Laura Ashley/Creme Egg graduates - pregnant after MC

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A place to carry on chatting after a BFP and support each other through the stressful bits. I hope to see many new graduates appearing....

Hi all, sorry to hear what your going through JBird. Life sucks sometimes. Sorry not been on here. Been really down and fed up. Still playing a waiting game. I have an appointment at the miscarriage clinic today and am at the EPU thurs anyway so will just have to see I guess.

JBird, so sorry. Thursday is ages away, but hopefully long enough that you'll know either way (and you're not stuck in limbo for weeks on end).
Hope your little Pac Man slept well after his day of adventure at the wedding. I've worn heels once since DS arrived and that was a childfree night out!

shell, my discharge is so heavy atm DH asked me yesterday if I'd wet myself. Buying a liner pack of these reuseable sanitary pads to avoid such sexy mishaps again

jbrd and lucky so sorry to hear what you are both going through right now. Thinking of you

diy the cb digis totally stress me out, I have sworn not to use them ever again. Do you need to get a 3+? Today you are pregnant. I've heard hcg levels can vary wildly yet still result in healthy pregnancies. Have you got a scan date booked yet?

Thinking of you jbrd you sound like a very strong person, xx

And you lucky hope you get some answers x

Hope it's good news today lucky, keeping everything crossed for you.

Thanks for the reassuring words, I think I may step away from the clearblues and what will be will be. Got another doctors appointment later for the results of the pregnancy test they sent off ( - they've never wanted to double check before but it was a different dr to normal) and am glad as the tummy pains are getting worse, having to sit down often and am feeling shivery on and off. Just have a bad feeling, but then I'm not sure I trust my feelings anymore!

How's everyone else today? Hope you've got some of the lovely sunshine we've got here.

jBird- it is so hard when you have to wait. I'm in the middle of it too. I suppose I think better that than in some countries where they whip you off to a D&C without confirming or giving time for nature to take its course... especially as bleeding affects many pregnancies (and sometimes a twin is lost but the other survives) the mind boggles.

I have never gone back to clearblues after my 1st MC - I tend to have missed MCs so they'd be happily showing 3+ weeks even after I've bled out or had surgery.

I've been in touch with the RM investigation people - they can see us in July on the NHS or we can get the ball rolling privately much sooner. Knowing my GP she'll take till July to do the paperwork so might dip into the building society... if this isn't a rainy day what is??? I've warned work and they were supportive.

DIY maybe you might just be a bit under the weather? Stress plus a bit of a virus could easliy explain your symptoms. If I didn't know I was pregnant right now (for today we are), I would think I was sick.

Today I am mostly feeling knackered. My OH has taken control of my diet to try and avoid constipation (irrational brain suspects 'straining' contributed to my MC TMI???), also hopefullly makes him feel more involved in cooking junior, so I get a nutritious lunch to take to work every day. Just had lovely bean chili, now I am desperate for a nap but I have to go and talk to the big big big boss about something a bit tricky. I would normally be crapping myself as he is a tough task master, but I am really too knackered to get my knickers in a twist.

lucky how did you get on today? hope they were able to give you some positive news.

hope you are doing ok jbrd. when are you meant to be starting your new job (unless you've started and i missed it) Thursday must seem like a lifetime away, hope it goes quickly for you. i've got my hospital appointment tomorrow at 10am, i wish i could let you take it instead.

you were both my fertile friday poas buddies (along with gardenworm) so i'm reaching out offering some good hand holding.

i had my first day of proper nausea today, no actual sickness, more dizzy and always thirsty and having no idea what food might help. satsumas and salty kettle chips seemed to fill a gap but it only started easing off at about 4pm this afternoon. i wore the motion sickness wrist bands yesterday and they seemed to help, i went to put them on today but they were visible under my shirt and didn't want anyone in work asking. didn't help that DH didn't come to bed til 1am so i didn't get much sleep. might hit the hay soon as i'm so tired (and it might be the only way i'll stop eating crap). no doubt DH will wake me when he comes up...don't really want him to sleep in the spare room but i really need to sleep well tonight but not sure if i'll be able to with overthinking about the appointment tomorrow.

Thanks Janie - I'm not starting my new job until the 29th, so had been looking forward to a couple of weeks off as a lady of leisure! Could really have done without that extra worry, pregnancy is so stressful. Starting the new job will be a doddle compared to this.
Hope your nausea doesn't hang around too long, and that your DH is a bit more careful re your sleep.

Lucky Hope you got some answers today...

squiz I agree, there are pros and cons with the hands-off approach... Although I think having had a mc recently helps me managing my expectations. I was nowhere near as 'composed' at this stage last time, I almost begged them for a scan.

The bleeding seems to have slowed down a bit , but the back pain is still quite bad, had to take more painkillers today. Trying to keep busy, without overdoing it... Today, I have baked bread and mowed the lawn, then went and had a cuppa with a good friend, who knows what's going on. Gave the gym a miss tonight, that might not be such a good idea. Trying to organise things to do tomorrow. With such nice weather, it feels like a shame to stay inside and watch crap TV.

Good plan to keep busy jbrd, Paul Hollywood has made me want to make scones (they also seem to be my lunch of choice at the minute so that's handy).

12hrs and 22 minutes countdown for me

Jbrd well done at distraction techniques. Probably best. Am thinking of you and hoping for good things.

Janie, meep for scan tomorrow! Wishing you all the best of good scan vibes, and will be thinking of you too!

thanks for the good vibes pink. i'm pretty petrified but managed to sleep thank goodness with the help of earplugs (those soft silicone ones are magic).

will let you know xx

Best of luck with your scan Janie!!

Jbird good to keep busy. I am at work this week, helps me forget the scan on Friday. Also I tend to only notice any twinges later in the day. Evenings are difficult though. If/when they give me the bad news I don't want to be waiting weeks to bleed (on a practical level the MC clinic have spots available in July but you need to be fully recovered, but also I think it would me mental torture) so once I am sure I will ask for medical intervention I think.

Jbird soooo sorry talking about my problems!! Still of course keeping my fingers crossed your prognosis WON'T be like mine!

This pregnancy stuff really is tough going. Not for the feint hearted. jbrd and squiz how you are handling the degree of stress you are under is awesome. Big hugs to you both.

Thank you all for your support wishes! I'm doing more baking today - yesterday's breads both had to go in the bin , but I don't mind in the slightest, I find it very therapeutic... Today I'm attempting ciabatta, which we then hopefully can eat with our dinner (yeah, right). A friend is popping over for a cuppa in a minute, and then I'm going to visit another friend this afternoon.

The bleeding seems to have slowed down a little bit...but I'm not getting too excited just yet. Still got a bad backache, have taken paracetamol for it. I spoke to the EPU again this morning, as I was worried about what to do about my heparin injections, but they assured me that as long as the bleeding isn't really strong, I should continue.

Good luck today, janie! And hang in there, squiz x

Good luck today janie. X

Thinking of you JBird and squiz x

thanks for the good luck girls - it seemed to work! a lil bambino is in there much to my amazement!! i think i'd been prepping myslef for the worst so i'm a bit stunned to be honest! 8wks1day (i was 4 days out). DH and i both got a bit teary when they told us - i kept asking them to say it again. i don't think i believe it! going to buy a euromillions!

next scan booked for 6 weeks time, i'll hopefully be 14 weeks then - my lmp dated me at 10 weeks today but my uber long cycles mean they saw me early (oopsies for them, yay for me).

now i have to go back to work and pretend i'm normal aaaggghhh!

Oh Janie I am so happy for you!

Oh yay Janie, so pleased! Try and hold on to that happy feeling! I'm so pleased for you. :)

I managed 4 days. I am back to freaking out now. Damnit.

Janie, fantastic news! Scones all round.

JBird, glad it's slowed down, enjoy making the ciabatta good that you're keeping busy

Woo Hoo Janie, that must be an amazing relief. Was the scan cute? I looked at some pictures on-line last night and they didn't look quite real - somehow like a three year old had drawn what they think an embryo should look like.
I have mine on friday, I get a little bit excited and then the dread comes crashing down. Becoming less and less functional as the week progresses.

Congrats janie!! Lovely to hear your happy scan news .

jbrd, sqiz, lucky, thinking of you x

Lovely news janie so happy for you :) isn't 14 weeks a bit late for the next scan though?

ibip right there with you! I was so sure I'd be ok after a scan but no just as crazy as ever :)