Pregnancy after miscarriage -support thread- Part 2

[cori]

A new thread for us all to share our mutual anxieties, hopes and fears.

Well baby wanted McD for dinner tonight so i HAD to eat a big Mac. Feel dirty now. Will get myself a nice apple pie now!

Slink,
I have looked up side effects on the internet and apparently I have an allergy at the injecting site. I don't think it's the actuall heparin. There is no way that I am stopping until I have sought advice from the Prof. I don't think they will stop me taking the stuff unless I m/c.

have got a good system going at the moment. I do six jabs on a thigh then move on to opposite tummy area then back to unjabbed thigh and so on. It seems to be working!!

Slink when will you be going back for the scan and where exactly did you go?

Diddle, How are you doing? Are you going for the birthing pool at your hospital or home? My mate wanted her baby to be born in the pool but unfortunatley someone got there just b 4 her so she had to have epidural etc. She reckons that she would not have made it thru the birthing pool. Good luck! How long do you have left?

HK when do you have your next scan?

Will be flying back tonight so will be posting on normal times as of wednesday....

SnowBoo, my baby wanted a packet of crisps, a KitKat, and a whole punnet of cherry tomatoes, all at once!!
I've never had a McDonalds, ever, but I do get cravings for veggie burgers and big fat chips!

Hello everyone,
sorry havent been around for a while, have been lurkign though. Am now 36 weeks, feel huge and uncomfortable. I am finding myself getting quite tetchy at little things, seem to have so much to think about and do within the next month. I seem to be making endless lists.

I am not so nervous any more about the baby making it so to speak, but am getting more anxious about the birth. Really want a VBAC, but dont want to go to overdue either.

So London girls, we still up for a meetup next Wednesday? I have an appointment later in afternoon but can still make lunch.

oinker - i have 8 wks and 1 day left (and counting) i am hoping for the birthing pool at the hospital. apparently the only thing that will stop me using it is either if someones in there or if i am induced, can't see what difference that makes but thats what they said. Although i will still try for it.
I'm doing ok, getting to the tired stage now, and i really want to do things, but don't have the energy to do them. Suppose i should be saving it for the big day really, i'm gonna need it.

Slink - Good idea about the scan, and you were right it was best to pay the extra.
How are you feeling this week? all ok? no news on the snot?

sorry butt in, you canot use the pool when you're induced as they have to monitor you constantly...
I think if you respond to pessaries alone, you might be able to at more pro natural birth units though
I hope to join this bloody thread SOON
Good luck xxxxxxxxxxxx

thanks piffle, glad i know that.

good luck, and keep trying its the fun part x

Oh we tried oh we tried this month, a record amount
I am 2 days late and temping and temp is still going up which is great news, but am not testing until dp gets back friday morning
No af signs yet, normally I get spotting 3 days before af and noe this month, plus feel sicky...
But am still not presuming
The paranoia huh!

Hi all,
I'm back, had OK time but caught a cold. We've told our friends, his parents and my mam, will tell everyone else soon. I'm 9 +2 today and have a scan at 13.30. Poor DH on ABs from the dentist as has absess.
2cats - I know what you mean about losing food down your bra! Huge bras are so unglamourous and don't get any better when you need BF ones.
Slink - It's great when DD's can make their own brekkie! Glad you got your 'snot' checked out and feel satisfied. I've only ever had thrush once and that was when I was expecting DD3.
Petunia - congrats on making it to term.
Wools - congrats on making i tto the second trimester.
Arabica - the asthma nurse did a similar thing to me. I was a new mum to DD1 and admittedly a teenager and the overweight herself nurse commented that I was 1/2 st heavier than last time I went!
Oinker - glad you are still with us, sorry about the possible allergy hope you get that checked out and all is well.
Piffle - good news about afbeing late, hope you can join us soon.

Mygirl, sorry to hear you have a cold, not very pleasant!

Arabica, had to go scrub myself again when i saw your thread!! Wish i could say i'd never had a dirty McD but unfortunately i can't! Veggie burgers....hmmmm now theres another thought!
Am sitting at my desk with my peeled raw carrots scrunching away. Think that makes up for it a bit...
The boys in the office think i'm a mental case with my bananas, carrots and Lucozade.

i went to babypremier on harley street for the scan, the more i think about it the more i am worrying about losing all that money for just a pic of the umbilicle cord. i have made another appointment next week, fingers crossed baby has moved, although baby has been in the sameish position for about 6 weeks now, i think he ran out of room early.

snowboo- i had a big mac too at the weekend in fact i have ate really rubbish for a few weeks, its no wonder i am constipated!
pmsl at you making up for it in carrots, i was making an effort this morning and i had musli for brekkie lol

oinker- seems like you have a good system with the jabs, def don't come off them! dr might be able to give you some cream for the itchiness.

cori- yes i am up for the meetup:) i cannot beleive you are 36 weeks already that is fab!

diddle - snot has decreased:) you should def save your energy!

piffle- fingers crossed its a bfp on friday:)

mygirl- good luck for your scan:)

i have found out there is only 1 birthing pool at my hospital and its a very busy main london hospital! so my chances of a waterbirth have reduced dramatically- especially as the consultant has already said she wants me tied up to a monitor throughout etc
i am more scared of going through the labour knowing it will just remind me of giving birth to my stillborn daughter. i am quite paniced about it actually, do you think i should try and go to my gp and ask them for some councelling or something? i have never met my gp so am scared of what type of reaction i will get if i go in with a mental problem.

oops its a biggy again

Hi everyone, yes, Cori, am looking forward to our meet-up next week. I'm 24wks today and feeling pretty good, getting a bit more movement but not the big kicks.

They won't think you are mad. I can fully appreciate where you are coming from thou. With me its every bug kick i get i worry as my baby gave one final kick before he died which has left me paranoid.
Go and see your dr, they will be able to reassure you.

Good luck Piffle!

Slink- I think you need to talk to someone about the birth. Feelings aobut giving birth affect you and the baby so much for ages afterwards too so even though this birth is going to be brill and fab, you need to feel like it will be. If your GP doesn't listen talk to your MW if she doesn't listen talk to a consultant talk to anyone who will listen and help even if it is the samaritans. You shouldn't be anxious.

Yes, I agree, Slink--is there a bereavement midwife based at the hospital you can make an appointment to talk to?

Am i the only one at 23weeks +5 days (not counting, honest) to be thinking about hosptial bag? Keep getting this strong urge to pack it in case. Do i, don't i????

At least after the weekend we can start thinking about babys stuff, where to put etc.

slink - I am not surprised at all hat you're worried after your past experience. I would definitly speak to someone, but i have no idea who would be best. I think it would do you good to gety our anxiety out in the open and maybe even just talking about it without really having any practical responses would make it a little lighter for you.

snowboo, pack the case if it makes you feel better. Just leave it udner your bed out of sight. Mine has been packed for ages, keep adding things too and taking things out.

Slink, the birth is bound to remind of your last experience. Its natural to compare. Maybe a bereavement midwife might be the best person to talk too. Dont go through GP, ask at the hospital. I am nervous about the impending birth too.
The main reason I want a VBAC so much is that I dont want my only experience of labour and giving birth to have been my miscarriage. Am concerned that I could end up with PND if have to have another c -section.

I saw the hospital psych and she was lovely. Helped a lot. My gp has also been good but i guess with a hosp mw she is more specialised.

yes i think i will make an appointment with gp. i have not even asked about bereavement midwifes etc i am a chirpy person - even when sad, i also don't get a very long appointment as i see a dr at antenatal so its kinda in, feel belly and out again. i would be a bit nervous/embarresed asking to see a bereavement midwife. maybe i will depending on which dr i see next appointment.

snowboo- i had a list of what to put and get for my hospital bag ready by 16 weeks and by 20 weeks it was all packed. i needed it at 23 weeks and it was nice not to have to panic about packing it before the stitch was put in. mine is in my wardrobe all ready to grab n go if needed, although i haven't yet packed anything for baby apart from baby shawl. i don't think i can fit anything more in! i am surprised by the amount of stuff i need, i have only packed for a day too.

wow slink you are organised, aren't there some things you can't pack? I can't put my hairbrush in yet, but apart from that i think its all in, even makeup, to make myself look normal even if i don't feel it.

i bought spare toothbrush n paste, and face powder too, i agree a bit of makeup can make you feel more human after the birth and less like you are in bed. i don't own a hairbrush though
i will need a bigger bag though as i still have to pack nappies, baby toiletrys and first outfit and spare outfit.

also... i just rang the drs(first time with new surgery) the next available appointment is in 3 weeks time and then thats at an annoying school run type of time. so looks like i will ask to talk to a bereavement midwife at my next antenatal appointment instead- if i pluck enough courage up, i am sure they will look at me strangely.

Right, thats a job for me this weekend. Round up ds's old babygrows etc, find a decent enough bag (don't think my Tesco carrier bags will look too hot) and get sorted. Will put it behind sofa as we are having bathroom and bedrooms re-dect at some point in the next million years.

your doctors is naff slink - i didn't think you'd have hairbrush