Laura Ashley/Creme Egg graduates - pregnant after MC

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A place to carry on chatting after a BFP and support each other through the stressful bits. I hope to see many new graduates appearing....

squiz I'm sorry you have to spend one more week in limbo. I hope next week's scan is more conclusive and you have good news!

I think the only way to get through the first few weeks is to concentrate on yourself and do things that you enjoy and can get distracted by. I read books and watched films as much as I could. choc I've also found sleeping a bit difficult - I'm very tired and go to bed early but then wake up a couple of times to go to the loo, sometimes finding it difficult to get back to sleep (not always though)...and annoyingly enough, on most days I wake before my alarm goes off in the morning! And I haven't had sore boobs either...mild nausea (some days nothing at all though), tiredness and going off certain foods I normally like (which changes day by day, the only constant has been eggs with this pregnancy while with DD it was vanilla ice cream!)

I have had a bad stomach since Friday night and I didn't eat anything dodgy but my DD was unwell earlier this week so I think I may have caught what she had...worried that it may have affected the baby but most probably I'm being unreasonable...I know that statistically the risk of miscarriage is very low now but I can't help worrying...I was the same when pregnant with DD, I had had a scan at 11 weeks, was calm for a couple of days and then started stressing again till my next scan...my DH rolls his eyes whenever I've been negative these past couple of days....I don't know how he puts up with me sometimes!!

Jmf - can you schedule some nice treats between now and your scan break up the 20 day wait?

IBIP glad you have been able to sleep better since the scan, I'm hoping for that! During the week I'm fairly bad what with stressing about the next day at work and keeping it all secret whilst feeling ill...

But, my ms has really calmed down this weekend and today I haven't had any so far. My scan is on wednesday at exactly the point our mmc was said to have happened last time. This is really tough but I know symptoms come and go but it was so reassuring to have them. I'm now 7+1... = paranoid.

Pentagon my DH is exactly the same. I promised that after my private scan at 10w I'd calm down. I absolutely did for about 24 hours

Now just before every scan I get very very anxious (and am generally worried the rest of the time) and I can't believe that the ladies on my AN thread are decorating nurseries and buying buggies and car seats and furniture. It's like they expect everything to be okay, and I just can't get into that mindset, nor can I understand it. DH doesn't understand my mindset either, nor my disbelief at their shopping. Gary and the others that are further along - is this normal? Does something click at some point?

Diet, how many weeks are you? I find those on my AN thread VERY possitive, which is great... But I am not in the same place either, not even close.

Vocal 18 weeks. They were already buying things when I was at the point I mc'ed last time though!!

Welcome chocolate! Congratulations.

IBIP, so glad the scan went well. Hark at you & your wriggly baby

Squiz, I'm sorry you're in limbo for another week but so very glad it's not an ectopic. Hope you managed a night out yesterday.

lucky, hope everything is ok with you & the bleeding has stopped.

RE telling people; I think telling someone with their own fertility issues should be done via an email, at least they don't have to put on the 'happy face' for you.

Janie, I've never had ms but I do get the vertigo/dizziness in early pregnancy so you're not alone. Hope you're having a lovely anniversary weekend.

anda, I don't understand that mindset either!
Even when I was pg with DS & announced to family at 5wks (pre ttc/mc problems) I had sweaty palms because we ordered the buggy at 24wks.
We discuss names but wouldn't pick out a name until after birth, my AN thread some people are already referring to their bumps by name & a few had finished decorating their nurseries before the 20wk scan.
I think it's being a realist/slight pessimist/self preservation but I can't think of anything worse than having it go wrong (even if it's 'only' the baby having to spend time in NICU) & coming home to a fully decorated room with everything ready to go.

Vocalista, hope your symptoms return & Wednesday hurries up & gets here.

I totally can't face the anti natal threads. I am trying now to be positive, but I won't even be thinking about buying anything until after a 20 week scan. Especially not big things!

As to when being sure kicks in, I think it is different for every one. My best friend sadly lost a baby at 33 weeks. She is now 32 weeks after a lot of mc, and still won't buy anything at all. She says she is going to be in hospital afterwards, and she has enough people who she trusts to go shopping for her after the birth, so she doesn't need to get anything. I completely understand why, but I do hope I will be able to enjoy it a little more than she has.

With DD I refused to get excited until after I've had the 20-week scan. Also I managed to hide it from most people till then, even though I doubt I can do the same this time as I'm showing a lot more. I remember feeling more reassured after I've had the anomaly scan and could feel her move inside me (such a wonderful feeling) - even though, of course, you start to panic if you don't feel the baby for a few hours...the worry never ends! I also had a scan at 35 weeks because they had found my placenta to be low during the 20-week scan so I was even stressed before that one...not about the placenta's position but whether the baby measured/looked normal. I just wish I were one of these people who are oblivious and enjoy/celebrate every minute of their pregnancy.

anda, last time I did't buy anything until I was about 30 weeks pregnant and that was jsome clothes at my mun's insistence and the baby travel system (just because there was a special offer on). I was so scared I would jinx things - and I'm not normally superstitious!

Gary, I totally agree with your comment about telling people who are ttc or have had fertility issues/mcs via email.

squiz hope you're doin ok

lucky thinking of you, hope things have settled down x

anda with DS it was strange, outwardly after the 20w scan I did seem to relax, think we did the nursery at 30w and I let my mum start knitting etc. and we discussed names, but my mind never accepted it was going to be ok I don't think...like my brain KNEW something would go wrong so was just waiting for it? Does that make sense? All those feelings went the moment I went overdue (DS was born at 41+5) was literally like a switch, got very excited and desperate to meet him I don't know, but I think I will be more relaxed this time after the 20w scan, hope so anyway

choc hope you sleep better tonight We are telling people after the 12w scan, just as we see them no big announcement I don't think?

pentagon scans are my best friend and worst enemy! I get so stressed beforehand and the relief only lasts a short time, DH despairs

I've never looked at the antenatal threads, it's never even occurred to me tbh?!

Strange day, had sharp pains which has been stressing me out, but felt really sick all day so not sure what's goin on

Evening everyone, I am ready for my bed already
Hoping for a dreamless sleep as have my usual early start tomorrow (I live an hours drive from work)

In Russia, it's considered bad luck to buy anything until the baby is safely born. Then the father (plus MIL or OH friends) has to go out and get everything in one got before they come out of hospital.
I'm not Russian btw but have done a lot of projects there and work with several Russians now. They are always that we give presents of baby clothes etc before birth.

Shell - I have also had sharp pains today. Trying to reassure myself tht I only saw bebby on Friday, so must be okay growing type pains. This stress never ends does it! Roll on 12 week scan. Do you have a date for yours yet?

Sickness back bleurgh

Good evening, lovely ladies Hope you are all OK, trying to catch up with what's been happening! Sorry for not name-checking, but massive congrats to those of you who've had reassuring scans, easing ms and increasing other symptoms.

And thanks for asking how I am... We had a nice time at the wedding, but it was exhausting - mainly because DS (22 months) was like Pacman on Acid and just kept running, jumping, climbing non-stop for the whole time. I am never wearing high heels again!

However, I'm not too good - the spotting has turned into bleeding, and it has gradually been getting stronger over the last couple of days. Today I had such bad cramping and back pain that I had to take paracetamol and lie down for a bit. And I've also started seeing bright red blood, too (it was still brown/dark red until now).
It is exactly like last time, I don't have a lot of hope anymore Especially now that I'm cramping and getting bright red blood. I will call the EPU tomorrow and see what they say.
I cannot believe that this is happening again.

Just checking in and saying goodnight. I'm not very good at keeping up with you all on here!

Just want to qyickly say that things do get less difficult as time goes by, although there are always new things to worry about, getting past 12 weeks and then then 20 does keep you motivated.
I'm 22+5 now and Baby kicks all the time (and makes me jump!) and it is really nice to start feeling like I can relax a bit and try to bond with her.

Hope you all have a good week and our little babies keepon growing and wriggling around.

Night x

Jbrd I'm so sorry this is happening. I really really hope it isn't what you think. Hope you get to speak to the epu nice and early tomorrow. Massive hugs x

Jbrd get yourself to the EPU. It might not be happening again, but you need some answers for your own sanity. Will be thinking of you.

Jbrd- really sorry to hear what's going on.
Hope you get an appointment today and you are being looked after.

jbrd how very stressful. Must have been really tough to be at the wedding with your symptoms. Sounds like a visit to the epu is needed. Big big hugs.

jbrd so sorry to hear about the bleeding, was hoping all would work out well for you. that wedding must have been hard. Hope you get some answers at the epu ASAP. lucky how are you doing?

Bit worried here, more cramps yesterday and the clearblue I did this morning still showed 2-3 (like the one last week). Am 5+4 now and whichever way I try to work out the maths, there is no way conception happened less than 3 weeks ago.

Oh jbrd you poor thing. I'm so sorry about what you're going through, still hoping everything might be ok for you x

DIY I'm not really sure how accurate the digis are, they could be a couple if days out in which case you might get the 3+ later in the week? Sorry for not being very helpful

DIY there is a thread on here somewhere about how inaccurate those things are. From memory one woman with twins never read.above 1 to 2 weeks. Others bounced around with no rhyme or reason. More of a gimmick I think to get us to part with even more lolly!

betty thanks for chipping in, great to hear from someone nearly out the other side. Sometimes it is really hard to keep positive so great to hear your good news.

Just spoken to the EPU, they want to me to monitor it a bit longer, I'm to tell them about any changes with the bleeding (or anything else). Scan booked in for Thursday morning.
Although I had hoped that I'd get scanned sooner, I feel surprisingly calm (almost fatalistic) about their hands-off approach... There is nothing they can do at this point, it is just a question of wait & see. The nurse I spoke to was very nice, asking lots of questions (mainly to rule out an ectopic in the first instance), being quite straightforward about it all, which is what I prefer.

Need to figure out now what to do to distract myself over the next few days. Have to move my booking appointment, it clashes with the scan. Who knows if I'll still need it

Jbrd I'm so sorry, you sound like such an amazing person to keep goin thru the wedding with all this goin on. Hope you get in the EPU early x

choc how abt this for keeping you up at night (TMI alert!)...a sudden gush from down below woke me up last night, of course I assumed it was blood and ran to the loo but it was just the usual discharge...WTAF?! It was so strong it woke me up? No more sleep for me after that

pink yeah only 2 weeks tomorrow to wait now...my lovely GP requested the earliest possible date because of my history and they have obliged Have you? Hope your pains go today x

DIY I waited till I was passed 6w to test for my 3+ for that reason....can you get another one (expensive I know) and try again in a week...more waiting tho I'm afraid

Sorry Jbrd cross posted....Thurs is a long time to wait, I had to do that with my last MC and by then it was pretty clear and the scan showed everything had gone and I didn't have to go back so I think they make you wait so you don't have to keep going back if the worst has happened. Hopefully things improve for you tho and you can go in and get some positive news x Look after yourself in the meantime x