Laura Ashley/Creme Egg graduates - pregnant after MC

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A place to carry on chatting after a BFP and support each other through the stressful bits. I hope to see many new graduates appearing....

oh misslolita that's so terribly sad, i'm not surprised you are so upset. the poor poor girl. words just can't describe how awful mother nature can be sometimes.

shell i hope tomorrow is a better day for you. it's nearly the weekend which is what's getting me through. xx

Thanks Janie. I know her baby was desperately wanted too which made it easier for me at the start. Mother Nature is very, very cruel.

Evening ladies,

Lucky sorry your scan didn't help give you some answers. Hopefully the next few weeks will pass quick for you.

Hope your day is better tommorrow too shell

Gosh you are all so good nt telling people. Told my mum ages ago when she had to come rescue me as I had stupidly run out of petrol nd also realised left phone in a changing room. She got to me in a fit of sobbing and snivelling. Just blurted it out. Told loads of people really. Not superstitious about things like that. They are my support network who helped my get through my last two mc's so don't See a reason to keep my good news from them.

Anyway have to get stabbed with a needle now. Was hoping dh might not notice not had clexane tonight but alas no. Nothing gets past him!

Hello! Just checking in. So pleased to see jmf

Loving having very little Internet access and Dr Google it feels like even more of a holiday.

For those of you wondering about telling/not telling... I got myself so worked up every time I told someone before I thought I should (after 12w scan and NT results). Was convinced I'd jinxed it every time. I didn't tell my mum until 9w and then most other people at 11w when I had a private scan. I posted about this on this thread and someone shared something they'd found on another thread where a lady who'd had lots of losses said that she always tells people about her pregnancies because regardless of how long they lasted she wanted her babies to know they were loved. That really helped me, so I wanted to pass it on.

Thanks dietcoke- I was surprised to find myself here this month.

Lucky- hope your scan comes round soon and baby does lots of growing in the meantime.
Lolita - that is so sad, poor lady :(

I got a 2-3 yesterday on the clearblue so going in the right direction. When I came home from work I found the pod urine I had used to test still next to the toilet, the cleaner had been so that is really grim!!
Still very worried but I know this wont change as the worry will move onto the next thing.
Watched OBEM and cried again!!

Lovely thought diet coke about wanting to tell people- for the moment only my husband and I know plus a few friends from my last online antenatal club. I like it being a secret but the way I am eating I think people will think I am getting fat quickly!!

Jmf - glad its nt just me. A woman at work yesterday said she could tell I was pg because I was fuller in the face. Not sure if that's pregnancy weight or just coz of recent scoffing out !

Hello all, resurfacing after the Easter break... Had a couple of extra days off because my sister was visiting. It was really nice, spenidng time with her, and we have now told her and my closest family about the pregnancy. On DH's side, only his parents know, we'll probably tell his siblings next week - family wedding, they'll all be in one place . But apart from closest family and a couple of my NCT friends, no one will be told at least until the 12 week scan. I'm hoping to be able to keep it under wraps as long as possible.

Still not sure if I want an early scan, going off the idea a bit at the moment - I don't think it'll reassure me, even if they do find a heartbeat and everything, it's not a guarantee that all will be fine. Just had news from a friend who's had a mmc and found out at their 12w scan... It's so scary.

Is anyone else getting dizzy spells? I felt really rough on a few days over Easter, and I was getting very dizzy on a number of occasions - never had that with DS, it's a bit disconcerting. Went to the gym last night, and had to be very careful about getting up from lying down etc.
But I guess it's a symptom, so I'm not complaining too much! Still no sickness, just a general 'bleurgh' feeling that mostly lasts a few hours, and then I'm fine again. I can live with that!

Sorry for not name-checking, need to read the pages and pages of the recent posts now

Oh, Bodicea, meant to say that as of today, I'm joining you with the daily injections Saw the haematologist consultant yesterday and got the fragmin now. Managed to get blood all over my knickers this morning already, great start (sigh)

That's horrible news lolita seem to be hearing of late losses a lot lately

bod people keep looking at me funny and I'm sure it's just politeness stopping them asking ha ha I finally put weight on this week (2lb!!) instead of losing so looks like it's only gonna get more obvious from here! Boobs have grown loads last couple of days too

Hi anda sounds like you're having a great time . That's a lovely sentiment, I just don't want to upset people and have them worry abt me if they don't need to iyswim.

Great news on the 2-3 jmf

jbrd I was the same as you re early scan and now I want one I have to wait as they are booked up so be careful....also yes re dizziness have been like that since my BFP, I didn't get it till much later with DS either

Bodecea and Diet Coke - yep I am the same. I almost feel it's more jinxed if I don't tell my close F&F, so they know to support me. Also a phonecall "I'm in hospital having a MC' out of the blue seems worse than if there was an inkling. I wonder if it's because I don't dare feel they're 100% BFP until one day I pass 12 weeks?

Horrid to hear of the late loss. Gosh it even makes you feel lucky in a strange way; a MC is so different to a stillbirth. I can't even fathom how awful that must be.

I am bricking it today, it's the day I had my 1st MC. No bleeding, tender boobs, bit queaze... but you know how it is!!

Jbird- I'm only 5 1/2 weeks and I feel dizzy more than sick - basically a bit frail, not like me at all!

Squitza, we must have a very similar DD (I'm 30th Nov) as I'm 5 and a 1/2 weeks too. I'm getting more and more queezy throughout the day as time goes on, but at least that means our hormone levels are hight, right? Hope you manage to ge through today ok...

I'm really munching quite a lot at the moment, I find that the unhealthy things, eg buscuits calm the sickness down a bit, better than carrot sticks or other healthy snacks. My waistline is definitely expanding - and all this even though we are told that we aren't supposed to be eating for two!

Jbird I read on google yesterday that at 8 weeks (I will be nearly that for my first scan) that if there is a heart beat, the risk of something going wrong is reduced to only 2%, so I am keeping that in mind as otherwise there is no point in having a reassurance scan at all..and I really need one.

We have told quite a few people, who knew how unwell I was with the MMC over NY, I just feel our chances of everything working out aren't any difference because of what happened before, I feel pregnant and therefore we should be happy and celebrate. Also, we waited until after 12 weeks last time and then we found out about the MMC so, 12 weeks for us, isn't really a milestone anymore. I think the 20 weeks scan will be when I start facebooking etc

Yes we have the same DD, what a coincidence! I am glad that I'm queazy enough to feel pregnant but thankfully not upchucking!

congrats on the 2-3 jmf another little milestone :)

hope you get through today ok squiz it's all so damn nerve wracking.

shell i hope today is going a bit better for you?

anda i hope you're having a superfab holiday! you lucky thing!!

jbrd i've been getting the dizzies more than the sickies. what gym classes are you doing at the minute? i'm scared to go back since my bfp (i think i overdid it last time)

Janie I do Bodypump, love it. It's very easy to adapt the exercises for pregnancy, I did it last time until I was almost 8 months (and frankly couldn't lift the bar around my bump anymore ).
They say if you have been doing exercise before getting pg, then it's absolutely safe to continue, of course, while making sure you don't overdo it... Or if it's contact sport, then obviously not.
What type of exercise do you do?
I have all good intentions of keeping going this time, but am struggling a lot more with tiredness. Might take up just doing some walking onthe treadmill, or cycling. I think I will tell the gym instructor soon, so that she knows what's happening. They can also give you alternative exercises.
I also plan to do pregnancy yoga again, although that hardly classes as exercise

That's good to know jbrd, thanks. I was doing spin, kettle bells and body combat a few times a week so they might be a bit much, but would love to keep the spin up if I can, maybe do it at a lesser pace. My gym has just classes so there's no equipment or pool but I got a groupon offer for a 6 week pass at a different place in town which is lovely so might use that down the line for swimming and the machines. Defo want to do pg yoga if I make it that far, good for toning up down there ;)

Janie I too was a bit of a gym junkie, but did quite a bit of reading this time around and it's generally accepted/advised that you shouldn't raise your HB aboove 140bpm. For me that was a steady walk at 5.8 on the treadmill at a mid-incline. I was so tempted to just jog but it's not worth it, you can burn a lot of calories by walking up hill! xx

Please someone help me as you know it is the same day of my pg that I had my 1st miscarriage. I just have spent 2 hours broken down on a busy London street, my mobile phone broke down after that, 3 nearest pay phones were broken and it started to snow it was awful. After this several people have said pointedly not to be stressed (I CAN'T HELP IT under these circumstances - I am a manager and not a flaky person but it's like people think you can switch it off) as it 'won't be good for me'. These people know I am pregnant (my DH and mum and best mate). I suddenly realised that all my previous MCs have happened a day or so after a 'minor upset' (e.g. garage roof leak etc' not death or doom) and I am TERRIFIED.

CAN LITTLE STRESS MOMENTS CAUSE MISCARRIAGE? Am I going to miscarry because I broke down and is it my fault because I can't not get upset/stressed. I tried to call the MC association helpline their website is down and phoneline shuts at 4pm. Have I given myself another MC? Is it my fault?

ps. My car broke down not me. I'm not that mental!

Hey squiz and breathe For what it's worth this PG I have had loads of stress with my PILs and my DS was very poorly and I didn't sleep for over a week worrying abt him and I haven't MC so far (as I know) so I would hope you will be ok. I don't think any research had proven stress to be a direct cause of MC it is just advised to avoid where possible...hope you're feeling a bit better now

Thanks yeah, rationally I would say 2 hours stomping around trying to re-start a car wouldn't have much impact on health would it? It's not like a 24-7 thing with me. Just utterly paranoid!

aw squiz you poor thing, sorry you've had such a crazy horrid day :( i hope you managed to get home. sounds like you need to put your feet up with a hot chocolate and some nice snacks and cuddles xxxx

I know, we are all the same....vent away!

Thanks ladies! yeah my hub just said to me if off panics were that dangerous how would people ever have big families or working mums! Good point, just a terrible bad day! S'ok now.

oh squiz there is no proof that stress causes mc at all. I often think about the women in much harder situations than us, like the third world, and all the stress and strains their bodies take and they still manage to have babies.

Also, I was thinking the other day that it's actually, in a way, a positive thing that the nhs don't investigate mc after one or even two times (bear with me here!) as it shows that for most people a mc is just a random thing that happens and the reason will never be known so you just can't blame yourself for what has happened.

All that said, your day sounds like an actual nightmare - my mobile never works in my bad dreams and that's what your story reminds me of. I hope you can have some time to relax this evening and put it all behind you.

Re exercise, i'm not doing anything till the scan! I was swimming before but cant face it at the moment. And I would highly recommend pg yoga, I absolutely loved it, it was so much more useful in preparing me for the birth than any of the antenatal classes. I will deffo go again if i get that far x

Aw thanks!