Fantastic, fabulous 40+ Mums-to-be! Part 4

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as i filled the last post on old thread it seemed only polite to start the new one. hope i've done it right

To those who have just found this thread, Welcome and congratulations on you BFP. please feel free to join this amazing supportive group of 40+ mums to be. A very nonjudgmental and friendly place to hang out and share your pregnancy.

Blundermum 40, DC2 due early May?
Lotsofcheese, 40/41, DC2 (girl) due May (DS 4y)
Onemoreforgoodmeasure, 40, DC1 due 06/06
cyclecamper, 42, DC1 due 14/06
Newchoos, 40, DC2, due early July
Blueeyes1970,42, DC1 due on 8th July
BadMissM, 45, DC2, due 22/7
Rosiedays, 43 DD3 due 23rd July(ish)
ScubaSarah, nrly 40, DC1?, due July 22-Aug 1
Iclaudius,45, due 29/07
LottieH, 44, DC5, due mid August
Sparklysapphire, 44, DC2, due 28/8
BuzzBee, 40, DC2, due Sept
Notsoold, 41,DC3 due end of October
Animol, 42, DC5 due 13th
November

Thanks Iatesomeofthepies just saw you had a scan such a relief to get it and see all is well. I can honestly say no one has said anything about our ages but it was a worry. Are you telling more people now you've had the scan or waiting a while? Only negatives I've had was someone in work telling me it was a shame I was having son number 3 and not a girl and a couple of family members making that oh what a shame face when they were told the gender. I politely told them that baby was healthy and amnio & anomoly scan were clear and that I did not give a flying fook that it was a boy just that he was healthy and growing Xxx

Thanks, Cheeky! It was a huge relief. We also did the early NIPT blood test for trisomies, and got clear results on Thursday, so it was a week of good news. I don't know yet how public we're going right away. Still thinking about it.

I told DH that I wanted a big family of all boys, so that sounds perfect to me! People are so weird in what they feel entitled to comment on/ care about in your life, aren't they? I'm impressed that you could be so polite.

It's lovely to see so much activity on this thread - makes me feel like I'm not doing this crazy thing alone!!
cheekychops if you don't mind me asking, when did you tell your other children you were pregnant? How did you tell them, and what was their reaction? Sorry to be so nosy It's one of my biggest concerns at the moment! I don't want to tell them too early, in case of things going wrong, but I do want them to be the first to know (we haven't told anyone else yet). I'd be interested to hear about other people's experiences with telling older children - mine are 17 and 15 yrs.

Glad you got all clear on Trisomies IAteSomeofthePies it can be quite worrying. I understand not telling people straight away I left it a week or two after telling family and close friends just to keep it private for us for a bit longer. And god knows why people think they are entitled to comment on things that don't concern them it's just rudeness. I must have been having a good day in that I was so polite shame it wasn't on a fully fledged hormone raging round my body day

Hi officelady course I don't mind you asking. I told my two at about 10 weeks. I was not feeling great (not being sick just constant nausea) and was a weeping ball of snot and tears for about a week so thought I'd better tell them as I didn't want them thinking something serious was wrong with me, my husband or any family members. They took it surprisingly well . The oldest said he thought I was looking chunky (cheeky beggar) but thought it was great news and the youngest just said yes I'm not the youngest now and then it's not sharing my room and that was it lol. They were the first other than us to know and I liked that they got a few weeks before others knew to get used to it and be part of our wee family secret. Hope that helps Xxx

Good morning, ladies! Hope you all had a nice weekend. Mine was dominated by yet another attempt at potty training DS (2.5). Not overly successful, and I am almost glad to be at work now, not having to say 'Do you need a wee' every 10min

I've been very anxious and stressed since last week because I've had some brown discharge, back ache and period-type cramps. Things have all calmed down a bit now (although I'm still knicker-checking like crazy), but I'm still tense - all I could think about was that this is exactly how it started with all my miscarriages. Poor DH and DS, I was/am so volatile at the moment, exploding at every single thing.
I'm just so scared that it will all go wrong again... Think I will try and see if I can get an early scan at my EPU. I'll be 8 weeks next week, so far along enough to be able to see something.

Hello, I'm 42 and am pregnant with no2, due date 1st October. I have a one year old daughter - we thought it might take me a while to get pregnant due to age/bf but it was surprisingly quick. I had an easy pregnancy last time with no sickness and no health issues (just bad indigestion) and a vaginal birth and I'm hoping for the same this time, I've met quite a lot of older mums in RL and most had trouble free pregnancies, just to put your minds at ease a little. Got my booking in appointment next week which is odd as it doesn't seem 'real' yet!

Hello swan and welcome! I'm also 42 and pg with DC2, due 4th October! Here's hoping that your pregnancy is as uneventful as the first one.

My midwife called me yesterday, and the first thing she did was to arrange a reassurance scan for me, it's on Saturday. I am very nervous, still have brown spotting, and yesterday, there was a bit of red blood at one point I'm very anxious and stressed right now, finding it very hard to focus on work... Literally taking one day at a time at the moment, very scared that they are not going to see anything again.

Welcome SWAN. I'm 42 too and have a 3 year old son. i'm nearly 32 weeks with number 2. Going to work late this morning as I'm off for my weekly scan( baby a bit small). Had a terrible night's sleep last night. Didn't get off till about 3 and then woke up at 5. Working late tonight so no chance of an early night!

Hi JBIRD. Hope you're hanging in there and that your early scan will reassure you that all will be well. Time seems to stand still when you're in the early stages and you've experienced loss. It's horrible. The days will pass. Keeping everything crossed for you. Take care!

Hello to everyone else. Looked forward to hearing your updates when you get a chance to post!

Still here! 41+1. Had my third monitoring session this morning - baby absolutely fine, and it seems that my uterus is getting a bit more 'active', ie it manages the odd feeble contraction in the 30 mins I'm hooked up. I had some tests done the other day (midwife decided to repeat all the end-of-pg tests the gynae had already run, to make sure that all the results are less than a month old when I get to hospital) and unfortunately tested +ve for strep B (negative a few weeks ago!) so I'll have to have antibiotics during the birth...but fortunately here they give 4-hourly shots, so I won't be on a permanent drip.

Am laughing to myself at something DH just told me. As some of you know, I have 3 DSC whose DM's behaviour isn't always entirely appropriate (she over-steps lines very easily, so I try to keep her at a huge distance, without making an issue of it IYSWIM). She's going to have the DSCs, if they're with us, when I go into labour - and she's told DH that he should let her know as soon as LO is born 'so we can all come down to the hospital and meet the baby' It's true that I'm insisting that my DSC be the first visitors...but the scenario in my head really doesn't include their mother! (Obviously, DH will be going to collect his DCs and will bring them to the hospital and then return them to their DM's!)

How are you, jbrd? What a stressful time. Thinking of you.

Guthrie I'm glad my comments about the Harmony test helped you. That seems such a long time ago now!

Sorry, there were various other people I was going to mention but I'm on the app and can't scroll. Hope everyone's ok, anyway.

Welcome Swan !
Hope your scan went well today Guthrie and that baby is growing.
JBrd it must be worrying for you,I know when you've miscarried you fear the worst but it can be ok, I had bleeding with DD2 at 9 weeks and 15 weeks and she was absolutely fine, I hope your scan on Saturday will reassure you. x
Morien sounds like you're hanging in there, at least if there's some uterine activity you might not have too much longer to wait! It's good that they repeated the tests and picked up the strep b, at least they know to treat it now and prevent any problems.
It doesn't sound terribly appropriate for your DH's ex to be one of the first to visit you in hospital, that's all you need! Hope all goes well for you and you're holding your little one in your arms very soon. x
We had a 3D scan yesterday and it was amazing to see baby's face, he/she was yawning, eyes were opening and closing and there was an amazing sequence of changing facial expressions. The DDs were fascinatinated but are now even more excited about meeting their little brother/sister. Another 9 weeks to go though!

Hi to Cheeky and Swan!

Morien - good that they picked up the strep B in case you have a long labour, but my bet is that having kept you waiting all this time, you will have a lovely quick and easy one!!!!

Irish - lovely to have the chance to get a 3d scan. I had one with my last pregnancy and it was great for the children to see the baby in advance!

I have scan tomorrow. I begged for my next weeks one to be brought forward as I am fretting. Symptoms going and cramping happening. It was just un-nerving me too much. I want to know if everything is ok or gone wrong. I am 10 weeks now.

willitbe just wanted to wish you best of luck for your scan tomorrow.
Symptoms waning could just be normal for 10 weeks, cramping could just be uterus stretching but I know exactly how you feel,you just need to know for sure what's happening. I hope you see a little wriggler with a strong heartbeat and all is well! I'll be thinking of you x

Thanks willitbe - I hope you're right!
Fingers crossed for your scan...

I think I just had a bit of a show - pinky discharge when I wiped, gone now. I know it could still be ages, but I got so excited because it made it all a bit more real. Too excited to go back to bed !

Bad news from my scan, heartbeat stopped and no growth. So I am stopping my med's. sorry to be leaving you lovely ladies. I wish you all the best with your pregnancies and births.

willit Oh no, I am so so sorry about your sad news. How awful that you have to go through this! Look after yourself. Sending lots of hugs xxx

Oh no, Willitbe. I'm so sorry to hear your dreadful news. I'm thinking of you and sending strength and hugs. Take care.

JBrd only two days to get through before I hope you get some reassurance.

Welcome, Swan! I'm only a youthful 41 but will hopefully deliver at 42, and according to all the medical peeps so far that's what counts. Also, this will only be dc1 for me. I'm a late bloomer.

Guthrie I hope the baby is growing nicely now.

Morien hooray for some movement and a possible show (no real idea what that is as I am a noob. But yay.) I love that your DH's ex thought she'd traipse in at the hospital! Of course, who wouldn't want that?

I had my first consultant appt on Tues (apologies to JBrd who is on the Sept thread so has heard this). I was late and the post was early so grabbed the brown envelope on the way out and opened it at work. It was an appt for that afternoon so I went along but didn't have my notes. And I got a lecture from the consultant that I should have them with me at all times. I knew I'd need to do that at the end, but I'm only 12 weeks! The letter had only been posted out the day before, so it wasn't like a delay in the post. I felt like I was back in school and hadn't done my homework.

I hope all you spring chickens are doing well.

Willitbe I'm so very sorry to hear your news. You poor thing. I hope you have some RL support and you are being kind to yourself.

JBrd I hope you're okay and all goes well at the scan tomorrow.

I am overseas on a work trip. It's all gone well and has been really interesting, but I'm counting down the hours til I get home and see my family. (Even though it's sunny and 30deg here and disgusting weather back in the UK!) Thankfully little bump has been wriggling all the while I've been here, so I've been able to concentrate on work and not worry about the pregnancy too much.

Take care you all...

I'm so sorry, willitbe. Thinking of you.

So sorry to hear your news willitbe, I was hoping you'd have a good outcome today. Life isn't fair. I wish there was something I could say or do to make things better. You're in my thoughts and prayers xxx

Willitbe....I am so sorry ...don't know what to say....xxxxx

It's good scan news - one baby, heartbeat and all, measuring bang on!
I was convinced that it would be bad news again, relief doesn't even come close

Fantastic! So pleased for you JBrd - have been holding thumbs for you all day. So good to get rid of all that stressing!

What good news JBrd ! So happy for you,hope you can relax a bit now!
How many weeks are you?