Pregnant (IVF) Worriers

[Dildals]

Hi everyone,

This thread is for all you incessant worriers out there, not necessarily limited to IVF-ers, although I get the feeling the people who have had trouble TTC are more prone to worrying than others!

A few of us graduated from the IVF thread (link below) and are having a go at our own thread to get out of the other IVF-ers hair! So get your roomy jogging bottoms on for some virtual hand holding, mutual symptom spotting and staying sane until the next scan date.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/1691674-Excellent-Egg-Buddies-continued-Anyone-having-IVF-ICSI-in-Jan-Feb-and-March-2013-please-join-us

Oh Shazza I totally agree. Fuck me (Noks pregnancy has inspired me to start swearing again), the fact that I am going to be a mum, doesn't mean I want to dress mumsy. It also doesn't mean I have become a Mormon!

My review:
Top Shop Oxford Street - best pick of a bad bunch. The space allocated to mat wear in such a massive story is minute. It is literally the size of a medium sized London living room. It has a few 'hip' items though so it gets points for that. I already recommended the Leigh skinny jeans - in one word, comfy.
New Look Oxford Street - ... lost for words ... a sad affair ... there is nothing in there that you would want to wear. Also, size 10 was too big for me ... what is THAT all about?
I tried a non-mat bodycon dress in size 12, which was awesome, but because it was a size 12 it didn't fit right around the arms so I didn't get it, but it is worth having a look in the non mat section if you are after dresses/tops. Pregnancy ... the only time you can wear lycra confidently! (and still the mat section is full of 'let's just hide you away' rubbish).
H&M Oxford Street - marginally better than New Look but only marginally. A few tops that might be useful, but I didn't want to buy anything.

I haven't had a look at M&S mat section yet, but their wrap dresses are not too expensive (I picked up a pink/black leopard print one up for £25 that I am going to wear to SIL's wedding on Friday - that is totally fabulous. I will so be rocking the bump) if you need something dressy for work or want to look like an attractive human being again.

My verdict - internet shopping is where it is at.

And ASOS and ebay seem to be the best (and cheapest) bet for it. I am going to order a few things off ASOS, can report back on fit n quality if you want.

fairy I have seen the coral tankini you are talking about. It's nice! DH was all surprised, he said 'oh the models are pregnant!' :-)

I have also seen second hand bathing suits on ebay ... would you really buy a second hand one? Not sure. Anyway.

fairy fetal monitoring of twins, I understand one clip goes on baby's head the other one gets monitored via a band around your belly.

Well in being punished now with a colicky evening, exhausted already.

H&M is best for maternity stuff in my opinion.

Yes i was being told H&M was best for mat stuff but their recent selection is not v interesting.

All shops do do good ranges on the net though.

I've had some nice things from Mothercare too. It's all
down to personal taste though, innit? I'm not very fashion conscious and usually wear jeans-and-a-top at home and leggings-and-a-dress for work.

Morning everyone!
Dildals thanks for the comprehensive summary! I'm a bit away from buying maternity wear yet but I've got a wedding coming up when I'll be 16 weeks and a summer holiday when I'll be 17-19 weeks - the logistics of knowing what out of my existing wardrobe will work and what I'll have to buy is already tying me up in knots! Think I'm going to do a bit of an asos/seraphine/Isabella oliver/mothercare haul online and just return the bulk of it (obviously the unworn bits!).
Shaz was it you who had worries about jean shopping online? Me too - I am a classic pear shape (although technically I guess this should make jean shopping easier as I don't have to worry about my 'nipped in' waist anymore....!). I have seen Seraphine have a good range at their flagship store on Kensington Church St.
Am actually quite looking forward to wearing new kit, although I'm under strict instructions from DH not to 'bleed cash' on it.
Oh, and in other news I ordered a 'baby on board' badge from TFL which arrived yesterday. Going to remain unworn for another fortnight but it's ready to go and I'm feeling rather smug about it if I'm honest.

Morning girls

I hope you are all ok. I've been up for ages. Baked 2 cakes and screamed at DP already. This pregnancy has my hormones raging!

Mariana I hope your night was ok.

MrsH oh I feel your pain re jeans. I've got a big bum and small waist so they never fit! I love your DPs warning about bleeding cash. That's so funny. Tell him at this rate you'll be hard pushed to spend anything and you'll be wrapped in a sheet with a hole cut in it for your head for the entire 9 months!! I've been looking at Isabella Oliver on eBay. There's a lovely blue wrap dress on there at the mo but bidding is still at £35 and so it's going to be too expensive for me.

I got my badge quite early on after obviously hoping for a reason to get one for years. I wear it on the bus then take it off when I arrive anywhere. I feel abit of a fraud but I really wanted to wear it!!!!

Dildals thanks for the reviews. I'm definitely going to look at Leigh jeans. The wrap dress sounds great. You are going to look beautiful with your bump. I've always felt that my boobs were too small for a wrap dress so hopefully now is my chance! Definitely no to a secondhand swimsuit or underwear of any kind. I actually had a brand new fancy bra and knicker set that an ex bought me years ago and I'd never worn and I sold them on eBay stressing that they had never been worn. And someone wrote to me asking if it was possible for me to wear them first!!!!!! Oh my God.

X

Haha, there are some odd bods out there. I'm going to sell a couple of smarter maternity dresses on there but the rest of my stuff is going in the rag bin as it's worn out.

My maternity jeans, which I'm still wearing today, are from uber cheapo shop Peacocks. They were the only ones I found comfy and joyously they were only about £15.

My night was demanding. I'm cutting out dairy for a few days to see if that helps.

Funnily enough I went into peacocks in streatham yesterday but there was nothing.

Dairy from your diet Mariana? It's hard at first but you get used to it. I've been using the dairy free marg in cakes and biscuits and it works a treat. Flavoured alpro yoghurt is also nice.

Oh I was advised rice milk instead of soya milk. Apparently too much soya isn't good cause it mimics a hormone or something like that.

Ooh thanks, yes I'm to avoid soya too. Rice milk then, also almond milk apparently?

Oh yes if you are ok with nuts. Ivd never had it. I like rice milk but actually it would be good for calcium and protein thinking about it.

hazlenut milk is ace in hot chocolate too!, but would need to be proper drinking chocolate with no milk powder i guess?

I now have rice milk, coconut milk, almond milk and oat milk. I shall try each in turn until I find the best one. My main problem is milk for the endless cups of tea I drink. (I'm hoping it doesn't make any difference and I can go back to cows milk.)

I'm enjoying all the shopping chat ladies! didals your summary is v useful. We're off on hols when I'm about 14 weeks and I will need a few new essentials, as even now many of my clothes either don't fit or aren't comfortable. I 've already had to retire a great dress, as it's too tight over the boobage. I'm trying to work out when it's best to buy some clothes... Seeing that I've still not had a scan date through, it could be right near our holiday, which won't give me time to order anything. I may order some stuff, not open it and send it back if the '12' week scan is bad news. Next week, I'm going to get some cheapo, no waste band /hide the tummy stuff, prob from Primani tries not to think bout the sweat shop Shazz I'll be avoiding our hightstreet, which sounds crap as usual!

I will need a new cossie, as the tummy control panels in my current one would be super uncomfortable! Am contemplating a fairly covered up bikini - I normally avoid due to my tummy, but hey I'm allowed a tummy now right? Blurgh at the idea of a pre-used one.

mariana sorry to hear about your demanding night. Hope the day has been better!

Ooo mrshy do you have to email TFL for one of those badges?! I've turned into a total seat bitch, as really need one in the mornings when feeling spewy. Ahh you were at the Lister? Nice! I am contemplating FMC for the scan - thanks for the info. My clinic is too pricy.

shaz I'm so pleased all is well with mini shaz. Great news.

foody good luck with the scan tomorrow. I hope you have had an ok weekend and no more bleeding. The chat about erm, indulging is interesting. Our clinic said it was fine, but I'm too scared until the 12 week scan. Poor Mr Gin!

Waves to everyone else.

Have been worrying a bit this weekend about whether things are going ok or not. Did anyone else get the fear at about 9 weeks? I have no specific reason to be worried, but am scared I have a big empty sac, with no baby in it. I still don't have the 12 week scan date. I think if I knew when it was going to be, I'd feel happier. Am going to chase at the end of the week, when I'll be 10 weeks. Maybe I should stump up some ££s for a private scan, but we're pretty poor after all the ivf costs. The longer this goes on, the more I allow myself to daydream about the baby and am so worried about a nasty shock at the 12 week scan. Anyway, moan over. Hope you are all having lovely weekends!

Gin am sure it is really normal to have worries all the way along. Are you feeling ok other than the worry?

foody good luck for your scan tomorrow, how are you feeling?

I have been wondering about DTD too. My clinic advised not to do it in the 2ww but I asked when I rang with our BFP and they said it was fine. She did warn not to worry if we get some spotting afterwards as the cervix is more sensitive. So I have been a bit put off and we have not bothered. I am also a bit bleugh at all the junk from the progesterone pessaries but really miss the intimacy with DH. I am not sure how long I will have to continue the pessaries so it might be a bit off before we can DTD again.

I have 'the fear' today Gin. I am driving myself (and DH) mad., having a very 'I'm not pregnant' day today, Stupidly I did another hpt and am now stressed out because it was a bit more faint than one I did a week ago. Still a really strong line and came up quickly but looked a bit like a barcode...the control line looked barcodey as well. Do they vary a bit do you think? It was a morrisons two for three quid cheapie.

Have almost convinced myself that this means my hormones are on the way down especially as have lost some weight this week and tummy looks less pregnant now.However this is probably due to eating almost nothing after being sick every day and feeling sick almost all the time. Have sore boobs, normal twinges and no cbleeding, will someone please convince me that I am a fuckwit and that everything will be ok at my 7wk scan on Tues? I found out that I had lost my other Dd at my 20wk scan during my last pregnancy (twin pregnancy, have 1 dd from this) and think this is 't helping. Aaaarggggh I wish I could get out of my own head for a bit.

I am about 50/5- sweetie, and gin no more bleeding so thats good. half the time i am optamistic, but the other half sooo worried about the scan. Got a practical exam at uni in the morning, going to be interesting focusing on that! OH is meeting me for the scan. got a bit narked with him today when he said he would have a quiet word at work and'ask' about meeting me. Think I was bit over the top, told him it was up to him how important he thought it was for him to be there but that i didn't think he should be asking but telling, unless he doesnt think its that important. Anyway, I managed not to cry and he managed to to bite and went to work. The was he is about work sometimes really pisses me off, like needing to swap shifts and stuff, I dont feel like he always really tries, just tells me he couldn't cause he can't be arsed to try. Grrrr I am GRUMPY today!

sorry 50/50

Sorry you feeling so crap crisps, i would invite you to my head but its no fun either I am afraid! sounds like we are in similar 'boats', only o had a total freak out on friday and have a scan tomorrow now, not tuesday (all the difference its going to make) but it made me feel better on friday.
After my freak out i did loads of reading about hpts and apart from being + or- they are crap and unreliable re amounts of hormone. each brand is a bit different and each test is not exactly as sensitive as each other, even if from same box. Also read about getting 'surprising' results when you test after 6 weeks with cbdigital. bloody nightmare though, really do hope you feel better. sounds like you been having a rough time with the puking and all too x

gin I was worried like you that I would get to the 12 week scan and nothing would be there. I had a scan at 11 weeks and it was all fine. I tried to take my mind off the worry by reminding myself that after a heartbeat is seen on an ultrasound at 7 weeks, the chances of a mc happening when you have no symptoms drops to less than 10% (I think maybe 5% - there is a webpage out there somewhere that I can't find again). So really if you have no heavy bleeding or cramping the chances are everything is fine.

crisps I am so sorry that you lost a baby before but I think expat posted on here once that the darkness of the line only relates to the type and amount of ink in the HPT, not the level of HCG. So if it's a cheapie the dye might be skimpy. And if you are feeling sick all the time, sore breasts and no bleeding then that sounds like you're pregnant to me. As you say, you have probably lost a bit of weight from being sick.

foody I really hope your DP gets the time off because of course he should be there. Men just don't always understand how we feel about these things. He may be thinking that the chances of something going wrong are really so low that the scan is only a formality? Good luck with it.

As for me, I am 18 weeks as of tomorrow and although I've been feeling little flips and plurps and flickers that could be the baby I am dying for a good strong kick or two (or many!) I remember the first time I definitely felt DS, he knocked 3 x on the side of my bump like he was saying 'hello"! That was the moment I suddenly felt as though I had a relationship with him, I thought "oh it's you!" rather than "the baby" or "the pregnancy".

Thanks foody. Think I have been obsessively googling the same as you. At the end of the day all five tests are strong lines, just different thicknesses, colours, shades etc. Plus the strongest one is so dark it as almost black, so it wouldn't be possible for it to get any darker. DH is right when he says that if my sickness is getting worse then it must be hormonal. Am not going to do any more as it drives me bonkers! Argh chin up we only have 34 weeks of mentalling left!

Am going to go and google some more baby names to try to think positive. Is your scan tomorrow?

And thanks fairy too!, x

yes crisps trying not to stress about it, but hmmm, its not working! might go have nice warm (not hot, grr) bath.

Well good luck for tomorrow foody. Just think, all this stressing will be forgotten when you go and see your little jelly baby and it's gorgeous little heartbeat! xx

Just read my previous posts and am def off to put the grumpy stick down, (hitting myself on the head with it is not helping) and have a bath. crisps 34 weeks!!! hope this mentaling settles down a bit, for a bit at least.