Pregnant after a miscarriage, as the bumps get bigger we get braver, 1st,2nd or 3rd trimester, reasurance and hand holding aplenty!

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Before the first thread fills and locks a 2nd thread for us getting braver!

Another newbie joining in. Well, new to Mumsnet, not to this whole pregnancy lark, anyway. I'm currently in the (very) early stages with what will hopefully be child number 4, but given that I had m/c number 3 only 2 months ago & both my mother & youngest sister have had a lot of m/cs (10 & 8 respectively, including one set of twins for my sister), we're understandably antsy. Only at 4w2d at the moment, but I saw the GP this morning & she's put me down as "high risk" so I'll be seen early by a midwife. Just hoping that, plus the fact I turn 40 next month, isn't going to cause problems when I tell them I'm having another homebirth!

I've started taking half an aspirin daily already; GP knows & is happy for me to carry on doing that until I see the midwife. Currently I'm trying not to get paranoid over every little twinge - I'm sure you all know how that one goes!

Greetings Arkady , and congratulations. I've been taking 75mg aspirin per day since discovered pregnancy at 3wk5days and now 12 weeks so maybe it did the trick after 3 mcs!

everyone - if you took aspirin when did you stop? Midwife advises I stop at 12 weeks.

alpha you poor thing! It sounds like a horribly stressful time for you all - big hugs x lots! So hard not to get stressed isn't it - when people tell me not to it makes me have to sit on my hands so I don't punch them! I think like state says, tons of people have significant stress during pregnancy but somehow us and babes seem to be able to cope. For myself, when I feel the stress rising I have to make lists and action plans otherwise I would explode. I was mega stressed when we conceived this time - dd2 was in hospital with unexplained fits - hearing the gp say 'call an ambulance' was quite a shocker. We have spent most of the last 7 years ttc and have had 2 mcs but somehow this one seemed to be ok. Fingers crossed you get some light at the end of the tunnel, remember stressing about being stressed is pointless - try accepting it for a bit and see if it helps. Rant on here as much as you like too. Xx

Sorry for not doing all the name checking, am on my phone.

Regarding aspirin, it depends why you're taking it. I'm on it to try to keep my placenta working for as long as possible, so have been told to take it till 36 weeks. Unless.....

Baby has to come before then. Which is a possibility. Scan today (33+6) showed continued slowed growth and now low fluid levels ( just below the lower limit of normal). So we're now looking at twice weekly CTG and my next scan will be with foetal medicine instead of imaging. And I've been told to get to hospital immediately if I have even the tiniest hint of concern. Doctor seemed to think that I probably would not make it past 38 weeks. So a baby by Christmas!!!!

All a bit stressful, but baby itself is fine, and I was expecting all this as similar happened with DS, but it was picked up later.

And as discussed in recent posts, stress seems to make little difference to ttc or pregnancy.

bonzo77 I have to agree - stress doesn't really seem to have a lot of effect on pregnancy in my experience, which is just as well - during my last pregnancy (D3, now 5 years old) my ex-husband (with whom I was still very close) died when I was 10 weeks pregnant; we'd planned to tell our two I was pregnant on the eldest's 14th birthday, as my first m/c had been at 10 weeks and we figured by then I'd be past the danger point. Sadly he died 2 weeks before her birthday. Then my partner and I had to move home twice in the space of six months - me heavily pregnant the second time!

But though I was horrifically stressed that whole year, there was no effect on my pregnancy & D3 came out just fine.

Doh! 32 + 6 not 33+6

Sorry to hear that Arkady sounds like a dreadful time.

V jealous of all the bag packing going on - our builders have finished - hooray! Now have beautiful downstairs but rest of house still in utter chaos. Should finish painting dd1s bedroom today ready for bunkbeds to go up tom so dd2 can move in. Then paint baby's room (currently the dark blue it was when we moved in) then put stuff where stuff needs to be! Very much hoping some level if order will be restored by next weekend and I'll be able to find the newborn stuff - will be 36.5 weeks by then! Car shopping today - fingers crossed this ones a goer - current car won't fit everyone in!

bonzo that does sound stressful - good that you have experience if same situation with positive outcome though. Perhaps you will pip state and I to the post! I'm no dr but I reckon eating a box of maltesers at this stage can only be a good thing!

Well done to everyone bag packing.

Saw my midwife Friday and she says I am 7 weeks and a day. Wasn't the happiest of appointments - she says she knows that I am worried. But then she said my date for the scan is far too early (was 27th November) - so she rang up, there and then and the only next scan date available is Christmas Fucking Eve. So pissed off. I said I wasn't happy and that this time in the previous pregnancy the baby was already dead. She said there was nothing to do but wait.

Told my mum and dad about the pregancy (they had to look after my little lad while I went for the appointment). Mum says 'oh you can announce it Christmas day to everyone' (big family get together planned with siblings and various offspring) - and I just keep thinking it's going to be dead again. And that I'm going to find out on Christmas Eve. Also my bloody sister-in-law is heavily pregnant and has a due date of Christmas Eve. Fucking, fucking fed up.

Oh milli that's so horrid for you. Sounds like the mw could do with a bit more empathy. You could try epu or gp for earlier scan referral. Seeing others pg is so hard when you are worrying about the future of your own. Xx

What car are you looking at wl?

milli your mw could really do with some empathy! Jeez I'd be annoyed at someone being so blunt! I know how hard it is but try and stay positive, imagine how great it will be when you have a good scan christmas eve, just look at this thread so so many are sucessful after a loss.

I'm 35 weeks today, that's unbelievable!

Thank-you ladies - am keeping positive - just had a lovely bath with my son which has cheered me no end! Better go get him out of bath - husband is yelling that he is done (ha, ha - hubby gets to go in after me!).

Just agreed to buy second hand citroen c4 Picasso. Fits 3 seats in the back beautifully, plenty of boot space etc.

Picassos are nice wl all made it real for me when we got our big car, we've got a fiat multipla ugly as sin but since dp hasn't been driving long it was the cheapest insurance.

I just went through the calendar as we have stuff on the next few weekends, it made my due date seem VERY close.

Glad you had a nice bath milli last time I had a bath the effort getting out made me need a shower haha! And my dcs are blooming great 5 and almost 4yos so them joining me wasn't fun... Can't wait for baths with a snuggly baby again.

That's awful milli. I found out at my scan on 20th december last year that my baby had died 4 weeks before and I'm dreading the same thing happening again.

I'm going to ring the midwife next week and try and delay my booking in appointment until after the scan. I just can't face talking about the birth and getting free samples from bounty etc when my baby might not be alive. I hope she will understand. The midwife I had last time was ok with it but then she was covering for my normal midwife and having double her usual workload so I think she was just relieved to not have to do another booking in appointment.

Ahhhhh sorry for not name checking on phone!
It seems that many of us have had so many different levels of stress but little beans will hold on and can with stand alot!
I don't know how I coped when we was told at our scan that our baby had gone at 13 weeks!!!! Then a ectopic then followed a year after!
I felt my body was against me, and I had no control over anything, but MN has been a great source of support!
And being in contact with other women who have gone through the same as me brings me some comfort of not being alone!
I know I'm blessed as I have dc already but when you have suffered a loss of a few it takes it toil!!!!
But hope came and too some on here you may know me from other threads on here!
Currently 23 weeks and getting comfort from baby moving!
Getting to this point is hard not going to lie, just take one day at a time!
Rejoice at each day that brings you closer to having a baby I'm your arms!
Never tool aspirins to add pregnancy but had regular scans and that really helped!!! Being with a good hospital and good consultants helps too!
Good luck to you all- easy said then done but if your here you have already overcome so much!

Ellie I delayed all apts til after 12 week scan - mw was a bit funny about it but tough - like you I just couldn't face it.

Baby had hiccups this eve - so cute!

Errors - in your arms!
Never took aspirins!
Auto correct is a pain!!!!

Ps - I also wanted to avoid scans closed my eyes until DH told safe to look!!!!

I think a few hugs need to be dished out, so (((everyone that is in need of them)))

I am really struggling to cope this weekend. After a week of thinking that I could feel periodic movement, I felt none on Saturday and had some spotting this morning. I tried to pay particular attention today and want very badly to believe that I did feel the odd flutter but I am really uncertain at best.

More slight spotting (pink) on loo roll and in knickers this evening. I can't bear the thought of going to the hospital having cancelled my appointment on Tuesday and knowing that the consultant I saw is fully booked this week and then on holiday until January.

I am 20 weeks today. All was fine at 12 week scan and we heard the heartbeat at 15 weeks but ALL of my mmc have been the same. I despair for how this whole process has made me lose faith in my own body.

I haven't even told my kids...

Oh Cad, I'm sorry you are having a shocking weekend. Can you go into the emergency department and get a scan? Sounds like you need to see someone for your sanity as much as anything else. Un-Musnetty hugs to you, I will be thinking of you.

It is sad that with our past experiences we don't trust our bodies and won't fully relax.

Oh god cad I'd be having kittens. Can you get to maternity triage? Ours is open 24/7. Where are you? If you are in London or can get to NW London I'd really recommend the Whittington. I'm sure if you just turn up and explain they'd see you. Do you want their number?

Cad is in Thailand I think, so things are probably quite different I'd have thought :( I hope they have a similar triage situation out there!

cad lovey if you think you felt flutters you more than likely did, at my anxious moments I could explain away movements, and I still do. Is the spotting just light pink, every wipe, less, more? Spotting is so common, Is there any way you can get in for an emergency scan or doppler apt to reassure you at all.
I totally understand you've lost faith in your body, I think we all have here, I laid in the bed the other night convinced if this baby survived to delivery it wouldn't make that, I mess with my own head I'm sure others do too. Take care and rest up.