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Pregnant with no. 3 / 4 / 5...?!

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LimeLeafLizard · 14/06/2012 10:02

Just wondering if anyone else is pg with their 3rd, 4th, 5th, or more?!

I am newly pg with baby number 4 and finding it a bit different this time.

Yesterday I flicked through a couple of magazines but the content didn't seem that relevant to me. I am quietly happy but not nearly as excited or nervous as I was before, especially the first time.

I know what kind of birth I want (same as the last two times) and I don't need to buy any stuff, so there doesn't seem so much to think about, at least until the scan.

I am also a bit worried about how other people are going to react when we tell them. There seems to be a general view that wanting 4 children must make us mad.

Hope I am not alone?!

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TheAngelshavetheOod · 14/10/2012 11:27

NYC Envy

Cadmum · 14/10/2012 12:46

Limeleaflizard: we were in the UK for Dh's PhD but the other moves have been with his work, yes. We lived in Cambodia for two years and LOVED it do we thought we would rather come here than go back to Geneva but Bangkok is HUGE and -like many big cities- unfriendly. The sex tourism is also very 'in our faces' which I really don't like.

Angel: NYC was an unexpectedly fabulous place to live with young children but a bad place to have a baby. The hospital where I delivered bragged about being breast feeding friendly and encouraging rooming-in. My ObGyn claimed to dupport a relaxed labour with no need for interventions and then at 38 weeks started putting on pressure for an induction. She tried to convince me that dd2 was not growing or moving enough. I caved in and dd2 was anything but IUGR... Rooming-in didn't happen and baby was offered a pacifier AND formula despite my expressed interest in exclusively breast feeding. It wax, by far my worst birth experience but the only thing we disliked about NYC!

Off to eat my tea. Sorry for the rant...

AppleCrumples · 14/10/2012 13:15

Cadmum my dad lives in Thailand. He comes back once a year to brag to dh about how all the girls are all over him and loads of other unsavoury details that dh does not want to know! He is only there for 1 reason and I honestly dread his yearly visit. Makes me feel peculiar (shudders). Thankfully he is due here within weeks of this babies arrival so we can easily ignore a lot of his crap and concentrate on our family (also as he has no idea I am pregnant again so should be shocked into silence) :)

TheAngelshavetheOod · 14/10/2012 13:17

US medicalises everything though doesn't it. We took dd1/2to NYC two years ago ( before dd3) and it was great for kids. Desperate to go back but need the little ones to be older before I'm brave enough for the flight!

shockedminder · 14/10/2012 22:59

Hi all. Not had time to read through this but thought I'd pop on and say hello. I'm pg with number 3. Totally unexpected, cried my eyes out when I found out on Friday as we'd decided ages ago that our family was complete. And this has not come at a good time - Dh is 51 and felt he was too old to go through this all again, the house isn't big enough and now he's out of work again. My youngest has just started school and I recenty said how nice it was to finally be doing this job (childminder) without my own around the whole time (love them to bits but can make it really hard work)!! Anyway, the shock is passing and I'm realising this is real and starting to feel better about it all (I believe things happen for a reason!). Off to the MW on Thursday as no idea when I'm due so might get a scan to see what the situation is.

Tell me it'll be ok with 3!!! I'm used to looking after 7 children on a daily basis but 5 of those go home at the end of each day!! Wink

DontSweatTheSmallStuff · 15/10/2012 09:37

Welcome shockedminder

I am in a similar position - also a childminder with my own youngest having just started school. Our house is abit too small for 3 too but we'll have to find ways round it.

Our dc3 was planned but when I got the bfp I did have a few days of panic and thinking we'd made a big mistake. Now I've got used to the idea I'm getting quite excited.

I only have 2 mindees but have to admit i enjoy the peace when they go home. Grin and I only have my 2 left to deal with.

Apparentlychilled · 15/10/2012 09:49

Hi shocked, and congratulations! I found out on Friday night too! Hi too cadmum- congrats!

I'm stressing a bit. I've had lots of implantation pain all weekend (and was in rotten form on Saturday with it. Paracetamol every 4 hours and hot water bottles sorted me out though. And chocolate) thought it's getting better now. I've had some spotting since yesterday and though I know implantation bleeding is pretty common, I'm worrying that I'm losing the baby. Given that I'm not quite over the shock of my BFP, I feel like it's weird to be worrying about it- surely I should just think that what will be will be?

On top of that, my PIL told my DH a little while ago that we shouldn't have any more DC on the basis that I "can't cope" with the ones we have. I think they meant the PND I've had both times and the fact that we have help w DC as a result (please don't flame me), esp while DH is away (lots of time he's away all week with work). To be fair to him, he stood up for me, and told them we're doing it our way, but I still feel really vulnerable about it all, and hurt and angry. I've told him that when we're ready to tell them re DC3, he can tell them by himself and tell them we don't want to hear any comments about my alleged inability to cope. He's fine with that, but I still feel upset. I really want to tell someone in RL about the pregnancy, but I can't trust my mum or my favourite sister- they would tell the world and its wife. My other sister wouldn't blab, but also wouldn't care and my brother wouldn't really get it I think. I might talk to a friend as I'm feeling a bit emotional about it all.

Fisharefriendsnotfood · 15/10/2012 09:59

Hi everyone, I'm a bit late to this thread.. I'm 38 weeks tomorrow with dc3. This pregnancy has been sooooo much harder than the other two. Dd is 4.5 and just started reception and ds is 2.9 and goes to nursery 2 mornings, I'm a sahm.

I have spd for the first time, chronic back pain, prolapse, acid indigestion, heartburn and my skin has morphed into that of a 15 year old boy Sad

Also, dc 1 and 2 were 9lb 15 and 10lb 6 and this one is measuring off the chart. I am so huge even my maternity clothes are too small now Grin I have consultant apt on Thursday morning, have been offered a section at 39 weeks and think will accept but am hoping and praying I might go into labour naturally before then..

I'm excited about the baby coming soon but in so much pain and so anxious I feel unprepared

Sorry for the essay Smile

peterpie · 15/10/2012 15:31

Hello everybody!
I am also a little late joining the thread, due mid November with no3. I have to say I have had a great pregnancy with no problems at all so I should be feeling very fortunate, I´m sorry for those of you who are struggling. My problem seems to be in my head, I have really started to panic the last couple of weeks and I feel completely overwhelmed. I already have 2 boys aged 3 and 5 and I have convinced myself I won´t be able to cope and that I´ll end up a shouty, sleep-deprived, emotional wreck. All I can think of are negatives and it´s awful.
I wouldn´t mind but we planned this pregnancy and I thought long and hard about all the positives and negatives before hand. I hope it´s just my hormones acting up Confused

TheAngelshavetheOod · 15/10/2012 18:58

Welcome shocked fish and peterpie :)

Apparentlychilled · 16/10/2012 11:15

Welcome to those who have just joined the thread.

I'm going to bow out as it turns out this was an ectopic pregnancy. I had an op yesterday to remove my rt tube. Home from hospital but in pain and feeling a bit sad.

Good luck everyone. Xxxx

annelid · 16/10/2012 12:06

Really sorry to hear your news Apparentlychilled, wishing you a speedy recovery.

TheAngelshavetheOod · 16/10/2012 12:14

(((apparantlychilled))) hope you are ok.

ShellyBobbs · 16/10/2012 14:28

So sorry Chilled wishing you well x

AppleCrumples · 16/10/2012 16:12

So sorry apparentrly chilled. I hope your ok x

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LimeLeafLizard · 16/10/2012 16:18

Chilled, so sorry to hear that. Thanks Hope you have good RL support and someone lovely to talk to. X

Hello to Shocked and Fish and Peterpie!

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4kidsplusbump · 16/10/2012 16:47

Sorry to hear that Chilled Sad. Hope you recover quickly.

Welcome to all the newbies! Well I have been feeling like things could kick off any time now since yesterday. Have been having on and off contractions, but obviously hasn't progressed into the real thing yet...fingers crossed it does soon as I am feeling so uncomfortable. Am 37 weeks today...so baby technically no longer early anyway! And DH has just text to say he will be late home from work so looks like I will be getting tea and kids sorted on my own, just when I feel like I could collapse in a heap somewhere!

CODwidow · 16/10/2012 17:09

Hiya peterpie I'm expecting my 5th in dec and like you am having a great pregnancy really but have now totally convinced myself I'll not be able to cope because of the lack of sleep and I'm going to be a shouty person! Hormones have a lot to answer for!

cherrypiew3 · 16/10/2012 21:02

Chilled sorry to hear your news wishing you well.

Welcome to anyone newSmile

4kids hope things start for you soon and it all goes well.

I am 32 weeks now and starting to really struggle still not sleeping and having breathing problems (asthma) starting to count down the weeks.

Hope everyone else is feeling well.

peterpie · 16/10/2012 21:17

Echoing what the others have said Apparentlychilled, I hope you feel better soon...
Thanks everybody for the words of welcome Grin
Have felt dreadful again today, so panicky about everything and really teary, crying for no reason at all. I suspect I may have some form of ante-natal depression but don´t live in the UK and it´s not something that I have ever heard talked about here in Spain...anyway enough of that or you will all think I am Mrs whinge-bag!

CODwidow - I´m right with you on the hormones front, wish they´d bugger off! I bet you are super mum with 4 babies already under your belt Wink

4kids - hope it´s not long for you now, good luck!!

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LimeLeafLizard · 16/10/2012 21:35

cherry so you're counting down the weeks already?! Those last few weeks always seem to go so frustratingly slowly, don't they? I think after Christmas is when I'll start counting properly.

4kids sounds like your count is getting to an end... FX things happen for you soon... how many weeks were you when the others were born? (sorry if you've mentioned already upthread).

Peterpie, so sorry to hear your situation - I've been there myself in all 3 of my previous pregnancies... the tears, the anxiety etc. And like you, my pregnancies were otherwise generally healthy, so I knew I was lucky and felt guilty for being so unhappy. At least you haven't too long to go now - how many weeks are you? How long have you been living in Spain? Is your experience of pregnancy different there?

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4kidsplusbump · 17/10/2012 03:31

Well awake again at some ridiculous hour. Have taken some painkillers....praying that this turns into something more today - I feel like I am going to cry if I have many more days of this :( . Also am being very snappy with DH and all the kids now, so I'm sure they are all hoping baby turns up soon too...

Limeleaf others have all been early - girls were both induced at 38 weeks due to problems, and boys both turned up naturally at 37 and 39 weeks, so anytime now is theoretically possible based on that!

Peterpie I have always had a bit of a panic before hand with each of mine, thinking that I won't be able to manage with an extra baby, especially if I have had a bad day with the other kids. My oldest were 4 and 3 when DC3 was born, so similar to yours, and I found it worked fine. They were both really good with him.

CaptainHetty · 17/10/2012 10:38

Eeek I've missed loads!

Hello to the new ladies and lots of love to chilled, I'm very sorry to hear your news. I hope you're coping as well as you possibly can x

Penny is 16 days old already. Not sure where the past two weeks went Hmm but we're doing very well. Blaaardy difficult getting the other three dressed and out the door for school in the morning, though. We haven't been late yet but it's been close a couple of times.

Definitely won't be any more babies here :o

TheAngelshavetheOod · 17/10/2012 18:17

Posted this on pregnancy and AN thread too but in need of advice so...,

My mum has whooping cough. She started on Friday with a cough which sounded like the cough dd3 has. She's been diagnosed today.Mum has been really ill with it where as dd3 has a cough and a snotty nose but apart from a bit of tiredness is bouncing.

What's the likelihood of dd3 having it?
What risk is it to me if I had it as a child and haven't caught it so far?

ShellyBobbs · 18/10/2012 12:03

I think you'd know about it if DD3 had it by now, but get her checked out with the GP and set your mind at ease if it's bothering you.

They still advise you to have the jab to pass on immunity even if you've had WC and also even if you've had the jab, but not in the last 5 years, so not sure what that says about immunity. Speak to a midwife / GP?