Fantastic 40+ Mums To Be

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A lovely shiney new thread for us to keep chatting on.

hello all midget sorry about your UTI. Can thrush cause early labour? this is a new one on me! Good luck with it, get those pessaries up there double quick.

fjordmor sorry about your GD but glad gi is working for you. Can i say that's bollocks about the baking - i baked like a nutter with DS1. I think it depends on the child. My DS wouldn't let me put him down UNLESS i was doing something specific in the kitchen ie cooking. so i did loads. but don't count it out - anhy romantic notions of flopping down on the couch with DC and a slice of warm cake you just cooked yourself are not at all outlandish.

eagleray that's fantastic news. you can really enjoy it now. are you an nct refusenik then? I never got into it with my DS and regretted it a bit.

AFM today the hormones feel like they're snaking through my veins and arteries. I feel like the worst PMT ever. Almost like it's picking me up its so ... grrrrr. MS intensifying - forced me to eat kidney beans at 4pm in the afternoon. All good but am I ever going to get any work done? people aren't asking for it yet but soon...

I think i'm going to have to start turning down work if it carries on like this.

anyway, grrrrr, not that i'm getting complacent that this will stick or anything but by god today i feel it.

xxx

Hi all, 29+1 here, and MS is back, but just in the morning now, not all day like before. Leg much better, but still in my moon boot for two weeks then review. Measuring 4weeks bigger apparently, but when I measured myself I am spot on. Loving my washables, doing well with my frugality and healthy eating too. Apart from the BK yesterday (first time out in 5 weeks!)

May I join you? I have been lurking and meaning to name change but now I am feeling too lazy to bother. I am 7 weeks with what could be baby #5 or medical emergency #7. I tend to wait until the second trimester before having a missed miscarriage/early still-birth.

Gosh cadmum sounds like you have had a rough time. Of course you may join. Hope this is indeed no.5 for you. May I ask how old you are? I am 43 and expecting DC3 end October. Thankfully I have only had one early miscarriage when I was 26, but I was told I could not have any children because infection set in. I had DD1 at 37 and DD2 at 40. This one is a boy.

Thanks for the welcome. Congratulations on your soon to be ds! I can't believe that I forgot to mention my age. I am 40. 41 in November. When things go well, they go beautifully since we have four happy, healthy dcs. April seems like it is years away but time does move more quickly with our busy lifestyle...

April is a lovely time to have a baby. How old are your DCs?

Hi Cadmum! Sorry you've had a rough time, everything crossed for you that this little one makes it. I'm 44 and already have DS aged 8, DD due in December. This one was a massive shock lovely surprise!

valiumqueen My dcs are ds15, dd13, ds10,dprincess6. April is usually a lovely time to have a baby but we are currently in South East Asia where it is the hottest month of the year. Ds1 was born on April 5 edd for this mite is April 6. I have told nobody in RL and I won't until I am showing or the sickness gives me away.

knottyhair Huge congratulations! December is not far off and I would guess that your ds will love having a sibling.

'dprincess' I bet she is!! South East Asia- very exotic and hot. Not sure I envy you.

hello cadmum welcome. i'm a newbie here myself 6+4, one DS aged 3.5. Are you saying you've had 7 miscarriages or losses in the second trimester? I'm so sorry. Strange that you are also at the same time obviously very fertile. Crossing my fingers for you.

I'm feeling super sick today but i forced myself to go swimming at 8.30am and it's really, really helped, basically with the psychological aspect. i sometimes feel i'm being posessed by hormones - i literally just want to lie on the bed and growl - and i'm not usually like that promise! But swimming first thing does make the ego come forth a bit more and get things in order. Ego in the pschoanalytic sense of the adult mature part of the self - not in the popular sense of arrogance!

hope everyone doing well
xxx

cadmum welcome - sorry you have had such a difficult journey, wishing you a successful pregnancy this time :)

somewhere intriguing connection between ego and morning sickness - tell me more! I wonder if the same would work with crippling sleepiness ... btw I love the idea of swimming to take the weight of my achy feet, but can't stand the thought of chlorine fumes - way too nauseating. Anyone else feel like this?

No sleep last night as I was soooo hot, so pretty knackered today. Managed to waddle round the house and tidy up for landlord visit though, and he kindly didn't seem to mind the mildew in the shower... Gearing up to the house move - first step has been sorting out our chaos here, more or less.

Sorry you had no sleep bytheseaside, I had a night like that on Saturday, it's rotten. somewhere, well done on swimming first thing! They do say that exercise is good for MS but I really couldn't face it when I was going through it, and I'm with you bytheseaside re: chlorine fumes.

Went to my sister's yesterday and my niece gave us 2 big bags of baby clothes (they are gorgeous!) and also lent me her doppler. I had to try it out and we heard Rosa's heartbeat - DS held my hand and was so excited! I'm going to try not to use it too much though - I do feel some movement at the moment but still more like "flip flop" feelings and the odd pop - hopefully they'll be more definite kicks over the next couple of weeks (22 wks today). Hope everyone is OK xx

hi knottyhair yes as i remember they start as just flutters - you are hardly sure you're feeling it!

bytheseaside sorry you didn't sleep - i sleep beautifully when preg, it's about the 1 thing that works well.

sounds like both of you have really bad MS - at 22 weeks it should be easing off? There's nothing you can do about it really is there. Except eat?

luckily chlorine i can take. My poor DP's sweat is more of a trigger at the mo.

The link between ego and morning sickness - i didn't explain myself very well. i didn't go swimming to knock back the MS, i went swimming to knock back the intense premenstrual x 1000 hormonal grrrrrr i'm getting. mental stuff which has chiefly been expressing itself in an inability to do my freelance work. hence the reference to the ego getting a bit more power after swimming, coming in like my mum and saying 'now now, stop surfing the internet, focus, do your work'. I did a whole 2 hours of productive work this am before i fell into that typical PG sleep that's like hands in the bed grabbing me and pulling me down. So it worked... kinda .

Also got to share my food situation. On Sat I had some carbs at lunch and that was it - that day I ate a whole 150bag of crisps and had a macdonalds ON TOP OF NORMAL MEALS.

The next day i had carb free breakfast and lunch and managed to get my calories down.

Today I had an obsession with tomato and cheese. in my first PG I ate my tomato and cheese on crackers - this time round i'm cutting out the crackers to balance my blood sugar and hopefully also my appetite.

The reason for my concern is first time round i put on 5 stone in about 3 months and got inflamed feet so i couldnt walk. i remained about 3 stone overweight for ages afterwards. i have massive bosoms and they get unsustainably large. It's actually a health issue that I don't put on weight.

I'm not worrying about it now, as it's very early days in a PG for a 40-year-old but just trying to be sensible.

Anyway i think my ego, had it not dissapeared after the two hours this am, would be saying that i should get off mumsnet.

Sorry to go on and on.

hope everyone good.

xxxx

Somewhere, Sorry, I wasn't very clear I don't think . I don't have MS anymore, it finally abated at about 16 weeks. Just knackered with heartburn now, although it didn't stop me wolfing down a kofte kebab with chilli sauce last night! I also totally get the cheese & tomato thing. I had a cheese, tomato & onion sandwich on white bread the other day and it was bloody lovely!

Welcome to the club Cadmum - sounds like you have had some awful times. I really hope you have a happy, healthy pregnancy this time around.

Now what is it with these tomato obsessions! We have a cooked breakfast buffet thing at work and as soon as I catch a whiff of the cooked plum tomatoes, then that is it - I have to grab a plate. They ran out of tomatoes for a few days recently and I ended up making some sort of whinging/begging complaint to the chef as it really felt like the end of the world when they ran out...

I had some very sad news this afternoon. My dad finally passed away, with my brother and stepmother by his side. He was comfortable, unafraid and thankfully in a private room where he could make as many inappropriate jokes as he wished (tact and diplomacy were never his strong points, and I don't think the drugs would have helped much either). I had a nice copy made of the 12 week scan pics and he spent some time looking at them yesterday, and he knows she is a little girl.

Strangely, around the time he died, I was in a meeting at work, sat with my arms folded on my stomach and felt a series of little kicks against my arm - I think it is the liveliest the baby has been so far. 'tis the circle of life, I guess. Certainly, the baby has been some happy news during a sad time, and while it is sad that Dad will never know the baby, it is nice that he was able to make some connection with her before he died.

Well, on that cheery note I will leave you to go and have a cuppa with my neighbour and help her round up her chickens and put them to bed.

Best wishes to you all - keep on eating and exercising (well maybe just the eating bit - exercise can be a bit overrated)

eagleray, so sorry to hear about your dad. Lots of love to you & your family xx

Just a quick one to say hello to all of you and welcome to Cadmum. Sorry I could not post lately but have been following your journeys.
Hope to move will be smooth, seaside. Sorry to hear about MS coming back, VQ and Somewhere. Fjord, LRM still thinking of you and Eagleray, glad the amnio results were all clear, what a relief, isn't it ? Knotty, 22 weeks today, congrats !
My DS1 is back from hols, but DH still in London and commuting on week ends only, so it is a bit hard to deal with the baby too ! But hey, I will learn... So I am not desperate yet.
Hope this heat wave is ending soon so that I can get a bit of sleep. It went up to 38 celcius yesterday in Paris. Have been thinking of all pg ladies and hope all is well.
Take care everyone

Sorry about your sad news Eagleray. My thoughts are with you.

eagleray sorry about your dad I am very glad you managed to see him and share your news before his passing.

Hi there, Just wondered if I could also join? I have five dc under 13 yrs and am now 20 weeks pg (due Jan 3rd) and I will be 45 when this little one is born! I have to work FT (visa requirement), but baby is starting to say 'You're having a larf Mum!' Of course, I dont actually hear thé baby's voice, but I can read the messages my body is sending me... lower abdo cramping is only relieved by bedrest. I'm on my own with the kids in the house tonight, as DH has gone to do a night shift, so I thought I'd reach out to you lovely ladies.
I'll follow Cadmum's story with interest as i too am overseas- N America, so I know you'll all be asleep now, with the time difference. Eagleray, I am very sorry for your loss x

Hpbp, must be hard with your DH away in the week, how's Anastasia getting on? At least the temperatures seem to be normal here this week, hope you get some relief soon as well.
Welcome crazy! Wow, 5 DC and getting ready for no 6, AND working FT? Amazing. I'll be 45 a few months after DD is born in December (I just have 1 DS aged 8). Sorry you're suffering with the cramps, how much maternity leave will you get? Sorry for my ignorance . Whereabouts in America are you?
Felt the baby moving a lot last night, especially after eating a bowl of ice-cream. I even had to pause Silent Witness to get DP to have a look, and believe me, it takes a lot for me to put Harry on pause!

eagleray so sorry about your dad. My grandpa died 3 weeks before I was born and I've never heard the end of it. I imagine your DC will know your dad one way or another.

knotty relieved you no longer have MS!

I am managing mine with early morning exercise, a mid afternoon sleep, and after a battle, carbs. I just tried to lunch on an oriental salad - my body wasn't having it. i marched to the supermarket and bought crisps. i felt so sick and so cravingey.

hello crazyforbaby i do hate the fact that being pregnant is so compromising phsycially and feel for you. but wow you have one big family! how lovely. xxx

Eagleray So sorry to read about your Dad -hormones and grief are an unwelcome combination. I hope you are being well looked after. I also have a weird tomato obsession - I panic if none in the house but I am craving the baby plum ones...

Somewhere chuckling at the thought of trying to resist carbs when pregnant - good luck with that one! I can't stop stuffing my face with them. I really haven't gained too much weight though despite this as I have remained a little bit active when I can be arsed. I find shoving down some healthy carbs helps keep the quantity of bad ones down.

Crazy You are more than welcome. A lady that can have 5 children is welcome anywhere in my book. I also get the signs to slow down with this pregnancy - as long as we listen to those signs when we can all is well with the world.

HP I wish I was in Paris, I could help out and lay in the garden eating ice lollies. Although I did find London an 31 degrees a bit too much now I am the size of a small house.

Waves at VQ in her boot, and LRM in her attractive uniform - hope you both haven't melted in this heat we have been having.

I best to and do some work - the internet has been a bitch today - distracting me when I should be working. Nesting has taken over so I have been painting and buying things and turning the place upside down - it is a total tip but I am making progress - best make sure the baby doesn't come early though or I am doomed.

oh god how can anyone not put on weight in pg? my dp and i have just got scales and I'm 14.5 stone - i was 13.5 just a week ago when i registered at my new gp. what is going on? I'm actually feeling a little bit ... scared. I do have enormous j-cup bosoms which if they were a normal size might take a stone off my weight (i tell myself) so read that 13.5 and 12.5 if you like (i'd like to) but either way i've put on a stone in 1 week.

that is how i got into trouble last time - i put on so much weight so fast i got inflamed feet and couldnt' walk properly.

i shall swim tomorrow if it kills me.

i shall also join slimming world - there's one round the corner - cause i've got all the time in the world with work and a 3-year old. oh yes, lots of time for clubs and evening classes!

blinking heck as if there isn't enough to worry about.

i just feel so sick i can't stop eating - it's not good - i'm not vomiting, i wish i was.