Pregnancy after miscarriage -support thread- Part 2

[cori]

A new thread for us all to share our mutual anxieties, hopes and fears.

piffle- My love how are you? Are you ok?

FirstNikki - all the very best for today. You know we are all thinking of you and hoping for a positive outcome. Hang in there.
Nicola - very sorry to hear of your missed m/c. I can only imagine how awful it is to have more than one m/c but know that others on here have more experience and will no doubt be able to offer some reassurance and maybe some comfort.

Hope you all have a good day.

nikki - hope it is ms, in all the nicest way of course! good luck with the scan today, like diddle said i'm sure everything will be fine and just enjoying seeing baby.

nicola - {{{{{hugs}}}}}

piffle - {{{{{hugs}}}}} how are you?

Nicola- So sorry to hear hun. {{{{{{{{{{{{hugs}}}}}}}}}}}
It may sound harsh but you need to concentrate on you and not others at the mo. There'll be plenty of time for that. I had a missed mc last year and 3 previous mc's. It's an awful, cruel process. But you will get there. It may take time but you will. try to rest up, get some pampering and have a big glass of wine (or whatever your tipple is) you deserve it. Whenever you feel ready, pop along to the ttc after mc thread. All the girls have been through it and know exactly what it's like.
Thinking of you & your family xxxxxxxxxxxxx

Nicoal, sorry to hear about your miscarriage. Take care.

I had a bit of a panicky night. I didnt feel much movement yesterday. There was some slight movements but nothing like the big kicks I have been experiencing. I had listen with my doppler last night, I could hear FHB but is was all over the place. I didnt feel much during night either, this when I feel the most movements. ( I usually wake up three or four times) I started to get really worried. I woke up early this morning and was thinking about going to hospital. Decided to have a bath, suagary tea and toast. Got the doppler out again, and there it was- regular HB and baby hasnt stopped moving since. I am quite exhausted now as have had barely any sleep. I think I will have a nap.

afternoon everyone

nicola- so sorry hun i agree with hellkat, please take care of yourself and don't stress about how others feel.

piffle how are you?

FirstNikki- thinking of you today fingers crossed babynikki is all well.

cori, i have started on the movement panic too, baby didn't move much yesterday or last night and not that much this morning only a few kicks here and there, i will lie on my back for a bit and see if he gets a bit more active. hopefully its norml for them to break there routine and have quite periods.

one of the learning mentors at the kids school asked me today whether i was wearing alot of layers, i laughed and said nothing gets past you! so looks like its obvious to the world now so im waiting for a sunny day where i won't wear a coat and get all the congrats done all at once.

Afternoon ladies

well not good news i am sad to say they don't think it will be viable. I have to be re-scanned next Friday 3rd March to see if any change. The sac is there and what they think maybe the foetal pole but no heartbeat and a suspect fybroid which was squashing the sac although they said the fybroid wouldn't be the cause and my walls arent equal in size. The size measured 1.7mm equivalent of 6.4wks and I should be 8.4 today. Had both internal and external scan and a nice mail sonographer who explained everthing. MW said in her exp with what has been found there's not much chance of viability and if bleeding increases to call in to bring scan forward. Don't know if will have to go through natural or D&C guess will see. I have been given the grief councellors details again and advised to give myself a good break before trying again because of my physical and mental state.

Can't believe this is happening again I am certainly not holding out much hope. wondering if I will ever have my own and can't bear the thought of that. Not been our year really what with mc's and job problems I really don't know what I have done to deserve this.

Nicola so sorry for what you are going through right now. xxx

Piffle how are you my hun?? xxx

Cori glad things settled this morning.

Thanks everyone... xx

Nicola63, am so, so sorry to hear about your m/c. I am glad that you will be getting some investigation. I read a v helpful book after my own m/c. It's 'Miscarriage: What every woman needs to know' by Professor Lesley Regan, who's the no. 1 UK miscarriage expert.
love and hugs, Arabica xxxx

Still thinking of you, too, FirstNikki.

oh nikki i am so terribly sorry. you haven't done anything to deserve this. you will get your own baby but for now try to rest. this still might be worry for nothing, try to just rest as much as you can please {{{{{hugs}}}}}

oh if it does turn out to be the worst case scenario instead of d and c there is a tablet that you can take but have heard it has very nasty side effects.

FirstNikki- so to hear your news.

First Nikki, didn't see your post--it arrived whilst I was writing my earlier one. So so sorry to hear what's happened.

oh no, this is awful so sorry firstnikki, you don't deserve this, its not right or fair at all seeing a grieve councellor sounds like a good idea.

Nikki wanted to send you massive ((((((((hugs)))))))) hun, i cant begin to tell you how sorry i am

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Firstnikki - I'm so dreadfully sorry to hear your news. I really hope that you can find some comfort on mumsnet from people who have had the same experience. Lots of love to you.

Nikki
I am so sorry, I have thought about you so much and prayed over the last few days for everything to be ok for you.
I don't know what I could say that could make it better. Just hugs and strength xxxxxxxxxx

I'm ok, this thread has been an unbelieveable source of support, you ladies are fabulous.
Pls everyone take precious care xxxxxx

Nikki- {{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{hugs}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}} Ohhh hunny. I really thought it would be good news.
I'm so, so sorry to hear this. We're here for you.

Oh god this is truly awful

Nikki,
I'm so sorry to hear this news. It sounds like you've had a terrible year and nobody deserves that. I hope that the grief counsellor will be able to help you.
Thinking of you at this terrible time.

Nikki.......

)))))))))))))))))))))))HUGS((((((((((((((((((((((

Listen to all the advice and kind words written here today. All of them make sense.
Life is so very cruel but you are strong and this in time will make you stronger. Never give up on your dream. Look at me. I am still going.
We will get to hold our babies one day soon. We have to keep beleiving that.

You will get through this.

oh nicola, firstnikki and piffle, i'm so sorry. It's really just not fair is it. I really don't know what to say, except to send my love and hugs to you. I'm so very very sorry.

Not been around recently and logged in with odd question, but so devastated at sad news since I was last online.

Feels heartless to ask question anyhow, hope it's not too insensitive.

How soon did you go and see your dr after getting bfp? I'm not even 5 weeks yet and don't know how quickly I ought to go. I don't particularly want any early scans. What do you think?

Oh Nikki - so very sorry that it wasn't more positive news, you must be gutted.

Jamiesam - I went straight away I wanted this pregnancy to be acknowledged by the medical profession so that if anything did go wrong they would count it towards my miscarriages and if i had 3 in a row i would get more investigations. I think its important for those who have miscarried before to see the doctor straight away.

jamiesjam I did the same as Diddle. I'm currently 5wks and went to the dr yesterday. Unfortunately he did a test and it was -ve. I'd done two tests b4 I went to him and both were +ve. I did another one last night after I'd been to the drs and it was +ve. I'm in the system but very confused. I would go along to your dr.

Congratulations on your BFP. I had that problem with the pg tests with my pregnancy before this one. It was so disappointing to visit the nurse and be told the test was -ve when I knew it was +ve! Maybe they use a cheapo less sensitive one, or something. For me, an early scan was more important than seeing the doctor, so I rang the EPAU direct when I was 6 wks and made an appt for the following week (they have a v enlightened policy allowing any anxious mum with previous m/c to come for a scan without GP referral). Couldn't get a GP appt this time around for another 3 wks anyway.