Pregnant after a miscarriage, as the bumps get bigger we get braver, 1st,2nd or 3rd trimester, reasurance and hand holding aplenty!

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Before the first thread fills and locks a 2nd thread for us getting braver!

Hello everyone! Just dropping in to see how everyone is doing. Having a feet up moment after the busiest day so far since DD arrived - did my three school runs today for the first time, feeling quite knackered but also quite inspired that I am now getting back in to things. The first week was, as expected, a big blur, and I've gradually been feeling more 'me' since then (even though my body has tailed behind a bit!). Then I just had a couple of nights back in hospital with a suspected clot - luckily a false alarm based on a strange and sudden swelling of my right foot and leg. They don't know what caused it but there definitely isn't a clot there and it has now mostly gone down. My MIL is still here but leaving at the end of the week after doing a sterling job keeping my boys fed and happy and the house ticking over. I heart my MIL! And DD is, well, just gorgeous and a pleasure. I'm loving every moment

lol MrsR, mine was also uncooperative and is a beanpole! Thankfully though he did cooperate in the end but it took a couple of gos on the day! I can't wait to meet him . Glad you're doing ok Wellies, again, congratulations! Hope everyone else is ok. xx

Great news mrs mines unco-operative too, its worth it for extra scans though

Great to hear from you wellies glad your doing ok, must have been a bit scary for a bit with the 'clot'. Do keep checking in when you can, I'm already thinking of our next thread name to include the graduates :)

Good luck for tom Shirley will be thinking of u. I got so stressed about my 12 weeker that I cried before, during and after and the sonographer had to make me look at the screen! I've got another scan coming up 2 weeks today - will be 32 weeks, followed by consultant apt to formally agree and book c section! My word that all makes b day sound so close!

Great news mrs, lovely to hear. You can really enjoy that next scan now.

Go wellies!!

Wow WLmum how exciting! :D I was a nervous wreck at my 12 week scan too, despite having had an early scan that went well, and cried with relief when all was ok.

Great news MrsR!

Lovely to hear from you wellies, so glad it's not a clot!

As for me, I'm 18+5 today (it's passing really quickly at the moment - remind me of this when I'm 34 weeks and moaning about it going slowly!). Work is very busy at the moment, I'm a teacher so what else is new, but we're on holiday as of Friday for 2 weeks so that's something to look forward to! I have loads of work to get done before maternity leave (I've had to write a list to keep myself right!) and it's stressing me out a little bit. Mostly getting coursework for my certificate classes finished before whoever does my maternity cover comes in. Means I have about 2 months less than I normally would to do it, but I'll just have to deal with it! Oh well...

My next scans 3 weeks tomorrow, ill be 32+5 also hopefully to set the section date wl it does make it feel soo close!

Sounds stressful possom make sure you get some rest when you can! 18+5 already, not long until that half way mark!

It feels like its gone really quick for me, then other days feels like time is dragging, can't win lol.

My dept. head did say to me today not to worry too much about getting it all finished before I go, but I feel like I'd be letting the kids down if I didn't. I'm too much of a perfectionist I think...

I'm the same would rather do it myself, so its done --the right way-- my way!

Absolutely!

Hi everyone, lovely to be here. I just got a positive result on my test, so exciting but the nerves are starting to take over. My last pregnancy ended at 7.5 weeks and I'm terrified of going through all of that pain again. Did any of you have early scans in your first pregnancies after mc? I'm seeing my doc on Monday and it would be handy to know if it's common practice to request a 7 or 8 week scan in these circumstances. Thank you all x

Congratulations sugar as you can see there's a high sucess rate for pregnancies following mc. Personally I didn't have an early scan as my cycle was still a bit out and I didn't want any uncertainty at the scan, I waiting until 12wks, but was actually 10wks, great scan though. If you want an early one ask, many women do :)

You poor thing, I feel for you....

Well had scan and all's good, heart beat, brain, arms and legs and she even said she guessed a boy?! Can she tell this early? 12 weeks and 5 days and due on 20 April :)))) also nuchal thing from scan was low risk, waiting on bloods now.....

Soooooo relieved :))))))) feels real now

I meant to say state, you poor thing... iPad didn't update conversation...

Hi sugar congratulations, I didn't want an early scan and was never told anything about it but I do know if you ask, due to the circumstances they would be able to give you an early scan. Congrats on the scan shirleyit is such a relief isn't it? I was adamant there would be nothing there and kept myself quite detached from pg on the day, looked away from the screen as sonographer was looking around as I couldn't bare it, then she remarked what an odd position baby was in and he was vry wriggly, I looked over to see him upside down looking so cosy and burst into tears. It was a very emotional day! x

Some can tell that early shirley but I'd hold off buying blue just in case :) glad it all went well.

I was the same at my first scan gem luckily my sonographer said in seconds, nice strong heart and showed us.

Well 30wks on saturday and I've realised as nice as a bath is dragging myself out afterwards is NOT. Bumps blooming HUGE!

lol I'm the same state had a bath a couple of weeks ago, I'd spent a little while in there and it was bliss as I'd had back/bump ache all day but it was way too much effort to get out, dread to think what I'm going to be like in a month or 2! Everything seems to be too much effort to do at the minute and I'm still getting used to having stairs!

SugarCube - welcome and lots of hugs. Personally, I decided against an early scan (was offered one as I have PCOS.) Too early there's no guarantee of seeing a heartbeat even if little bean is viable, I just wanted to wait until 12 weeks so there was no chance of ambiguity. I'm not going to tell you the next few weeks will be easy, it won't be, I was physically sick the night before the scan and I'd convinced myself there was going to be nothing there. However keep this in mind - the odds are in your favour. Hold on to that, and come here whenever you are worried or anxious, we've all been there, we know how you're feeling. Take care, and hope the next 5 weeks fly past.

Possom - you sound like my cousin! She was frantically trying to get her biology classes ready for their exams before she went on maternity leave. Just pace youself and listen to your dept head!

Shirley - congrats on a great scan, fab news!

State - I'm starting to notice the water in the bath damming up behind my bump, I'm growing out at the sides as well as forward. (Who am I kidding? I was a size 18 before I got pregnant, I was never particularly graceful getting in and out of baths! )

Baby definitely punishing me for the scan yesterday, tried to grab an hour's sleep earlier and someone was having a good old jiggle behind my belly button.

Hi sugar sorry about mc but yay for BFP now. I had an early scan at 9 weeks as I just couldn't bear the thought of waiting til 12 weeks to be told bad news as per last time. I have to say though, having an early scan only helped a smidge with the anxiety as I'd had an early one at 7/8 weeks before that showed all ok, followed by sad 12 week scan. Google did tell me though that there was only a 1pc chance of mc after seeing a healthy heart beat at 9 weeks which gave me something to cling too. Honestly i would have another early scan, it helped me but clearly it's not so for everyone.

Totally understand the bath thing, the pleasure is now outweighed by the effort of getting out - boo!

I feel the same gem I hate my stairs, luckily dd and ds can be very helpful --when in the right mood-- and will fetch things for me, and we have two bathrooms so I avoid the stairs as much as I can, but even getting up out of bed off the sofas becoming an awkward task.

Same here mrs I spread slightly when sat down, I did enjoy my bath despite the performance getting out. Also shaving legs, just not happening, going to sweet talk dp. Lucky man.

I'm spending the day at dinasour adventure park tomorrow with dds nursery, wish me luck!

hi sugar. congrats on the BFP. I did get an early scan, I think it was 7 weeks. My mc had been a missed miscarriage that was only picked up at 12 weeks. I had probably been carrying about the unviable pregnancy for about 5 weeks, if not longer. I couldn't face that again. I picked 7 weeks because even if your dates are a bit out you can be pretty sure of seeing a heartbeat (if there is one) at this stage). I have to say, I have had loads and loads of scan this pregnancy (i'm 28 weeks tomorrow and I think I am having my 6th or 7th scan). They are vaguely reassuring, but I still worry like mad at every little thing in between. So far I've had unscheduled hospital visits for 1. not feeling sick (!) early on. 2. weird discharge. 3. reduced movement 4. spotting.

possom I'm also rushing to get work done before going on mat leave. I could get away with just dumping it all on someone else, but I feel bad for my clients doing that, and I'm self employed so the more I can get finished the more £££ for me.

shirley at my 12 week scan I asked the sonographer what he thought it was. He said he could make a good guess, but it can be a bit hard to be certain at that stage, so he wouldn't say. I happened to have the same guy at my 20 week scan and we asked again. He said it was a boy, which is what he suspected at 12 weeks (or so he says)!

wellies lovely to hear from you, glad that family life has resumed, and that your swelling was a false alarm.

state and mrs there's no way you'll catch me in a bath. Can't bear them anyway, and ours is so big and I'm so short that I can't really lie down without slipping everywhere and practically drowning. SLightly confused as baby and bump are both measuring perfect for dates, but people keep saying my bump is small, I think "people" don't know what they are talking about. I feel pretty big!

Anyone else got a sore bump? I get a sharp stabby pain in just one spot at the top of my bump to the right. I had exactly the same with DS. Once it's there the only relief I get is if I lie down for a while.

I get that bonzo along the bottom, usually if I get up quickly or from sitting on the floor, its not nice is it!

Bonzo Yeah my bump is really quite tender at the bottom, my MW says it's to do with the hormone relaxin which is produced during pregnancy to allow everything to stretch. It also has the rather unpleasant side effect of making it very easy to pull muscles and ligaments when you move too quickly. I've learned it's best to move slowly and deliberately so I look ridiculous, but it doesn't hurt!

Unfortunately I have no choice in the matter regarding baths, we don't have a shower and there's no way to fit one in our crappy bathroom. I just have to make sure DH is around in case I get stuck!

I didn't have a shower when pregnant with the big two, near the end I'd have my mum come help me every few days and stand and wash myself and hair over the bath from the sink, especially when pregnant with dd, I was terrified I'd get stuck when ds was in his cot, that bath was so so small though!