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ibip I have no idea on stats but the vast majority of people have perfectly healthy bouncing babies, you are young and you have a normal nt result that's two things in your favour already. You'll get a letter in due course if all ok or a phone call in next couple of days if there are any concerns. Ps- it's super lovely that your DH is all excited now :)

diy and shell hope you're feeling better
santa hope you still feel rubbish

I'll see how I go this evening, it's only been 7 hours of chucking up. Feels like more than that! Dp is back and has gone to the shop to get me an ice lolly to try that. Maybe I'm a bit gung go because me chucking like this is pretty normal with a migraine - just don't have a headache at the mo (thankfully!). If it doesn't let up this evening I'll give the out of hours a call.

Oh no DIY sorry to hear you're feeling so grim :(

Pink sorry I have no knowledge about results but I'm pretty certain that normal sounds good :) sorry you're having a panic though. I guess it's normal to be a bit on edge though. As anda says, they'll prob be in touch ASAP if there was anything to worry about, are you able to give them a call tomorrow just to ask?

And hi shell, hope you're feeling much better. It's nasty being poorly :(

Hope your vomiting had stopped DIY.
Hope you are better too Shell.
IBIP - I totally sympathise about your concerns about the NF - I am so scared about it all at the moment.
Hope you are ok Bod- your measurement is well within the normal range so I hope you can relax and enjoy your holiday.

I haven't been around as we were away for the weekend.
Feeling so hideous still- nauseous and bloated all day. I went gone from work early today and went to bed!
I convinced I feel like this because there is something wrong with the baby however.
The anxiety doesn't leave does it!!

DIY- hope you're feeling better now!

I fell out with dp lastnight big time and now he's being the incredible angry sulk I come from divorced parents and the last thing I want is for my kids to grow up with separated parents

Maybe I'll post on relationships but... Is this normal? Seven year itch? Will we get through it?! Argh!

Hey ladies

DIY and JMF - sorry you are both feeling so poorly :-(

Pink - I'm not very knowledgable in that area, sorry Hun, I'm sure everything will be fine though - there is always something to be anxious about isn't there - at every stage :-(

Blackholes - bless you hun - men are right sulky beings aren't they!! If you want to talk about it Hun we are all here.

I have been off work today with a horrendous migraine - I get them all the time but can't take my normal medication when pregnant - I tried to get rid of it without paracetamol but had to take a couple this afternoon. I always feel so guilty when taking them :-(

I spoke to the midwife this afternoon and she was lovely!! She is going to phone the EPU for me and try and get me an early scan - she has now said that I might not get one as I have only had one miscarriage but I can pay £75 for one and we have decided that if they won't give us one we will do that. She said that once you see a heartbeat your chances of miscarriage are lower. She has also arranged my booking in appt for 29th May so that's my first goal to get to. My progesterone levels have come back at 33 does anyone know what that means? I have my 2nd lot of bloods tomorrow morning - fingers crossed the results are back before the weekend - it will be reassuring to know that my hcg levels are rising as last time they didn't.

Hope everyone has had a good day. Sorry again for the massive post!! Xxx

Mummy - great that you have a lovely midwife, they make all the difference don't they.

Black holes- aw no!! Thats no good hun. You don't need that stress right now. Im sure it's fixable x

Thanks for all the reassurance re the tests. I know I just need to wait, I think if I haven't heard by the weekend it should be good news. Oh what is with all this waiting! Always something to be worried about!!!

Sorry in advance, this is going to be a bit ranty and unreasonable...

And it involves Facebook! So when I had my DD I met a group of mums and we all spent lots of time together, there was one who I liked at first but, over time, i began to realise she was very competetive and very self involved. She posted her 20 wk scan on FB a short while after my mc and I felt physically sick when I saw it and decided to hide all her posts so today I see via another friend that she has had a baby girl and I'm still insanely jealous - I need to get over it, I don't even see her anymore!
Then another one of the mums posted her 12 week scan tonight and is having twins, she is absolutely lovely and terrified and I wrote her a nice message about how we can meet up for maternity leave again but I'm jealous of her too!
What is wrong with me?!

mummy ask about our progesterone when you have your bloods done tomorrow, it's not much good being told a figure when they don't tell you what it means! Not too long till your booking in :)

*your not our!

bumpkitty weirdly, I think that's normal. At least, it's normal for me. I'm even weirdly jealous of the other people on my September ante natal thread!! I think it's because I can't accept that everything is going to be okay, and come September they're going to have lovely bouncy babies and I'm, well, not.

So I can't tell you you're being silly, or irrational, or that's no need to feel like that (all of which are true by the way) because I understand completely. Crap advice, I know xxx

Hey blackholes I had a visit from the incredible sulk last week and got some great insight on here. My oh is feeling a bit left out at the mo. I am knackered all the time, and generally a bit preoccupied with this pregnancy malarkey. He was feeling neglected and freaked about money. We had a good chat at the weekend. On advice from here I opened up about how the worry can be pretty over whelming at times. I think he understood a bit better why things have changed a bit between us. All about the bean not my feelings for him. Maybe your oh is struggling with similar stuff? Must be hard on the daddies as well.

Whoop! 12 weeks. Hallelujah!
Just waiting for a scan date (only had my booking in yesterday)

My man's stroppy because he has had to do more as I'm sooo tired somedays I really can't be arsed. Makes me laugh - he's just doing stuff that I would normally be doing day in day out, god help him if he had to do it permanently. He's also having a nesting phase and is suddenly into sorting the house out (which is great but he's no Nick Knowles!) and if I hear 'Well someone's got to do it or it doesn't get done' one more flippin time...!!!! Aaargh! MEN!

Thank you anda That is really reassuring to know, I feel a bit better about it this morning, I may have a little break from Facebook. And of course you are going to have two gorgeous little girls come September :)

garden woo hoo 12 weeks, hope you get your scan through soon xx

Congratulations on getting to 12 Garden

Blackholes - I agree with Aoife & Garden, very likely having a freak out about you & the baby and what it means for him etc. if talking to him about it is difficult then suggest (or engineer) that he speaks or meets other men with young children/babies. Idea being that they can show him that you'll still be alive afterwards?

bump - think you are totally normal, I rarely go on fb now, maybe once every 2 months. Will certainly not be posting any scan pics as I now know how hurtful they are for others to see. DS has his own account where I have put pics of him so family overseas can see him. I may do the same with this one once out (fx fx fx) but not on my page.

Bump - completely normal. Don't stress. I had one little episode of jealously that I'd rather not go into as very ashamed of it. But DH helped me understand that it was very normal to be feeling like that.
(I did have more than kne of course, just one that was particularly bad!)

Garden - wwaaaaaaaahhhhhhhooooooooo! Yay 12 weeks! :)

Congratulations garden on reaching that milestone. It feels like such a long journey to get to that point. I hope you get your scan through soon.

mummy Diy and jmf hope you are all feeling better today.

Bump I think everyone after a MC has moments of insane jealousy. Now that you are pregnant too, is it more about the innocence of always assuming it's going to be ok, which we have lost?

Can I ask if you told your parents you were pregnant again, before having 12 week scans etc? I don't know whether to tell my mum or not. Thing is, I know she'd worry and there is not a thing she can do to make it ok for me, but I have told her each time I've MC because I've been in bits, and then she has the shock that I was pregnant and the shock that I'm not all at once IYSWIM? They know we've been for the RMC testing and were intending to try again.

Hi again everyone, feeling a bit better and no more chucking up yet today (fingers crossed). Saw the out of hours gp in the end, they prescribed some anti sickness medicine but when I got home I read the leaflet and it said not to be taken in pregnancy, especially the first and third trimester, so that made me too scared to take it despite the doctor saying it was ok. But the sickness got better overnight anyway, could really use a duvet day but 2yo dd still needs looking after and feeding. mummy hope your migraine's better today, they're horrid aren't they, I get them too. jmf I think nausea is a good sign rather than a sign of anything being wrong, sorry you're feeling rough though.

bump I think how you're feeling is totally normal. We assume that all's going to go right for them and wrong for us.

Baking- I waited to tell my parents until I had an early scan at almost 9 weeks. It was super hard, as I am so close to my mum, but I didn't want them to have the weeks of getting excited when it my all go wrong. I think it very much down to your own relationship with them. I just wanted the reassurance that things were going in the right direction before I told them :)

Morning all, started the day with a titanic episode of the squits, my eyes are still watering. So not going into work until I can trust my guts to behave on public transport.
baking I haven't told my folks this time. By chance I was at home in ireland when I had my mc, so they got to see it up close and personal. My mum is a mad worrier, so I have decided not to tell them until after 10 week scan on Monday. Has also meant not telling one of my sisters as she is a blabbermouth. It has been really hard, but I think the right decision for me.
I think I have been feeling more pregnancy guilt than envy. I have a few friends who are infertile, and IVF is not working. Even at 38 I seem to be able to get preggers really easily. Just hope I can keep hold of this one. I feel guilty that it comes easily to me but not at all to others. Can't help feeling I am less deserving.

baking we told parents after seeing a heartbeat at an early scan, but asked them not to tell anyone else. They're being really good actually, not getting too excited or worrying out loud, I'm glad we've told them now.

Hi baking, i have made the conscience decision not to tell my mother yet. Many reasons really, one reason is that back when i miscarried in feb she was less than supportive and basically told me it really isn't any different than a heavy period and that in her day i wouldn't even had known. She also expected me to be back on my feet and started to think i was depressed after resting for a few days. My mother is normally a caring person and her treatment of me made me feel even worse, although now i think it was her own way of supporting me but at the time it was less than helpful.

I believe if your mum is going to support you no matter what the outcome it is worth telling her as you may need her iyswim but if she is going to be like my mum, then no i wouldn't tell.
If the unfortunate was to happen to me again, i don't think i could hear those words she spoke without resenting her so my choice is made. I'm going to wait until my 12 week scan and if all is well i will tell her. She doesn't agree with me having a large family, so not looking forward to telling her

I have so far only told my dh and my sister as although the other side of the country she gave me words of comfort when i had my mc, so i know i can rely on her and dh no matter what the outcome.
It makes me sad i have to keep baby a secret, as i used to be able to tell her anything. She nearly foiled me last night though as she saw some internet history on my mobile she was snooping at!

Hi ladies, sorry i've been awol for the last few weeks! Thanks for the birthday messages, things have been a bit mad here with birthday shenanigans, then i had job application and my uni assignment was due as well as things being manic at work. Have also been off with a stomach bug yesterday and today which has made me super paranoid about bun being ok :(

Hope everyone else is keeping well and welcome to any newbs on here.

diy glad to hear your sickness is getting less.

baking we told our parents after we had an early scan around 7 weeks and we'd seen a heartbeat so felt a bit more reassured.

aoife hope you feel better soon!