Laura Ashley/Creme Egg graduates - pregnant after MC

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A place to carry on chatting after a BFP and support each other through the stressful bits. I hope to see many new graduates appearing....

Oh shell. Don't worry mine has been coming and going constantly.
I actually had a little chat with baby yesterday. I said to it, you haven't been giving me much hassle. Don't try and be polite, if you need to make me sick, or crampy, you do it, just grow big and strong!
Today, I am crampy. I think baby listened.

Janie. Good to hear your boobies are sore :)

Aw that's lovely pink since I've been PG I've had a strong pulse in my tummy and I tell myself it's the babysitting me know its ok I'm not crazy honestly

Was meant to say baby letting!

ah you guys talking to your babies :) today I had a little nostalgic think about what baby kicks feel like. It was inspired by the hand dryer at work (!) it's one of those super loud ones and I always thought it would startle the baby when I used it and it came back to me today. Only allowed myself a bit of gooeyness though then head straight back in the sand

bod i'm so pleased all is well, you must get better signal at that hospital I have been checking up on you all day! xx

lucky sorry you are having pain and worries, I know we're all saying it but it's all likely to be normal stuff

Great news Bod!

Welcome & congrats jmf!

Janie, if you've got credit cards transfer them to a 0% if you haven't already.
Work out how much you need to spend each month on bills/rent/petrol etc & see if you can cut down (transfer phone/gas/etc).
Both put a certain amount into the joint a month (eg. £150 each) which is for food/household bits (& saving towards baby stuff) & don't spend more than that.
My DH is terrible with money, so he keeps track on everything on the PC..if he won't listen to you, present all the facts (your incomings v outgoings) and let them do the talking.
Our food shop is £35 a week for 3 (plus 2 rabbits!), when I first moved in, he was spending £200 a week as a single bloke in the supermarket & £15-25 on lunch a day....and he wondered why he ended up in the red every month [buhmm]
The Credit Crunch board on here is full of tips & people who make me seem less passionate about the whole thing.
Well done on having sore boobies! I have milky boobs!

squizita, how is the spotting today? Hope you're ok. x

Lucky good luck for tomorrow.

at everyone, hope you all have a lovely, stressfree (as possible) week. x

I don't think it was spotting, so far been to the loo twice today no probs. [Blush]

Gary £35 a week????? How? I'm amazed and in awe!

Lucky not too much longer to wait, thinking of you today X

Morning all. Glad wasn't spotting squid :) I'm having another panic! I looked on the November thread to see if anyone having back ache like me and someone has posted on the dangers of scans and dopplers. Am really worried now about going. Also looked on dr google and some sites say can irritate the uterus and cause bleeding. :( don't know what to do now. £35 a week on food for 3 :) totes amaze :)

Aw thanks Gary, that's fab advice. I did up a spreadsheet last night (I do love spreadsheets! Even have a mug saying do!!) going to print it out later. I'm thinking after we put money aside for food etc that we should give ourselves 'pocket money' each month/week and we just have to stick to it, don't take cards out etc. I'm going to try the £35 shop. And I'll also have a look at the money forums on here for extra advice. Thanks again Gary x

Lucky I'm not sure what to say, only that I'm sure scans wouldn't be done if there was a risk? Maybe let the consultant know your concerns and they'll be able to explain better? Try to stay calm about it all (easy for be to say I know) xx

I posted a couple of hours ago and it's gone?!

Think I said good luck to lucky and glad you're not stressing anymore squiz

I am a bit upset as scan people can't fit me in till a week Sat...am on cancellation list tho. Wish I hadn't booked and tried elsewhere but I've paid deposit now

Aw shell that's so annoying! Still, you may get a cancellation, it probably happens a bit unfortunately. Can you not call round an then cancel if you find something? What is their cancellation policy?
I am literally counting the hours now until scan. Still freaking out regularly, had to leave the middle of a phone call earlier as was convinced I felt dampness! I didn't.

Am also finding it really hard - I am really really close to my parents, but after how disappointed they were the last 2 times I haven't wanted to tell them again until we are sure there is a bebby growing, but it means that I am not speaking to them as much to avoid letting something slip!
So hard- I wish time would speed up!!

I lose £35 if I cancel . Just feel stupid as I wasn't sure I needed one and now am desperate and have to wait!

Snap, in toilet now for a knicker check myself..pleased to report all clear

That's tough with your parents, we have taken the view that we would rather tell people I've had an MC than am PG then have tell abt the MC...but no way my mum wouldn't work it out (my bump is obvious to me/her/DH) and I see her all the time as she has DS when I'm working so we told her...will you tell them after the scan or wait till 12 weeks?

I told my mum quite early days, I want to make her aware of why I might/might not do things out of the ordinary! I don't think she's told my dad, he has no idea about 'womens' things' and can be quite blase and judgemental without meaning to.

I've still been a bit check-e today too. Keep reminding myself that tiny specks of all colours mean nothing and are probably dust from the bathroom or particles in the look roll. Also have a pain low left side (almost deffo wind) and keep poking my boob to check it still hurts haha.

Planning on waiting until after the scan. No way I could wait til 12 weeks, is already making me sad not being able to talk to her as I usually would.

Today is such an effort. Ugh.

Hi all,

I got a really good letter from my new hospital last night (new because I asked to be referred to another nearby hospital rather than the same one as last time where I had the MC) offering me two scans... a re-assurance scane, 2 weeks today, when I will be 7w4d and a second when I will be just over 12 weeks. I was so pleasently surprised that they've offered me two! I was supposed to be away for work, but I'm putting this first and will be definitely making time for this appointment. It also means we can cancel our private one.

Can anyone advise on risk of MC after seeing a heartbeat at 7w4d? I think last time we only got to about the same time but I suspect there was never a heart beat!

My symptoms are making me less panicky about everything. I have enough feeling sick, tired and weird crmaps/pains/going to the loo to keep me sane and to convince me it's really true.

Wow vocal what a lovely letter to get!! If only all hospitals were as lovely!! I'm wondering I'd they sent me my date because they think I would be 12 weeks...my lmp was 27th January but my cycles are 46-50 days so they might not know in only going to be 8+5 on the day. I won't be letting them know otherwise though, is that bad if me?

Lucky, hope you got on ok xx

Janie, they will probably offer you an additional scan at 12 weeks too, so you will have had two! Will you have had your booking in appointment by then? As they will ask you about dates then I think?

Yey vocal that's fab :) I'm feeling pretty low right now. Had a panic at my scan appointment after reading risks on dr google and the nov thread and the lady thought it best to only do the external scan. She assured me that it was perfictally safe but it was just best to wait for 2 weeks time And do another external one. Now I'm in limbo as she confirmed a pregnancy in the right place but was measuring small and no heart beat. She said I also have an introverted uterus which makes it hard to see. So more waiting and stressing for me until 2 weeks tomorrow! Pink - I havnt told my parents yet as they were so sad last time round. I would say I'd I Mc again but at least they wouldn't get excited first! Please let things be ok this time (crossed fingers , legs etc!)

that's a shame lucky but you are still early for an external scan so fx the next 2 weeks go quickly for you (and me too...mine is 16th and we're the same dates i think)

vocal my letter said i would be having an appointment that would last approx 2 hours and would include a scan... i'm in belfast so maybe this is my booking in appointment.... when i asked the gp what would happen next she said i would get a letter giving me the date for my scan so i just assumed it was this... ah well at least the ball is rolling :)

pink i did tell my mum and dad last week...i'm also very close to them and over easter we had a big boozey lunch so it would be mega odd if i wasn't drinking. although my mum is not mentioning it at all...i know she's just trying not to get excited as they were really sad last time. i asked her not to tell anyone except for her friend who is a private gyn/ob consultant (who did my d&c back in october) and she has offered her services throughout my pg. not sure what to do now eek. shes based at a hospital about an hour and a half away as opposed to my local hospital 15 mins away.

Lucky sounds like earlyness (for external scan) and your introvert uterus not wanting to play ball and show the bean were conspiring against you today! Bah humbug. But at least they have said its in the right place which is a good thing. Just the 2ww....annoying!

Janie personally if I had the option of private care with a family friend I would bite their arm off even if hospital is an hour away. During the early stages as long as you are ok getting there personally I don't think it really matters how close it is.

Oh lucky, that's so annoying. But good that is in right place.

Janie- I second garden, I would be using everything I can get. Does the friend have a scanner?!

Oh and spoke to my mum again this evening, had a good chat and manage not to mention it. It isn't helping that 2 of my cousins are pg at the moment and I think she wants to join in the fun with her sisters being granny's! Ugh! But for the same reasons, I am not saying anything until I have a scan and a heartbeat. :)

well done for not saying pink! my mum is the same, all of her friends are grannies already so i think she is feeling a bit left out. i'm her only hope right now, my brother is older and single so unless he manages to upduff a one night stand...!!

and yes i will defo take her up on the offer, i don't want to cancel the 16th april hospital appointment until i know what she wants to offer... my mum didn't even know how far on i was so won't have told her i want a scan NOW!! god ...how ungrateful does that make me sound

What a shit day, of to bed to get rid of it and start again tomorrow

Hope your ok lucky

We do booking in after 12 week scan here and that's the first time you see the MW janie...appt is abt 2 hours yeah. I think it's best as you dont have to go thru it all/blood tests etc. if you've had an MMC

Hi everyone, sorry about the bad days but wow, what a lovely letter! Much better than my hospital - when I phoned to chase my scan referral the lady told me they wouldn't see me until after 9 weeks and she started to say it was because 'things have often happened by then' and trailed off. It made me feel even worse.

I heard some terrible news today. There is a lady in my dept at work who announced she was pg just after Xmas while I was still off after my MC and we would have had the same due date. I didn't say anything to her as I don't know her very well and I wanted as few people as possible to know anyway (only my boss knows). Anyway, I've been pleased for her but it's been pretty tough looking at someone who was the same stage I would have been at every day.
Anyway, she wasn't very well before Easter and hasn't been back and then today my boss had to sit me down and tell me that she lost the baby on Easter Sunday. It's so awful. She will have to deliver the baby as she is 26 weeks and I just feel so upset for her. My boss was terribly upset and I sort of froze and couldn't look at him. I think he might think I'm a heartless cow but I'm not, I just couldn't take it in - I was in total shock until I got home.
I know that you are never really 'safe' but by that stage you sort of think things will be ok. Feel so desperately sad for her.
Sorry to dump sad news but my oh was totally nonplussed by how upset I was - he figures that I don't know her very well so why am I upset.
Xxx