Fantastic 40+ Mums To Be

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A lovely shiney new thread for us to keep chatting on.

Update furstbubba induction booked 1/10, surprise

Oh good, no they're there but I forgot to got the space bar! Am away from computer now, can someone fix it! I can't even do an embarrassed face!

Thanks somewhere!

Not "good", stupid phone!

Sorry, they are well hidden!

Will try and catch up on this thread later as pushed for time but just saw firstbubba's post - so we're induction date twins! How exciting. How are you feeling about it? :)

Firstbubba- Wow how ya feeling? How excited are you for your little surprise x

Not sure how im feeling but being in the hospital today made it feel quite real. Scared, excited worried all at once. Suffering greatly with swollen feet and ankles so from that point of view cant come soon enough as not sleeping much.

Has been such a long time coming doesnt seem real.

Thanks for all your wise words over delivery. I am such a dufus I didn't realise that VBAC meant Vaginal birth after ceserean so wondered why you all thought I had had an EMCS. I now know I am dumb. I had an induction last time and non assisted vaginal birth which is why my consultant thinks I can do it again. Thanks VQ for your advice. I think I will post something on childbirth but I am currently thinking that I will accept sweeps over a period of a few days and then not go for formal induction but straight to ELCS. I am so bloody indecisive and I don't want to leave it hanging. I think it would have been a good idea for me to have some kind of debriefing after my labour and I may not feel so little trust towards the hospital and staff but feel I have left it too late to deal with all that now. Anyway - your kind words and advice mean a lot to me and are helping me see the wood through the tress.

VQ like you my mum also had PET but never told me either, in fact I only found out the other day

Fjord You are also right - it doesn't have to be like that - I need to take control on whatever option I decide. Your positivity is more useful than my fear!

Firstbubba sorry you are feeling all swollen - I was like that with DD and I still remember how horrible it was - it is actually painful isn't it?

HP You are right - October is a big month for this thread - not bad for old birds eh? I forgot how swollen and hard your boobs become when BF so will not look forward to laying on my front for a wee while yet!

LRM I like the sound of your plan - going with the flow is the only way really when it comes to the big day. I should know it matters not how they come out - just that they come out safe.

Have to go as just about to drop off to sleep on my laptop. We've come a long way ladies.... big waves.

just got my combined test result - 1:1300 chance of Downs.

As the nuchal translucency was 1mm i feel the bloods must have been a bit rubbish. I know its a 'stop worrying, tell everyone, no further tests needed' result but I am concerned the bloods were a bit rubbish.

Anyway, just absorping it.

xxx

Somewhere that is a great result for an old bird in fact, that is a great result for a young bird.

somewhere pretty good odds I reckon! Enjoy

midget it makes sense now! I was really quite concerned about rupture.

midget having properly read your other thread, I think it would be a good idea to talk to the boss midwife about your last delivery. I do not think it is too late, as the trauma is clearly still with you, so I doubt it would make it any worse, and may help you decide this time. My concern is the fear you feel. I can so empathise with that. The fact I had a section with my last helps with my decision with this one, but thinking back to last time I was crippled with fear, even with a debriefing, and short of being off my head on Valium, nothing would have helped me. Being in the same hospital with same consultant is likely to trigger this, no matter how much hypnobirthing you do. There is your partners feelings to consider too. My DH also thought he would lose us, or be left on his own, and men rarely get the chance to talk things through.

Of course, we are all different, and it may be that you start labour naturally, and breathe LO out and have a positively orgasmic experience that keeps you on a high until retirement. I seriously think in order to stand a chance at this, a debriefing should be done ASAP. I know that with some traumas, they should never be discussed during pregnancy due to potential risk to mental health, but I do not think this would be so in this scenario, and if it were, they would tell you. Good luck buddy!

Somewhere, just to echo Midget, I'd say that's a brilliant result my lovely! Hope your nausea is better today.

thankyou midget valium and knotty - i am being stupid. time to stop worrying instead of finding new convoluted ways to worry.

xxx

Somewhere, you're not being stupid, it's much easier said than done to just "stop worrying". I find with this pregnancy I never quite believe everything is going to be OK and that Rosa will be in my arms in 12 weeks. When I had DS I was blissfully ignorant and it never crossed my mind that anything would be wrong, or go wrong. There is no reason for me to think anything bad will happen with Rosa either but yet I can't quite let myself daydream about having her here without catching myself and thinking "well, as long as nothing happens". It's not a nice way to be really and it does spoil moments like when DS talks to her and says he can't wait to give her a cuddle, and I just can't stop myself thinking "oh god how will I deal with his grief as well if something goes wrong?" Sorry, I rambled on a bit there !

knotty that's exactly how i feel. please ramble away!
Rosa - beautiful name!
xxx

Somewhere Alas if you are anything like me you won't stop worrying till you have the baby in your arms and then the worry is different! Like knotty says I still check myself daily and worry about DD getting too excited. I am on another thread where I save up my ramblings (I have a long and complicated history of recurrent losses). Take the reassurance where you can find it (ie good nuchal) but always be prepared for the next thing to freak about whilst enjoying the calmness between.

I am feeling all zen after unwrapping my hypnobirth CD. Fjord would be proud. Also going to take VQ's advice and see if I can have a debrief with my midwife next week.

somewhere agree with the rest of the ladies. Think it's a marvellous result, though understand your concern. Mine was 1:1988 for the nuchal scan with a translucency of 1.5mm. The sonagrapher mentioned afterwards that if I still wanted to discuss having an amnio, that I could - and the mere mention of amnio made me question how good my results really were. Luckily the ladies on here spoke sense. They are good results. There are no certainties in life, but I think both you and I have had pretty bloody good outcomes. It's all such a worry though isn't it? xx (knotty some very wise words there in your post)

midgetm agree with VQ, is there anyway you can have a chat with the head honcho midwife? It's no wonder you feel worried about the whole labour business. Definitely worth a chat if you can, at the very least to make it known how you are feeling about the run up to it.

Just got back from my night away with hubby. We had a bit of a row on our way there which marred things a bit. It always seems to me that when we haven't spent much time with each other in a long time we always have get a bit snipe-y with each other. He's now off from work for 3 weeks so hopefully we can re-adjust. It's just that when he says he's feeling exhausted and run down, I want to shout 'how the bloody hell do you think I'm feeling after being or feeling sick every day for the past 10 weeks??' Right, that's off my chest. Back to work.....

Men should be banned from even thinking about saying they are tired and run down until they have carried a baby and squeezed it our of their fanjo or surgical incision (delete as appropriate)

Somewhere- That a great result honey,keep smiling . xx

Men have no idea. DH is very tired and feels fat. He always puts on weight when I am pregnant, and last night DD1 asked if he was having a baby too.

Knickyknocks, I know what you mean about spending time together. DP has been here doing our house last week and this week and part of me really likes having him here but I do quite like it when he has a job to do elsewhere as well! He has a habit of standing right in front of whichever appliance it is I need to use . Having said that he is cracking on with all the work but stops for half an hour after lunch every day so I can have a cat nap , which I know is very frustrating for him. But I agree men should be banned from talking about feeling tired/bit under the weather whilst we're pregnant!

Meant to say I went out with my friends on Friday night for a curry and we were talking about vasectomies (as you do!!) - 4 of us were there and one's DH has had one, and 2 of us definitely don't want any more kids but our DH/DPs are somewhat reluctant to get the snip and we were saying how it's such a minor procedure really and don't know why they make such a fuss! My other friend after several glasses of wine disagreed and said we were being "very unfair to the menfolk" and that they have a lot to deal with, despite our argument that we have smears/childbirth/period pains etc. Twas an "interesting" conversation!

Ooh a ban on men even thinking about saying they are tired sounds like a great idea .

knotty, yes, my DH is home too getting on with all the DIY chores that he should have been doing a long time ago. I'm semi-dreading getting home to see the state of the house, but it needs to be done. The nursery needs to be re-decorated in time for the new 'un, and this 3 week break for him is as good as tie as any. My hubby does the standing in front of any appliance that I need to use too.... Oh and I so disagree your other friend being 'very unfair to manfolk' re the vasectomies. I think pregnancy and childbirth trumps anything that men go through - and I had a relatively easy labour but I'm not in a rush to re-live it just yet!