Pregnant after a miscarriage, as the bumps get bigger we get braver, 1st,2nd or 3rd trimester, reasurance and hand holding aplenty!

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Before the first thread fills and locks a 2nd thread for us getting braver!

Oh bonzo you poor thing! Hope your ds does ok at nursery and the scan goes ok, I've found when I'm stressed at all the baby doesn't move, the dcs were menaces on tuesday and the baby hardly moved at all, I was terrified but once I got them into bed and put my feet up it was off wriggling away, and it backs this up on the NHS website. Will be thinking of you xxx

Thanks state. I'm sure you're right, if nothing else one can be too busy to notice the movements. Anyway, I've had 2 calls already from the hospital letting me know that I've not been forgotten and that I'll get a call before lunch time for an appointment this afternoon. I really can't fault the care I've had from them so far. They were good with my mmc, and have been very caring and understanding over all my wobbles over this pregnancy.

How's it going bonzo? xx

Oh bonzo poor you, that sounds v stressful indeed. I would have been in tears all day I'm sure. Very poor form on dhs part, not sure I wouldn't have woken him - when I'm cross and DH is asleep I can't sleep and just lay there seething. I do hope the scan went well. Xx

Well girls I have had hell of a week set to stay shit !! been moved to 3 different hospitals because scbu has been closed had several false starts and labour stopped twice while i had steroids bring on my babys lungs. They have finally decided that if it starts again I am gonna be left too it so may see him sooner than I thought.
hope everyone is ok been with out internet for 5 days. So haven't had a chance to catch up yet.
congrats on your date wellies
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congrats on the c sec date wellies and big hugs to bonzo and swansea, thinking of you both xx

Swansea that all sounds dire. Hugs, and wishing you luck, patience and strength.

All turned out ok in the end. A false alarm brought on by my anxiety and the drs over cautiousness. Thanks for all your well wishes. I just wish I could relax a bit!

Great news bonzo :) xx

How many weeks are you swansea? My eldest was early and had iugr also spent time in nicu and you'd never believe it now! Sorry to hear things are all so chaotic, I think of you often xxx

Got some more bits for wriggler today, if anyones interested asda baby event are dropping all the prices of things to clear the stock x

Oh Swansea I do hope things go ok. Sending best wishes to you and your baby. X

Thinking of you swansea how's everyone else doing?

I'm now 26wks! Heading towards 3rd trimester at breakneck speed!

Spent hours last night sorting all the bits and bobs I've picked up for the baby recently, and an ambys nest has come up for sale locally so I'm rather pleased!

Hi state, hope you're enjoying the rest ;) not long until little one comes along, in the meanwhile I'm adding symptoms, have been having nightmare vertigo for the last week...can't lay down, can't stand up and morning sickness alongside!!! Awful!! Anyone on here had it? Any advice on treating it?

How awful Shirley. No advice I'm afraid, try dr google!

shirley you poor thing, I've no advice but my friends mum had it and she was literally flat on her back for weeks. I'd get to a gp if you can, I can't imagine its much fun with ms aswell xxx

Well 32 weeks and managed thus far to keep him in even though it has virtually killed me.
hope every one else is ok x

Hello everyone. Great news Swanseamum! Every day makes a massive difference at this stage.

I am full of cough and cold which only makes the morning sickness feel worse but I am 11+2 so nearing the end of nausea and exhaustion. I may need handholding after that since my mmc have ll been in the second trimester: One as late as 22 weeks...

32wks is a good gestation, when ds was in nicu he was in between a 26wker and 30wker and both were home before there duedates! Amazing babies.

cad were all available for hand holding whenever needed :)

Well I'm 26wks getting more confident and slowly collecting everything we need for wriggler. The debate on what brand/how many/what size nappies continues...

Hey ladies, I've been a bit MIA as it's been a chaotic couple of weeks. Shirley, Bonzo and Swansea, I'm so sorry you've been having a difficult time of it, I hope things are starting to look up.

Recently I've been starting to feel The Fear again, lots of little niggley "what if..." thoughts were creeping in. I'm 17 weeks today and had my latest mw appointment, I told her I was getting a bit worried so she whipped the doppler out (which they don't normally do at this stage) and found the baby's heartbeat straightaway. It was incredible. I hadn't realised how worried I was until I heard those little galloping beats and I broke down. DH was really moved, and DS who had been distinctly bored up until then was even a little impressed!

Good to hear your doing well Mrs the fear never truly leaves but it gets easier, sayes the 26wker who freaks out every day and necks cold drinks to make the baby wriggle

MrsR: I am glad you midwife was able to find the heartbeat. I know what you mean about the fear. It can creep up anytime, can't it? The relief of hearing that heartbeat galloping along is so rewarding. Too bad the fear can set back in moments later... In a few short weeks you will feel regular movement but until then keep asking the midwife for reassurance when necessary.

I am spotting today. I feel fairly sure that it is related to endless coughing but it could also be the beginning of the end. I still feel nauseated and tired so that is promising. I have a scan on Saturday but will go early if necessary...

Hi everyone

I was hoping for some advice.

I had a mc in July - that was the first time I was pg. Af finally arrived in August. I thought af was due again last Thursday but nothing happened. Before my first af after mc in August, I had about a week of brown discharge that gradually got heavier and heavier.

This month I've only been having brown discharge (although I did have a tiny amount of dark blood in the middle of the night last night when I wiped.) This has only been happening since Saturday and there has hardly been any and it's mainly when I've been to the toilet. My boobs have also been feeling really sore and it's felt like they've got worse. Anyway, I decided to do a test last night as I have a lot of the internet cheapies and I've become a bit obsessed with poas. There was hardly any urine and it was almost clear as I'd been drinking so much but I thought there was something there. I've test again this morning and I've got a faint +ve on the internet cheapie. It's definitely there. It may be that I ov a lot later then I thought I did. I tested with FR on Friday and Saturday last week but got BFN.

To be honest, I just feel really frightened. I'm already having this brown discharge and as I said there was a tiny amount of blood through the night. I'm frightened that things are going wrong already. I don't even know if I'd want early scans this time as last time, everything seemed ok and then it all went wrong.

Has anyone experienced this before? Do you think that the brown discharge (and tiny tiny amount of blood) suggests that this is already going wrong?

Hello everyone, hope you're all doing ok, mrsR , I am so tempted Togo to midwife too, feel like hell and fear creeps in when I feel so bad., glad they could hear the heartbeat, what a relief.

Still feeling dreadful tho' hope it calms down after 12 weeks, roll on 4th oct.... Have been having bad stomach pains, pains in my side and generally feel like I have a nasty virus for last 2 weeks, my cranial osteopath has eased the vertigo a little though so not feeling as bad as last couple of days, omg !!!

Honestly feeling very low, and getting resentment feelings and just feel depressed generally :(

Woody, I did no want to read and run but I have not had a similar experience. I sympathize with your wish not to have an early scan but the only other option is wait and see (and post here for support). I try to avoid PoAS until there is no other plausible outcome than a BFP so I not much help there either.

Shirley123 I am truly sorry that you are felling so poorly. It is not a fun place to be. Sickness is a good sign that things are as they should be but maybe it is worth going to the GP if you feel like you have a virus as well?

My spotting is only when I use the loo and I still feel pregnant so I will wait it out.

Thanks cadmum

Maybe I should have waited a bit before poas. I am definitely more than 4 weeks pg though.

Hopefully it'll all be ok.

woody your in the wtf cycle, I had my mmc in dec and my dates were still out when I got my bfp in april, by two weeks. Get yourself in touch with a MW and they can get you in the system for viability and dating scans xx

Well my littlest state started nursery today, I feel bereft! She was amazing though said I'm fine mummy my friends here and I left, cannot wait until 12pm!!

Oh State, My heart goes out to you... It is ever so much nicer when they are happy to go but it is still a sad moment. My dd1 stopped me at the door and gently reminded me that 'nursery is for children'. This was a dramatic difference from her older brother who was still unhappy about being left at reception. It would be an oversimplification to suggest that girls are readier but some really are. I hope your morning goes by quickly but I suspect it won't...

Woody, are you still spotting/streaking? I am sorry for making you feel that you should not have POAS. My post madero sound inconsiderate when what I was trying to illustrate us that we all handle the stress and the uncertainty differently. After my first miscarriage, I thought that I would feel better with early, frequent scans. By my third, I could no longer bear the experience since one day everything appeared fine and the next my world would be upside down at the discovery of fetal demise.

I felt as though my body was failing me and that I was a fool for not even knowing it was happening or 'properly miscarrying' like 'normal woman'. I acknowledge that my feelings are only my own and that I should be more cautious about being considerate to those who feel otherwise.

The one thing that this whole process OUGHT to have taught me is that women should be there to support each other through each and every felling without judgement. It is a rough enough process without being questioned or feeling judged. Sorry...