Due in October 2012 Part 2

[YompingJo]

Kicking off the second thread as we outgrew the first one.

Babydust sending positive vibes to you, lovey!

YompingJo, take some very deep breaths and calm down You are not weird/selfish/alone in feeling this 'robbing' of your identity, especially as you describe climbing as the 'link' between you and your DH and a balm for your anxieties. This may be a long shot, but do you think you could google extreme athletes/climbers who have worked through their pregnancies whilst still maintaing some semblance of balance and identity? I often think of Paula Radcliffe or stuntwomen or Ironman competitors who must experience a seismic shift in their perception of themselves during pregnancy. How did they cope psychologically? To what extent did their extreme training allow for their growing bump? Did they manage to feel joyful, still, when their body no longer allowed them to indulge in what, for some of these women, is the sport/training which has always defined them? See if you can read about these women's experiences of pregnancy...and their sporting lives beyond birth. Hope this helps.

My 'bump' is far less 'heavy' and bloated today. Can't say I'm missing any sleep: have 9 hours regularly (sorry!) and still no nausea/sickness. For the newbies : weeks 4 and 5 were dominated by afternoon 'naps' (up to 3 hours at a time) but by week 6 I haven't felt the need to sleep during the day even once (today I'm 6+5). Do NOT worry about being symptom-less...it means absolutely nothing and has no bearing on whether you'll have a successful pregnancy or not

I'm so content today - I'm at my darling Mummy's for the whole weekend (I come here every other weekend) and it's sheer bliss getting away from my humdrum life (although I miss DP very much - and the cat).

Love to you all...x

Positive vibes babydust

For me it's just that it's been a very long time coming & I expected to be suffering for waiting so long but apparently 6 weeks is when it hits & I'm looking forward to it! Thanks Missbone

Hello again lovely pregnant ladies

Had a nice morning swimming and wandering around town with the boyfriend, swimming was really good, I keep being convinced I'm terribly unfit already because I'm a) tired and b) doing about half as much exercise as I used to, but it was fine. Got to swim in the olympic pool today (it's not always open) so that was cool.

I don't look bloated at all but my boobs have gone up a size. They weren't that small to begin with. I look a bit ridiculous. Especially in a bikini.

Now i am exhausted for no reason at all and back in bed!

Heehee I'm an avid hiker and I fully intend to continue, with baby in sling, over the Peaks, for the rest of my life.

Yomping I'm also into my fitness and I do feel like a chunk of my identity has been taken away!! I was doing this hardcore weights/circuit training thing before I got pregnant... really enjoying it, made me feel like superwoman, and I don't know, some days I feel like I should just continue and keep fit, and other days I can't face the thought. Everything I've heard says it's fine to keep doing exercise your body is already used to, except possibly things where you could get hit in the stomach. If you don't regularly fall off cliffs I'm sure you'll be fine for now, and you'll just have to see what your body lets you do later on!

Personally I think our society is a bit ridiculous about pregnant women and thinks we should all be packed up in tissue paper for 9 months and eat nothing except water and vitamins. I'm following all the guidelines for what I shouldn't eat just because I can't be arsed to feel guilty about anything, but personally (and professionally) I think it's overkill. And after the first trimester I'll have the odd glass of wine if I want one.

Missbone glad you're feeling better.

I didn't have any sickness until nearly 7 weeks (I'm 8 now).

Fairy, you're most welcome!

squidkid..come on, now, 'fess up, missus...you're a doctor, aren't you!!

Zoeplankton & MarvellousMarie, if you're lurking, "come out, come out, wherever you are...!"

missbone yeah...! It's all pretty new to me from the other side though!

Heehee & Yomping I'm similar - DH and I had our last snowboarding holiday before TTC before Christmas and I had a moment last night looking at our pics and feeling a bit sad that that was our last chance to do that for a while... however I then remembered seeing loads of couple with babies whilst we were out there, so it can be done! We know a few couples that go everywhere and do everything with their kids and some that are slaves to their 'routine' and won't do anything that doesn't fit around it.
Hopefully we'll be the former and our kids will be a bonus part of all the activities we enjoy... my cats like to come and lie next to me when I'm doing my pilates dvd - maybe the baby will too?!
And squidkid I agree - what about all the women that don't know they're pregnant and carry on as normal and go on to have healthy babies?

Squidkid...I knew it!!!

I am eating a kiwi I usually hate kiwi

Hi All - was going to lurk quietly but felt the need to share! I feel like death.

Tested positive on Wednesday and started feeling sick on Thursday - was rather hoping for a couple of weeks off before the symptoms kicked in, to enjoy the news. From previous experience - i don't start feeling better in the 2nd trimester - Another oldey here - 38 with 3 dc. Eurgh. Off to find my ginger beer.

Gonna, congratulations!

Babydust....not long now!

Ah, thank you everyone. Feel a bit more grounded now. Nice to know I'm not the only one who likes being active. And we, too, know people who still get out and do stuff, and take their kids with them - just got to be patient I guess, and work out ways around problems.

We're off to see a very down-to-earth friend for the rest of the weekend, who will talk some more sense into me, I'm, sure :) DH is being completely wonderful as well, has put my motorbike in garage to be charged up so it's all ready to ride to work on Monday (motorbike... another thing I will have to give up for a bit, but I'm trying not to think about that for now!)

Have a good weekend, all, hope you don't feel too sick or tired. Enjoy your kiwis/mulligatawny soup/time with lovely mums/ginger beer!

Hello ladies!! I'm going to park myself on this October thread too, as well as the one over on ante-natal, because I'm just tooooooo excited. Hasn't sunk in yet... I got my BFP today! Lots of shaking and crying has been happening all day since I did those two tests.

The interwebs tells me I'm due on 26 October.

Head spinning a lot bit. Terrified about something going wrong. Only firm idea I have in my head right now is that I'm going to visit family & friends down under (where I'm from) in late March, so I will have an early dating scan at 7/8 weeks before I go... to make sure there's something in there and I've got a pic to show them!!

When are you all telling people? I have no idea what to do. I don't have family on my side that I'm touch with but DH's family are like my own (much better than the one I was assigned at birth ) . I think I'd like to tell family in person than by Skype (would that be nicer for them??) or would it be even nicer for them to know ASAP (not worried about having to "untell" them if something bad happened, as I'd want their support)?? What do you all think? How would you prefer to hear from family overseas? It's the first grandchild for DH's parents.

Zara1984, congratulations and welcome!

Tell your loved ones in Oz by Skype. I've already told those who love me and whose support i would turn to in the event of a miscarriage. Everyone else (facebookers/postman/next door's cat) can wait until i've had the 12 weeks scan.

*Actually, i may tell next door's cat - she's not a gossip like some of the other neighbourhood moggies.

...and, come to think of it, my postman is profoundly deaf and dumb (true) so he can deffo be let in on our secret!

Hi all!

Less of a grump now than I was this morning :)

I'm still a bit (completely) bewildered at how there's a bump at 4/5/6 weeks...I don't get it, am I doing something wrong?

Re moving around, exercising - another one here but I've done nothing for two weeks, bar 30 lengths in the pool the other night. I'm afraid I'm going to dislodge something :( My husband is a PT, and I was very much into dead lifting (strong is the new skinny!) but no matter how much he tells me so, I can't get the idea out of my head I'm going to make it unstick. Now husband is all - I hope you're not staying on the sofa for 9 months! But I just can't get it out of my head. Gargh!

Thanks missbone - you're right, I should tell them ASAP. My MIL will lose her brain, she's been trying to get her kids to reproduce for 10 years . Going to leave Skyping them all till next weekend (also so I can go to the doctor first) because DSIL is staying with PILs this week with her new boyfriend.... MIL takes any opportunity to whine SIL that she should get on to having kids (DSIL turns 35 this year, which is a giant red-flat cut-off in MIL's eyes...). I think DSIL would be pretty annoyed if I told the family this weekend (and god knows how uncomfortable it'd be for her new boyfriend!!).

I have told our two cats though that they're getting a little non-furry brother or sister. The littlest one will like a big overheating belly to snuggle up against later in the year, but the older one is likely to be the over-jealous sibling...!

battybat I am having this same dilemma in my head. For me it's to run or not to run?! Terrified it'd unstick. Illogical I know to think it could get bumped out but I'm still worrying. I do really want to keep running (and cycling!) and keep active... as a compromise (as was quite tired today anyway), I went for a brisk 7km walk this afternoon. Bloody starving when I got in though... hmmmm my appetite has been kicking in the past few days (which is something to behold, as I am normally a total hog anyway). Not sure what the situation for weights is - if you're used to it already, surely it's fine? What does Dr Google (and your real doctor!) say?

Bettybat, if you read my post from yesterday you will see how 'bewildered' I and my family have been at the size of my 'bump' (I'm only 6+5 wks). Let me assure you it is simply bloating. All pregnancy books and professionals will tell you that, at these early weeks, the uterus is still not large enough to have protruded above the pelvic bone and thus cannot be detected yet as a 'bump'. Your bloating will continue (or cease, as every woman is different) until around (and as late as) 16/18 weeks when the scenario i've just explained occurs. My 'bump' is considerably smaller -and less 'heavy'- today, and you will soon see that your lethargic bowel is a major contributor (we're all experiencing constipation!)

I sympathise with your fear of 'dislodging' the embryo: I refuse to have penetrative sex until after my 12 week scan (other women on here have been happy to enjoy 'full' sex but at least one lady experienced spotting afterwards, and this is the very reason i'm abstaining - DP and I are perfectly happy indulging in other intimate pleasures!)

Dead lifting at this early stage of pregnancy? I wouldn't even consider it.

Bettybat...is your husband for real??!!!

Hi Gonna and Zara, and congratulations!

Saw my Mum today and totally bottled telling her. We have quite a complicated history as she has mental health problems, and I find it really hard letting her into certain aspects of my life. It's her illness (schizophrenia) but she can sometimes say some very hurtful things. Still, we had a nice day and I managed to keep a smile on despite feeling like I was going to throw up at any point. Sometimes she can be very perceptive though, so I may get an odd email soon....

I see, I see...bloating! In that case, I deffo have a five month size bump! I just really didn't understand, and felt like the slow kid in school who doesn't quite get what everyone else is talking about Congratulations on your bump too!

I guess I just don't really feel too much different, apart from a few sensations so it's all a bit new and strange, and I don't really know what to expect.

The dislodging thing is unnerving to say the least. But - since so many of us are into movement and all kinds of cool exercise (Climbing?! I haven't climbed since 2009, sadly!) what say we all share what we're doing too? I do rationally believe - the fitter you are throughout your pregnancy the better everything will be. But I just can't seem to put it into practice.

PFB (Precious First Bloating)

I am praying that Babydust is alright :(

Missbone...in what way....?

I've been doing Olympic lifting and kettlebells for a couple of years, he works in a gym that specialises in women training while they are pregnant, he's surrounded by professionals who all say the same thing - which, incidentally is the same as the GP I just saw - that sensible training with a few kilos weight is fine, that you can continue doing exactly what you were doing before. God my GP even said I can horse riding!

Hahaha what did you think I was lifting??