! Part 4

[rosiedays]

as i filled the last post on old thread it seemed only polite to start the new one. hope i've done it right

To those who have just found this thread, Welcome and congratulations on you BFP. please feel free to join this amazing supportive group of 40+ mums to be. A very nonjudgmental and friendly place to hang out and share your pregnancy.

Blundermum 40, DC2 due early May?
Lotsofcheese, 40/41, DC2 (girl) due May (DS 4y)
Onemoreforgoodmeasure, 40, DC1 due 06/06
cyclecamper, 42, DC1 due 14/06
Newchoos, 40, DC2, due early July
Blueeyes1970,42, DC1 due on 8th July
BadMissM, 45, DC2, due 22/7
Rosiedays, 43 DD3 due 23rd July(ish)
ScubaSarah, nrly 40, DC1?, due July 22-Aug 1
Iclaudius,45, due 29/07
LottieH, 44, DC5, due mid August
Sparklysapphire, 44, DC2, due 28/8
BuzzBee, 40, DC2, due Sept
Notsoold, 41,DC3 due end of October
Animol, 42, DC5 due 13th
November

Rosie days we have also been too busy to focus on baby at all.... Worrying !!
We are almost twins as I am 33 weeks tomorrow despite measuring three weeks ahead
Exhausted here!!

I am getting sectioned ( !) though so hoping 38/39 weeks

Congrats pintandchips
Glad your scan went well notsoold
Hello to everyone else.
Approaching 35 weeks now and tired and hormonal. I am trying to avoid news stories that are making me tearful.....
Scan next week to see if baby is still breech, will definitely be having a section if so.
Are you having a section through choice iclaudius

Yes I am new choos - last time they gave me one as baby was big and I was worrying about my bits surviving it after so many deliveries - this time ( 16 months on) they just said 'I assume you wAnt one'

Hi everyone. Still on phone so please forgive me for notIupdating due dates. I have to open lap top tomorrow so will try then. I've been avoiding my email's for too long. Just can't be arsed lol.
Big hugs newchoos sorry you're feeling emotional. [Flowers] won't watch the news or ANY hospital drama! ! Spring watch is wonderful, though i had to turn that over the other day as it got a bit yuccy.

Well 34 weeks tomorrow. 34 was always a big mile stone for me as dd1 was born at 34 weeks. I know it could be any day now! !! Really scary but so excited. Mybbiggest worry is that she doesn't turn in time. I'm pretty sure she's gone from transverse to breach. (Dancing on my bladder) anyone had a natural breach delivery? ? I really don't want a section :(
Also think i might have lost a bit of my plug today. .. had snotty stuff when pant checking.

Sorry posted early as dh came to bed. I hate him askingwwhat I'm talking about.
I must say he has and continues to be amazing. If I'd known he would be like this i would have ttc long ago. We were talking today about when we got our bfp. It was so unexpected. We were in shock for hours. Him happy shock, me devastated. lol.
Ok going to try to sleep although I think I'm getting a bit of insomnia at night despite being exhausted.

ok here goes.... update (first draft) 10 june 2012

Blundermum 40, DC2 due early May?
Lotsofcheese, 40/41, DC2 (girl) due May (DS 4y) Graduated.
Onemoreforgoodmeasure, 40, DC1 due 06/06
cyclecamper, 42, DC1 due 14/06 Graduated

Newchoos, 40, DC2, due early July
Blueeyes1970,42, DC1 due on 8th July
BadMissM, 46, DC2, due 22/7
Rosiedays, 43 DD3 due 23rd July(ish)
RememberingmyPFE, 40,DD1/ DC1, due July 22-Aug 1
Iclaudius,45, due 29/07
LottieH, 44, DC5, due mid August
Sparklysapphire, 44, DC2, due 28/8
4boysthati love, 46 DC5 due 2nd sept.
BuzzBee, 40, DC2, due Sept
Notsoold, 41,DC3 due end of October
Animol, 42, DC5 due 13th November
chezmi, 44 due 31 December
Pintandchips 43, due Jan 2014

If i've missed anyone or got it wrong! let me know and i'll put it right.

Thanks rosiedays I am feeling really sad about the poor polish boy- I just don't understand how people can be so cruel. I don't watch loads of tv, but DH and I do like a good box set! We started homeland but haven't really got into it yet, we are really enjoying series 5 of the mentalist though.
Section sounds like a good choice iclaudius I am either going to be induced or have a section before 39 weeks due to GD. If baby still breech will definitely be a section and I must admit this is my preference. I will hopefully plead my case next week post scan.

As an aside, when did you wean your DC off bottles. DS is just over 2 and loves his bottles of milk but I am aware I should have stopped them by now (according to HV but I generally ignore/avoid their advice anyway).

Hi everyone.
newchoos my dd2 went from baby bottles to the sports type bottles at about 2ish (i think) )she was still taking one to bed last time I asked. She's 23!!!
I'm just back from MW 24 week appointment. Bump still measures small (31 weeks) but baby is still transverse so she's not worried. Nor am I really. Just hope she gets head down soon. I'm trying to get my head around the idea that I might have to have a selection. ( my biggest fear)
Other than that I'm just BOARD.

Newchoos I weaned dd around 2 and it was hard work as she did not like her milk in anything else!!! In the end I found a tall narrow mug that became the substitute...
My ds never really enjoyed the bottle and went straight to a cup. Now he is 13 and 5'10 and drinks 2 glasses of milk every night before bed!!!

Hi ladies

May I join you all please? I'm 44 and 9+3 wks with DC2 due 12 Jan 2014.

DD1 is 3.4 and I adore her. Dh and I decided to try for another, not really expecting it to happen at my tender age, but here I am.

I'm in awe of my quarter of a century old eggs and at the same time I'm wondering what the hell I've done and like Pint I can't imagine going back to changing nappies and being up half the night, every night. Eek

I have a dating scan next week and a cvs planned for early next month. I'm usually quite cheerful but I'm feeling as rough as toast right now so I'm sure I will cheer up some when the sickness leaves!

I'm enjoying reading all your stories, it's good to see so many of you out there!!

Hi jammies congratulations hope the sickness passes soon. It was the work bit for me!

How is everyone?

Congratulations and welcome to pint, chezmi and jammies. I still have days when I wonder what I've done and I'm nearly 30 weeks now, the time is flying by.

I hope everyone is doing ok. I'm tired, but not getting enough sleep, I dozed off with DD this evening and woke up at 11pm which is why I'm still up now. I've finally finished this year's open university course - exam was on Wednesday and not as bad as I'd expected, so now have to focus on sorting stuff out in preparation for the baby!

Waves to all. Had lost you guys so haven't posted for ages.

Now almost 34 weeks. Had scan and was informed baby massive so had GTT but all clear. DD was only 6lb 3oz.

Now being seen every week and sweep already booked. Thankfully baby no longer breech.

One more week of work thankfully. I seem to be nesting like mad already so need a few days to just to relax and do nothing before school finishes.

Loving that no-one seems to believe I'm 42. Will be 43 in early August, but could easily look about 50 when the night feeding commences!

Hi there - can I join? 41 and 29 weeks with DC4, due Sept 5th. My others are 13, 12 and 8. Have been told by consultant I won't be allowed to go over which is fine but on other hand don't want him in August if I can help it. Can I refuse induction if medically all is well??

Congratulations on DC4 Squidwoman! Regarding induction, you can't be made to be induced - the decision is yours but the hospital/consultant may recommend it. I'm 41 and had DC1 in January, and induction at 40 weeks was recommended due to my age alone (I had no other risk factors). I then discovered that induction policy varies from one hospital to the next, and decided I would see how I felt closer to the time.

In the end, I refused induction but had expectant management, and went into labour at 40+8 (but was then induced anyway due to failure to progress!)

I don't see why you can't refuse the recommendation of induction if there are no other risk factors, but unless there was a specific problem with your pregnancy/health, they may not recommend induction before 40 weeks anyway.

Good luck, and remember it is your choice re induction (all too often see people posting saying they have been told they are being induced!), but make sure you get all the right information about risks etc

Thanks Eagleray - that's very useful. I've had 3 normal deliveries with no complications so in theory all should be well (but I was younger then!). Mind you all 3 were a bit early so I doubt I'll make 40 weeks!

Ooh - sounds like you won't have much of a problem popping out no. 4 before 40 weeks (is the not wanting to have the baby in August thing to do with schooling?)

By the way, do you have a consultant for any specific reason?

I agreed beforehand to commence regular stretch and sweeps from 38 weeks onward in order to try and avoid induction - what a waste of time that was! There probably won't be a next time, but if there was, I would spend those last few days parked up on the sofa stuffing my face rather than squealing in pain and having a midwife telling me I'm effaced/anterior/closed/open/dilated/posterior/whatever

Gaaaaah. Tired, pissed off and can't sleep. DD hosting baby shower for me next weekend. Which would have been good but now have to invite horrible SIL along with lovely one, MIL, SIL with special needs who is hard work in company and can be immensely selfish, and DH's poisonous daughter from marriage 1. This will all then be reported back in detail to DH's first wife.... I also now have to find room for 16 bloody people in my house...the rooms are tiny and the layout difficult. I don't even have 16 chairs, and there's no outside space at all. Will have to have proper food, not just cakes as they are all fussy as hell...

DH doesn't see the problem...well, he's not going to be here, as he's picking up his son from uni all day. This has gone from being something fun to a nightmare overnight....

Hi squidwoman welcome and congratulations. Eagle is right. Your body your baby. they can't MAKE you do anything. I have had 2 easy (no interventions) deliverys a fair few years ago and thought that after 20 years things would be harder... 2 MW's , Consultant ect have told me that your body does not forget. So hanging on to that and beliving all will be well.
sparkly congrats on finishing your course. hows the baby prep going?
soup just realised you not on the due date list!! SOOO sorry. will add you today
Hi badmiss Boo re the not sleeping.... it sucks, I've downloaded a hypnobirthing app on my phone which has helped me sleep a couple of times. Re Baby shower, could you arrange to have it in a local Pub or somewhere other than home??
Eagle so nice that you pop back to see us. how are you and baby Ray ? intrested that you would refuse sweeps next time. i have sweeps booked for week 38 and 39 (if baby turns and i last that long) but the more i read and think things through the more i think sweeps are just the start of interventions???

Me 35 weeks today... Yey. all getting very real. baby still streched out across (cant help but think she's got arms behind her head and legs Up just like her dad on the boat) :) last week was tough, had no energy or motervation at all. felt really down and board, didn't leave the house ALL week (except for MW appointment) then exploded at DH on friday that my life was over and i hated everything.. [Embarrassed] He kindly pointed out i still had my car and could do as i pleased all day.... if i chose to sit in house that was up to me. them reminded me that i had not been swimming for weeks. (was going every day for a while) So.... I'm off swimming today.

Hi, come to say hello! Haven't had a chance to catch up on all your stories yet.

I'm 45 and 15+5 with DS2. DS1 just coming 3. Due 4.12.13.
Had sensible nuchal results at 12 weeks and thought I could get happy now but DM stressing and I've had the NIP test, gone to the States so now 2 more weeks worrying - and after I've told everyone. Thanks, Ma! Will I stop worrying, do you think?!

Interested in the induction talk. I've been referred to consultant, as first pregnancy, as over 38. I went to 40+13 last time and got very stressy 'negotiating' over induction so not looking forward to arguing with a 27 year old senior reg again.

Best wishes to all and stay chilled.

Hi again
I'm with the consultant for being old but she did add having 4th child and having a big gap between 3 and 4 (9 years) as other risk factors.
The September thing is for schooling. Mind you an August baby means a whole year less of nursery fees!

As for sleep - this time round I have a memory foam mattress and it has made a massive difference. The bigger I get the further I sink in and I've got to 29 weeks without resorting to pillows between legs etc. Doesn't cure insomnia but I've had no joint pain yet.

Isn't it strange how different areas and different consultants have such different attitudes. I was discharged from Consultant at 20 weeks and was only seen due to thyroid problems
The only person that sees my age as a real issue is my mother.
Hi catdoctor glad test results are good. Does worrying ever stop? ?

Sorry - meant to say hello to all of you when I last posted but had to post hastily due to baby screaming...

We are mostly fine - Baby Eagleray is growing fast and I'm trying to get fit again after so many months gaining weight.

Rosiedays - sorry if my moaning about sweeps put you off! I think I had reasonably high hopes that the sweeps would do something because of how it was sold to me, but it did feel like a waste of time. However, they can make you feel like you're doing something to make things happen, and they don't do any harm. I think if I had my time again, I would have one and if it didn't trigger things I would just get on with trying to relax (although easier said than done). Did you have a nice time swimming? I don't think I did much really in my last few weeks apart from go a bit irrational and mad!

BadmissM - I hope you survive your baby shower - it sounds like a soap opera! If it all gets too much you will have to feign tiredness/sickness/labour and escape upstairs!

CatDoctor - I think I recall your name from the 40+ grads thread from last year? (my memory works in mysterious ways). Congratulations on your return to the mums-to-be thread! Sounds like we had similar experiences regarding induction - I went through hell arguing the toss with doctors over what seemed to be a very hospital-specific policy. And one doc I had a rather emotional discussion with happened to mention she'd had a home birth which made me feel 100 times worse! It wasn't that I out and out disagreed with their recommendations, I just wanted to know what their policy was based on, given that it does differ from one hospital to the next. And I never got any straight answers, apart from a MW who later let slip that the hospital had had a couple of stillbirths recently and so they were v paranoid...

Oh god I hope my rants about induction, sweeps etc haven't blighted this thread - they do actually have their place, but just remember as Rosie said - it's your body and your baby and you can make informed choices. And if your body has done it before, it will almost certainly know what to do again.

As for worrying about everything, I vowed I would stop worrying the minute my baby appeared safely... oh yeah

Hello. May I join this thread pretty please. I am expecting my 2nd baby, 14 yrs after my 1st and I will be 40 when he/she arrives (cringe)
I cant believe how different this pregnancy is - in some ways better in other ways more difficult. Its not quite the doddle it was 1st time round, ha!
Just saying "Hi!"

Diane x