Hyperemesis Support

[LucindaE]

We need a new thread.

I hope everyone suffering from the Horrors of Hyperemesis will find this thread useful as a source of support and information.

There's no TMI on here - can't be by definition - and nobody should feel ashamed of moaning as much as they feel the need to.

I used to include extracts from MOH's wonderful website
sites.google.com/site/pregnancysicknesssos/
but I think that makes this link less visible so am merely putting the link. The information on this site is invaluable for sufferers, with information about medications, coping strategies, hospital admissions, useful links, advice for family members, and much more.

I would like to thank MOH MOP Ovaltine bluebirdsunshine (I think she's changed her nickname) Fluffy, Horsey Kalidasa, Nannyl and Everyone who has given such invaluable support and advice on previous threads.

Remember when you are at your worst, 'This Too Shall Pass'. It really will.

Quiet Welcome, sorry you feel so bad, and honestly, that sounds exactly like Hyperemesis to me, people often think they've got normal ms.
If you can't retain water, it's not normal ms. I think you need to contact the dr urgently that the meds aren't working at all - and also, get hold of some kestostixs - available from any chemists - which will let you know if you are getting dehydrated. At this rate you may soon will be if you aren't already, I'm afraid, sorry to give such grim news. If the measurement is more than 3+ ketones you need fluids through IV. I hope you can get more meds or the dr can get you better ones before that happens, don't be afraid to make a fuss, if a pregnant woman can't keep fluids down for more than 24 hours its a medical emergency anyway.
Do keep us informed, sorry to overwhelm you with this gloomy news!
Lucinda
xx

Quiet That's two answers that cross posted, do keep us up to date.
Humphrey cross posted, how are things today?
Lucinda
xx

I am much better thank you, I have just been sick but it seems to be a one off! DC are better too, although one of them was still sick into the lego box

Welcome quietninja - I think I remember your name from some of the ttc buses. I second the advice to return to the GP if things don't improve. I tried to battle through the first 12 weeks and ended up very poorly indeed. Peach squash seems to be something that lots of us are managing to tolerate.

Glad you are feeling better humphrey. I'm ever so tired, as my little acrobat is getting more and more active I am struggling to get to sleep which is unfortunately prolonging evening/night time vomiting and retching. At least I have the IV fluids every day, and am keeping down the lunch that they are giving me at hospital. I am seeing my consultant for a proper appointment tomorrow at 11.30, I get another scan to see how the little one is doing.

Thinking of everyone

Thanks for your replies. I didn't get to see doc (haven't left house for 3 days) dh called and doc called me back so he prescribed based on what I told him. Just decided to take next tablet and then threw up. I'm so light. Headed, I just can't face eating. Have been sipping lemonade but I know its not enough. I can't drink like normal. I feel disgusting, I haven't cleaned my teeth, I look a mess. I feel so ill. My hips are hurting cos all I can do is lie down. Thank you for talking to me. Ill ask dh to get the kestostixs? Does any pharmacy sell them?

Sorry just re read and you said anywhere sells them. Will ask him to get them. Thank you.

Hi Quiet I'd say it's HG. If you can't manage food and drink join our gang. This week is really dragging for me. I'm having one or two hours feeling ok but rest of the day is nausea city and I'm struggling to not vomit despite cyclizine and ondansetron. Have not left house in 5 days :( urgh I just feel so bloody ill. tired my husband was equally rubbish first time round and it put a huge wedge between us as I felt so unloved. I think that although they love us they have no imagination or sympathy. Poor you. Mine is better this time but did just ask when we might next have sex?!!!!!

Do you know I might just stick my fingers down my throat. I just feel so bloody rotten. It can't be worse than this. Anyone resorted to the same?

I did many times my first time round. it helps for a short while but only if there's anything to come up. and only for a few minutes. not worth it, but then I wasn't ill for as long as you have been

Hi quiet I've seen you on the December board. You really need to get this sorted. Are you meant to be taking the phenergan on a regularly basis? You really need something in your system all the time. Get back on the phone to your doctor and get your hubby to take a urine sample in so they can do the ketone test. That should give them a better indication.

I've been prescribed stemetil and its really helped me but you sound in a worse state than I am. I know it's naughty (and I chastise myself in advance) but you can get buccastem (which is the same as stemetil) over the counter. It's a weird thing you place under your lip but it means the drugs can get in your system even if you've puked. Might be worth asking the doctor if you can take both.

Hang in there xxx

I'm only 8 weeks tallyra so you probably were ill this long (since 5 weeks). I know it's a waste of precious fluid. Just feel desperate at times. Only managed three glasses of fluid before it set in today, will have to try some ice cubes as feeling headachey and dry.

quiet is the lemonade flat and full sugar? Really important that it is - perhaps try coke or freezing it? I also found using a straw helpful
How about boiled sweets? I found those herbal sweets from the sweet shop really helped disguise the vile taste in my mouth with dd, with ds3 it was lemon sherbets and with ds4 it was mints. However it took trial and error to get the right ones.
waves it's good you're keeping your lunch in, I feel like I should congratulate you . Have a good scan, I only ever had a later scan with ds4 to check his size, it was lovely 'cos yu could really see his face (and he was born less than a week later)

I cannot begin to imagine the horror of cleaning out the Lego box
Hi Lucinda you really are fab for continuing with this thread. sometimes just being believed makes a huge difference.

I just threw large amount of milton at the lego box and put it outside

yes, boiled sweets! Mrs Bridges fruit marbles were the ones I had. they are small so don't take long to eat and don't cut your mouth up too much either.

Ladies sorry to hear lots of you are feeling rubbish.

quiet first of all congrats, I was on some TTC buses with you. I second everything you have been told so far. If you can't get any sticks do try and get to the gp and let them test your urine. Just 24 hours with no fluids can cause ketones of 3+. I have had six admissions in this pregnancy so far and found getting the medication in through IV helped me control the sickness better then just trying to swallow meds. It may be that phengran isn't for you. It wasn't for me and I'm not on cyclizine and metochlopromide. Try a few to see how your body reacts with each one.

Still, none of you give up hope. 14+4 here and still feeling great although still nauseas. It will pass. I still can't quite believe I've made it though 8 weeks of hell but I have and I hope that gives you all something so you can battle away and start enjoying your pregnancies.

quiet welcome to the thread, but sorry you're hear if that makes sense. do take all the advice on here, last time I got terrible medical advice and I felt so much worse that I do this time. the hospital admissions have really helped me when things have got bad.

haylebop thank you for giving me hope

made it to work today! managed to keep both lots of meds down in the morning and some food, so I braved it and it was nice to see everyone. had a couple of dodgy moments but otherwise it went ok. only did a short day but it was good to see my colleagues etc.

DH has behaved a bit better this morning, no tantrums etc, so I am hoping he has taken the message on board. we'll see... thing is, he is tantrumming about having to sort house/ DS on his own when I don't feel up to it, but that is something I do for weeks on end when he is away so I am struggling to sympathise with him. I try and do stuff, but if staying still means I might keep my medicine down/ liquid down then that is what I need to do.

My DH being a total arsehole and has spent whole time since beimg back from eork trip being horrible to children criticising them and putting them down. They are 4 and 2 ffs, what does he expect? I am really really regretting this pregnancy as he clearly has no time for the DC we already have. Im not sure I can take this anymore. I feel so ill, can't work or look after DCs and all for a child who will add to the tension between us. Feel like crying.

Thanks for the support tired and lucinda. It's so nice to have somewhere to come where people understand. I didn't manage to keep anything down at work today and my blood pressure was so low that I barely had a voice.

tired my dh was like that in the beginning too, getting angry always being in bed and never helping out. It is just the most horrible thing and I'm so sorry to hear you dh is being terrible to you. If anyone should understand, it is them. Luckily my dh somehow got a wake up call (I'm not actually sure how the sudden change came about) but he has been brilliantly supportive the last 2 months.

Big hugs to everyone struggling today.

sorry your DH is being an arse honeymoonmum. Have a hug X And some

Thank you humphrey.

chocciemouse that doesn't sound fun. Can you take tomorrow off? You sound like you might need a trip to the doctor. Glad your Dh finally snapped out of it! My dh was quite supportive last time round which makes it harder to understand

honeymoonmum I am really sorry to hear about your Dh. I am in a similar position here and know how awful it is when you need them most and they behave the worst!

I'm just so jealous that you all have DHs about, arseholes or not. I've been in floods of tears today. I miss him so much and wish he hadn't fallen out of love with me. It's such a struggle to cope with everything by myself, and my DCs dad hasn't been on the scene for 4.5 years so I have no help at all. I am feeling very very low about everything tonight. Sorry, I don't mean to sound jealous and mean, I just miss the loving man I married, and don't want to be alone in this or with the baby. It's all got a bit much

Oh waves you are completely allowed to moan, I keep thinking of you and realising you have so much more to cope with than I do. You are doing amazingly and you will find a way, just as you have so far. Do you have friends/family you could lean on a bit more? Even if its just for a bit of company for you? (I know how lonely it can get)

Tbh our relationship is hanging by a thread for sometime, mainly because of the way dh treats me (the angry tantrums) ever since Ds was born, so I think in someways it would be easier on me if he just went. Whereas for you waves if must be so much harder emotionally if this came out of the blue.

Poor you waves I agree you have it way harder than any of us. It is a desperately lonely and awful condition and I think we all feel that way. tired our relationship was also hanging by a thread when we had DS 2, we did not have a physical relationship for the whole preg with DS1 until he was over 12 months old! dS2 was a last ditch attempt. Things improved until my current illness. It just goes to show what an effect this HG has on the whole family. Waves is there no possibility of reconciliation? Was it the stress of the HG? Big hugs to all of us HG victims.

Oh Waves, you have had a hard time. It's really not fair. But I guarantee you that your ex will rue treating you so badly. You are doing so well when so unwell and that makes you pretty amazing in my book.

I'm back at work and it's been lovely to see friends but not easy dealing with a few women's inability to understand why I was off so long with hyperemesis gravidarum. A couple are saying they have no work to give me when I'm meant to be working with them so I have very little to do. Coupled with pregnancy it's been making me rather teary. I think the problem stems from these women having had morning sickness and not realising how bloody debilitating HG is along with making you so ill.