Those near the end come moan with me!

[prolificwillybreeder]

Labour must be close because not only am I absolutely starving, exhausted but unable to sleep let alone well!
But I swear if DP's elbow touches my arm one more time I will throttle him!
I cannot stand anyone near me and nearly everything is driving me mad with misery.
I am also highly emotional.

Come moan with me, please bring warm donuts

Sounds very promising SP good luck.

Spanner you're doing it! Wowzers! Have to say it's crossed my mind more than a few times recently whether my pain threshold is up to it. I've not tried the TENS I bought yet and hoping the pool will do it's job. Have you taken paracetamol btw? Sure you have but thought I'd check in case it got over looked in the excitement Can't wait to hear your announcement! Hope someone sends you a giant metal chicken, you'll need it I'm sure.

I'm off with my doula/friend for a long lunch with walk today in an attempt to get things going. 39+1 today and every time I walk for more than 5 mins I get sharp pains, although nothing regular. I keep thinking that if I just walk through them it would be enough to actually start something off, so we're going to try that. Although we are going through town and I have that tiny niggling voice telling me my waters will pop in the middle of the high street...I know it's very rare, I just wouldn't be at all surprised. I'm the kind of girl who trips over her own feet when feeling especially nervous

Out of interest, how long before you think we'll be up and about - assuming a vaginal delivery and not a C Sec? I have a baby shower 2.5 weeks after my due date so sure that will be enough time to heal up and be on my feet? Think I'm getting over paranoid too!

oooh how exciting, another impending birth.

I only hope its mio turn soon off to mw this afternoon, told her when she made it me 2 weeks ago there was prob no point, who was i kidding lol

Never been this pregnant before dd arrive nicely a week early, although this one is prob hanging on with dear life after hearin my outburst these last few days!!

Ok, whinge alert.

Just went to see my consultant. AGAIN. Got the bloody rude registrar I had at my 36 week check. She said she wanted to do a sweep. Ok, that's fine by me.

What wasn't fine is she didn't wear gloves. She didn't give me any kind of warning, preparation time, anything. She also didn't give me any time to adjust or stretch.

I was talking to my DP and was in mid-sentence when she decided to begin, and by begin I mean "get her whole hand up my vag, catching her fingernails on every bit of skin possible and making me feel like a particularly violated puppet". She then ripped her hand out and declared that the neck of the womb was closed, and I should come back in a week for another try. NOT A FLECKING CHANCE IN HECK, MY LOVELY.

She's never coming near me again, the witch.

Mummy OUCH!
That is what I am scared of for Friday. What a horrid lady though. At least I know mine is my lovely MW. You should make a record of her name and make sure she never comes near you again. There's a nutty MW I don't want near me here so will mention that when I ring in for labour. Sorry to hear your experience. Hot bath?

Please complain! NO GLOVES?

I was having babies 13 years ago and they wore gloves then FFS!

I was so shocked I couldn't speak. And my mother as a nurse was absolutely gobsmacked. Literally the only words I could say were "I feel violated". Because truthfully - I kind of do! She was so cold and clinical and harsh about it. If I weren't walking funny before the appointment I certainly am now. Absolutely livid. Going to climb in the bath now and have a nice relaxing soak.

OMG MT that's horrible. I'm dreading my consultant giving me a sweep tomorrow because he's a bit heavy handed . Poor you, and for nothing as well.

Surely thats illegal??
I would also make an official compaint about her thats not right

Mummy Tiger that is shocking!! Deffo complain.

Well not had a chance to even think about being pg this mroning, been so busy! Just packed birthday boy off to nursery with a huge tray of butterfly cakes we've been making (about 40!) Been on my feet for hours so now having a well earned rest before i start operation tidy up.

orbinator with regards to being up and about. Very much depends on you, how you are feeling, what type of birth you had etc. For me I like to get out asap, and so won't be unusual for me to be out with baby in pram 2 or 3 days after the birth depending on how it goes. Especially if it happens before boys break up from school as ds2 desp to show his baby off, so I will be doing school run, and taking baby to nursery on Friday 22nd as its ds3's leavers service. IF she's arrived by then of course!! But its important not to feel rushed into doing too much or going out before your ready. Don't feel pushed into 'getting back to normal' certainly no rush at all if you don't have other dc. More important to stay home in bed feed/eat and sleep!

SpannerPants really hope you are holding your baby by now! Exciting :)

MT good grief, please do make a complaint - the no gloves thing alone is absolutely wrong, but your feelings of violation are no less important. Might also be worth telling your consultant directly so that they can have a word - if they're supervising her on this rotation they might feel there is a reputational risk to themselves [sneaky] That is fucking shoddy, on your behalf.

Orb it really does depend on how the birth goes. I had a fairly normal vaginal delivery with DS but lost some blood, plus had a slamming combo of piles and stitches afterwards that made recovering take a little longer as I found it hard to rest or eat. I walked to the corner shop and back a couple of weeks after his birth and was shocked at how weak I was. But then, other people I know have been bounding about with no problems days after the birth. Just see how you feel and let your friend know that you might not be able to make it.

I think I'm going to raise some serious concerns with my midwife, and see whether she thinks it serious enough to take it further than a strict dressing-down. I should have said something while I was there, but for the first time ever I was at a total loss for words.

I'm hoping I'm one of the lucky ones that are bandying about after only a few days - sitting there feeling weak is not one of my strong points! As it is I'm upset that my hip is restricting my activities. I'd be a terrible patient. Can't sit still!

I found I felt so good in comparison with being preg I was up and about making cups of tea for everyone on the baby ward 24 hours after I'd had my dd. I was full of beans and it made me realise how difficult late preg is.

I felt like I'd been run over by a bus after having DD, long labour and emcs followed by wound infection, I was still up and about after a couple of weeks though. Just a bit gingerly! After DS, vbac, I felt fabulous from about 1hr after he was born. I couldn't believe it after the last time. I had been ill and housebound for the last couple of months of pg so I couldn't wait to get out and about again. I was off walking up to the shops on day 2 or 3. Probably a bit too much too soon tbh but it felt so good to get out!

Even with 3 degree tear and stitches I felt much better a week after DS was born than I had a week beforehand. I am holding onto that thought now!

definitely everyone says about the tiredness and how hard it is with a newborn. But come on we're all shattered now, and its so lovely not carrying all that extra weight even with sore bits and swollen tits its preferable in my book!!

I feel beyond tired just now. DH taken boys to their Tae Kwon Do class we have meal out tonight for ds3's bday with my parents, just to beefeater but lovely not to cook. So think i might take myself for super deep bubble bath and put some make up on try and feel slightly human!!

And you know that even though the early days can be quite hard with a baby it gets better. At the end of pg it gets worse the longer it goes on...

Sorry to hear your internal was so awful MT. I hd one today and i was dreading it but was fine, not exactly joyful but certainly not as hellish as yours must have been! I too was not favourable and they would do another next week. Ended up in hosp monitored for pre eclampsia all afternoon after a high reading then dropped to too low! My body and pregnancy is a trully mysterious thing!

still hanging on at home, having contractions every 5 minutes lasting between 1:30 and 2 minutes but hospital don't want me there unless my waters have broken or I'm bleeding rang them 2hrs ago and spoke to a very patronising midwife who said the only pain relief I could have was TENS, a warm bath or paracetamol, all of which I could have at home (I've tried all 3 and they're not really helping). This has been going on for 17hrs now and I'm absolutely exhausted.

I'm going to call again at 6 and hopefully speak to someone a bit more helpful.

What? That doesnt sound right! Some peoples waters dont break on their own and not everyone has a show, i think if your struggling just turn up and get nagging 17hrs in pain is going to mean you are totally exhausted. Willbe thinking of you! X

Oh poor you SpannerPants perhaps if you call back you'll get to talk to someone else? Perhaps if your contractions were closer together they'd be more inclined to tell you to come in? not that I'd suggest you exaggerate or anything or even let out a scream of pain while you are on the phone or anything like that

I'm dreading this. My consultant and MW have made it very clear I've to go straight in at first sign but have both warned me I'll have to be very firm when I make the phone call because they will try and fob me off. IME they're much nicer once you actually get there! Hang on in there, each contraction is one less still to do and all that...

Oh Spanner
I really hope things get better for you. 17 hours is too long, you must be exhausted.
I second what mumble said.
Get tough with them, no one has the right to tell you, you aren't in enough pain.

I'm so bored/fed up here! Little pains all afternoon but that's it. I'm dreading seeing the mw and being told my cervix is neither flirty or favourable ( my auto correct changed that to flavour-able).

I just want to go into bloody labour!

I've also been cancelled on by a friend today and another friend tomorrow! Both had good reason but still. Does no one want to be around a miserable heavily pregnant woman? I'm gutted tbh. I need company to keep me going.
The SPD is so bad I can't manage trips to town but staying at home all day with DS, as great as he is, isn't adult conversation.
Ah well my whinge is over. Sorry all.
Hope everyone is ok.

Oh Spanner I reckon you need examining. 17hrs is a long time if you're in pain

PWB here's hoping your little pains turn into big pains overnight!

I'm hoping when I turn up at the hospital on Friday that my cervix is both flirty and flavourable!

Oh Spanner sounds like my labour with DS. I really really hope you are snuggling up to your newborn right now. If you are still at home go to hospital right now - don't ring, just turn up. Tell them you are in pain and scared and want to be admitted - you can go on ward if they haven't got room for you in delivery suite.

at some midwives (bitter memories of hamfisted cow who examined me the first time I pitched up at hospital in labour with DS, 12 hours in to 36 hour labour)

Morning all.
Well my little pains are now practically non existent!
Hope everything is ok spanner

Random question: measuring a week or so behind 2cm to be precise but this has been consistent so mw isn't worried.
Do you think I would go overdue because of this?
Although my duedate hasn't changed since 12 week scan.
I know it's not scientific but interested in opinions
:)
Hope all are ok