Fantastic, fabulous 40+ Mums-to-be! Part 4

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as i filled the last post on old thread it seemed only polite to start the new one. hope i've done it right

To those who have just found this thread, Welcome and congratulations on you BFP. please feel free to join this amazing supportive group of 40+ mums to be. A very nonjudgmental and friendly place to hang out and share your pregnancy.

Blundermum 40, DC2 due early May?
Lotsofcheese, 40/41, DC2 (girl) due May (DS 4y)
Onemoreforgoodmeasure, 40, DC1 due 06/06
cyclecamper, 42, DC1 due 14/06
Newchoos, 40, DC2, due early July
Blueeyes1970,42, DC1 due on 8th July
BadMissM, 45, DC2, due 22/7
Rosiedays, 43 DD3 due 23rd July(ish)
ScubaSarah, nrly 40, DC1?, due July 22-Aug 1
Iclaudius,45, due 29/07
LottieH, 44, DC5, due mid August
Sparklysapphire, 44, DC2, due 28/8
BuzzBee, 40, DC2, due Sept
Notsoold, 41,DC3 due end of October
Animol, 42, DC5 due 13th
November

I'll join you! 16wks today. Have just started to feel the baby moving, very exciting

Hello irish, good to see you here, and welcome rainy

I'm only 6+2, and I don't think that I'd want a scan before 8 weeks, just to make sure that there won't be any uncertainty. Waiting for the midwife to get in touch to arrange the booking appointment, and she will then arrange any scans and refer me to the consultant.
I have been feeling quite queasy and bleurgh since Sunday, desperately hoping that this is a good sign.

Hi. Can I join? I'm 30 weeks( and 42). Have checked this thread out a few times and am pleased to see it's up and running again. I've had a few issues this pregnancy and am off work this morning to go for another growth scan as my baby is very small ( below the 10th centile).My age has been mentioned as possible factor in this which is really helpful as there is nothing I can do about that! Anyway, congratulations to everyone!

Please do Ladies, revive the thread, it is great to read about your journey. Congratulations to all for the pg. Avalon has unfortunately had bad news and Notsoold has joined the parenting thread. We look forward to seeing you on the other side.
I have had wonderful support throughout pg with this thread, now the baby has become a toddler, 18 mo !

Btw, if anyone is interested in baby bath and bath support, you can have them for free. I am in NW, PM me asap. Toddler A wants to be in the big bath now with her big brother :)

Rainy, is it your first ? Feeling kicks at 16wks, wow, brilliant !!! I miss this feeling.
JBrd, I can't remember on which other thread I have seen your nn before, 6wks, only a few more and you will see HB on scan. I remember how emotional that was for me with first and second babies. After 2 mc.
Guthrie, let us know after the scan today. For my second, they found that she had short long bones so I had a few extra scans and ended up with amnio. All was good though and they said maybe it was nothing to worry about as I am not very tall myself ?!? Thank you for the extra stress, docs.

Just popping on to say so glad this thread is up & running again! I found it invaluable during my pregnancy, especially as it was completely unplanned and I was coming up for my 44th birthday. DD is now 14 months (also have DS aged nearly 10), and we can't imagine life without our wonderful little girl. Good luck to all of you xx

Can I play?

I'm 41 and I'm 30 weeks today

Had an easy time of it so far, really - no sickness or fatigue in the early days and PGP kicked in about 23 weeks, which a bit of an arse (or a pelvis!) but manageable so far.

Nice to meet you all!

Thanks for the welcome! BlueBlack It's my third - I have DD6 and DD4. I had 2 miscarriages after my second. I'm now 42 - due a month after I turn 43. It'll also be my third August baby . I think that will probably raise more eyebrows than my age, but never mind!

JBrd feeling sick is a really good sign (though poor you!)
With my history of miscarriage, this pregnancy I phoned the EPU directly, before anyone else, and they booked me in for a scan at 7 weeks. It was only after seeing the heartbeat that I contacted my GP and actually started the ball rolling with registering the pregnancy and booking into the normal system etc. I was then rescanned at 9 weeks,then 12, though I had a few sneaky private scans in between!
Hope your growth scan goes well today guthrie. I had a growth scan last week at the hospital at 29 weeks and am booked for another at 34 weeks though everything seems ok so far. It is reassuring to get extra monitoring ,even if it's due to "advanced maternal age" as they put it ! I'm 45 but will be 46 by the time baby is born.
We must have nearly the same due date in April, dats too !
Rainy it's lovely to feel the baby move isn't it. My DD2 who's 10 spends ages sitting or lying with her hands on the bump waiting for movements and talking to the baby. My DD1 was an August baby ,DC4 will be my second April baby, due the week after our DS's 21st birthday!
Blueblack and knotty thanks for the welcome, it's nice to speak to some people "on the other side" !
Hello notsoold !

Hi all. Growth scan went ok. Baby has grown but not quite as much as they would like. Consequently I've to be monitored weekly till delivery. Been told they might induce me early should they deem it necessary. Better get that hospital bag packed just in case ! I'm still working full time at the moment and hadn't planned to stop till early April but might need to rethink that. I'll be 43 too when baby's born (due April 17th) Rainy. Move to Scotland. Aug babies ideal for school here. Dec/Jan ones you need to worry about! Though we can defer for a year if we wish.
Hope sickness isn't too bad JBIRD!

Hello to everyone, those I know and those I don't. Good work on reviving the thread, jbrd! I'll join you for a few days - 40+2 now.

Went for my first session of monitoring at the hospital this morning - lay on a bed for half an hour with 2 monitors strapped to me, one for the baby's heart beat, one to check uterine 'activity'. Baby was absolutely fine, but uterus not doing a lot.

Saw my gynae this evening (here in Belgium you see a gynae, not midwives, all through pregnancy regardless of age or anything else) and she checked my cervix...which isn't doing much either. She gave me the number of a midwife who'll come to the house for future monitoring so I don't have to go to the hospital - once more this week, then every 2 days next week. She also booked me in for an induction at 40+15, but I hope it won't come to that. I'm really calm about the whole thing because apart from anything else I've never agreed with my EDD and have always thought I was about a week less pregnant than the doctors say. Anyway, the end is in sight...or should I say the start of the next stage?

Hello everyone and congratulations to the newest members of this thread!

JBrd I remember you well, and so pleased you are here again. Wishing you all the best of luck and hope they monitor you as much as is needed.

I joined this thread back in May 2012 when I had a bfp at the age of 40. I'm now 42 and DD has just celebrated her first birthday . It's been an amazing journey and this thread was my lifeline, before and after the birth. And many of the posters are now RL friends now too!

Wishing you all the very best of luck for your pregnancies and I will keep dropping by to see how you get on - so glad this thread has been revived.

Good morning ladies - can I join? I'm 42 and (very) unexpectedly pregnant with child number 3. If I make it to the end, it's siblings will be 18 and 16 yrs
Going by my LMP date I am 7 weeks pregnant and due on 1st Oct. I reluctantly went to the doctors this week to appease my dh who is worrying about Every Little Thing, especially the fact that I am clearly too ancient to have a baby. However the receptionist wasn't the least bit concerned and said I didn't need to see my GP, I filled a form in and apparently I will be contacted at about 10-11 weeks by a midwife for booking in.
Is that the same as everyone's experience? I've never actually been pregnant in the UK before, because we were living abroad when I had my other 2 babies, and with them I saw a doctor straightaway and a midwife at around the 8 week mark.
I am seriously considering having the Harmony test, there's a clinic not far from where I live that has just started doing them, £550 - eek. But I really, REALLY want to enjoy my pregnancy if I can, and feel like I need to know what I am dealing with here.
I will no doubt be back with millions of pointless and obvious questions - brace yourselves!

Good morning! Nice to see the thread coming back to live and filling up, and great that some of the graduates are popping in to say Hello! Guess we can start a stats list soon

Guthrie Glad that your scan went well. I'm always puzzled by the plan of action when they think baby is too small or too big... I had a growth scan with DS as one point because I was measuring too big for my dates, and they also started talking about close monitoring, induction on my due date etc. Seems that induction is the plan for both too small and too big babies! Hope that it won't come to that and that baby has a growth spurt in the next 2 weeks

Hi Morien, wow, you're almost there! How are you feeling, have you got everything ready? Let us know if anything happens, you are probably the first of the revived thread that is going to pop!

Hi dats, nice to meet you, too! Is this your first baby? Lucky you with no sickness!

Officelady We are bump buddies I'm 6+3, due on Oct 4. And yes, the midwife getting in touch to arrange the booking in appointment is very common in the UK (although I think that 10-11 weeks is quite late...). I'm currently waiting for mine to get in touch, in my area we usually have it around 7-9 weeks, so they have enough time to arrange the 12-week-scan. But it's different everywhere!

Sickness is bad at all, I just feel quite bleurgh in the mornings at the moment, some days more than others. This morning I picked up DS's socks from the floor and then had to quickly sit down because a wave of nausea hit me... I'm taking the as a positive sign - for those of you who won't know my history, I had 3 miscarriages last year, so any symptom is a good thing for me at the moment! Currently doing one day at a time, knicker-checking like crazy and constantly repeating 'Today I am pregnant'. The next few weeks are going to be so hard, as this was the time were it went wrong in all the mcs...

Hi All. May I join? I've just read through the whole thread and was worried it would be defunct by the time I got to the part where I could join! I'm 41, hoping for DC1 in late August/ early September. EDD by LMP was 1 Sept. Had a scan for Verifi test (they're doing that instead of Harmony in my trust) last week with EDD of 28/8. Proper dating scan this Friday. If the scan and test results go OK then we could go public next week, as will be 12+ weeks. I really can't believe it, as had a mc in October and kind of thought that was our last chance. If only I'd found this thread sooner maybe I wouldn't have been so despairing.

On phone, so can't see everyone to name check, sorry.

Office I just had booking with MW last week at 10 +6. I hope this blood test will relive my mind, but DH is convinced I'll just find something else to worry about. He may know me too well. Also, it was £££. Ouch. I suspect that my feelings of value for money will be linked to whether or not I get the result I want.

JBrd having just read the whole thread, I'm so glad to see you back! Sickness is a good sign, but I found that to be of limited consolation when I felt so rotten. Hope you have just the right touch of reassuring nausea for about 20mins everyday.

. Morien good luck! I hope you get to meet baby Morien sooner than 40 +15. Yikes!

Guthrie hope the baby puts on a late growth spurt. I'll have to consider that move to Scotland if this is an August baby. (DH may be right about me just finding something else to worry about )

Dats lucky you with no sickness!

Irish it looks like you've got lots of "advanced maternal age" company around here.

Phew. Looks like we're getting a little crowd. How lovely! Sorry if I missed anyone. I'm so glad of the company.

Hello all!

Yes, Irish we must be close together - April 20 (although I know my ov dates and think it's actually April 22) and guthrie you must be similar too? How exciting

Yes - DC1 for me. Wanted children for a long time, unsuccessful ttc while in previous relationship a few years back, (turned out he had issues, which in hindsight was a blessing, I guess) and finally met DP 3.5 years ago. He wasn't sure about children at first, but happily, he came round to the idea of his own accord. After ttc for 9 months I had an early mc in Jan 2013, then tried again and voila up-the-duffness .

JBrd massive congrats and everything crossed for you. Do you have any distraction techniques lined up to get you through the early days? Have there been any investigations after your previous mc?

Morien what should your uterus have been doing, exactly? Glad you feel nice and calm!

guthrie glad baby has grown a bit - why do they think it's age-related, is it to do with less effective placenta or something? I'm only saying that because of that thing about old biddy preggos being automatically induced at 39 weeks or whatever, in some areas because of the (very tiny) risk of placental failure.

officelady congrats on DC3! I would have had Harmony if my nuchal results had been high risk. Definitely prefer to know what I'm dealing with. I went to my GP in full knowledge that they'd say 'that's nice dear - make a mw appt' which is exactly what happened. Left GP until 8w, after mc at 6w and then I had a 'pre-booking' appt at about 10w (which was a bit pointless, tbh) and then scan at 12+3 + booking 12+4.

pies congrats! We seem to be in a similar boat with DC1 after previous mc. I still don't believe it either. I have a feeling it's not going to seem real until...I dunno. When the thing is here? Will I believe it then?!

I've not had any extra monitoring at all. Should I be alarmed?! No-one's even mentioned it (despite my paranoia that lots of folk would comment).

Hi everyone. Thanks for all your thoughts re growth scan. Trying to take it a week at a time, keep calm, eat well and rest as much as I can.
Morien can't believe you're nearly there. Remember you from conception thread I think. It was your post that first put me on to the Harmony test which came in very handy when I came back high risk from the combined test at 12 weeks. Thanks for that. Totally worth the money in my opinion. I have history of miscarriage so amnio wasn't for me. It gave me peace of mind and has allowed me to enjoy this pregnancy( well apart from the heartburn/restless legs/ pelvic girdle pain). I would recommend it Office lady .

Dats and Irish we are due at the same time. I'm April 17th!
JBird be keeping everything crossed for you. Those first 12 weeks drag. It's horrible. I had nausea this time and I think it really helped me believe that things were going to progress. Mind you I was( and still am) really nervous everytime I was due for a scan( so far I've had 7!). Anyway, hope it passes quickly for you.

Iateallthe pies Scotland is a great place to live so do come. Actually, my DS is a Dec birthday so I get where you're coming from. I'm worried about him starting school at 4 and a half. might have left him till 5 and a half but with number 2 on the way that's probably not going to be an option.

Anyway, hope everyone is well!

Stats from restart of thread:

Morien 40+5 now.
Irishmammybread due in April, 1ds, 2 dd, DC4. Age 45 but will be 46 by the time baby is born.
Guthriegirl due 17th April, age 42 I'll be 43 too when baby's born
dats due 20th April (or April 22) DC1 I'm 41
RainyAfternoon due 4th Aug It's my third - I have DD6 and DD4. I had 2 miscarriages after my second. Age 42 - due a month after I turn 43.
IAteSomeofthePies due 1st Sept. DC1 I'm 41
willitbe due 12th Sept 2ds, 1 dd DC4 (+12mc). Age 46
officelady due 1st Oct , this is DC3. I'm 42
JBrd due on 4th Oct. DS and 3 miscarriages. Age?

Hi all, having a wobbly day, thinking it must all be going wrong, but trying desperately to remind myself that "today I am pregnant". Hope others are more positive!!!!

Thanks for the list, willit Wah, I'm too near the top!

Is there any particular reason you feel worried? Or just one of those crap uncontrollable wobbles?

How's everyone else doing?

Morien 40+5 now.
Irishmammybread due in April, 1ds, 2 dd, DC4. Age 45 but will be 46 by the time baby is born.
Guthriegirl due 17th April, age 42 I'll be 43 too when baby's born
dats due 20th April (or April 22) DC1 I'm 41
RainyAfternoon due 4th Aug It's my third - I have DD6 and DD4. I had 2 miscarriages after my second. Age 42 - due a month after I turn 43.
IAteSomeofthePies due 1st Sept. DC1 I'm 41
willitbe due 12th Sept 2ds, 1 dd DC4 (+12mc). Age 46
officelady due 1st Oct , this is DC3. I'm 42
JBrd due 4th Oct. DS and 3 miscarriages. Age 42

Thanks for the list, will! I've added my age... Hang in there, it's nearly the weekend! But I know what you mean

I'm also having a wobble - I had a bit of brown discharge since Wednesday, and this morning, when I inserted the progesterone, there was red blood . Nothing since, but I am walking on egg shells today - I have been at this point too many times before... It just can't happen again, can it?!

Dats - yes it is just one of those silly wobbles, my nausea has got worse over this last couple of days, and this happened before each miscarriage, so instead of reassurance I am more concerned, never happy are we!!!!!

JBrd - probably just cervical irritation from the progesterone? I got this when using prog vaginally, so switched to the alternative option, and no bleeding or spotting. It is so hard not to worry though.

How us everyone else?

Hi Girls,
can I join you here? I'm currently 23 + 4 with No. 3 (age 40) and due 10th June. Have two boys one who is 20 & one who will be 15 when this little fella joins us. As you can imagine it was a bit of a shock discovering that I was pregnant but we are so excited about it now I can't believe we never done it earlier .

I'm finding this pregnancy so far so good. I'm a bit tired but over the nausea that lasted 4 months plus thankfully. Have not had any negative reactions to being a wee bit older and pregnant (something that I was worried about when I found out).

So glad to have found this thread big hello to you all Xxx

Willitbe and JBrd I hope your worries are unfounded and that they pass quickly. Sending reassuring thoughts your way.

Guthrie what little I've seen of Scotland was gorgeous. I can believe that it's a nice place to live.

I had a good 12 week scan yesterday so got to tell my parents last night. So exciting!

I hope everyone else is well.

Sorry, Cheeky we posted at the same time (takes me ages to tap then out.) welcome! That's brilliant that you've planned for a family with built in babysitters. Very sensible! I've been a bit worried about comments, too. So far have only told my nearest and dearest, so they would hopefully be unlikely to say anything negative, anyway. We'll see what comes, I guess.