Due in October 2012 Part 2

[YompingJo]

Kicking off the second thread as we outgrew the first one.

missbone that's ok, I probably am being insane! I'm just trying to play things by ear rather than being too doom and gloom, or expecting everything to be exactly the same. I am pretty fit and I've heard walking is good in pregnancy, so I'll see how I feel nearer the time - I'm the one organising the hike so I can cut it down and make it shorter if I need to. I grew up in the third world and pregnant ladies walked over mountains all the time there!

Or I may knock it on the head and do something more relaxing instead...

I'm going to discuss it with my midwife (first appointment 28th feb, I'll be 9 weeks, can't wait) - I've read that it's ok to do exercise you normally do, you just shouldn't start anything new.

I'm sorry to hear you're so bloated... I wouldn't think it's anything concerning though, if you don't have any pain or bleeding. Take care eh, try not to stress about things before they've happened (so much easier to say than do I know! I refused to even join any forums until I was 8 weeks because I was so worried about something going wrong!)

angelico it must be so hard with your other half going away... I am being totally clingy to mine, not like me at all, needing loads of reassurance, bursting into tears and saying "I am no longer your girlfriend, I am just an incubator" and similar nonsense. I would find it so hard with him gone... lots of love and I'm sure he will be absolutely fine. When's he back?

fairygodmother when I have symptoms I whinge about them and when they ease off I think "oh shit, maybe I'm not actually pregnant". Can't win! :)

Thanks Squid - Ok, have aches (not quite cramps) so feels like I'm coming on & ok boobs don't hurt as much as expected but they are swelling & I feel very protective of my stomach! Plus very windy

Is a cold & cough also symptom?

Fairygodmother I don't have a cough and cold but I do have a permenantly bunged up nose, especially first thing in the morning...having to breath through my mouth at the moment it's so bad!

It's more like a runny nose than a cold. Yes had blocked nose for 2 days with a bit of blood when i tried to blow it! Before that it was ery dry...off to google!!! lol

Morning everyone.

Does anyone have any tips for sleeping? I just had another terrible nights sleep - waking constantly and weird dreams. My boobs hurt so much when I move too. I feel so so sleep deprived as I haven't slept properly in weeks :(

squidkid I'm also supposed to be going on a hiking holiday at the beginning of April. I was going to ask the midwife if it is ok (along with gardening, which I love doing too).

Angelico Hope you feel better today.

Hi all. Thanks missbone, squidkid and Heehee - feel better this morning now he's actually gone - bizarre!

So because DH is away I'm going to stay with my folks - not sure what the computer access will be like - so if you don't hear from me for a week don't worry, I'll be back soon :o x

Good morning folks. I have some lovely news.

My cousin had a baby on thursday night! YAY! I am so excited to meet her. She weighs 6lb 5oz, which is exactly the same as my DS weighed. Tiny!

I need to see her to remind that this bloody morning sickness is worth going through. I'm really worried about going back to work on monday. I'm a childminder and I have no idea how I'm going to manage throwing up on the job! I think I may have to tell all the parents earlier than planned. For a start the only days the midwife is available is monday and tuesday, and I work 7:30am til 6pm both days! I'm going to have to take my little one with me. PITA!

Hi all :)

I'm due in October - around the 24th. But I feel weird - you all seem to have so many more symptoms than me. I mean, all the tiredness? I wish! I can't seem to sleep that well (insomnia induced stress). And I never thought I'd be willing on vomiting - I just want to start seeing some symptoms!

I saw the GP and he was so negative: don't get excited, you're only 4.5 weeks, it's hardly anything right now.

EFF YOU GREY OLD MAN! Is it so wrong to be excited?

On the other hand, I look about 5 months - my belly is HUGE from bloating. Meh. Someone please tell me they hardly felt anything at this incredibly early stage?

Oh and also, I'm sick of people "managing my expectations" and telling me how early it is Grump

Morning All,

Angelico I do withouth my DH for 3 nights every week...it gets easier quicker than you would think! Hugs!

missbone I look very bloated too so I feel your pain.

Except for the massive bloated belly all of my symptoms have suddenly stopped which has left me feeling very anxious and scared. I don't feel pregnant at all. I had an early scan booked in for next sat but because I was so upset DH rang up and got me an appointment for today, so at 4:25 today I will be seeing if my little prawn is ok or not....scared is not the word! I have waited 2 years for this.

I shall let you all know the outcome.

Have a good day!

Good luck Babydustplease!

Hello bettybat don't worry about lack of symptoms yet. I felt the same as you at 4 weeks, but I even keep water down now! You will eat your words!

I felt grumpy about people telling me it's early days too. My MIL very helpfully said that "MC is very common you know". Oh joy. Well healthy pregnancies are A LOT more common so I'll let that piece of advice go over my head I think!

BabyDustPlease, wishing you all the best!

I'm hardly feeling anything really - not what I expected really! No bloating here

To those with no symptoms - luck you!! I am having to go to Hennes today to buy maternity trousers. Tried all of my trousers on this morning and they are all too tight around the waist. Great!

Not even 6wks yet. I'm going to be a big fat monster by 9mths. :(

lucky you

babydustplease - my last message wasn't referring to you. Will be thinking of you today.

Hello everyone!

Can I join? I've been lurking for a while as actually got a bfp on 1 feb! Am just feeling quite worried & apprehensive about the whole thing - I think because I had a mmc at 12 wk scan before having my DD (who's now 18 mths) so I really don't enjoy early pregnancy. I think I'm now about 7 wks, due 6 Oct although my cycles very irregular & doctor didn't seem to want to send me for an early scan (grrrr) so debating whether to get a private one.

As for symptoms I'm definitely hearing you all re sickness!! Feeling soooo sick most of the time but haven't been sick. Although am getting a bit worried as my boobs don't hurt & haven't changed at all - anyone else had that with 2nd/3rd pregnancies? Think I just need a scan to convince me that this is real!!

Sorry for long first post!! And sending everyone else here lots of good luck & positive (non-sick/tired!) vibes!!

Oh god, massive freak out this morning :-( :-(.

I'm a fit, outdoorsy person - I love running, climbing, mountaineering and going to the gym. I want to keep this up through my pregnancy - both because fitness is important to me, and because I know it will have benefits for me through pregnancy, during labour, for losing pregnancy weight afterwards, and also for the baby. But I'm already being judged (by the few people I have told in RL) for continuing to run and go to the gym now that I'm pregnant - this is despite me having extensively researched it, checked it with my doctor, checked it with my gym - who all say that continuing an exercise regime you had before being pregnant is fine. What gives other people the right to comment? It really gets me down, having to defend myself all the time.

Today, I have woken up completely terrified about the freedom that I feel is going to be taken away from me. Climbing has always been the only thing that lets me switch off, takes me "out" of my head, away from stress and worry (I think and analyse way too much and so am consequently often stressed and worried), and climbing with DH is the thing that brought us together, one of our links. And I feel that I'm going to become physically unable to do it over the next few months, then it's going to be impractical whilst breastfeeding and being at the beck and call of a small person. I'm so scared about what that's going to do to me, and to us. I know this sounds really selfish, but I feel like I am going to lose the thing that makes me me and makes me different - it's like losing my identity. I don't know how I'm going to cope with that. And I'm so scared it's going to make me really stressed and feel really confined and I will take that out on those around me (as my father did on his family, long story but there in the back of my mind, doubtless contributing to my fear).

I want this, I really do, but I feel so scared today, and so down - and so ashamed of feeling like this too, as it is such a selfish way to be looking at things :-(

heehee I'm exactly the same with sleep. They say it's training for the sleep deprivation when the baby arrives, but I've got lots of practise with that with DS who has slept through about 5 times since he was born! I'm so tired I can hardly function - last night i must have dozed for a total of 2 hours in small increments. [knackered emoticon]. If you figure anything out, let me know - but for the time being, you have a fellow sufferer! I sometimes try Clipper Sleep Easy tea bags, but they're obviously not the same as a good sleeping tablet!

YompingJo I have had days like that. I like being outdoors too - particularly hiking. There will certainly be a time where it has to be toned down but I don't think it is the end of it at all. I have been looking at prams that are good for different terrains so I'm hoping it will still be possible to do some walking. People keep telling me that there will be a way to still carry on doing the things I like.

...oh and don't feel selfish. It is a huge change to the unknown so completely normal to think like this.

Thanks for all the well wishes! Today is dragging waiting for 4:25! I understand what people are saying about ladies with no symptoms are lucky, its the sudden stop of all mine that has worried me.

HeeHeeBumBum, thankyou. And bah, I am a stupid, hormonal woman.

I know how lucky I am, I know there are people who have been TTC for ages and have gone through all sorts to get to this point. And I am lucky that it happened quickly for me, and that I am still feeling relatively OK, not too sick to eat, not too sick to carry on as normal. I feel that I should be immensely grateful for all that and any worries or insecurities are just pure selfishness. But that doesn't stop be feeling utterly terrified about the future and about the changes that are going to happen, and I wish I could be happy sitting knittingon a couch but I'm not, it's just not me. I need to be yomping up mountains (hence username) or balancing up slabs :-( I'm sure there will be millions of and moments but I don't know how I'm going to be able to carry on doing the things I love. And when even running raises eyebrows, I feel like I'm stuck :-(

YompingJo I could have written that post! I've never really been the maternal type (I have not grown up with small children around) and have always liked doing my own thing. DH and I so so wanted this and I have felt awful for not feeling as excited as I thought I ought to. I'm also terrified for the future, especially as I love my career and am not looking forward to the guilt I will feel returning to work. I have had many people reassure me that it is normal and I find I am having less days every week where I feel like the fear.

One thing that makes me feel better - two years ago DH and I went on our annual hiking holiday and his cousin came with his wife and new baby. They put the baby in a sling and came on the walks with us! They even changed a nappy on top of a cliff. It can be done :)