Pregnant with no. 3 / 4 / 5...?!

[LimeLeafLizard]

Just wondering if anyone else is pg with their 3rd, 4th, 5th, or more?!

I am newly pg with baby number 4 and finding it a bit different this time.

Yesterday I flicked through a couple of magazines but the content didn't seem that relevant to me. I am quietly happy but not nearly as excited or nervous as I was before, especially the first time.

I know what kind of birth I want (same as the last two times) and I don't need to buy any stuff, so there doesn't seem so much to think about, at least until the scan.

I am also a bit worried about how other people are going to react when we tell them. There seems to be a general view that wanting 4 children must make us mad.

Hope I am not alone?!

Britta - blimey, everyone on this thread has a small family by comparison! Good luck to her though!

Hetty at nylon knickers... that is worthy of a stand up comedy routine! In fact, being pregnant would be a good topic for stand up.

Beached whale is just bloody rude, even if meant jokingly. Really people should think before they speak. And it is def. not a comment you can backtrack out of!

I told someone this week that I was pregnant, she said, 'oh its going to be hard work with 3', I replied, 'this is my fourth, actually!', and she just gave a horrified gasp 'Oh NO!'
But she must have realised immediately how bad that sounded because she apologised, hugged and congratulated me, and then joked about herself being insensitve with such good humour that I forgave her straight away!

Good luck ttc Hani!

Evening everyone

Hope things are happening soon Hetty. All mine have been early - all by 38 weeks, apart from DC3 who was 39 weeks. I am only counting this pregnancy up to 38 weeks, so if it is any later than that I will probably be ready to kill someone...

Britta I have no idea how anyone can have that many kids....I am almost 34 weeks with DC5 - and I feel like I could give up anytime now, as it is such hard work looking after 4 kids and being very pregnant.....hats off to her! The only thing that is currently getting me through this is the thought that I never have to be pregnant again!

Feel like I am getting quite close now, but 4 weeks (only counting until 38 weeks!) still seems like an awful long time away! Have had a particularly bad week though - had 2 full on migraines in 2 days, which has took me about 4 days to get over properly . Just sent DH out to get me a mcflurry - that's bound to help!

Well I had DD4 on Friday night after a very traumatic 3 day induction due to baby being in distress and mec. in my waters.

She was born naturally just before a crash c-section (the anaesthetists were running into the room apparently) were as her heart beat went through the floor then disappeared. They were just about to scan me to find out what was happening when she appeared!

Luckily she was fine and had APGAR scores of 9 then 10 but it was horrific.

Congratulations, Truth, but sorry you both had such a rough time of it :( poor thing! Hope you're both doing well now x

Still no baby here, just a lot frustration and of on/off contractions. Saturday evening had regular contractions over 5 hours which eventually were coming every 4-5 minutes, then they just tailed off. Very frustrating. Had a few since then but nothing regular. 39 weeks today and have consultant appointment tomorrow afternoon, so hopefully can find out if the contractions are doing anything and perhaps ask about getting things moving - I won't get my hopes up though!

Congratulations lime. I am 25 weeks pg with no.4 and have felt a little different this time. But I think thats down to being tired and busy wit my other three. I have three boys aged 4, 3 and 20 months. This one is due a couple of weeks before DS3's second birthday. People keep asking how I'll cope, but I'm very lucky to have MIL living next door and my mum is only a 10 min drive away. You just get on with it, don't you? Muddle through.

Haven't read the whole thread yet as have to pick DS1 from school in a bit, but wanted to say, this pregnancy is whizzing past and I've had no time to think about it. And agreed to the pregnancy magazines. They seem to be geared up to telling you what to pack in your hospital bag, the different options you have for where you give birth etc. I haven't bothered buying them for my last two pregnancies.

Sorry to hear you had a hard time truth hope all's well now that baby's here and you're able to enjoy these early days.

I'm still over britta's relly about to give birth to her 16th child!!! I'm only on no. 3 and really can't imagine being physically capable of continuing on to have another 13 pregnancies!!!

This will be our last baby (although never say never again.....) and I'm trying not to wish it away. I do enjoy being pregnant but this time has been different, so little time to think about it and the SPD has been pretty uncomfortable. I have moments of such excitement thinking about baby arriving and the years ahead - and then moments of terror thinking, how will I manage??? I'm a SAHM at the moment, not entirely out of choice but I do love it, it's not the thought of coping with all that needs doing with children but the worry about whether I've got the patience to deal with 3. My mil thinks I'm very patient, I think I have a short fuse!

I also have pangs of guilt (that old chestnut of motherhood!) about DD2 who is 18 months old and I feel we're really only just starting to get to know each other properly and soon I'll be almost fully occupied by another baby. I feel bad for DD2 - but also I feel selfishly sad that I know this will be the time she starts to become much closer to DH as he'll be doing so much more for and with her. I really missed DD1 (now 4yrs) for a while when DD2 came along and I guess it'll be that way again. DD1 is still probably closer to DH than me these days and while I'm very happy they have such a fab relationship I'm still sad that she doesn't call for me when she wakes in the night.

Phew, bit of soul bearing there! I keep trying to explain to DH and my Mum how I'm feeling but they don't really get it. Feels good to have got it off my chest a bit.

Those old pregnancy hormones really can just take over without warning can't they??? Speaking of which hope you're feeling back on an even keel hetty?

Re the pelvic floors - I find them such an effort to do! I try to do 30 a day but it usually works out about 30 twice a week. I remember when I could do hundreds without batting an eyelid when pg with DD1.......sigh those days have long gone. Getting fed up of peeing whenever I sneeze!

Congratulations Truth, so glad that eventually everything was well. Hugs to you both x

Congratulations truth sounds scary but really pleased you have a gorgeous baby girl at the end of it.

moonhare I feel very much the same as you. I have moments of blind panic about how I will cope with 3 but I am sure we will be fine after a period of readjustment

I had a chance to test my patience yesterday when DS1 decided to practise football volleys in the living room. As I heard the glass of a picture smash and fall to the floor I focused on breathing and counting to ten before walking into the living room to survey the damage. DH was there so I had time to compose myself and look at the situation rationally but the worrying thing is that DH let him do it..

Cos of the PGP I am home now for good with eight weeks to go. Nice to be home every day (if a bit boring cos I can't do a lot) and to be home when the boys come in from school. Just hope I can fit in the homework and the nightly reading/spelling/maths with a newborn. A lot will be done whilst BFing I think.

I hope you get good news tomorrow captain

Congratulations truth , first thread baby !

One of the benefits of the remifentanil pca (the pain relief I had) was that I wasn't really aware of how serious it was so just got on with and ignored the crowd of people!

I think if I had had an epidural I would have been terrified and that may well have slowed things down (I did have an epi for the first crack at a synto. induction but it didn't work as I have hypermobility syndrome)

Congratulations Truth hope you are both doing well.

Hetty I hope things get moving for you soon.

Moonhare I have moments worrying about how I will cope DH works nights and the thought of doing all the night feeds by myself really worries me. No matter how much I am up in the night I will still have to get up and get 3 dc ready for school.

Congrats truth hope u and baby are both doing well.

moon I remember breaking down in floods of tears not long after dd2 was born cos I just cldnt do everything I wanted to with dd1 like read bedtime story or bath her when I wanted to. I bf dd2 so cldnt even ask Dh to do the feed in the early days. Felt so guilty as dd1 had only just turned 2 and still wanted mum a lot of the time..but we got thru it and yes, dd1 did grow closer to Dh but in hindsight it did take a bit of the pressure off me. Dd2 will be 3.6 wen dc3 arrives but is very much a daddy's girl anyway. Also have mad panics thinking how am I going to cope but you do just get on with it don't you? Those hormones def don't help! Still in early stages so tearful at anything atm - Dh watched footie the other day and they were talkin but hillsborough, had to leave the room or wld have been sobbing like an idiot!

Congratulations Truth . How exciting to have the first baby on the thread! Hope you are both well and settled down a bit after your traumatic experience. Have the DDs met their new little sister yet and how have they been?

They met her on Sunday and you could hear the screams when they realised mummy and baby were home from the car! (as it was raining hard DH had gone on ahead to get the door open before taking baby out).

They are in love with her completely and are so pleased with her - DD1 even told me how proud she was of me - I'm going up the school soon so they can show her off to their friends

Aww , were you mobbed?

Truth That's lovely that they are so pleased with her - great comment from DD1! Hope their friends were suitably impressed!

Reading your last post makes me long for my little baby... though there is still a long way to go. I have my 20 week scan this week!

Moon, Enjay, I am tearful at the slightest thing too. DS2 started school last week and I have had to choke back tears in the playground several times. He seems happy enough though!

Congratulations truth! Sorry that the induction was complicated, I hope you're recovering well?

I've started making the spare room look a bit more like a baby's room. I put the changing table together yesterday and unpacked some nappies. They were so tiny it dawned on me (for the first time this pregnancy, what is wrong with me?) that there will soon be a tiny baby and I felt pretty excited. DH has been excited from the start which helps. I think the more prepared we are the better I feel, although it is still strange having a baby on the other side of the world to friends and family.

I know what you mean about guilt. When we told the DCs about the baby, the first thing DS (4) said was "I thought I was the baby". But he came round pretty quickly. We were sat next to each other on the sofa yesterday and he rubbed my bump and whispered "it's ok baby" to it, I don't think he realised I could hear!

Aww, seymore that's so sweet. We've already told dd's to prepare them for sharing a bedroom. Dd1 who is 5 keeps looking through catalogues and magazines for things we can buy the baby

My DS1 is just over the moon that due to the baby he gets a room of his own and won't be sharing with DS2 any more. He is researching high sleepers and duvet covers in argos and has already told me what colours he wants his bedroom to be painted in I think he is looking forward to having a quiet corner to escape the DS2 and 3 pandemonium!

Hello, please can I join? Found out last week we're expecting DC3. Not quite sunk in yet and occasionally get a little worried if I'm not feeling sick/tired, etc (although DC1 & 2 were both good pregnancies) - probably too much reading of MN and (hopefully) unnecessary panicking.

I passed a car with 3 kids in on the way to collect DS1 from pre-school yesterday and thought "gosh that's a car full" and then immediately thought "shit, that will be me!!!"

Counting down to the scan so that I can be reassured that all is ok. We won't tell the boys till much nearer the time (3 1/2 years and 21 months), but have started to mention they will be sharing a room which they're happy about.

Apologies for being "all about me", just sat at work and desperate to talk to someone! Agree with earlier posters though that don't quite feel the excitement as I did first and second time. Slightly concerned about people's reaction and am expecting a "are you trying for a girl??" In the words of an earlier poster (on page 1 I think) "Errrr . . . . No"

Welcome Blue and congratulations on the pregnancy :)

I am still here, and still very much pregnant.

39+3 today and had anooother stupidly long hospital appointment on Tuesday ending in me being told that baby has grown (albeit very slowly) and my fluid levels aren't stabilising at all despite what they said last week - they're back down by the 15th centile 'at the very low end of normal'. Apparently.

They want me back again tomorrow for another bout of monitoring and if they're happy with the results of that I'll be sent away til Tuesday. If not I might be in for induction over the weekend. Either way they expect me to have had a baby by the end of next week, whether it be spontaneous or induced, they seem unkeen to keep her in much past my due date, so at least I know I don't have to wait much longer.

Hope everyone is well, and sorry for moaning. Again :o

Welcome Blue, that age gaps you'll have are brilliant, mine are currently 22 months between the first and second and 2 and a half years between 2 and 3, then a massive 8 year age gap, now due in 7 weeks!

Oh Captain, what a pain in the arse. This is the worst bit of pregnancy, the waiting game. I do hope she puts in an appearance before / at weekend for you, I'll keep my fingers crossed for you x

*that age gaps, excellent grammar! Those age gaps.....

hello all I'm more of a lurker here but I had my dc3 on 10.09.12 Ava Bluebell, had ELCS so today will be the first school pick up I will do! bit nervous about logistics but sure it'll be fine x

Congratulations, I think Ava is our frontrunner name for a girl for us too, she will be Ava Poppy (due around remembrance day so very fitting) :) You will be fine!