Fantastic 40+ Mums To Be

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A lovely shiney new thread for us to keep chatting on.

Just a quick wave to all. I am overwhelmed and cannot find a sec to sit down but will be reading your posts. Good luck to all. Hope to be back soon

Waves back at Hp and baby Anastasia who is clearly keeping Mum busy. Hope DS settled at school.

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just had a big pregnancy cry at this. I'm not religious but it's so beautiful and made me feel so selfish.

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mrswooster - am I being slow or are we to infer it is a little boy? :) Sometimes these 1:100 or whatever risks sound scary but I read a statistic once that each of us has a 1:17 risk of being killed or seriously injured in a road accident in a lifetime. I don't know if that makes you feel any better but with a 1:20 risk you're still 95% likely to have a non-Downs baby. 1:500 is still quite remote. It's all about perspective. Someone once said 'but someone has to be the '1'' - but then that could equally apply to someone with a lower risk or a 22 year old...Fingers crossed anyway. I remember mine. I was so worried, when I was given a relatively 'low' risk I burst into tears!

eagleray - I think due date wise, LRM is due first. My 'actual' due date is like 15th Oct or something but they seemed pretty certain I'd be induced in the next 3 weeks now so, unless LRM is early it seems I might 'beat her to the finish line' (not that I'm saying for a second that having early babies is an achievement or anything, although the way I've felt the last couple of days, the sooner the better ). Personally I'd rather her give me another few weeks to be prepared but hey - what will be will be...

I have no idea if the 'hugging' is working as I don't have a doppler and her heart rate hasn't been measured since the last scan, where the ObGyn seemed to think anything below 200 was ok as she moves so much...Still she seems to jump at a lot of loud noises so I'm dreading the times when we have the stepkids here as they are constantly shouting and I can foresee baby tears, then frustrated older teen tears 'cos the baby won't stop crying...Are there such a thing as baby earplugs?

Midget - glad to hear you've also got a live one, was beginning to think mine must be hyperactive or something although, like yours, she has 'quiet days' but I've given up worrying about them as I always feel some movement and I've been told my placenta's up on the left so if she turns a bit a lot of her usual movements will be 'muffled' and I've seen her dancing around on scan when I can't feel a thing even recently. I think you're a trooper btw, even contemplating working that long! Good going all round! Talking of which, DP has 2 days off so must skiddadle as we promised each other we'd work hard to get all the gear/hospital bag/flat sorted these next couple of days in case madam has plans of an early debut (after my BH scare the other day).

Somewhere & Knicky - feeling for you with the MS. I didn't have it all the time at that stage nor did I even puke up, but, when I did have it, it was debilitating - like severe seasickness. It is horrible but in most people, it does mostly subside after around 14 weeks - hang on in there! :)

Hey ladies

Been a busy few days, been to see the breast feeding lady and found it useful. She gave me some good tips, so hopefully I can give it a bloody good go now and not as worried. Went to see the midwife and we chatted about my birthing plan so that was also useful and feel slightly more in control of the situation, well as much as you can be!!! Went for my last scan yesterday and all is well with baby Dylan and she said his feet were 7cm long. Did not get a picture as he slotted himself in to the exit position ready to go. Belly button has popped out and I feel like a beached whale with ginger hair and fat ankles. I went to the loo last night still with my pillow between my legs, well the pillow fell when I sat down but been sleeping with it for the last 2 months and so knackered did not realise it was still there until I sat on the loo!!! Would have been an all time low if I had done a whizz on it.

Hospital said last scan that they would induce me at 40 weeks, but this time I went there and said, why did they need to do that if I was in good health and no issues to date, they said they would now sweep me at my due date and induced me 10 days after is baby Dylan was not keen on popping out. I woke last night thinking crap he is coming so very soon ( Due date 4th October ) so OMG ladies it is so very soon and the time has gone so quickly. I have done everything on my list so I am going to do feck all next week and really chill, you watch I bet I get woken up in the wee hours over the weekend and it all kicks off . I hope I get a lovely midwife for the delivery. May buy a pre- baby gift for her as I fear she will need it after a few hours of me, shtting myself still but will power through, made my partner a card thanking him inadvance of his support.

Well sorry went on abit ladies, thinking of you all and for those of us who are 30+ may turning over in bed this evening not be a exhausting as doing a 100 metre sprint !!!
Ps - Stairs suck and so does dropping stuff on the floor.
Pps - Family size bags of chocolates are so much better then those small ones xx

30+ plus plus plus!

I am finding it helpful hearing about early pregnancy symptoms again. I am 33 weeks and feeling it. Late pregnancy can be horrid, but at least we are nearing our goal. My sympathies for the first trimester ladies.

Due date 1/11 but will have section at 39 weeks.

laughing out loud re your pillow story littleredmonkey!
VQ pleased to be of service! just think, soon coffee, brie/camembert/roquefort, red wine, and runny egg yolks will be yours for the taking!
good luck all you heavily pregnant ladies. I've had my head a bit up my bottom with my 1st trimester woes. Am thinking of you all.
Just had a really nice chat with my mum - am so depleted I couldn't normally shout across her like i usually do and i listened and just enjoyed the sound of her voice and i think she really enjoyed that.
xx

somewhere I have been having those things anyway, but in small amounts. The only thing I have not had is liver, and ibuprofen too.

really VQ? that is a relief - i had a runny egg yolk the other day
xx

I am a bit naughty like that. I have an inch of red wine every few weeks, still eat cheeses although never had Roquefort, do not care about my eggs as they are all safety tested anyway, and even had pâté the other day. I would not actively encourage others to do it, but feel there is a lot of fuss these days. I do not eat liver due to the proven link of vitamin D or whatever it is, and avoid ready washed salads, and cats. Don't like cats anyway.

A couple of years back, at our Christmas dinner at work, I had ordered pâté at 6 months pregnant, with big bump visible to all. The waiter did not want to give it to me, and a couple of colleagues piped up saying 'you cannot have that as you are pregnant'. I stood up and went a bit ballistic, saying are you really gonna fg stop me? Nobody tells me what to fg do! It was quite quiet during the first course. Then they said they had no cranberry sauce to go with the turkey. I told them to go to fg tescos and fg buy some then as it was f*g Christmas! I rarely swear by the way. I did not go last year

Are we not allowed cranberry sauce now? My god I've been necking washed bagged salad like there's no tomorrow. Might rethink that.

Anyway I like your style. Lolz re your bossy Xmas dinner attitude. I was almost perfect in my first pg but I've also eaten a very ripe Camembert at 6 weeks.

Today I have nausea and headache - when will it end? As I remember the headaches only get worse even if the nausea improves. Ordeal - that's the only word for it. I had big plans to swim loads and have a really different pg from last time - health and vitality etc - but now I remember how it all went wrong. I might go to the doctor about the headaches.sorry to moan please ignore it just helps to vent.

Xxxx

at your outburst VQ! I've had one runny egg, but no liver, and none of the banned cheeses but only really because I haven't been offered them. I think I would have a bit if it was in front of me dribbles at thought of a very runny Camembert. Somewhere, I feel for you, sounds like you're still having a rough time. I had headaches with my MS and they did carry on for a bit afterwards (paracetamol and lots of fluids did help) but they do seem to have abated now.

Off into town in a minute as DS appears to have already grown out of his school trousers. Must try to stay out of Mothercare and not be tempted by anything teeny tiny and cute. Another mum in the playground offered me a big bag of baby girl clothes this morning and my niece has another lot for me so I'm sure Rosa probably won't get around to wearing half the stuff she'll have. Hope everyone else is OK - LRM, won't be long now before you're giving your little one a cuddle .

hi, loving the pillow story!
I woke up last night, well, early this morning I guess, with really bad cramp in my lower leg - blinking painful, and DH was snoring loudly, so I woke him up to tell him to shut up! Had leg cramps with DS2, but really hope it doesn't continue - it's not the nicest.
I was feeling quite organised, then my friend (who is due same time as me) pointed out that it's only 3 months! so much to do, so little time or energy. Must get sorted. Plus, need to pick some baby names - have a long list for girls names, but can't think of any boys names at all (well, that we agree on). DH suggested Edna for a girl. I laughed. Alot.
Anyway, hope you all have a good Thursday! Kxx

oh my god.... i think i'm feeling slightly better... the nausea is some way away from actual puking - it's not drilling into me quite so much tho it is unpleasant.
and the paracetomol is just about working.

We are allowed cranberry sauce. They just did not have any. For a long-booked-in-advance work Christmas bash. Tesco was only two buildings along! It was 5pm ffs! I am over it though. Not bitter at all .

I think we are advised to avoid washed salad.

well VQ that's completely unnaceptable and you did right to take them on. i hope you got the cranberry sauce in the end.

i am feeling so much better - eating actually keeps the sickness at bay today, instead of nothing - eating/not eating, puking/not puking - making any difference.

yep i've been googling washed salad and will stay away. lettuce is supposed to be the worst and i've not had that - only spinach. it was confusing cause one source said washed salad is washed in chlorine and is cleaner than any salad you could make in your own kitchen... so i'm a bit confused. but will back off and stick to tomato and cucumber salad bases from now on.

hope everyone is well!

xxx

They forgot the pigs in blankets too, so I had a plate of pigs in blankets with cranberry sauce as they did not bring them until after we had finished eating. I ate them out of spite tbh. Bastards

Jesus VQ, I would've been in meltdown if anyone forgot my piggies .

I think they did well to remember the turkey actually. I remember the look of shock on my colleagues faces, most of whom were half cut having started drinking at lunchtime. Muggins, being up duffed had covered the clinic, and had to get home to collect DD1 from nursery, and it only sodding snowed! Perhaps I should seek counselling. I clearly still have ishoos! . Thank you for your empathy!

Wow yesterday i felt so much better. I sat in the park with my sis and her crowd of local mums and their kids (she has this village vibe going on even though she lives in London) and the sun shone and the children played and i didn't feel sick and i experienced happiness!

I took vitamin b6 for the first time in a while yesterday and i don't know if that had something to do with it.

krm Edna is cute but yes a bit dated! There's been an upsurge in Iris and Agnes but Edna hasn't yet been rehabilitated. Do you think you will know before the baby comes or will you have to look at him/her?

We stuck rigidly to what we'd decided beforehand, although there were reasons for that (if it was boy, we were going to name it after DP's dead dad, and that's what we did).

hope everyone is well.

xxxxx

I think Edna is cute, Eddie as a NN so cool too. I think it will resurface sooner than 70s names. Still undecided on DS, but Silas is the forerunner. The last two would have been Solomon if they had been boys, but we have since met a little s**t called Solomon (he is, honest) so have been put off. We may well look at DS and decide he is indeed Solomon, but unlikely.

ok, ok, I may have been hasty about Edna, but seriously, it just reminds me of Dame Edna Everage. Edith is nice tho. I like Selina or Meredith perhaps. ANyway, am sure it will be a boy, as we have no names for a boy!

I have a day off work (have to use up that annual leave by the end of the month) so what exciting or luxurious activities have I planned? cleaning and tidying and washing. Still, a bit of mumsnet with a cuppa and biscuit is quite nice!

I am panicking/panicing (baby brain spelling fail) about how we will manage financially. We would like to move house, but would probably double our mortgage payments, whilst having nursery fees, and I don't see how we can do that, unless perhaps we (a) win the lottery, or, (b) move to fairyland and find a pot of gold (which is possibly more likely than option a).

Anyway, hope you are all doing well today and have a good weekend. We have visitors coming whose child (whilst having a good nature) makes my two appear like quiet church mice. I shall stock up on medicinal crunchie bars!

I like Edna too - I think it is cute.

Oh dear, there is no way I can catch up with all of you. I am stealing some time on my sleep to read through... :) there s so much to say. Where do I start ?
Anastasia is very cute but the BF has made her addicted to my arms and I can't cope with DS1 needing my full attention when back from school and Anastasia wanting to be held. So evenings are madness. I end up very cross with poor DS1. I have started controlled crying but on a 7 week old, I feel it is hard on her. Experienced mums, and mums to be, what do you think ?
I am considering getting a sling too but it will not resolve the issue in the long term. I feel guilty to impose a sister to DS1, he was/is such a happy little boy, very clever, and loves his sister (he calls her his baby) but I know he suffers (wetting his bed, asking for food when he sees her on my breast...)
Hhe has settled in his new school, I am very proud of him, he seems to have learnt a few songs and speaks French much better ! No more weird (i.e British) sentence construction !
DH is back tomorrow from NYC, within 2 weeks, he had to go to the Far East and then West. Hope he gets some sleep on the plane tonight. Otherwise I will have 3 kiddos to look after this week end.

Wish you all a lovely week end