Arrrgh... why do these babies tease us like this??

[blushingbaby]

So, up most of the night with strongish (enough to keep waking me up) period and back pains. Seemed to be about every half hour then this morning..... NOTHING!! GRRRR!.
why???

Well that didn't bloody work - I just feel fat now!! Seems that pregnancy has rendered my endometriosis dormant, just when I want it to do me a favour for a change - typical!

The twins' birthday is on the 13th of December and their party is on the 10th... I could be looking at being induced on the 9th so I might have to reschedule it - just stress I could do without to be honest. I'm not sure what would be more stressful: having to contact all those invited to rearrange or just asking a close friend to host it for me. It's a bowling party so there's nothing to be done except actually take the children there, I would just feel a bit guilty about missing out on it...

The twins were born at 33 weeks so it was a VERY different birth story. I'm over the moon to be full term and not facing the prospect of any time in the NICU but I'm finding the inevitability of it all a bit overwhelming. The boys just turned up one day so I didn't have much time to worry about it!

You certainly do have a cervix of steal don't you?! The signs sound promising but you must be totally fed up of having so many signs and still no baby.

Off to try that reflexology point now - do you have to press hard or just rub?

Hope things get a move on for you today - how far over are you now?

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oh typical re the cream! your twins birth sounds very traumatic! i'd get someone else to do party tbh. you're not going to want to do it with a new born and xmas iminent.
i'm not even over yet but as i went so far over last time and ended in emcs i can't/ wont be induced so it will be straight to c section, something i really want to avoid after last time. That's why they're trying to get things moving a bit sooner because i wont have much time after. i'm due on sunday and got a hosp app next mon with my consultant where she may break waters to give me one last chance for it to happen 'naturally'. just praying baby arrives before then.
i think just rubbing ought to be enough on your reflexology - there's a you tube vid of a woman demonstrating it.

Sweep was a failure . I'm only about 50% effaced and although the external os is about a cm or two, the internal one is tightly closed so she couldn't do it

I've had no bleeding, spotting or cramping at all and had to try really hard not to cry last night, especially when she measured my bump as being a cm smaller than last week (but still only 4/5ths engaged so not due to that). The whole thing feels like a bloody joke - I'm actually going backwards

So I'm now having to rearrange the kids' birthday party which is causing me untold stress and guilt. Some people now can't make it as it's only a week before Christmas...

She told me to do lots of bouncing on the ball which I did last night. If I rolled/bounced in a particular way it really hurt in my cervix and backside - is that a good thing? I took it to be and did it as much as possible...!

Eeek, little ones just waking up, got to go. Hope you're ok today...? Any more signs or symptoms? Don't blame you wanting to avoid a repeat of last time, the thought of that must be really stressful too

morning. sorry to hear about your sweep, have you got a second one booked. That initial poking around might make a second one more successful. I had no spotting/ cramping show after my first one and i still went to 3cm by the 2nd one.

What a pain having to reorganise the party, just xtra stree you don't need! i hope you're getting lots of help from your dh/ family.

Do keep bouncing on the ball, that's what i'm doing - my rule is if it hurts it must be doing me some good.??
No luck for me either i'm affraid. Lots of feeling sorry for myself yesterday. Sweep yesterday showed i hadn't changed at all since monday. As with you baby is only 4/5th so really i'm just waiting for it to engage - that will push the cervix out continuously and send me in to labour apparently. There's not much left to sweep out of me now (although i am still losing a bit of mucus) and they've said i'm stretchy but baby is just too high still!

Dh going to a conference today. He said he didn't want to as its an hour away (he's the only person i have here - we've moved 250 miles in sept) but i insisted he went, my theory is that sods law will send me into labour when he's away and stuck in traffic somewhere.

extra stress

Anything happening flipping?

Nope, not a sausage!

When does your DH get back from his conference? Bet he'll be relieved to be closer to home.

I've reorganised the party and feel a lot more relaxed now. I'm quite happy to sit back and wait now... even thinking of refusing an induction, especially since my original dates put my due date as tomorrow... hmmmm not sure what to think. If my original due date's correct it also means my gender scan would have been questionable as I would only have been 14w and 6 days when I had it...!

I don't have a lot of faith in due dates by scan flipping! have known so many who have given birth nearer to their dates by LMP than by scan, (adding to their frustration if they've had this date brought forward!) I had same this last time and ended up going into labour on DD by LMP as had done with the two previous bizarrely! Still thinkin of u 2 and looking forward to good news!

still no news here. was in too much of a grump to be civil yesterday! By my LMP my due date was yesterday but by scan its tomorrow. still showing but no more blood.
Still hoping it will happen naturally for us.

Not surprised ur grumpy blushing! I remember how I was feeling a couple of weeks ago! Hope it all happens naturally for you too :)

Hope ur coping ok with your toddler too. I felt so hormonal and huge over last few wks and with it came a lot of guilt as didn't feel my 19mth old was really getting too much of me!..(well not any glimmer of a fun or energetic mummy anyway lol!) Now I just feel guilty cos seem to be spending my whole life feeding baby!

twogirls - the guilt's never ending isn't it?! I've had such a short temper with the boys the last couple of days which makes me feel guilty. Had to move their birthday party which made me feel guilty. Now looks like baby may be born on or extremely near their birthday which makes me feel guilty. I'm sure when baby's here I'm also going to feel guilty about being permanently tied to him feeding. Ugh!!!

blushing - how's it going today? Feeling more pressure now you're at your due date? I really feel for you, having had so many sweeps and the stakes are pretty high (ie straight to c-section). What's the plan for this week?

My sweep yesterday was a success (or so it seemed). It didn't hurt at all (which I took to be a good sign) and she said I was 1-2cm and very stretchy. She also felt me have a couple of contractions while I was there and said that she thought I would have a baby by Monday... nothing's happened .
I'm really starting to run out of patience. I couldn't sleep last night, partly due to anxiety and partly because I'm starting to feel really unwell with the pregnancy now. My hip was agony and I couldn't weight bare when I got up. And I had a headache all night. Even got up to take my blood pressure...it was high for me but is back to normal today.

Now just feel TOTALLY exhausted and like I really can't go on much longer. I just want to cry all the time and am staring to feel very irrational - this child is NEVER coming out

Sorry, rant over - phew that feels better!! Another sweep tomorrow am and I have to book an induction. Really don't know what to do with that - have it, don't have it, when to have it...

hello
flipping, that sweeps sounds very positive, and remember they can take 48hrs to work!
I know exactly what you both mean about the guilt!
Consultant tomorrow, will update then!

Yes, pls keep us updated! Not surprised you wanting to cry all the time flipping I would be too! U poor girls! :(
I've had to try to establish a combo feeding routine for DS as have only been getting an hr tops between breastfeeds and am like the walking dead at the mo! Just couldn't maintain as it was as have 3 other DC and Hubby to think of too so just couldn't be done. :( Hubby goes back to work tomorrow and am totally dreading it as gonna have work cut out, though realise I'm just gonna have to get used to it! :)

Gawd twogirls that sounds like incredibly hard work. Do whatever you have to to make your life easier and hopefully his feeding will calm down quickly. Does he feed for long or just a few minutes?
How old are your girls? Are they all at school? Hope they are and that you manage to get some peace. Let us know how you get on...

Blushing - Good luck with your consultant tomorrow - let us know how it goes!

Right, I'm off to bed. Been having niggles all day so really praying that the sweep tomorrow will do its trick. Also got a puffy face so am watching like a hawk for signs of pre-eclampsia since I had that headache last night too. At least if that happens the decision about whether to induce would be more black and white...

Oh twogirls you must be sooo tired! Agree with flipping, just do what you need to do to survive!!! I'm sure his feeding will settle.

flipping how's your face/ headache?? Make sure you spk to your mw about it asap! How far over are you now? Any more sweeps due? Have you got a potential induction date sorted if nothing happens (fingers crossed it will of course!)

Well, I had my consultant app. I thought my waters had started leaking this morning as I had a trickle down my leg when i got up but he said it wasn't probably just excessive discharge refuses to believe it was wee
Any way, he did sweep number 6. I'm now 4cm, stretchy etc. so going in the right direction still. They've now booked me in to have my waters broken on wednesday at 8.30am!! Apparently they think that will have about an 80% chance of tipping me over the edge. Then its a choice between low level drip induction or c section on Thursday if still not in labour. At the moment I've opted for the drip. I'm scared shitless nervous about another induction but have been told it will be low level and I'll be able to be mobile. I decided I would regret not trying for VBAC more than trying and failing a VBAC.
So, still hoping that consultants great big man hands might have done the trick before wed but i feel strangely calm now i have a clear plan of action.

flipping hope you are ok and off giving birth somewhere!! !
Arrgh... was really hoping to avoid having my waters broken but only 24hrs to go! still feeling very excited though.

Oooh flipping, you've gone quiet! Hope something's happening!? :) All sounding promising if they break your waters tomorrow blushing as you're already well on the way! Wonder if it'll trigger things? Do hope so. I went frm 3cm's-10 in 55mins after my waters went so be prepared as you may go vv quickly!
My 3 girls are 13,11 and 20mths flipping. Keep me v busy! :) My middle one has Aspergers and my toddler appears to be v ahead of the game, creating all kinds of challenges so I guess you could say I have my work cut out!!...All well worth it though :)
Breastfeeding DS full time was proving to be impossible with my other family commitments and lifestyle so I'm now doing about half breast half formula. He has been a bit of a "grazer" so on the breast will either happily feed constantly for 45-60mins, (latched on well and constantly sucking,) or will feed on-off, sleep... on-off, sleep for as long as allowed! (Using me as a dummy too!) I was getting hardly any break from feeding so was proving just too time consuming and exhausting. After a good hour breast feeding he'd then need a formula top up before he'd settle too! I'm now doing a breastfeed first thing in morning, followed by two formula feeds, then BF around 6ish, bottle next then BF in the night. Not convinced yet that this is way forward as it's still v early days and he's not forming any kind of pattern yet, but just taking it a day at a time. :)
Anyway, look forward to news girls and good luck with it all! x

Any updates?!! :) :)

blushingbaby's baby has arrived!!!!

Waters broke spontaneously on tuesday 6.30 pm. Contractions started proper around midnight. By 4am we called the hosp to say i was in labour but not planning on coming in but they said i really should so they could check my waters really had gone (had flooded the living room so i was fairly convinced!)
Got to hosp at 4.30am to be told i was 2-3 cm!!!! I was sooo unimpressed and pointed out consultant had told me i was 4cm on monday, anyway, she said i could go home or go for a walk so we spent an hour walking round corridors and when we got back the new mw who looked after me to the end said i could stay. They examined me at 9am and i was 6cm - broke a tiny pocket of waters and i was pushing at the next contraction!!
Baby Eloise was born at 10.07am on Wed morning.
I had a couple of nasty tears around my urithea which needed to be stitched in surgery so had to stay in for 48hrs. Came home today - noe cuddling new baby blushing!!!!

flipping let me know whats happening????
Twogirls hope theo has settled down with his feeding. El feeds from midnight till about 6am and sleeps all day!! knackering but it means shes quiet whilst i can spend time with ds1.

Woohoo!! Sooo pleased for u all! Lovely that u now have one of each too! (loving the name by the way!!) Glad you got to stay in hospital in the end and found a better MW! Look after yourself and your gorgeous new baby :)
Theo is still feeding most of the time though has a cold which isn't helping! Had a mad day today with him and DD, they had me running round in circles so much I started to doubt my sanity lol! (Sure lots more where that comes frm!?)
Wishing Flipping all the best and hope things have all happened for her and she's happy :)

blushing hope u get plenty of help and support with littlun after moving away a few mths ago! (Let me know if u anywhere near Sussex!)

Yay - I found you!! I lost this thread and really wanted to update you...

Congratulations blushing on the birth of baby Eloise!!! What a lovely name, so glad you managed to get there on your own (even if you did make a mess in the living room )

Baby Flipping arrived on the 6th Dec at 5am by emergency C-section under general anaesthetic . Horrendous labour from start to finish. They decided to induce me because I had a poor CTG and felt a reduction in movement.

12 hours in labour and the pain was unbearable - far beyond anything I experienced birthing the twins - but I was only 5 cm. I had an epidural placed after scareaming for one and had an extreme urge to push even though it was far too early.

Baby then got seriously distressed (turns out he was wedged and trying to come out with the side of his head first) and they rushed me down for a general anaesthetic. I then spent a further 2 hours in theatre because I lost so much blood but thankfully we're both fine now and enjoying plenty of cuddles at home

Having said that, to top it all off, there's been a major cock up... I should have been given an anti-D injection after the birth for being Rh Negative and I wasn't. It's a very serious blunder with potentially awful consequences and I now have to wait 6 months to see if any future pregnancies will be possible. The NHS are launching an internal investigation...

My gorgeous little man has been worth EVERY second of the nightmare and I'm more in love than I thought possible!

Hope you're both deoing well and enjoying your newborn cuddles.

Oh flipping I'm so pleased to hear from you. What a time you've had!!!
I can totally empathise with the induced labour pains, i only got to 4cm before i was screaming in agony for an epidural, this time i managed on gas and air - body was just ready.
Can't believe they messed up on the anti D injection, how stupid! fingers crossed for a positive outcome.
I cant believe how much i love Eloise!! I thought it would be impossible to love anyone half as much as DS but its just been instant love!!