Pregnant after a miscarriage, as the bumps get bigger we get braver, 1st,2nd or 3rd trimester, reasurance and hand holding aplenty!

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Before the first thread fills and locks a 2nd thread for us getting braver!

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Ah no cadmum you didn't make me feel like that at all! I really appreciated you replying to me and I definitely don't feel judged!

No it has pretty much stopped now and there's hardly been any at all if that makes sense. I just get some when I wipe when I go to the toilet but after 1/2 wipes, there is nothing there.

I feel very similar to what you've just written - I desperately don't want something to go wrong again this time. Last time, it was when there was quite a bit of blood and terrible cramping that I felt that EPU weren't very hopeful - they weren't too concerned about brown discharge.

cadmum she had a brilliant morning and seeing her through the window when I went to collect her looking so happy with other children made my quiet morning worth it.

Great news State! May the trend continue. Only one of our four always liked it and went in happily and came out happy and tired. The others were a slog...

Woody I am glad that the spotting has slowed/stopped and that I did not sound too judgey.

Well ds is still getting upset most days, as he did in preschool, reception and now year 1, its exhausting so a huge relief dd is more relaxed and happy!

I was very brave today and brought a crib, swinging between excitement and oh shit why am I tempting fate. 26+3 now!

Hi Everyone. I'm 7 weeks pregnant after experiencing a miscarriage at 13 weeks in April this year. A scan back then showed the fetus had stopped developing at 6 weeks. At 7 weeks that's all I can think about. I have gruesome nightmares about sitting in a blood bath and all sorts. I have told a few friends at work and my manager to ease the workload but I can't tell my family or anyone else as I don't feel I can really celebrate this until I know it's viable. I experienced morning sickness when pregnant with my son but with the last pregnancy I experienced very little nausea. Now with this pregnancy I am also experiencing very little nausea which only increases my worry. Will I be able to request an early scan? I feel I need it to put my mind at rest.

Welcome lynzw75

In my experience nausea isn't a honest signal of a sucessful/unsucessful pregnancy. I have two dc, had awful nausea and sickness with them, awful nausea with two mcs and mmc, this pregnancy nothing, had a mild bit for a few days but otherwise been totally fine, and I'm 26+4 now.

You can request an early scan I believe via your epu if it runs on self referal, or you may need to see a mw/gp to be refered, just explain your anxietys and there shouldn't be an issue.

I took a long time to get excited about this pregnancy, obviously it was always there underneath the fear but only now does it top the fear some days. I did tell my Mum and dps as we hadn't with the mmc and I couldn't cope with them not knowing, I was 14wks when we discovered the babys heart had stopped and it felt too much to just ignore and I needed the support. I've found people to be really supportive as they know I'm anxious.

So anyway tentative congratulations. And good luck xx

Ack! Still spotting when I wipe. Brown yesterday. Pink today... This whole pregnancy following miscarriages lark is exhausting. I still feel sick and hungry so I am not eager to rush out for a scan since it would only offer a nano-second of reassurance (or confirm the worst)...

I hope everyone else is having a better day. Will keep Saturday's scan appointment but rush to emergency if the bleeding escalates as 11 1/2 weeks is too far along to miscarry on my own with 4 dcs in our small temporary apartment. :-(

Oh cadmum I really hope it turns out for you. Fingers crossed.

I was brave today and bought bunk beds so dds 1 and 2 can share and free up a bedroom for the newbie. Am 27 weeks today!

thinking of you cad not all spotting is bad spotting, I know several people who have had big bleeds and healthy babys xx

Well done WL I've also brought a naice changing bag and steriliser this week --and a newborn reindeer outfit -- Getting there slowly!

Ooooh reindeer outfit, love it! Will def get lo in some Xmas get up!

I am one of those parents who dresses the dcs up every year --and uses the photos as christmas cards-- ds has asked to get an elf outfit so he can be father christmas, dd mrs christmas and the baby there elf! The reindeer outfit is lovely its that supersoft material and has little antlers on the hood! Only payed £2 brand new with tags from facebook selling page.

They are going to hate me when they're older aren't they

Dd is loving nursery, there topic is babys so right up her street, she's taken to kissing my bump, she is adorable!

State I think that sounds lovely!! When I had DS I insisted I wouldn't ever dress him up, but when my Mum bought him a pumpkin outfit for hallowe'en and then a Santa outfit for Christmas I caved!

Cadmum - how you getting on today?

Sorry! I was sure that I updated earlier this afternoon but my post is not here... No spotting today and still feeling sick, hungry, tired and basically pregnant. This whole lark will do my head in. Now I am really dreading Saturday's scan...

Thinking of you cad and keeping everything crossed xx

I was the same mrs thought it was cruel was very opinionated before pfbs arrival, and the he came and was also a pumpkin and then santa

Had a wibble today, we've got one of the nature nest cribs, and I'm not wondering if it was a ridiculous idea as we have two 'helpful' older dcs.

State: You will love the nest. There will be times where the baby needs some down time. (Assuming that you older dcs are as interested in mauling loving as mine were... ) Don't wibble. The resale is great as well!

Sounds exactly like my older two!

Me and dp built it as soon as it arrived and dd was rather um vigorous swinging it, I explained she couldn't touch when the baby is in it, she will be four, I just had a panic. I have got the pram I can use downstairs but if wriggler prefers the nest I'd rather lift that down during the day.

They do get rave reviews and after a non sleeper I couldn't resist it, and they look so snuggly!

My dd1 was nearly 3 when ds2 was born. She loved him to pieces and only gave him back to me when he needed to be fed... Eventually, we made a rule about his bassinet being a child free zone because otherwise he would have had no peace. (Ds1 was 5 and far more accepting of this rule...) I was surprised to have to have similar regulations with dd2. At 9,7, and 4, I thought they would respect her need for some down time but they just loved her too much too much!

Not that I can actually imagine a baby at the end of this journey but it would be interesting to see their reactions as teens. (They would be 16,13,11 and 7.)

I forgot to add that I am 11+5 today and NO more spotting... The mystery continues. (scan on Saturday )

Morning ladies I had a miscarriage this week and will be trying again how quickly did u all fall again and did u have a actually period after or just the miscarriage my bleeding only last 3 days but still have lots of cramps

Oh Ellisboy, I am so sorry... If you are still cramping and only had bleeding for 3 days, it might be best to have a scan to see if your miscarriage was complete.

Take care of yourself. I always waited for one full menstrual cycle before trying to conceive again. This is not necessary but makes it easier to date a pregnancy and allows your uterine lining to build up more thoroughly.

cad mine will be 5.5 and 4.1 when this baby arrives and imagine they will be just like that, I think the rule with the basinett is a very good idea and will implement that! Ds was 16mnths when dd was born and showed no interest until she used to laugh at him. This will be a learning curve for me, but dd is in nursery 9-12 and ds school 9-3 so I do get baby only time which will be nice.

ellis I am so sorry to hear that. I didn't bleed at all with my mmc as I had the erpc so I can't advise wrt that. But I'd always get checked to be sure. My mmc was complete around 19th Dec, this baby is due 22nd Dec, so for me I fell quite quickly, I didn't actively ttc as such we just went with the flow and it happened, best of luck xxx

Ellis and cad - how are you now?

swansea - what news from you??

state - another vote for the Amby here. We had one for ds2 after ds1 was an awful settler as a baby. Ds2 is a faaaaaar better sleeper and whilst I can't say for sure whether it was just his nature or that the amby helped, I am most definitely using the amby again for this little one! I just need to turf DH's desk out of the bedroom to put it together in time!

One week left! This time next week I should be, fingers crossed, touch wood, etc etc etc, sending out my birth announcements!

Hope everyone else is well

Omg wellies a week!!!

Glad the amby was a good choice, we saw one in kiddicare a few weeks back and both just wanted it, glad we did now, I'm hoping that and swaddle wraps will create a more content baby, dd was such a screamer! I love the fact that they pack away so easily for if we go away, the big two always hated sleeping in something different when we visited the ils!

Yay wellies 1 week that awesome :)

Looks like I only have 4 weeks left myself as the cardiologist wants me to have a c-sec cause of my heart. I have also been started on a beta blocker to slow my heart rate
37 weeks roll on :)

Hope everyone else is ok xx