Pregnancy after miscarraige.........POWER to the Beanies!!!!

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slink - glad you have cleared your little blockage.

Had my scan, baby is head down and currently weighing around 6lb 7. which isn't as big as i expected, that makes it around 8lb by my due date, i was expecting bigger. She showed me its little hands, upto its face, looked like a boxer, showed me the legs and feet, i didn't notice any third legs, which convinces me even more that it might be a girl. Then she left the scanner on its face for a while and i saw its little lips moving and mouth opening. so cute, makes me want it here right now!!

welcome and congrats to stitchintime - Have never had a problem with my cervix so can't advise, but want to say that you need to make sure that you ahve whats right for you. If it is possible for them to give you the stitch early on and you really want it, i'd insist on it. You and baby are the most important thing, much more important than hospital protocol.

HK - morning mate, how you doing today?

Hello don't know if you remember me?? but i've finally got a new computer and so back online. New baby was due on the 4/5 but he was born on the 18/4 after a terrible pg (dvt and colistasis sp??) 3 weeks in hospital. How are you all doing and how far are you all?

Hi Xena, welcome back! I'm not sure if I remember you from before but that's pg brain for you.
Have (finally) received a date for my fetal MRI scan. It's next Monday at 11.45am. Am v pleased that I don't have much longer to wait, although not looking forward to scan itself (have had one before and they are a bit unpleasant).

Sorry forgot to say, congratulations Xena and welcome Stitch!

diddle- dont ask for bigger than 8lb! my ds and dd were 7.7 and phew they hurt! i reckon babydids is a girl too, i will place my final bet on girl:)
can you beleive we both might be mummys in a fortnight!!
mygirl- hope your feeling better
twocats- any luck finding your dress yet?
snowboo- wow over 3lb already, thats fab:)
petunia- looks like you've got bionic breastmilk
xena- hello and congratulations
arabica- glad you've got a date for your mri

went to see councillor person, what an earth are you suppose to do at councilling? she was nice but i think she wanted me to talk more but i didn't know what to say, im maybe not ready to talk about losing my baby IRL
its almost a full year on saturday:( i am going to plant a memorial tree in a nice pot, on the day, i was going to bury my babys ashes too but can't bring myself to do it.
what else can i do apart from sit round and be depressed? in normal circumstances i would get trollied on vodka but i don't think this baby would like that very much.

aww slink - No getting sloshed for you mate. I planted rose trees for my two babies i lost and they are just getting buds on them now, i love watching them grow and i think planting something (low maintenance) is a good idea. Other than that you should not sit around the house being sad all day, you should celebrate the time you had with her. She will always be with you, no matter what you're doing.
I think i would struggle to know what to say at councilling too, shouldn't the councillor probe you for questions and do lots of talking? did yours do that? I guess its hard talking to someone who may not have gone through it, or is a stranger to you, or is sitting right in front of you too. You've been spoilt with us lovely faceless friends

xena i remember you, and often wonder what you're upto. Huge congratulations to you. Excellent news, can't believe you beat me. Hope you're all doing well!!! please stay in touch.

I don't think there is any 'ought' or 'should' with counsellingit's your time to use how you want and that can mean it feels a bit awkward at first. It helped me to describe what I was feeling (I'm feeling a bit weird sitting here with you and I don't know what to say) and that eventually got me and my therapist off talking. I've done some counselling (was training to be a counsellor before motherhood intervened) and I used to start my sessions off with just a gentle enquiry about what had brought my client to see me that day, but it's not the counsellor's role to set the agendait's your time and space, to use as you see fit.
If you feel a bit odd sitting face to face with your counsellor, you could always move your chair, I'm sure s/he won't mind. But all the above does depend on what kind of counselling is being offered, how many sessions etc.
Am feeling wobbly and weird today now that I have my date for my MRI scan. I'm finding it very hard to trust that the baby is OK and that they aren't going to find anything nasty.

Slink- although you are sad about losing your daughter there is no need to be sad on Sat, like Diddle said celebrate her. Planting something is great idea and I've heard it helps although I never thought of it at the time for me. How about you spend all Sat shopping for a plant, pot, tools, compost etc? As for the councillor I'm not sure what I'd say but telling her how you feel about Sat and the birth, what you are worried about and other feelings attached to these events.
Will try to be online on Sat if you want to talk.
Hi everyone else hope you are all well.

Morning all.
Diddle- Congrats on the scan!!!!!
Slink- I'm normally the same, if I'm down it's so much easier to get sozzled. As Dids said, having something to watch grow is a gorgeous idea. Also, if the weather's good, why not try & do a "family" day somewhere. That way after you've planted the tree, said your words, you can then spend the rest of day doing something to celebrate the good memories, so to speak. Not only that, a day out somewhere may make it easier for you hun.
Xena- Great to see you!!!!!!!!!!!!! Congratulations!!!! I'm now 23 wks!!
Arabica- Great news about your scan hun
I can't believe I'm 23 wks today. Only seems like a week or so ago Slink was 23 wks and worried lol. Where is this pg going?

Hiya to everyone else.
Hope everyone has a great day xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Hello Ladies
just catching up on the messages. I was away at a conference yesterday.Thanks for the warm welcome.

Gosh, im glad im not the only one with a fast moving pg! Its flying by and i've still got loads to do! Strange thing is all my friends think i've been pg forever. Very odd.

Have worked out if he goes to term he will be around the 9lb 8oz mark. Dh was 9lb 7oz at birth so have resigned myself to pain!

thanks guys- the councllors ethos sounds quite like what you said arabica, i think its a bit passive for me, i don't know whether i can get into it or not as i feel a bit daft. maybe ill give it one more try and then give up.
wow HK your 23 weeks already :)

i think i will have a 7lber, ds and dd both 7.7 and born at 40 and 41 weeks this baby likely to come a few weeks early but i think he will still be 7lb.
i am feeling like the weeks are passing too quick now too, i have been wishing them away for so long and now i have realised i have 2 weeks until stitch removal and i still have things to buy and clean and sort- will my list ever end?

Hello everybody.
I am finally feeling a bit better, neck pain has started to go and feel almost back on my feet. Have made it out of the house two days in a row. DS 2 is doing well, starting to feed better and be more alert. Am starting to enjoy it now. Am going to post a birth announcement and some pics today.
Xena- Congratulations. I remember you, we had the same due date. My DS was born on 10th of May. He 8 days old today.

Hi all, Diddle meant to ask where you got your private scan, I'm after a normal scan but to tell me the sex of baby near us.
HK -wow that you're 23wks!
Well we've decided on a boy's name should baby be a boy, still got 25wks to decide on a girls name! I know that will be a hard slog! When we find out what flavour the baby is then we can buy bunk beds (or not) and see if we need blue clothes and paint. I have the double buggy picked out but will wait a bit before buying.

HK 23wks I didn't even know you were pg when my pc crashed forever!! Cori I remember that you were due the same day as me, I had to take DS2 to the hospital on tues for a blood test as he is still jaundice at 4 weeks and they said that as he was early and bf it would take longer to clear, they called today and said the test needed to be repeated in a week to check the the levels had gone down. Diddle how long are you taking mat leave for and will the children return to you?

Congrats to you all btw and thank you for welcoming me back.

DS2 weighed 7lb 15oz and he was 3 weeks early!! he would have been like DD1 if he went full term as she weighed 9lb 7oz.

Hi Xena, Many many congrats.

Cori - glad to hear that you're feeling better.

Slink - Nope - it wont

Hi everyone.

Well I'm absolutely petrified! Saw my consultant today and he's happy to wait for me to go into "natural labour" but .... only if I spend the entire time in hospital so I'm going in tomorrow. I'm completely petrified about being induced. Its funny but medically dd1's labour was normal but I found it pure hell and left me seriously screwed up (was induced at 40 + 4) where as dd2 was medically serious and I found it a breeze in comparison. Its not the pessary or the pain that's scaring me silly its the bloody beauracracy. I know that to get decent treatment I'm going to have to fight. They don't like inducing women who've had more than one baby before 2.00pm - I mean who's bloody heard of that one before???? The consultant is not happy either and has already informed them that they're to induce at 9.00 tomorrow but I can hear it all already. Things like we've got to 8.00 pm so its time to go to sleep now (despite contractions every 3 minutes etc) or what about its Saturday so we'll give you a day of rest..... I'm really really scared of the barrage of beauracracy that I'm going to come across and of feeling like a piece of meat on a conveyor belt. It was all I could do to stop myself crying when I bathed the girls tonight. Still my star of a mother in law is down to look after them which takes away the strain of worrying about them. So wish me luck. I suspect that he wont be born unitl Saturday (dd1 was born Thursday, dd2 Friday - it seems only natural that he will be born Saturday). I have to say that rather than excited I'm absolutely petrified - no doubt I@ll be on here during the night due to lack of sleep.

Good luck to everyone else.

Good Luck wills. I didnt realise your due date was here already. I hope all goes well.

Thanks Cori. Have you started that post thread yet? Fingers crossed I'm on it before the end of the week

Next week that is.

No I havent. I need a name. Any suggestions?

Have just posted a pic of DS 2 \link{http://www.mumsnet.com/Talk?rn=18274&topicid=1700&threadid=174772&redir=18274\here}

Cori- huge congrats. He's absolutely adorable.
Wills - huge hugs and best of luck.Fingers crossed it'll all go so much beter than you anticipate.
Hi to everyon else!

cori - he is adorable:) glad your feeling better:)
wills - are you going in hospital tommorrow until you give birth? when will they induce you?
spub- hiya how are you doing?

had my final antenatal appointment today at the hospital, and its the first time i have not had a list of symptoms to complain about as physically everything is fine
i saw my community midwife too and she is coming with me for the stitch removal, can't beleive how wonderful they are. if i have to transfer to hospital for the birth then my midwife will stay with me throughout, and i wont be subjected to anyone strange coming into the hospital room etc

Cori he is lovely. Can I join the May postnatal club do you think DS2 will be behind those on the april thread as he was early?

xena babys born at 37 weeks shouldn't have any probs at all so don't worry about him being behind as 37 weeks is classed as term. my baby is likely to come at 37 weeks too and midwifes are still fine with delivering him at home:)