Fantastic 40+ Mums To Be

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A lovely shiney new thread for us to keep chatting on.

Haven't checked her bucket fanjo recently. But she runs marathons as well as having loads of DC. Did complain that she will never lose her tyre round the middle despite running up to 30 miles a week when she's in training...

my goodness a waft of fresh air from the bloomers, the people who bloom when pregnant. how i wish i was like you!
xxx

Wow this is such a massive thread! Do all the 40 plus women hang out here? I am 40 and 4 weeks pg. Are there many of us here or is this thread for the whole deal, i.e. people who aren't ttc/pg? I'm too newly pg for a thread for just looking for others to go "oh my god" with!

onemore this is for pregnant ladies who are 40 plus, but graduates are welcome to stay. There is a very got TTC thread elsewhere for 40plus ladies.

Congratulations! Do share your journey so far

We have not had a roll call for a while.

Valium Queen. 43. # DC3 for ELCS 25/10. Boy

Evening all and big welcome to Clickingtock (I was 41 3 weeks ago and 23 weeks today so we are vaguely similar!)

The talk about childcare has got me thinking as will need to sort out something for next year at some point. DP and I are yet to sort out our joint finances (and our domestic arrangements are hideously complicated) and so there is some work to do there. I have budgeted for some time off but then will need to get back to it so that I can continue to pay the mortgage (I own my house and DP rents elsewhere but is here at weekends). On top of that am self employed and don't actually have any guarantee of getting back into my line of work when the baby is here, so doing quite a bit of legwork at the moment to make myself indispensable at work so that they will take me back on any terms...

I saw the consultant this morning and he has declared my pregnancy 'normal' which is great considering age, BMI, medical condition, amnio, etc etc and when I asked him about birth choices he said I still have all options open to me, which is great news. The word 'homebirth' is still swirling around in my head but feel a bit silly saying it aloud. There is a local homebirth group which meet up monthly and I don't think it would hurt to go along and at least get some information, even if I end up in hospital. Certainly won't be getting advice from family members as sister had back to back and major blood loss with first and cousin had an 11 pounder when she was 18... (she did go on to have 3 more though so don't think she was put off too much...)

LRM, firstbubba and Fjord - am so excited for you and will be very, very interested in hearing about your experiences!

somewhere - I think that is spot on what you said about trying to make friends with other mums being like first year at college (or at least that's how I imagined it would be like anyway). I think because I am so busy with my work/commute/domestic routine, the last thing I feel like doing at the moment is things like NCT and bonding with other couples who are going through the same thing. Maybe I will feel a bit different further down the line, and makes me realise how important the people on this thread are as you are actually the only pregnant women I actually know!

I am very lucky though in having a close friend who lives in same street who I have known for years and now has two small children. She is a bit ahead of me in terms of experience and has (slightly flippantly) offered to be there at the birth - beginning to think it could be a really good idea as she has had mixed birth experiences but is positive about it all and seems to have great coping strategies so think she could be a very calming, supportive influence (am pretty certain DP will panic and say the wrong things which I really want to avoid, so may be good to have someone 'supervising' him)

By the way, somewhere, ebay has been a bit hit and miss but generally do the bidding on my phone, watch similar items like a hawk to get an understanding of what people will pay for things and also use an automated bidding site that bids on your behalf if you can't bid at the last minute. Also use saved searches so that I get notified straight away if someone puts a specific item up for sale. Did have a bit of a fail the other day though when I bought some lovely maternity jeans for 99p. Turns out they are too small and I have come to realise my arse is a lot bigger than I gave it credit for :-(

I hope everyone has survived the week ok and especially hpbp I hope you have a lovely relaxing weekend with lots of family support!

littlered didnt feel great after sweep but was nowhere as bad as i expected midwife was lovely tho think that helped not sure will be same with community midwife next week. Feeling no change today although i think bubba seems more active. DF away til next week so have been pyjamas all day after dropping him off not forgetting the surgical stockings. Glamour all the way here. However did get nice delivery of flowers this courtesy of DF.

Also in Scotland valium

Thanks ValiumQueen! So, I'm 40 and a 1/4 and only 4 weeks pregnant, i.e. 12 dpo. I miscarried at 11 weeks back in March. With a first try / first pregnancy. Bascially I came around to the idea late in life. I had been uncertain about having a family all my life, which in retrospect I think was due to being a slow developer and spending a lot of my adulthood in a relationship with someone I very consciously did not want to have a baby with . Following that my next serious relationship was with someone who did not want to have children and I never reviewed what I actually wanted.

Then about a year and a half ago the broodiness just crept up on me, it was so unexpected that I was anxious about it. It took almost a year and felt like I was serously outing myself to ask my OH if he would have a baby with me, also because it meant I was putting our otherwise wonderful relationship on the line. To my surprise he just said yes.

We waited until last December to start trying and were lucky straight away. The MC was duly horrific in all the ways it can be. But also I was just very slow to heal physically. I bled for two months, then I had other cervical health complications over the course of 2 months. And now, just Thursday morning, after 6 days of twingy breasts and bleeding gums, going off coffee and wine and thinking most things tasted funny, I tested and got the "1-2 weeks pregnant". We both had a D&V bug during the only two times we managed a halfhearted dtd so this was even more unexpected.

I haven't really been able to react much. I'm smiling definitely, I'm not anxious but I do have a "wisened concern". I'm not ridiculously ecstatic like I was last time but I'm "quietly thrilled". All the words I can think of to try to describe how I feel are weird and inadequate. I'm sleeping funny and eating everything in site but think I'm comfort eating! I think it hasn't sunk in yet. I'm a little spotty, as I would be before my af, and because my cycles vary a bit that could be due anyday up to Wednesday. I just got the positive super early. Hope it sticks.

Thanks for letting me have a place to splurge, sorry it was so long.

onemore hoping this is a sticky one, and roll on 12 week scan. They should be happy to give you early scans if you want. All your symptoms are encouraging.

onemore congratulations on your BFP. I appreciate your reasons for feeling quietly thrilled. After your experience it's no wonder you're feeling anxious. The conception thread for 40 plus has a saying 'for today you are pregnant', and it made me just try and go day by day in the first trimester. There's no reason to think things won't go smoothly this time. Will keep my fingers crossed that it's a sticky one.
clicking hello lovely lady! Fab to see you here. Things are marching along for you now! Nearing 3rd trimester already? Lovely to hear things have gone so smoothly. Loved VQ's comments about a bucket for fanjo re your friend. Seriously, your friend sounds very impressive (and somewhat sickening ) She runs up to 30 miles a week??? Oh gawd, I'm really starting to feel a bit inadequate.
somewhere how are you feeling? We haven't told DD about the pregnancy yet. Not sure I could bear being asked 'where's the baby' every day for the next 25 weeks! Planning on telling her around the 6 month mark and getting a couple of books to help with introducing the idea to her. Have you told DS? TI forget how old he is?)

AFM, the sickness reappeared briefly yesterday. Does this baby not know I'm now 15 weeks pregnant?! This should have disappeared at least 3 weeks ago...
Busy weekend ahead, DD's 3rd birthday party (20 kids and soft play....should be relaxing....not...). - but then me and hubby have booked ourselves a night away at a plush spa tomorrow. Have trashy magazines and chocolate at the ready. My idea of bliss!

Here's my details for the rollcall:

Valium Queen. 43. # DC3 for ELCS 25/10. Boy
Knickyknocks 40 # DC2 due 17/3

sorry onemore - missed you when I posted before! Big congrats and so sorry about your previous MC. I had an early MC before this pregnancy and was utterly heartbroken. Those early weeks/months can be hard and definitely a good idea to just take things day by day, and those days suddenly just roll into weeks, then months. Good point Valium about early scans - I didn't have any but had managed to work myself up to point of insanity by 12 weeks so could be a good idea.

I managed to capture my stomach moving on video this morning - the movement is quite subtle but definitely there. Not sure if she has hiccups or is doing that thing that dogs do with their legs when they drop off to sleep..

Nice to see a new rollcall - I occasionally look back to the one on the old thread and wonder how everyone is doing...

Valium Queen. 43. # DC3 for ELCS 25/10. Boy

Knickyknocks 40 # DC2 due 17/3
Eagleray 41 # DC1 due 18/1 Girl

So busy on here, lovely to see but hard to keep up with! Welcome to Clicking and Onemore. You sound like you've really been through it Onemore, fingers crossed for you with this little one. Knicky, hope your DD has a fab party and enjoy your night away tomorrow .

Had a rough couple of days, not sure why but felt really exhausted and uncomfortable. Thought it might be iron levels as I have been taking Gaviscon regularly for heartburn and read somewhere that it can affect iron levels, so I bought some dried apricots. Now, I am normally a very windy person but since being pregnant have hardly guffed at all. The apricots however appear to have brought my old self back shall we say . Went out for a curry last night with my girlfriends (was a belated birthday celebration from May as my MS was too awful at that time). Had a lovely time but could only eat about a third of my dinner. Had a lay in this morning and feel better so far, so fingers crossed.

Here's my details for the rollcall:

Valium Queen. 43. # DC3 for ELCS 25/10. Boy
Knickyknocks 40 # DC2 due 17/3
Knottyhair 44 #DC2 due for ELCS around 17/12 Girl

Hope everyone has a lovely weekend x

Sorry Eagle, cross posted! Seeing some movement is lovely, great that you captured in on video!

Valium Queen. 43. # DC3 for ELCS 25/10. Boy

Knickyknocks 40 # DC2 due 17/3
Eagleray 41 # DC1 due 18/1 Girl
Knottyhair 44 #DC2 due for ELCS around 17/12 Girl

morning all. i am having a moment of lucidity and no MS so i've been working! feeling great about it - not being able to work - as a freelancer - has been making me feel so down.

MS was horrible yesterday. I had a Maccy D's - there's one near my hospital and its hard not to reward myself with it after a hosp visit, those gherkins in particular call my name - and THAT wasn't a good idea. But fingers crossed for today.

knicky you are a paragon of caution not telling your DD but i guess i've not had an MC ever so despite myself I am more sanguine than those that have. so far I am actually one of the lucky ones, medically, and i give props and admiration to all you ladies who've been through so much tougher times. Lots of women close to me have had tough times and I think i've really absorped the message that it can be tough though. I'm not like one of these 20-something women who has no idea that it can go wrong.

We actually brought my DS into the scan room after we found out the nuchal was normal. He was ill however and I don't think he really took it in. In about a week he'll probably fixate on it.

onemore congratulations! it all sounds good. this is the hardest time i think and we are all here to cheer you on. at this early stage it is also quite nice to talk to people on the TTC thread - there is at least one other early PG on there
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/1505941-Fantastic-40-thread-part-7

I am going to show caution in so far as i'm not going to put myself on the list yet, but i will amend it to combine eagleray and knotty hair.

Valium Queen. 43. # DC3 for ELCS 25/10. Boy
Knickyknocks 40 # DC2 due 17/3
Knottyhair 44 #DC2 due for ELCS around 17/12 Girl
Eagleray 41 # DC1 due 18/1 Girl

hugs to all
xxxx

ps it was a total accident that my son was there for the scan - my sis was supposed to babysit but was late.
xx

Valium Queen. 43. # DC3 for ELCS 25/10. Boy
Knickyknocks 40 # DC2 due 17/3
Knottyhair 44 #DC2 due for ELCS around 17/12 Girl
Eagleray 41 # DC1 due 18/1 Girl
ClickingTock 40 #DC2 due early Jan, sex a surprise (although sonographer has probably spoiled it...)

Well done about keeping it quiet Knicky (and big hello). DS came to both scans and has shown interest in the bump and has indicated he understands that bump will become a real baby which I think is quite clever given his age. He likes driving cars over the bump and is kissing him/her (if asked)! Have a fab 3rd b-day party and night off!!! Bliss.

Onemore - sounds v positive for you this time. Have you considered having some acupuncture in the first trimester. I swear by it - but that's a long and fairly tedious story.

Off on holiday today to Somerset, cottage with Nanny and Pappy. Hoping their presence offsets the terrible twos that appears to be setting in. DS is an angel for everyone else of course...

Have a great weekend. xxxx

clicking terrible twos here. Not what you need when pg. DD2 is 2.4 and does not understand at all about the baby in my tummy. I expose the squirming bulge, say baby, she points at my breasts and says booby. Then hers, sisters etc.

VQ lols!

Hi ladies

Can I join you please?

Not read through the whole thread yet - will go off and do that next - but thought I'd say hello and tell you a bit about me...
I'm 42, have a 2.5 yr old DS and DC2 is due in May... I too am experiencing the terrible twos which doesn't mix well with nausea and general knackeredness

Had IVF after 6yrs TTC, and lovely DS was the result. We were fortunate enough to be able to put some embryos on ice, and this pregnancy is the result of our third attempt at Frozen Egg Transfer. Went for a viability scan yesterday (at 8 weeks) and the heartbeat is nice and strong, so although we're not out of the woods yet, things are looking good.

I had a great pregnancy first time round - very few symptoms to speak of - but I am suffering this time! Admittedly I was much fitter before I had DS - exercise has gone by the wayside a little over the last couple of years - ho hum..
Have added myself to the rollcall

Valium Queen. 43. # DC3 for ELCS 25/10. Boy
Knottyhair 44 #DC2 due for ELCS around 17/12 Girl
Eagleray 41 # DC1 due 18/1 Girl
ClickingTock 40 #DC2 due early Jan, sex a surprise (although sonographer has probably spoiled it...)
Knickyknocks 40 # DC2 due 17/3
BadBuddha 42 #DC2 due 5/5

Looking forward to getting to know you better - off now to read through the thread properly...

You're all very supportive, thanks. I'll look into the acupuncture but the thought of little needles freaks me out! Eagleray, sorry to hear about your mc. It's comforting to read about the good stories on here!

Valium Queen. 43. # DC3 for ELCS 25/10. Boy
Knottyhair 44 #DC2 due for ELCS around 17/12 Girl
Eagleray 41 # DC1 due 18/1 Girl
ClickingTock 40 #DC2 due early Jan, sex a surprise (although sonographer has probably spoiled it...)
Knickyknocks 40 # DC2 due 17/3
BadBuddha 42 #DC2 due 5/5
Onemoreforgoodmeasure 40 # DC1 due 06/06

Welcome BadBuddha! Hope all goes well for you .

Have had a busy day and now feel completely wiped out! DP is really cracking on with getting the new floor laid but it means clearing out the room we were using as our living room and moving back into the proper living room - DP managed to move the 3 piece suite all on his own, bless him. And DS and I moved all his ten million boxes of Lego up to his bedroom and re-organised it all. Just had a big bowl of sausages, tomato sauce & pasta and looking forward to crashing in our proper living room in front of Dr Who, whilst admiring our lovely new floor! Got to go food shopping tomorrow, and to buy curtains/curtain pole for the living room, and force DS to write a book review for his homework. Hope everyone is having a nice weekend xx

Evening all and welcome to the new joiners. Sick as two dogs here, at 12+6, so someone hasn't been reading the instructions.

Good nuchal measure, Somewhere, fx for the blood test too.

ValiumQueen. 43. # DC3 for ELCS 25/10. Boy
Knottyhair 44 #DC2 due for ELCS around 17/12 Girl
Eagleray 41 # DC1 due 18/1 Girl
ClickingTock 40 #DC2 due early Jan, sex a surprise (although sonographer has probably spoiled it...)
Knickyknocks 40 # DC2 due 17/3
BadBuddha 42 #DC2 due 5/5
Onemoreforgoodmeasure 40 # DC1 due 06/06
MrsWooster, 45, DC2 due 31/3/13 (a palindrome!)

Mrs Wooster - have you tried the seasickness bands. it's hard to tell, but i do find once i put them on the sickness seems better.
xx

Ladies, can I be added to the list not a prolific poster but have lurked a bit

43, DC1 due 2/10 suprise

Not long now firstbubba how are you bearing up? Sorry cannot cut and paste to add you.

It is sweet seeing babies due in June.

OK but bit fed up nothing doing but just as well as DF is not back til Wednesday! Lovely to see all the additions to the thread since i discovered it some time back. Seems like i have been pregnant forever hard to believe that i might get my cankles back.