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Due in October 2012 Part 2

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YompingJo · 17/02/2012 16:30

Kicking off the second thread as we outgrew the first one.

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Angelico · 18/02/2012 19:26

Ah-ha! Laptop is connected, Angelico is back online!

Babydust so pleased!!! :o x We were thinking about getting a private scan in a couple of weeks so you're really selling it to me!

Welcome and congrats to newbies Thanks Interesting discussion about exercise etc, personally I am in awe of the fitness levels of peeps on this board! :o But the identity thing is true, it's just the physical element of sports / climbing etc. that makes it more of a trigger.

Personally my hobby is writing and my ambition is to get a book published. My family asked me when I was having a baby and I said "I want to get a book deal first!" They were actually a bit horrified and I thought, why??? I can't suddenly drop my whole life and character and who I am because people think it's time to have a baby. So I pursued my dream and now it's within my grasp. And then I got pregnant. And frankly writing will be a good way to earn some pounds when the sproglet arrives :o

Angelico · 18/02/2012 19:27

And yes squidkid v funny about parenting styles lol :o

missbone · 18/02/2012 19:27

Squidkid, I didn't think differences in 'parenting styles' was the topic of discussion? But, now we're on the subject, I certainly do not believe in cosseting children for reasons of 'health and safety'. It actually makes me feel sick how many children are brought up in the company of computer games in the confines of four walls. I spent my entire childhood outdoors and I aim to encourage my child(ren) to do the same.

Bettybat, I agree we will simply have to disagree; I find your comment that you are "a human trapped in captivity" extraordinary and startling (and it leaves me pondering why someone like yourself would resign themselves to a desk-job?) You must be frightfully frustrated by the constraints of our society! Wink

You know, i fear this discussion has segued into a 'liberal versus conservative' ideology, which makes me slightly uncomfortable, as I, too, hate the notion that pregnant women should automatically take on idealistically-structured roles to validate an every-growing army of pregnancy pseudo-scientists. However, and this will possibly (probably) outrage some, I would find the sight of a pregnant woman scaling the heights of a vertiginous cliff-face as disturbing as one balancing a pint on her bump in a restaurant.

Fairygodmother1 · 18/02/2012 19:27

Well done babydust how far along are you? Thats good news!!!

Squid Thats just odd not having a climbing frame!!!! Hopefully your other half will see how deprived he was & will want his child to experience all he didn't!! Plus Climbing frames are as much fun as adults!

missbone · 18/02/2012 19:35

Ooooh, Angelico!, how exciting! I think it's brilliant that you have the potential to have your book published, how marvellous! What genre of literature?

Littlepurpleprincess · 18/02/2012 19:36

I so understand what you mean Angelico about others expecting mothers to give up their identity.

I am doing a foundation degree and nearly everyone I have told so far has expected me to have a year off studying when the baby is here.

Err WHY? I'm only in 2 days a week. I have a great support network from family and DS currently goes to a great childminder who I would happily leave the baby with. Or is life supposed to just stop for year, because someone decided that's how long maternity leave should be?

The most frustrating thing is that I got the complete opposite attitude (from the same people!) when I had DS. Because I was a teen mum, I went back to sixth form when DS was about 10 weeks old and the attitude then was more like "Well so you should be studying! and get a job at the same time!"

I am Confused

missbone · 18/02/2012 19:40

(screams with frustration): NOBODY SAYS YOU SHOULD GIVE UP YOUR IDENTITY!!! There...that's better.....as you were, ladies! Smile

BabyDustPlease · 18/02/2012 19:55

Angelico it was amazing, I couldn't recommend it. Have 2 pics and a dvd (all in the price) too! Yes, it looks like a little blob but its our blob!

Fairygodmother I am 7 weeks.

I really need to catch up on the discussion of the day! Whats going on?!?!

missbone · 18/02/2012 19:58

Babydust: Extreme exercise v languishing on a couch for nine months, apparently! Wink

BabyDustPlease · 18/02/2012 19:58

Sorry I meant, I couldn't recommend it enough! Sorry, baby brain!!

Thanks everyone for all the congrats again Smile

BabyDustPlease · 18/02/2012 20:02

Oo okay missbone thank you. I'll have to have a read of it all later!
Right now, its fajita time!!!
Hope everyone has a lovely Saturday night.
I'm changing my name on here to just BABYDUST so its still me if you see it has changed :)

I forgot we were supposed to be putting our stats at the bottom....

26 years old, 7 weeks pregnant, first child.

DameFlatYouLent · 18/02/2012 20:36

ooh fajitas, great idea! Will have that tomorrow I think...

I've discovered that food high in fat makes my sickness worse. Eating sticky toffee pudding followed by afternoon cake and chocolate today were like ms armageddon. Am remedying with apples and herbal tea!

Littlepurpleprincess · 18/02/2012 20:58

missbone are you shouting at me?! I didn't mean to wind up a pregnant lady! Sorry!

missbone · 18/02/2012 21:07

Oh, Littlepurple, I'm sorry, sweetheart. This was on the back of a debate about certain sporting lifestyles and whether 'adjustments' need to be made for the sake of baby. I was just reiterating that no-one was suggesting we should give up our identity. Sorry i scared you, chuck! Sending you Flowers by way of an apology x

missbone · 18/02/2012 21:07

Thanks!!

lisbethsopposite · 18/02/2012 21:08

Hi all.
Babydust - congrats.
Yomping Jo, you have just discovered something that AMAZED me about being pregnant and having a baby - the amount of unsolicited advice you get!
We attend medical specialists, we read the literature but people think we need advice. It is no reflection on the mother, age size fitness level. I think it is people's instinct.
I was out walking 1 day with my baby, who had finally fallen asleep. I passed this little old dear and we exchanged pleasantries, 'Nice day etc'. She started advising me about talking to the baby, they love to hear mummy's voice etc. I had a dry throat from talking to baby at the time.

A midwife friend of mine recently dropped home briefly from a family wedding to check on her ill 3yo. She was lectured by an elderly spinster that this was the wrong thing to do. She responded firmly that she could not enjoy herself without having checked, and she would soon be back if all was well. She is a midwife and mother of 2.

My point is you'll get tons of advice - and the odd gems of wisdom. Filter what you want from it.

I swam1000m 2 days before DS was born, and I think I was 42. I had a vaginal delivery with no complications. Caution though - I do not have family nearby so I did not swim again for about 3 months, and very occasionally for next 3.

Enjoy your pregnancy and find some way of letting that advice run off you. It is (usually) well meaning and there is loads more to come.

Oh yeah, I regularly lift my 18mo old who is about 20lbs and I am 7wks.

nenehooo · 18/02/2012 21:11

YAY BABYDUST!!! Poor Dameflat - but at least it might steer you towards the super healthy diet we're all supposed to be eating?! I was looking at all the stuff I got from my midwife, I don't eat enough fruit and veg. Blush I have to say I am a bit worried about what pregnancy will do to my body. I used to be a dancer so I guess I'll always be somewhat critical of how I look and I do find the prospect of losing complete control of my body and sharing it with someone daunting. Hence why I'm going to keep exercising... A friend of mine is a runner, had severe morning sickness and kept running up to 5 months into her pregnancy.

Littlepurpleprincess · 18/02/2012 21:14

ohhh I got flowers. Fanks missbone

For what is worth, I'm with you on the exercise issue.

MsInterpret · 18/02/2012 21:18

Hello everyone and congratulations to you all Thanks Thanks Thanks - I'm another one here from the antenatal thread but you chatty bunch are too good to miss out on! I'm 8+1, due very end of Sept by LMP but sure it'll change to early Oct with dating scan, which I've just got a letter for the 22nd March - seems ages away!

This is DC2 for me - have a DD who was 2 in December. My antenatal thread for that was lovely and we are still in touch.

Off to read the thread now and acquaint myslef with you lovely ladies. Grin

missbone · 18/02/2012 21:43

Littlepurple, I'm all for maintaining one's health and fitness during pregnancy. What perplexes me is women who point-blank refuse to see pregnancy as a time for paving the way for another human being; the "this child will not change my life in any way" brigade. Frankly, I find the sight of those families atop mountains with a baby strapped to their backs in gail-force winds disturbing. Mind you, it bothers me somewhat seeing baby's in pubs (and screaming their heads off in restaurants. Hello? I'm trying to eat, here.) Ooooh! Don't I sound arsey! I'm really not Smile

MsInterpret, welcome and congratulations! Thanks

P.s. I'm 6+5.

missbone · 18/02/2012 21:44

*babies

Zara1984 · 18/02/2012 22:18

Looks like I missed some debate here!

I didn't give my stats either! I think I have the teeniest bean of all on this thread. I'm 4+1 today (according to my dates) Blush

27 years old, 4 weeks, first child. :)

mrsclairemarie · 18/02/2012 22:19

Hi ladies, babydustplease so glad your early scan went well. I have my early scan tomorrow at 10 I am so nervous, I'm 7+5 and have barely any symptoms so scared after my mmc last year that this will turn out the same :(

missbone · 18/02/2012 22:36

Will be thinking of you tomorrow, mrsclaire. I, too, am afraid of MMC (is this where the 12 week scan shows baby was lost in previous weeks?) Sorry about the sensitivity of this question, Marie x

Bubblebell1 · 18/02/2012 22:42

Blimey I've missed loads!

In bed with cramps, sore boobs and brown cm again :-( getting fed up with this. Every time I see it I can't help but think the worst.
I hope it's just wind. Seeing consultant Wednesday and not got another scan until 28 march! Sad

29 7 wks dc3

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