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Due in October 2012 Part 2

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YompingJo · 17/02/2012 16:30

Kicking off the second thread as we outgrew the first one.

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Midgetm · 28/02/2012 21:48

Work, then been out, only skimmed the board but I agree with everything that FjordMor says. That is how I have been feeling all day and my message to miss B is the same.See all I am capable of is agreeing with people. My brain has fallen out my fanny.

Midgetm · 28/02/2012 21:48

Even forgot to say goodnight to everyone. Babybrain has kicked in big stylee...

missbone · 28/02/2012 22:03

Ladies, I cannot thank you enough for your kind words. LPP you are so gracious and seem to have a lovely spirit. Beans, what a very lovely thing to say, thank you. Monkeys, Squidkid, Marie & Angelico, yes, yes, yes and yes. Of course you are right. In my desperation to be heard and to defend my opinions I have caused anger and hurt and have demonstrated a lack of tolerance and compassion. I have spent months following the stories of these women's triumphs and tragedies (including one stillbirth) and have offered my support and prayers to all of them. This is why the last 72 hours have completely bamboozled me; I am known for my compassionate (if a little bonkers) nature and have friends who love me dearly and think the world of me. To think I've upset a few of the women on the other thread has been really upsetting for me. And so...I have apologised. I only hope this barely-contained irrational irritability leaves me soon...it's making me so unhappy to feel this odd and it feels almost schitzophrenic. LPP I will be visiting my GP next week about what to do regarding my antidepressants and I will certainly confess these feelings if they haven't subsided by then.

Duke, thank you for your input. My mum has sensory neuropathy which began in various digits and has spread, in the space of 2 years, to her whole hands/arms and feet/legs. She now shuffles like a drunk and walks with a stick. She comes down the stairs on her bottom and spills boiling soups and drinks down her arms without feeling them (ditto fingers trapped in doors). It is not always this depressing: she is more careful with food and has had her home adapted to make cartain tasks more bearable. She is still a gorgeous, slim, stylish, hilarious (bonkers) and beautifully-spirited woman who I am proud to say is my best friend. She is now on morphine (10mg) for her pain along with Gabapentin. Her faith in Jesus Christ is her comfort and her life. She is so happy and has millions of friends who adore her. But she is slowly getting worse.

Jo!!! (Sumsey) Darling! I almost wept when you jumped on here to cheer me. You are so lovely and I really miss you. Can I ask how 'things' are, my love? It's a thrill to know you're lurking, it really is. Can't wait 'til you're back for good xxx Grin

missbone · 28/02/2012 22:09

Gorgeous Beans, thank you, lovey....it is now my 7 month mission to make you p*ss yourself with mirth. Watch this space....Grin

Zoeplankton · 28/02/2012 22:16

I'm with everyone else, missbone.

Now on to thrush... (I'm full of advice today, me!)

Apple cider vinegar. It will kill just about any fungus, including - if used daily - dandruff (no joke, DH completely killed his very bad dandruff over about two months of using it).

Also really, really good for getting shampoo residue out of your hair, indigestion, pretty much anything really!

Be careful to dilute, though - it can STING.

Angelico · 28/02/2012 22:24

Zoe how do you use the ACV for dandruff? DH drives me mad at times with his dandruff, God help him he uses Head & Shoulders but sometimes it seems to flare up. Do you dilute it and use it as a rinse? Or rub it in and wash it off?!

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Tennerlady · 29/02/2012 00:21

Hi is anyone on here over 40 and pregnant also terrified I'm 6weeks and not told anyone yet as I had eptopic just under a year ago and was quite traumatic I'm also diebetic so double high risk because of age and history I went to epu today to see if they could see anything and in the correct place ect and the could see sack in uterus but only measuring 4wks 2days which would tie into my only possible dates I could of got pregnant 31/1 feb but now I'm confused am I 6wks or 4wks I new I was from the first day wen my period should of been and have had all symptoms since then I scared to say anything to anyone until they find a heartbeat this time as can't be doing with all drama if nothing going to come of it as I got very mixed reactions last time help feel so alone scared and no one to talk to x

Tennerlady · 29/02/2012 00:25

Ps can't sleep either as mind won't stop racing even though I'm shattered ha ha x

Tennerlady · 29/02/2012 06:23

Awake again god knows how im going to survive today in work on 4hrs sleep l need something to knock me out wouldn't mind I can't sit down either and relax of a night as got 2 teenagers boys and 6yr old boy so always doing something for them or picking them up ect then another round of meals to cook ha rant over just tired and can't sleep x

squidkid · 29/02/2012 07:10

Late for work but have to say after five days of horrible constipation, I JUST DID THE BIGGEST MOST SATISFYING POO EVER

later!

bettybat · 29/02/2012 07:14

Thanks for all the wonderful responses to my worry-wort post. I was studying last night so didn't come on the thread...didn't mean to post and then appear to not be bothered with the responses :) Will read all on the train this morning.

But just wanted to come on and say miss - internet forums give people to say the things they wish they could in r/l, and most of the time that is the harsh, negative, irrational stuff. There's an awful lot of emotion with TTC, particularly for a long time. I was very lucky with falling pregnant after a few months but I was very conscious of a lot of conflicting emotions and thoughts. Irrationality reigns supreme and while I am very much a person who speaks their minds, I think this is one of those topics where it's just not worth speaking the very obvious, very logical truth. The people on the receiving end are just not in a place to hear it - they don't want to, they have no space in their heads for it, they've become very sensitive to a blame aspect - though TTCing for a long time has nothing to do with blame at all, it can rear it's very ugly head!

These emotions we're all possibly feeling, from one end of the spectrum to the other, have a vice like grip, it seems :( And I'm sorry to hear you feel wound so tightly...I can empathise and sympathise. It's awful - I feel a general lack of control, an inability to make a fair assessment or judgement of anything.

But keep telling yourself - this will pass. None of it is real. You know your true intentions, the true spirit of your thread the other night. There was probably so much going on in that thread - so many elements - from misconstruing words through lack of body language to simply, people pulling the shutters down on their ears and not hearing what you truly wanted to say because they are hurting.

Chin up, keep posting here - we'll all wind each other up, I'm sure Wink And that's OK too. It's a crazy, crazy time and I generally seem to bounce from one freak out to another. But everything will be OK. Promise :)

Beans1977 · 29/02/2012 07:21

Well said BettyBat - I feel like I'm going a bit crazy too - last night DH said something so funny I was laughing so much I could hardly breathe, and then I immediately burst into tears and proceeded to cry for about half an hour, sobbing away with no idea what I was crying for! I think DH thinks he's living with a mad woman. Well - he may have had an inkling about that before at certain times of the month, but it certainly seems to be getting worse! Happy Wednesday everyone x

Kyyria · 29/02/2012 07:54

I would just like to take this opportunity to congratulate squidkid on her toilet triumph! Grin

Not experiencing the constipation myself yet, but to say things are more sluggish than usual would be an understatement!!

Littlepurpleprincess · 29/02/2012 08:38

I suffered from thrush all the way through my last pregnancy and I'm dreading it returning this time round. My advice is to wear loose cotton underwear and clothing. Was your undies at 60 degrees to kill the fungus. Eating live yoghurt everyday will maintain the right balance in your tummy, and you can even put some natural yoghurt "up there". Some people advise cutting down on foods that are high in yeast (so basically bread and beer).

My experience has taught me to go to the GP as soon as I feel it coming on. They will prescribe treatment during pregnancy and advise you on how to use it safely.

bettybat · 29/02/2012 09:08

Someone mentioned eating fish and what we're all eating so here goes: I'm pretty much flying in the face of conventional wisdom here, after year of researching the perfect human diet and a refusal to take biosynthetic compounds of nutrients readily available in nature.

I have a lot of fats like coconut oil, full fat milk and (grass fed, organic) butter. I eat tons and tons of oily fish, dark and white meat, always with masses amounts of kale, spinach, cabbage, starchy veg like sweet potatoes or yams, broccoli, peppers, leeks - though not always at once Wink

I'm also eating a lot of liver - which I know is one of the things that will make most people go Shock at. But it is FULL of amazing nutrients and minerals - exactly what me and my baby need!

I have salmon at least twice a week - rather than take omega supplements, as too much of one makes the other go down.

The mass of dark, leafy vegetables supplement my folate needs. NOT folic acid - yet another biosynthetic compound we're encouraged to take. I also up it with natural folate supplements.

The only sugar I get is from fruit - I've completely rejected fructose at all costs. Nasty, nasty stuff! Your body treats it like poison - why would I give my baby that? So when I have a sweet tooth, I blend some frozen berries into a slushie.

I firmly believe everything our bodies - and by extension - our babies need can be found in good balance by nature. I never have anything processed - including wheats and grains. So bread and pasta are completely out.

Probably the only concessions I've made to conventional "diets" while pregnant is not eating seafood, mayonnaise and drastically reducing caffeine intake. Apart from that, I researched what me and my baby need and the best way to get it which - surprise - is usually best through food.

ChrissieJA · 29/02/2012 09:13

thank you vcarroll im sure it is probably dehyradation related. I am drinking as much as i physically can but also trying to manage to work full time. I have to go to the loo every 20mins! i always manage fine for the full day at work and then fall to pieces when i get home. Last nights headache was so bad i had to give in and take paracetemal. I hope it doesnt damage my little bean.

MsInterpret · 29/02/2012 09:20

Paracetamol is considered safe to take while pregnant chrissie. I'm sure bettybat wouldn't, but I took it all day yesterday just to survive this terrible feverish cold I have.

Kyyria · 29/02/2012 09:26

ChrissieJA I am agreeing completely with MsInterpret - there's no point in suffering if it makes you feel horrendous. Paracetamol is fine - I'm taking that as and when I need it but giving myself a time limit first - before I would have just popped pills but now I'm telling myself to wait 30 mins and if it is still bad then take some then.

Littlepurpleprincess · 29/02/2012 09:28

BettyBat I completely agree with you and find it really refreshing to see someone post frankly about what is REALLY a healthy diet, when the social 'norm' as so far from it now.

I'm not saying my diet is anywhere near that good, but I'm aiming for it. I think vitamin suppliments have their place (like now when I can't keep anything down!) but they are not a replacement for a long term, balanced and varied diet.

Midgetm · 29/02/2012 09:37

tennerlady I am sending you the virtual equivalent of a hug and a valium. Currently 40, on my 9th pregnancy with 1 ectopic (also my last pregnancy) and 7 mc's (I think - could be more as I block them out now for self preservation). So when I say I know what you are going through, I really do. The way I am coping is to take one day at a time. Anxiety will not
Change the outcome but it will make you feel bad. Try and live in the moment and this moment you have every chance of success. I've also had the early scan and take great confirm from the sac being in the right bloody place this time. I am happy to chat via personal messaging if you would rather. I've had so many early scans I consider myself virtually a specialist. And I have a better bed side manner than a lot of the HCP's I've seen. I know it's easier said than done but try and take your mind of things. Only time will tell and second guessing leads to madness. Take it from one who knows... And google is not our friend and times like this. Take care and big hugs x

bettybat · 29/02/2012 09:40

Hahaha MsInterpret I'm not sure if that was meant to be as snarky as it appeared :) But it's not like I'm Bruce Lee or anything! I would take painkillers - there's no point in suffering. Apart from water, as far as I'm aware, nature doesn't provide headache relievers Wink

bettybat · 29/02/2012 09:52

Re my finances freak out - thank you so much for all of you that responded with such lovely reassurance! A lot of sage wisdom there, and I know you're all right - I too was brought up quite poor in the early years and I think everyone expects to have a few lean years.

I think it's a combination of being a control freak and not knowing exactly how the situation will be with regards to exact amounts, and a complete inability to make any kind of decisions right now. I'm putting a lot of pressure on myself because I don't want to burden my DH - and I also feel like the more I obsess about it, I am in danger of making him think I think he's incapable of looking after his family.

The truth his - his earnings have potential to skyrocket, and the reality is we have 9-12 months to figure it out. But right now, my salary supports us, and I can't bank on his earnings increasing. We have the choice of sinking all our savings into a shared ownership property and potentially reducing our biggest outgoing, or stay renting and keep the savings as a safety net. I feel truly incapable of making a sound decision but keep obsessing because if we go for it, it can only be done on my salary - and so needs to be done soon.

When I speak to DH, he just smiles and says not to worry - and I fully believe he will take care of everything. But equally, I can't stop working out worset case scenarios.

bettybat · 29/02/2012 09:55

Oh wait - one thing - WTF is this maternity pay lottery thing?? By the time I'm due, I'd have been with my employers for 3.5 years....what NHS maternity lottery thing might I miss out on?

panic

Unless I have completely misunderstood, which is VERY HIGHLY LIKELY :)

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