Fantastic 40+ Mums To Be

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A lovely shiney new thread for us to keep chatting on.

I even asked them if they often get results like that and the lady replied 'yes but you said you were fasting' I think she meant they get results like that if the person hasn't been fasting properly which I definitely was.

I shall stick to a low gi diet with a couple of treats in the meantime as I don't want to give up stuff if I dont need to. If I don't have any sugar at all it might give me a good result but it may not be realistic? I don't know if thats the case but I think thats what I'll do.

Thanks for all your support. I'm glad I've got this thread :)

I was told I had protein in my wee as I had not washed properly. Nearly killed the bitch! I had pre-eclampsia. The BP was not really high either, as I was too fat for the cuff. Get a fecking cuff that fits then! I was not seeing stars either. Not bitter though

Eat what you want exexe if you have GD the results will show this, if you don't your body will regulate. Pregnancy is hard enough without having a diet imposed, especially if you do not need it.

Oh no VQ I would have been livid at that comment! I have protein in urine and always have done and I wash very regularly!

I'm just a bit worried in case I do have GD. Wouldn't it better to try to stick to a healthy diet for the baby?
I've realised I eat too much crap and I feel rubbish and sluggish. I think I'll do a low gi diet for my health and general well being. I'm turning to snacks and comfort food far too much.
I need to exercise too - just some more walking and maybe my preg pilates dvd,

It would be better for you and your baby, but you need to do it because you want to. You can avoid bad sugars all you want this week, but the way the test works is by giving you sugar, and seeing how your body copes with it in a set time frame. This week could be your last nice food for a while! If you starve for the required time, your blood glucose should be low regardless of what shite you ate.

VQ - oh I totally didn't take you as unsympathetic :). Perspective is what's needed and you're right - in the scheme of what could go wrong this is by no means up there on the 'most dramatic' list. I would also have baulked at being told that about protein in the urine! All sorts of things can cause possible protein in the urine (unless it's a very high level), including stress, over-exertion through exercise and recent illness! But I would have thought in a pregnant woman, she would have dealt with the sample conservatively and cautiously and a comment like that is both ignorant and inappropriate!! Thank you for thinking I'm brave. I'm not sure I am really but I will muddle through I'm sure :).

exexe - it will be good for us! Pulses are our friend! I had lentils the other night and forgot how tasty and filling they are! Chick peas also rock. Sorry they're being so lame about the results. It's stressful to prolong the not knowing and to have to repeat the test! Also agree with VQ re the diet and exercise modifications but, I'm personally going to take it as an opportunity to kick start my post baby lose some weight/get fitter again regime before she comes - it's not a bad idea as long as you're still eating in a healthy, balanced way and making the changes doesn't feel too stressful. I have realised that through tiredness and need for ease I have slipped from my usual fairly healthy eating into pizza too often, not enough fruit and veg, too much salt and way too little physical activity (although the diaphragm compression and bump pain factors don't help...). I worry about delivering a big baby or having a caesarean but I think I'm subconsciously pleased to be kicked into healthier eating habits. Still being able to have grainy/sourdough bread (which I love anyway), pasta (in moderation) and popcorn as a snack should see me through. Also, for a little sweet-ish treat, more than 70% dark chocolate has a low GI (again, in small amounts) so it's not all suffering and deprivation :). Orange juice is low to moderate so I can still have a glass of that a day so really it's just little tweaks to my diet. (Also, after that sugary disgustingness this morning, I seem to have gone right off very sweet food ).

bytheseaside - so glad you've found somewhere. Just make sure your involvement in the move is minimal.Tell people what to pack in what and then where to unpack it. And that's it! :) VQ's right about easier in than out...and enjoy that ice cream! I sure would if I could!

I am on an economy drive so I too will be consuming more Lentils and pulses and beans and vegetables. And less choc and pizzas. I have so far dodged GD, and I was fatter last time, so hopeful.

VQ the cheek I would have been furious too. I mean, I know vaginal discharge can sometimes add protein to your urine, but there are ways of putting it that are rather less offensive! And she was wrong anyway ...

exexe and fjord I've really slipped on healthy habits too - mainly no exercise due to severe laziness and not having enough veg as a ms hangover. I've kind of forgotten about it, and also lately forgotten to take my preg vits too, and now I feel bad for being so slack :( It's prob my fault that iron is low. No sugar in wee so far though, so that's a plus.

I feel so much better not we've made a decision about the new house - we'll hopefully sign on Monday and can start planning properly! I'm going to try and let go of as much of the move as possible, although moving house tends to bring out my unattractive control-freakery side - all the anxiety probably. We'll get proper movers, and mum and dad have offered to help us pack and clean, and actually I might just get cleaners in to do it for us - not the time to be saving pennies probably. We can still stay with the same hospital, which I think is good, as I can't be doing with any more cafuffle (sp?) And I'm going to keep my name on here - the sea will be where my heart is after all!

Hope everyone else is OK - what a lovely day its been

ps I really like pulses - I used to have the get-up-and-go to make lovely home made hummus all the time. Where did that 'me' go??

When you see a midwife you automatically give your fanny an extra polish! Just in case. I felt it was all because I am a larger lady, implying or assuming that fat birds are not clean. It was the same one who said about the cuff, and said it in such a mean way. 6 years ago and it still annoys me!

Finally managing to get in for a catch up...feels like forever since I've read this! Too much to comment on for everyone but it seems we are all having similar problems.

I've had an eventful couple of weeks. finally got my urgent physio appointment 9 weeks after referral for suspected carpal tunnel...apparently not carpal tunnel though - what I actually have is De Quervains syndrome, still bloody painful!! Had my second GTT last week which came back normal again but I've been put on Metaformin once a day because my night time/first thing reading have been a touch on the high side a few times...

And after having a couple of very high bp readings (i had existing high bp anyway) and protein in my urine at last 2 tests they've told me I'm high risk for pre-eclampsia...oh joy. Consultant advised me to seriously consider stopping work now and I have to go in for twice weekly monitoring.

So I have...have arranged to take all my outstanding leave and finished today at 32 + 1

My feet will be well and trulymup from now on

Exexe, those results sound completely weird! Really hope you get some clarification soon and that the new approach to eating helps. I really love pulses but they do have an adverse effect on DP {{holds nose}}. Hbpb, so bloody sorry that I missed your lovely news whilst I was away but massive congratulations! Must be hard with your DH away a lot but it sounds like things are generally going well, I bet she's gorgeous . bytheseaside, good luck with move, and it must be a big positive having DP around more. Valium, glad you've got your cast off and that you're able to enjoy "normal life", ahem . Can't believe you got that awful comment! Somewhere, your double sickness sounds bloody awful - really hope you get some relief soon my love. Fjord, sorry about your results, and hope the viewing goes well this weekend. OooohShiny, sorry about your health problems as well, hopefully you'll get some well deserved R&R now you've stopped work.
Off to town today with DS to meet my parents and DS wants to buy Rosa her first outfit, bless him. I'm fighting my ridiculously irrational urges that tell me it's too early and am going to let him! We've now got most of the baby stuff covered, we've been so lucky with lovely family and friends buying or lending us stuff. We're borrowing a high chair, bouncy chair, cot, travel cot, changing wotsit (not sure if I want one but I said yes anyway!) and stair gate. My lovely SIL is buying us the pushchair and my parents are getting us a lovely baby carrier. My niece who had a little girl 10 weeks ago is lending us all her beautiful baby clothes, although I'm sure I'll end up buying more! Hope everyone has a good day xx

hello all - i made it through my double sickness and came out the other side with just normal MS - it's still there, not too bad but still there..

exexe looking forward to getting to the bottom of your strange results.

bytheseaside brilliant that you've found a house - it's such as stress, we moved house a month before DS it's a killer. Rooting for you and glad you've got lots of help.

Valium unbelievable -

fjord i agree it's a great oppo - and your DP can't sabotage it with manly unhealthiness (i find it's something men do - i so want more pulses in my life but my DP blocks me at every turn) because YOUR DOCTOR TOLD YOU TO DO IT

hey knottyhair and ooohshiney you both sound like you are in a very exciting zone!

AFM I have to vent on here. I am officially 5+3 now but I am wondering if my last period was a freak fluke - or even two - because I actually look about 4 months pregnant. I do have a bloaty belly, I am a size 14, but even so.....

Probably it's just bloat but also can I just moan that i can't eat anything cause my stomach feels like it's been stapled. Everything is sticking out like im 4 months and tight as a drum and there's no room for my stomach.

has anyone else had this this early?

I was in morrocco at this point in my first pregnancy and i lost weight, but i thought it was cause my MS made it imposs to eat the foreign food. maybe it was actually just this stapled stomach sensation.

also bursting into tears at Mo Farah, jessica ennis, and various favourite pieces of music. Even a picture of Mo Farah on the front of a newspaper is enough to get me going.

so hormones going great.

xxx

Afternoon all,

Hurray for bytheseaside for finding a home, even though it is not by the seaside it still a thing of great joy.

Somewhere I have sobbed my way through the Olympics. I am a total freak!

ohshiny I am no Doctor but I was diagnosed with PE becasue I had high BP (high for me) and protein in my urine - so why are you 'at risk'? I thought that was enough to be diagnosed? Not trying to scare you but did they explain what needs to change to say you have it? Hope they are monitoring you very closely.

VQ I am so at what the midwife said to you about protein in your urine. Rude cow.

exexe and Fjord just wanted to say bollocks to diabetes. I know you can manage it as you are clever and sensible women but you can really do without it and it is a total arse.

Right I best go as I need a nap - totally knackered from the closing ceremony last night. Cried my eyes out and it took ages to get home so really done in. I am in mourning now the Olympics is finished. Cant wait for the Paras's to start - that will make me cry even more. It's like one big Sport/Sob fest starting all over again. I will miss the friendliness of London when we all go back to our normal ways but then again there is only so much high fiving any city can take

Midgetm I know what you mean at the blubbing at the Olympics!!

I am starting to wonder if my consultant is the type to say things in such a roundabout way that she's told me I do have PE and I didn't realise? She has already admitted to being a belt and braces type of person and will offer/put you on medication even if you don't quite fit all the criteria eg I am on fragmin injections even though I only have 2 of the required 3 trigger things needed.

I already had high BP but had to change my medication so my BP has been a touch on the erratic side - it was high last week though and I had protein in my urine hence her mentioning PE I think but my bloods keep coming back with no issues...it is quite confusing tbh. I was in yesterday for trace, bloods etc and BP had settled since she upped my medication, protein was still there but had not increased since a fortnight before and bloods were normal (she mentioned something about urates being fine). They are going to check me twice a week but she did indicate she's only looking to get me to 37 weeks safely and that I have to prepare for delivering as early as that...or admission with steroid injections and even earlier delivery if my BP or any other indicators start fluctuating again

So yes...after all that explanation they are indeed monitoring me very closely and I have the utmost faith in the Unit as a whole and the consultant.

and now I'm off to pack bags etc as I am now in a panic that I have bugger all ready

Good that they are keeping an eye on you, i also totally trusted my consultants team and she was right every step of the way. I was induced at 37 weeks because of PE with DD1 and my BP is nudging its way up so you may have company. So far kept it at bay. Hope we both can make it to 37. Just may need to get more tiny baby clothes!

Somewhere, glad you're feeling better, and hope the MS eases soon. Re: your bump, everyone seems to be different but if you're worried, check with GP or MW just to get some reassurance. OooohShiny, glad they're keeping an eye on you. My consultant seems to be the opposite of belt & braces. I saw her on Monday and she questioned why I was being given extra scans (although I'm still having them!) and also why my thyroid function needed to be checked monthly, she says every 12 wks is sufficient! I've already got an appt for a couple of weeks to get it checked so I'm going to go ahead with that one and see what the results are. She did however put me down for an ELCS (I'll get a date when I'm 34 weeks, probably for around 17th December). I sobbed like a hormonal wreck all the way through the appt though . Starting to let myself get a bit excited about the arrival of baby Rosa now and DS was very chuffed with the outfit he chose for her (and I'm pleased it is white with a bit of red on in case they've made a mistake about the gender!). Starting to look at pushchairs and I won a Baby Bjorn carrier on Ebay for £29 yesterday. Hope everyone is OK xx

hello! Oh dear, what a stress we're having with our health issues this week. My BP is being a nuisance too - we were up at the hospital again until 2am the other day as they tried to get it down a bit. Bloods and urine fine, though, so not PE (yet, at least ...)
Ah, the lovely olympics. Back to watching rubbish daytime tv today, too sleepy to turn it off - and I'm missing all the vicarious exercise and all that emotion.
The NCT teacher is continuing to completely fail with me - the more I hear about (the horrors of) childbirth, the more I think it sounds completely inhumane and utterly to be avoided (bit late now!) I think I need to read something a bit more measured and comprehensive about birth - any recommendations?
I found some more little vests at bargain prices in John Lewis yesterday - so I may not have much else, but this baby will be extremely well provided with vests. Has any one else been looking at the stokke sleepi? No way I can afford it, but I think its lovely - moses basket for us! MIL has very, very kindly offered to help us get a pram - what a nice lady. Not sure she knows how much they cost these days though... x

hi knottyhair my bump has calmed down - i've been limiting my carbs, worked a treat.

It is very confusing when the NHS says different things. I would say have as many scans as you can as long as you can get away with it. Lovely about the outfit and can understand about the sobbing.

you people are having a tough time with your health. oohshiny sounds like you're getting the attention you need. I also trust the NHS, I'm with you on that.

bytheseaside i remember that feeling when I had DS, I do. Do not under any circs watch any DVDs of childbirth! Beyond that i can offer no advice as I had a caesarean, except to say the NHS will do you right. Awww, vests! Vesties!

midgetm good luck with your BP. You sound like you shoulda got a gold for Olympic crying!

AFM I'm at 6 weeks now and getting good MS. What will be will be I guess. I would like to say I'm settling into it but I'm not. Being on here does help pass the time - I feel a bit bad being on the TTC thread as some people are having such a tough time. Which is a shame as there are so many nice folks on there, I am quite fond of them.

Although I have lots of close friends who've been through terrible things, I have never had any serious medical problems with pregnancy myself. My problems are mainly mental - I'm finding it really hard to work, chiefly. This isn't a big topic for most people.

Hi everyone. Sorry I can't do many personals at the moment but I've been catching up on all your news.
Sorry to hear all the health issues but hopefully they can all be handled fairly well. Try not to stress lovely ladies.

I am so tired its ridiculous. I'm going through life like a zombie. I've not read to my poor kids for weeks, hardly spent quality time with them though I've been taking them out and about and just keep getting ratty.
The renovations are going well but are quite exhausting.

Its my last week at work next week before holiday/mat leave hooray!

My final news is that I did the fasting glucose test again yesterday. I was informed of my results today which was 4.5. Strangely thats the exact same results that my apparent after glucose results were though they won't admit that it was the wrong way round so I appear to be within normal ranges hooray!
I'm staying off the sugar as I actually feel a lot better for it (I know you wouldn't think it from my moany post )

Take care everyone. I'll lurk as I like to hear all your news but I may not post for a few days as I've got quite a bit on.

Good evening everyone

Exexe - hurrah for your impending leave and your glucose test!

Sorry to hear about everyone's health issues. I bring you some good health news from me tonight though - I finally, finally got the full results of my amnio, and it is all clear. I was so relieved as have to admit the fear had returned this week when I knew I would be getting a call (dreamt they found some weird abnormality and then rang to tell me).

AND...

I will be buying dresses. Little tiny dresses!!!!!!! :-)

Somewhere - it feels like years ago I was in the early stages. I wasn't particularly ill (nausea rather than sickness itself) but found every day such an endurance. Like you, I am a freelancer so have been really conscious about not taking time off. In fact, I had 2 days of holiday last week and forgot to take them! Hang on in there and just try to get through each day, and before you know it, the days become weeks, and so on (although I expect you may have figured this one out already!) It is sooooo hard though.

Bytheseaside - for now I have decided to avoid local NCT - I may have to adjust my attitude at some point as will need to get information from somewhere! There are local homebirth and hypnobirthing groups courses and so think I will start there in order to get some positive ideas, even if neither of these options are much use on the big day.. I have started researching cots as well, and see that there's a few Stokke cots on Ebay. Have been keeping an eye on the Babybay ones myself, although still not 100% sure which will be best.

Valium - I am STILL laughing at the fanny polishing, even after a week!

Somewhere I personally find it hard to work from the minute sperm meets egg. 42 working days to go till I clock off on mat leave, not that I am counting yes I bastard well am and I have a spread sheet and everything

Exexe Didn't think you had it 4 is a perfectly good reading, the swines for scaring you like that though. All wells that ends well.

Bytheseaside I also have a lot of vests - nothing else but one hell of a lot of vests. Need to get some stuff to go with the vests but still vests is better than nothing.

I have another UTI, so on antibiotics which will probably give me thrush and so the circle of pregnancy related medication continues... having silly amount of Braxton Hicks so hope the antibiotics kick in soon. Need to stop any chance of this baby popping out early - I am in no way ready. Blimey I am knackered, best take this tired old arse to bed. Night all.

Midget - so sorry to hear about your UTI - bummer. Sending sticky bean vibes to you - am totally with you on the not ready front. Thought I had a touch of the thrush the other day. Didn't know if I should mention it to my (all male) medical care people (where are all the lovely midwives?? ) as it might cause protein in urine?? Ridiculously embarrassed at prospect of showing my hurty nipple to these male doctors. Hoping there is at least one woman in the team at the hospital taking over my care. I know I'm a bit of a nobber for feeling like this.

eagleray - great news about your amnio! What a weight off your mind! :)

bytheseaside - hope you signed with the house. I know what you mean about the 'me' that used to make stuff. I get dispirited when people keep saying to me 'oh cook and bake as much as you can now - you'll never find the time once baby's here' . Really? My mum told me I used to sit for ages in the bouncer/high chair watching her in the kitchen and I toyed with the romantic notion that is how it will be for me...

Well the news from me - Wednesday saw the hospital/doctor confirm GD (sorry to those on my other thread as well for whom this will be repetitive news) and yesterday's appt with my consultant threw up the following: The good news: Baby NOT measuring that big it seems now! I'm apparently 32+4 weeks and she's measuring 33 weeks. Symptoms would put me in the 33rd week. Baby weighing 1.9kg (4.2lb) today. Estimated birth weight on that basis anywhere between 6.8lb- 8.4lb depending on when delievery occurs (or 3.1kg - 3.8kg). She's very active and healthy and wouldn't leave the umbilical cord alone for long enough to get a flow reading! Started taking my own blood for blood sugar levels 4 times a day (have got the hang of the gizmo that pricks my finger! :-)) and I start being seen solely at the hospital birth clinic from next week. So far so good - low GI diet is keeping my blood sugar within normal levels (5.3mmo;/; typically 2 hours post meal and 4.2mmol/l fasting in the morning) so fingers crossed there will be no need for drugs or any other drama - just close monitoring :-) and so far, early delivery doesn't look that necessary but due date should be adjusted I think to somewhere between 25th Sept - 7th Oct :-).

DP, luckily, is fond of pulses, especially chick peas and as long as I'm making tasty stuff he's happy to eat that and being very kind (mostly) in not eating things I can't have in front of me.

exexe - very glad to hear you haven't got GD! Also BP lowering vibes to bytheseaside & oohshiny :)

Knottyhair - viewing didn't go well - well I assume it didn't. No communication from my agent all week. On the verge of changing agent...

somewhere - my bump was big early too (mostly bloat) but it is now also super big. Depends on the shape of your body I think - tall/short; long bodied/short-waisted...and also I am full of fibroids. I think most girls I talked to suffered from bloating a lot in the early days and I think 'popping' earlier is common in women who have already had a child so you may get bigger sooner than with your first.

at VQ, LRM and Hpbp - how are things going? How is the lovely Anastasia Hpbp? Hope you're not missing hubby too much if he's left Paris. Hope everyone else I may not have mentioned is doing well!

Fjord please mention the thrush - or get something to treat it yourself (you can use pessaries - just not the applicator as it goes too high up with that). I had it and ended up getting a lot of BH's turning into contractions so don't leave it like I did. Ended up in maternity triage and feeling a right nobber. I also saw a man last time so didn't mention that my undercarriage feels like it may explode when I have a pooh. Need to see a midwife so I can confess all my unglamorous pregnancy complications.

somewhere I've not really been able to work very well during pregnancy either - just can't concentrate! All the stuff I do at work suddenly seems very trivial compared to what's going on in my tummy ...

Great news eagleray! (and the bit about the tiny dresses :) ) and exexe too - great its spurred you on to ditch the sugar anyway. I like the babybays too - I'm still feeling fussy about buying stuff new for the baby - which isn't really like me. Anyone else feeling this? My sister tells me its a first baby thing, and that I won't care any more after a couple of months. It's going to be an expensive couple of months though ...

midgetm glad I'm not the only one with the vest glut. The problem is that they are impossibly cute and soft... I swore I wouldn't be buying any pink clothes, but got swayed by some delicious icecream-pink striped vests this week. hope your uti gets sorted - how very annoying.

Fjord sorry about the GD, but great you are controlling it with diet - and that the baby is the right size - that's a major bonus. I'd feel the same about male medical staff... how embarassing. I keep thinking I've got thrush, but swabs keep being negative. They told me if I had it I can have canestan internal cream or pessary, but just not too high up.

Well, now we have a house (hurray!) we need to start getting organised, but all I want to do is sleep on the sofa. i'm doing stuff like keeping on top of the laundry, and running the food cupboards down, but I think its a little like fiddling while Rome burns etc Never mind, we'll get there! Freecycle and Oxfam are going to get lucky as we have a lot of stuff to get rid of, and I haven't got the time or energy for ebay