Pregnant after a miscarriage, as the bumps get bigger we get braver, 1st,2nd or 3rd trimester, reasurance and hand holding aplenty!

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Before the first thread fills and locks a 2nd thread for us getting braver!

Hi girls how's everyone doing?
Got a terrible headache that will not go away, this is day 2 :(
My sister-in-law is coming down from Scotland today which I am not looking forward to one bit!!! My mil is bad enough without dh sister. I really have no patience for my inlaws when am pregnant especially when I feel this shit.
Let the week of hell begin maybe I can play the "oh I am not well" card and hide for most of the week.
O well moan over.
Hope everyone else is ok xxx

Hiya swansea sorry to hear you still feel rubbish. And you have unwanted visitors on the way, is there anything worse?

Afm, I'm now 29+1wks slowly getting more confident about everything, in between the odd panic. Struggling with a very stroppy 5yo son who does nothing but give me lip and make me feel like a total failure, dd occasionally copying. Back to school and nursery tomorrow and it eases things a lot, I'm just hormonal and easily upset I guess.

Sorry Swansea, I hope the visit from SIL is not as bad as you are imagining and that your headache passes quickly. I cannot believe that you have only 2 weeks left (and have to spend one with dsil)!

State: challenging 5 year olds and pregnancy are not a great mix. Maybe nap tomorrow during school/nursery hours? That always worked wonders for me when expecting db3...

Welcome princess, I am happy to fret along with you. This thread has been a wonderful source of support. Share your worries here.

I broke a filling on Thursday and discovered on Friday that the tooth needed to be extracted. Very stressful as I don't enjoy dentists as the best of times. Now I am trying not to fret about the antibiotics being the wrong ones and hoping that I am eating enough with this 'soft food diet'.

To top it off, I am 14 weeks today and my uterus is till so tipped back that it is not out of my pelvis and I am finding it difficult to wee. Has this happened to anyone else with a tipped uterus. (NOT my first time but I do wonder is it might be a factor in my late losses.)

Sorry for the me me me rant.

cad I'd never put the two together but my uterus tips back and sometimes I've been desperate for a wee and struggled to go, even now at 29wks it can take a while to pee when I've felt I'm close to bursting.

Think ill try the nap thing, had another miserable day with ds. Just counting down until bedtime.

Sorry to hear about your head Swansea, that's rotten - def hide from sil if you feel you can't face it - I would!

cad horrid not being able to pee - watch put for infections! What does your dr/mw/sonographer etc say?

state nap for sure - tiredness makes everything so difficult to deal with.

Xx

Absolute shite weekend. Emergency admission to hospital with bleeding. Brown and mostly stopped now but spent Saturday night in getting no sleep. Dr there says he thinks my terrible night time cough is asthma so need to see own gp about that. Honestly, my stress levels are through the roof. Have builders starting this week, I'm meant to be taking it easy but DH has no comprehension that that means he needs to pull his weight even though he's working f/t. When I see the gp I'm going to have to mention my mental state. I think I'm really excessively anxious. I've also decided that I want this baby out ASAP and need the known quantity and plannedness of an ELCS.

bonzo I'm sorry you've had such a shitty and stressful weekend :( Hope this week gets better for you. x

I saw your other thread bonzo do they know what caused the bleed, hope you and Lo are ok. How many weeks are you again?

I'm pencilled in as ELCS, and seeing consultant on 1st Nov and want to ask for it around 38wks if baby is a good enough size, just cutting two weeks off my anxious filled wait would be fantastic. Let us know how you get on.

Had bloods today, late again, I was too ill to do them last week, can't believe in just a few days I'm 30wks!!!

Aw bonzo I hope you're doing ok. I've had some brown spotting this morning. Very small amount though, literally a couple of streaks on tissue after had a wee and nothing since. Put it down to me and dp getting jiggy on Sat night. It's freaked me out and left me feeling crap! Know I should count myself lucky I'm 26 wks on Thurs but I'm really not enjoying this pg. The worrying and anxiety had eased off in the last wk or so. Then the backache, heartburn and feeling wiped out by 5pm started! Honestly can't wait til I have our little boy safe and sound in my arms and I can have my body back. Hows everyone else doing?

and also to add to my list of pg pet peeves- leaky boobs and the constant need to wee! DD has just put a massive smile on my face though. She has just come in from the garden, written a letter to me (well it's scribbles with her name and a kiss at the end!) that apparently says I'm the most beautiful mummy in the world (yep, you heard it here first- it's official!) and she's going to kiss me lots. She's fab!

thanks all. Still having some brown spotting but hoping it's just left overs. It's really wound me up though. Very tearful this morning, so called midwives who have referred me to their psychology unit. Appointment not till a week tomorrow, but at least I have something in place. I'm 27 +3 and am now absolutely hell bent on getting an ELCS. Am going to collate all my info and put my foot down at each appointment till I get one booked. While DH is not absolutely useless, he can be very disengaged, and based on my experience of the attempted induction with DS, how he responded to me during / after the mmc and at other emotional times, I don't think he'll be any use as a birthing partner. So I would have to have my mum, or a doula or rely on the midwives. And as my last induction failed, and as they won't let me go past 41 weeks, and as they won't induce / augment labour having had a CS, and with my negative state of mind, it will end up with a CS anyway, they might as well just book it. My understanding is that if my consultant won't agree to one they have to refer me to another that will anyway.

The hospital dr also was concerned about my cough (at night time mostly, on and off for about a year) and thinks it might be asthma, so off to the GP about that. If I can improve my sleep I'd be most grateful... He also said no heavy lifting, so have taken that as an excuse to get DS a spare buggy... bit daft I know but I've found something that weighs nearly half of my old bugaboo bee and will also be less bulky to handle. Yes, throw money at the problem!

gemdrop, Oh how I echo your sentiments.... I too am fed up with the tiredness, the heartburn, want my baby out and my body back.

swansea honestly you are a saint having anyone to stay, but people who you find hard to tolerate are the worse. I am so pleased that we basically no longer have anywhere for anyone to stay over, unless they want to sleep on a floor or a lumpy, slippery sofa covered in cat hairs.

Oh dear, another long long me me me post from bonkers bonzo........

Your alright bonzo that's what we are here for :) I'm obviously no expert but I think you have a very good case for elcs. I had a failed induction with ds and ended up have a section and with dd and this baby at 12wks my consultant said csection or vbac, I'd reccomend a csec ok miss state? And that was that. If you go armed with the facts and a rational arguement they will listen and hopefully book you in, but at my hospital no set date is given until around 2wks before but you'll be told something like between 38-39+5 or similar, hope that all makes sense. Good luck! Xx

gem your dd is adorable! I'm fed up of the tiredness too, went to stay at the pils this weekend and had enough sleep but couldn't wake up this morning and had a 2 1/2 hour nap this afternoon and still feel wiped out!

Bonzo, so sorry you're having a rough time, good luck with your campiagn to get an ELCS. If it was up to me - I'd let you have it in a heartbeat

Gem - your DD is just the cutest thing! How lovely.

Swanswa - you are a saint! Polish that halo!

State - a bath and an early night for you tonight.

20 weeks today!!! does lap of honour I can't believe I'm half way there! Scan on Wednesday, I can't wait, I'm so excited. Feeling some really convincing wriggles these days which is really reassuring but then I have moments of blind panic when I think I'm kidding myself and imagining it. Will it ever pass? I doubt it!

Horray for half way mrs I still convince myself I'm imagining movements, I annoy myself haha!

Hi ladies hope everyone is ok.
I feel proper depressed today might have something to do with the 3 day headache, nausea and heartburn.
That and I just found out my sis is having a baby girl, I am genuinely happy for her but I can't help feeling slightly down about it cause I desperately wanted 1 this time and I can't help thinking about the baby I lost and what if that was my baby girl the 1 I have always wanted. I feel awful feeling the way I do but I can't help it!!!
I am exhausted and a bit fragile emotionally at the mo. The anti-depressants obviously aren't doing their job cause I feel like shit :'(
Am I a terrible person for feeling like this?

not at all swansea, hugs to you. Bonzo I know nothing on the subject of c sections but I cant see how they can refuse. State its so tiring. Have about 4 days a wk I hardly sleep due to weeing, back ache, baby having a party in my womb or insomnia! The remaining 3 days normally have a great nights sleep and feel like a new person! Its pretty hard going at the minute but not too long to go now. And congrats MrsR, fab to reach that stage and very reassuring getting all those wriggles! x

bonzo you poor thing - that sounds awful. Is everything ok now? Bi know it's so hard but rest rest rest. Do anything you can to make life easier - take aways, telly etc. We've got builders at the moment and it's pretty horrid - be out as much as you can - the noise won't help your anxiety and the dust won't help your cough.

Swansea of course you are not a terrible person, you can't help the way you feel and it takes courage to say it. Being down and depressed puts a horrible film over everything - hope you feel better once babe is born. X

Welles, congrats :) so lovely:) haven't been on for a while cos I feel so crappy, constant pains ( think its gas ...) midwife just said oh that's normal... But hurts so much feel faint constantly and morning sickness really bad too...12 week scan on thurs so fingers crossed...

Good luck for thursday shirley I had a lot of discomfort in the first trimester, so try not to worry.

I'm totally exhausted atm and feeling very fed up, time seems to be dragging.

I was very aching during my 1st trimester - I still am now, try not to worry about it too much and good luck for Thursday.

After a week long battle with excema and a dash to the hairdresser last night, DS didn't get his picture taken. Another boy with the same first name had his taken twice.

I've kicked up a right stink and a TA is taking him to another school in town on Friday to get it taken there. Do NOT mess with a pissed off pregnant woman.

Shirley I had some awful trapped wind early on too, generally speaking I am now at my most comfortable I think! For today anyway!

mrs that's terrible - I would have complained too. We got a data check form home yesterday for a different child - it seems that loads of people went home with other childrens details - data protection anyone?

Oh mrs what a bunch of muppets, glad you have it sorted though

I've had the first peaceful after school time with the dcs in what seems like months. I made pizza dough and sauce whilst they were both at school/nursery and had all the toppings chopped ready for the eldest getting home, they spent ages rolling out and shaping the dough and topping them, then sat quietly eating. Love the jamie oliver website

I still can't believe I will be 30 weeks in a few days!

Yum yum state, sounds delicious, might have to do that for tomorrow eve....

Mrs, that's really bad!

Managed to do some housework today after crappy morning, hopefully will continue to be ok for later on, roll on tomorrow ......

I am exhausted today, keep waking up at night. Have booked my flu and whooping cough jabs today and that's as productive as I've got.

All is well! 20 week scan this morning was lovely - 2 arms, 2 legs, little heart beating away. Baby was totally uncooperative and kept wriggling and turning away from the sonographer to snuggle into the placenta. Am hugely reassured that I'm definitely feeling movements as I was able to watch baby move while I felt it! Baby has lovely long legs, which means I'm probably going to stay as the runt of the litter - I'm 5ft 3, DH is 6ft 2 and 8 year old DS is 4ft 6. So we're having another beanpole!

Due to the uncooperative little monkey we're going back for another scan in 2 weeks so the sonographer can try and check a couple more measurements she wasn't able to get today, but overall everything looks great.