Pregnancy after miscarriage -support thread- Part 2

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A new thread for us all to share our mutual anxieties, hopes and fears.

Thanks everyone,
diddle you always see things in perspective and calmly, i get confused and think its the end of the world
i rang the hospital or rather i got dp to ring the hospital as if i'd have rang i would not have been able to make myself understood and would have rambled on and got emotional! anyway back to the point dp said anne the a senior midwife will see me on tuesday and she understands the problem and can get the prof or another usual dr to perscribe some if ness. so i guess ill just go along and tell anne the whole story and say that i do not want to come off progesterone until 28 weeks unless the prof advises it.
I just did some research and found that in 2003 a study was done into progesterone pessarys and it halfed the risk of preterm labour/birth.

anyway hopefully only 1 more appointment with docs and then ill be set free to midwife community care and hopefully they will visit me and drink tea

i feel daft about getting so stressed about stuff all the time when usually i should just sort the prob out rather than running round like a headless chick. i have been a stresshead like this since i moved to london, i reckon it is something they put in the water to keep us all working hard!- oh great now im paranoid

Slink - very glad to hear you will see a midwife next week...she should set your mind at rest. It's very hard not to stress when you've had a bad experience before and I think we're probably all guilty of being headless chickens ocasionally.

slink - glad to hear you're getting sorted next week. i'd still be angry though if i was you, having to do more running around just to get the correct amount of progeterone. the team of doctors at the hospital should take a good look at your notes and decide what to do together so that everybody's aware, although these things don't happen that's the way it should be imo.

Slink - Sorry you are getting all of this conflicting advice. Hope you're ok. Thx for your good wishes about my boy and congrats on your baby being a boy, too!
HK - I am soooo sad for piffle. Please give her my very best.
FirstNikki - big hugs to you too. Hope you'll be ok.
Sorry if I've missed anyone. Hugs all round.

Morning all.
Spub- Good to see hun, will do.
Must be something in the water regarding pain/bleeding. Last night I had teeny spotting with bad backache. This morning it's stopped but still have period pain. Not fussed at all though, so bloody used to it lol. If it kicks in then I'll get it checked but feeling pretty good. Think it may have been a warning to slow down. Had big surge of energy yesterday for the first time in ages and scrubbed my kitchen floor (by hand) and got my toilet gleaming!
Will rest up today me thinks
How's everyone?
Nikki/Piffle- {{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{hugs}}}}}}}}}}}} hope you both are bearing up. I'm here if you need me. x

HK - sit on your ass.
(Runs away a bit scared for being so forceful...)

hk - you really do need to rest. i only do what i can when i can but i don't over do it at the moment as i'm woried about stressing myself out with housework and stuff (i easily get stressed!). put your feet up whenever you can.

Morning ladies..xxxxx thanks so much for your thoughts again.

Piffle I am so sorry to hear what you are going through have been thinking of you hope you are getting your rest. x

I found my complete feet up and rest has worked still have pains but not as strong and ...touch wood...the bleeding seems to have stopped. going t take it easy now until scan on Tuesday. I feel much better seeing as bleeding looks as though its stopped but it doesn't stop me worrying. mum coming to scan with me cos dh can't get time off. also had proper dating scan date through for 15 march. hoping will get that scan too.

HK sorry you have had pain and spotting what on earth is going on with us all?? lots of love and hugs your way. x

Slink - I would have done same contacted hospital and make sure you get to see the prof after all he is a prof and so should be moer exp. best of luck with mw and I hope they keep you on the tablets. you are more than half way there so on the home straight so to speak. x

thanks for to all the well wishes you MN is fantastic for support you don't feel so alone when you are if you know what I mean.

{{{{{{{{{hugs to all}}}}}}}}}}

Thanks all.
lol Spub! You make me laugh hun.
Glad the bleeding's eased nikki, let's hope it stays that way!
I feel so huge!!!! Plus I think i've felt the first few bubbling movements!!!!! It's happened four different times now (definitely not gas ). I felt ds1 at 16 wks and ds2 13/14 wks so maybe. I'll be glad when I can feel the kicks properly, great gauge at how the little one's doing.

wow hk bubbling I bet thats been making you smile make sure you rest now whens your next scan again?

KK and thats for your tips I will be taking some cocodamol and drinking plenty of water

Not until 20 wks. I had the dating scan already. Have to pop up to the epu whenI'm 12 wks for a heartbeat check though and then the mw will check at 15 wks.

Sorry Very short hijack...

HK - are you able to log onto MSN?

Afternoon all,
Well, another milestone- 30wks pg yesterday!
Apologies for not being around. I've been trying to shake off an awful cold as well as potty train DD2. Not had much success at either actually!
Hope everyone's OK, especially Piffle and FirstNikki.

Evening ladies, well thought bleed had stopped but its come back again. can't wait til tuesday. mums making us dinner tomo and am having complete rest. not sure how I feel. in a way dreading the scan because its like the finanl verdict and I don't want to hear if its bad news again.

Piffle hope you are bearing up under the circumstances and HK hope you are ok too xx

Petunia well done on hitting 30 wks!

nikki {{{{{hugs}}}}}
i really hope your scan goes well on tuesday, have a relaxing night, put your feet up and rest. please try not to worry, i know it's hard, i was crying when i found blood this time but it turned out to be nothing to do with baby and i hope you get the same news as i got. fingers crossed that this is nothing to do with baby.

KK- i know what ya mean about drs and hospitals i have little faith in them as it is!
HK- wow on your cleaning! i am slack on the housework at the mo also fab about movement, i felt early movement too.
FN- roll on tuesday for your scan, waiting must be awful.
petunia- wow 30 weeks already! so i guess we have to do meetup within 10 weeks.

i am 22.2 today and counting the days at the mo. it feels weird as last time i was 22.2 i was in hospital. can't remember dd's and ds's pregnancy, i was young and it sailed by.
anyway i did the great mum thing today and did wacky warehouse! i almost lasted an hour too

slink - i'm sure everything with your pregnancy will be fine this time but you'll just have to keep pestering them doctors, not what you need when you should be relaxing. good for you going to wackey warehouse, you brave girl

nikki - sending you some of my lovely strawberry triffle i made today, it sounds like you could really do with some, enjoy also some more {{{{{hugs}}}}}

piffle - if you're about you can have some triffle too and some {{{{{hugs}}}}}

Very early morning all- DD1 got me up early!

Been thinking about possible meeting place (and following on what Slinkstah said about a Wacky Warehouse/soft play area!) there's a Wacky Warehouse near us, with a restaurant. It's just off Jct21 of the M1. There's also a Travel Inn right next door (with Beefeater restaurant possibly for breakfast if wanted) if anyone wants to stay overnight. That's only really if people are travelling by car, might have to investigate elsewhere if by train.
Hope everyone's well this morning.

Hi
I just thought I would say hi, trying to alleviate my anxiety really. I am 42, my only previous pregnancy ended in a m/c of twins last year (at 10 weeks, although they had died at about 6 weeks).
Now I am 8 weeks, very precious pregnancy (conceived naturally, despite being told I probably couldn't becaue of uterine adhesions) and very very anxious. Had u/s last week and it showed a heartbeat, but the doctor said the size looked more like 6 than 7 weeks, which made me very worried as I am sure of my dates. They have booked me in for another scan on Wed.

Just wanted to share this I suppose. This is such a nerve wracking time, I'm sure everyone here understands. I'd love to be happy but am afraid to be, and my husband feels the same.

welcome nicola. i had a mc at 10 weeks and when they scanned said it had stopped growing between 5 and 6 weeks, although i was feeling really ill. this time i had spotting so got a scan at 6 weeks which put me a week back, went for a scan 2 weeks later to try to find the heartbeat and they put me back to my original dates. try not to worry, once there is a heartbeat you're unlikely to have another mc if you had an early one last time.

Hiya all.
Welcome Nicola.
I had my fourth mc last April and at my 11 week scan it revealed that it had died at 8 wks. I'm currently 10+2 weeks pg and loving it! I'll feel alot happier when the baby's kicking properly so I can gauge everything's ok. I had constant heavy bleeding up until 2 weeks ago and had 3 scans so far. The first put me back too a few days (I was 110% sure of my dates too) but at my dating scan they're back to normal.
Try to relax hun. Think of it how I do. If we spend this pg freaking out and worrying, at the end when everything's fine , we'll regret wasting those first few precious weeks with stress. If something does go wrong, then at least we've enjoyed and made the most of the time we had pg.
I found it hell to conceive this time around, I suffer from Endometriosis and iit's been getting progressively worse.
Well done on conceiving naturally!!!!
How's everyone?
Nikki/Piffle- Hope you're both resting and trying not to worry (easier said than done I know). Love & hugs to you both. Thinking of you.
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morning everyone. i had a really weird dream that i was with nichol richie and paris hilton in los angeles! i hope i don't have that dream again.

nikki - hope you're alright this morning.

piffle - if you're about the same goes for you too.

Morning ladies well pain comes and goes but still light bleed. had a weird dream last night but can only remember having a healthy baby born at 2.17am so trying to hold on to that its a good sign. am off work until I know whats happening after scan tomo can't wait only one more day to go. Trying to be positive but its hard feeling a bit numb emotionally. Did another pg test today very stong pos. don't know why I did it but I did.

Piffle how are you? hope you are taking it easy.

Nicola best of luck with your scan on weds.

Welcome Nicola. It feels funny writing that as I'm only new on here myself. I just wanted to say I'm the same age as you and have had 2 missed m/cs. I have exactly the same anxieties as you...too frightened to be happy incase I jinx it. My dh and I don't even discuss it - we don't dare. I was almost too nervous to join this thread but I saw there were so many women on here who have been through m/c so it is a relief to be able to chat through any worries and it does ease them.
Nikki and Piffle, hope you are both okay.