Fantastic 40+ Mums To Be

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A lovely shiney new thread for us to keep chatting on.

Hp that is not bad parenting!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! That is normal parenting when you have more than one child. It was what the TV and iPad was invented for! Do not beat yourself up about putting a DVD on! If you had kicked him out the front door, or locked him in a cupboard, or fed him drugs or alcohol, then that would be bad parenting.

fjord exciting to be so near. How big do they think she is going to be? I think mine will be a scratch under 11lb. I keep seeing Stokke everywhere, and always think of you

VQ - she was 6.6lb 2 weeks ago (34 weeks) so I guess they'll look tomorrow. They'll want her out at no more than about 9.5lb I think as they (and me) would rather early induction and natural birth, than CS. It's quite rare to get an ELCS here unless you or baby has a health problem that demands it, or an unmovable breech but I've heard they deliver quite a number of breech babies naturally here - a much higher rate than elsewhere in Europe and the US anyway. I think with GD it's even more beneficial for baby to be born naturally if possible (I can't remember why) but obviously dangerous for them and mum if they're very big (shoulder disocia (sp?) etc.). What weight she appears tomorrow will govern whether I'm induced next week (37 weeks) or the week after (38 weeks - their and my preference - fingers crossed). Obviously, the pressure is on to avoid epidural etc. if I'm induced as I'm much more likely to end up in EMCS through stalled labour/distressed baby then. I'm ok with avoiding epidural if I can do it. Well I am now . I'm still hoping I'll persuade her to start the journey on her own before induction but what will be will be. Tbh I still have moments (even today) where I can't quite believe I have a baby inside me. I think delivering will be quite a shock, in a lovely way of course! :)

I agree with you that having a date is nice in terms of planning and taking the 'drop everything, hospital run' factor out of it. On that level I'm almost hoping to keep the induction date! :)

Blimey there are some big babies in this thread. I thought mine at 9.5 was a whopper but 11? Struth!

Fjord, will be thinking of you today and let us know about the date! For the record, I was told with DS at 34 weeks that he was already 8lbs 4oz and would be a whopper and they talked about induction etc. His birth weight at 40+4 was 7lb 15oz , so they don't always get it right!

Hbpb, you sound very organised and I totally agree with VQ, using a DVD is NOT bad parenting! I would sometimes stick DS in front of one just to get a bit of time and I only had one child! He's 8 now and although loves the x-box, TV etc, we limit it and he's very happy playing with Lego or reading as well. Don't worry, I think you're doing fantastically well .

fjord as midget says, the guesses can be way off. They told me DD2 was about 7.5lb and she was 10lb3 at 39 weeks. She will be what she is. I do hope you can avoid induction, but first babies are often late. Not every induction ends in an epidural and interventions. Some of them can be fabulous. All that really matters is getting baby and mum through it safely. It is not a pissing contest.

knotty even. Apologies.

Name changed as nervous previous moniker would ID me in rl.

42. Want another child (mine are 21, 13 and 11) but with new husband. Only been trying three months but always fell one first go before and starting to think it's not going to happen.

Had a co-incidental pelvic scan last week and all normal but this feeling of it's not going to happen is getting me down.

Any straight talking seriously welcomed!

hey netguru - try the fabulous 40s ttc thread. it's really excellent.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/1505941-Fantastic-40-thread-part-7

really good advice - it helped me sharpen up my practice considerably.

also tremendous support - it is quite amazing the sense of community.

xx

fjord - thinking of you. xx

Thank you for thinking of me guys! Just back after appt and an impromptu lunch out with MIL, pregnant SIL and DP.

VQ - induction is a given (well unless we can persuade her to come out on her own in the meantime). They said they didn't want me going to term. Although my GD is very well controlled, with the estimate of today's weight at 36.3weeks at 8lbs 6oz already, they have decided on an induction on October 1st - possibly calling me to come in end of next week if they decide at MDT that it should be sooner.

I'm not scared of induction. I know they won't hustle me to either syntocin drip or CS here unless there is clear and present danger to the baby and the good news is that my gestational diabetes is so well controlled that the endocrinologist will not be recommending any insulin or drug intervention during my labour (I do have to measure my blood sugars each hour during labour though and keep eating little carby snacks and fruit juice - apparently the main thing is to not let blood sugar get low). I'll get a mildly medicalised but still mobile labour with use of water etc. - just a bit more monitoring than the usual MW led scenario.

Crossing fingers that LO is ready to come out and labour will establish well (hopefully with just the pessaries) as she has been 'practicing her breathing' for weeks now and they are satisfied she is mature and 'very well'. No-one can believe how active she is and everyone who monitors or scans me thinks it's really funny. Hope she doesn't spring out of my loins with ADHD!! . She's not fully engaged but her head is 'very deep in the pelvis'.

I'll check in with you all later when I'm done spreading the news and making a 1000 phone calls! :)

Fjord you are so lovely and sane and scandinavian. Great about your GD and good that they are so sensible about inductions in Norway.

OMG - 1 October.

I am having grievous MS today. Just thought i'd let everybody know. it's back horrible thing.

xx

Fjord, that is very good news, now you just need to have your maternity bag ready. I am very glad for you.

Well done fjord. You are taking this in your stride, and have a very good grounded but positive attitude. 1st October. Wow

Thanks guys - really nice of you to say! I do need to finish sorting that darn maternity bag though...at least I have a timeline now - a goal to definitely aim for! :) I'm feeling blessed that my hormonal (and quite bizarre) sense of 'zen' that came over me in the first trimester is back, so I'm virtually unable to get in a tizz although DP has already predicted I won't get much sleep the night before (but I don't anyway - up every 1.5hrs to pee )... I think perhaps part of taking it in my stride is that I had really good ante-natal classes and I feel very um...empowered and capable of doing this, however I end up doing it. Also I think I'm focused more on the 'coping with a new baby' rather than what is essentially getting through one exhausting, physically taxing day. Perhaps it will all be a hideously rude awakening? For now anyway I think this attitude will at least carry me into it without fear. Then who knows? I guess I don't want to get into worrying about a set of unknowns. I'll deal with them as and when they arise.

I'm endlessly grateful for your support and the wisdom of your experience though. I think most of you chaps on here going through it a 2nd or 3rd time around (or 4th or 5th for some!) is far more awe-inspiring that trying it for the first time! :) You are welcome to remind me of my naive attitude after the event !

i get that zen feeling from you fjord, i get that. it's lovely and it bodes extremely well. xxx

Thank you somewhere

oh blimey fjord i daren't ask you why as that's not a good idea with PTSD is it. But wow - brave you. Having a kid is good like that, esp the first one is a new start of such epic proportions.

as someone who gets crazy hormonal in the first trimester i am impressed though. Having said that i remember being inexplicably cheery and enchanted (when not exhausted) in my third trimester.

what does this mean

it's supposed to be a heart (lying on it's side - fb changes it into a proper one!).

Ooh Fjord! Not long now!

Somewhere, so sorry you're still suffering. How many weeks are you now? (Sorry, I'm sure you've said further up the thread ).
Have had DP here for the last few days laying the lovely new hardwood floor. But he makes so much mess & noise I'm not ungrateful honest. He's out today doing some stuff for other people and I'm really looking forward to a day to myself! Plan to drop DS and his friend at school, come home and make some scones then just do whatever takes my fancy, which could be something productive or could be sofa-centric .

www.huffingtonpost.co.uk/2012/09/20/camp-bastion-birth-female-soldier-delivers-baby-boy-on-helmand-base-taliban-prince-harry_n_1899087.html?ncid=webmail1

morning all - check this out - is this possible? not to know youre pregnant? I wish i could not know i'm pregnant.

thanks for commiserations on the MS knotty

xx

That happened to a friend of mine, a prison officer who had twins at about the same gestation. She had put on a bit of weight, but if I had not seen it I would not have believed it. It is amazing. She has to call him Sebastian. She just must

just imagine no symptoms during pregnancy - your normal life totally unaffected. then bam, a baby (or two). sounds good to me.

Hello all.

Lovely to read the thread to catch up.

fjord not long now at all (feeling a bit envious - I'll be glad to get through this pregnancy and onto the baby stage).
somewhere yes, i saw that story on the news this morning. There is NO way I wouldn't know that I was pregnant. The sickness and nausea have been too hard to ignore, though haven't been sick for one week now. That said, at nearly 15 weeks, I think I have a pronounced bump. Seriously, I'm going to be the size of a house . That said, if the baby is happy and healthy then I'll also be happy. In any case hope the MS hasn't been too dreadful this week for you.
netguru, have to agree with somewhere. The conception 40+ thread is brilliant. Very welcoming and full of useful information. Definitely worth a visit.
hpbp sounds like you're a lovely mum. When number 2 arrives in the knickyknocks house, I suspect cbeebies will take over some of the babysitting duties for a while. Don't worry about the DVDs for DS. This is only a stage, and when things are settled, you can start to teach him to play with lego then. Think you're doing a wonderful job for now.

As for me, am nearly 15 weeks. Things seem to be progressing well. I've got my first appointment with the consultant tomorrow (having had an overactive thyroid 10 years ago, I'm deemed to be a risk that the consultant wants to keep an eye on). Knowing how long I have to wait in the waiting room, I'm not massively looking forward to it. Thankfully, my mum is coming over to look after my DD whilst I go to the hospital. Then this weekend, is DDs 3rd birthday party followed by a night away for just me and DH (also known as recovery time from the party for me and DH ).

Hope everyone else is well. Much love xx

knicky so pleased to hear sickness getting better. do you mean no vomiting, or no nausea? i hope the latter. i don't think i'e suffered as much as you despite making twice as much fuss.

it's def getting better for me - it's been ganging up with headaches and non-specific can't-get-out-of-bed-ness - but there has been a slow improvement which may or may not coincidentally be when i got my seasickness wrist bands.

yesterday was bad, today much better.

Any kicks or movt? I swear i'm feeling mine move. Popcorn popping aplenty.

i agree with everyone about the DVDs - not bad parenting hpbp. during my sickness my DS has been getting to know the telly better than ever. DVDs are good cause they end then its over then you do something else. whereas chidren's TV just burbles on hypnotically. So we tend to do DVDs. But sometimes telly.